AITA for complaining to HR that my colleague is using hate symbols
Context: My (27f) sister is a trans woman, and I'm very sensitive to discrimination, dog whistling and hate speech, including memes and emojis used to harass and ridicule vulnerable people. My colleagues at work know about my sister, as she picked me up at the office a couple of times.
A couple of weeks ago a colleague (25-30m) at work uploaded a bunch of custom emojis, like "Chad" or "Pepe the Frog" and started using it on slack, on shared all company channels. I did not assume bad intent, but as these memes are often used in hate speech and trolling, it rubbed me the wrong way. I messaged him privately, and politely asked him to stop using these emojis, I provided some links to why these are sensitive and best to be avoided in workplace settings. His reply was literally "Lol mate". At this point I got a sneaky suspicion that he isn't using these emojis innocently, so I took screenshots of where he used them, and of my messages to him, and forwarded to HR. HR agreed that it's best to err on the side of caution, and said to leave it with them. We are an absolutely no hate speech and no discrimination company, and it's written into our Code of Conduct which all employees have to sign. I don't know what exactly did HR do, but now I heard from another colleague that I'm an butthole for getting a guy in trouble at work over "some stupid emoji".
AITA?
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Hm, I don't think I've had enough coffee yet to decide if this is bait or not.
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someone drew this unironically
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The og owner of pepe should have made this unironically but in their style as their goodbye to the character
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i was uploading marsey ones
at somepoint i couldn't anymore, but idk if that was just me or everyone.
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HR removed all the pepes where I used to work at during the "alt right, trump, death squad" era, including the twitch peepo emojis.
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My company slack has a MAGA hat emoji
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Trans flags still up?
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We got a weekly and monthly "DEI" newsletter.
It's actually much worse but I can't say more without people being able to guess.
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Story time; use right wing terms/people instead
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Which dramatard wants to add
to their company slack first? How long will it take before he's found out to be a dramatard (or they suspect he's a wpd 
user 
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It goes unrecognized for months, a year, year and a half. Everyone loves the cute little cartoon cat. The employed dramatard curates a work-appropriate selection of marseys, seeing what a hit the first one was, and says he made them. The HR ladies like the thing so much they start using Marsey in email blasts and even do some rudimentary graphic design of their own to incorporate it into company branding internally, just for fun.
WPD continues to grow. A few of the younger employees recognize Marsey in time but they obviously can't say anything, why would they be familiar with a gore site? Eventually someone goes on a stabbing spree in Krakow wearing a WPD-branded Marsey hoodie. It's international news. They're apprehended and the police hone in on the cat clothes. The WPD account is found immediately and suddenly WPD is being mentioned everywhere in the media.
How does HR handle this?
!commenters !wpd !fashion
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One would hope the janny in charge of wpd would set the site to redirect to rdrama, making it the greatest dramaop ever
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they can't
obviously it was all set up to put in place sleeper agents that suddenly awake due to the absolute cognitive dissonance they're experiencing at the event of all of this...
and the whole's economy collapses in a mania of HR people randomly murdering half of every company in global epidemic of explosive suicides! islam ain't got on nothin' on this b-word... this will be the end of the species as there just won't be time after the dust settles, to cobble something together advanced enough to deal with the impending runaway global warming event.
ur plan is truly a mastermind carp, u will have the last drama, indeed!
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With Marsey, of course!
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I @аll life updates hourly on slack, i keep getting told to stop by my manager, but since i had a fricking known suicide attemp/psych stay they never write me up because they are fricking afraid of a fricking law suit lol
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that is so chill
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Thank you!!!!
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Excellent bait
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This is
if even redditors are calling this dude a b-word boi
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Or even in special ed, even the dumb kids can tell who the biggest r-slur is and try to make him feel bad.
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BOO CAT HATE SYMBOL
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Yes.
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Redditors wish this was bait instead of a big stinky mirror.
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Snapshots:
https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1fluy89/aita_for_complaining_to_hr_that_my_colleague_is/:
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archive.ph (click to archive)
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Twitchfrog and 2010s "based" wojaks have gone mainstream and that just suggests that he likes /r/dankmemes or is a frequent commenter on livestreams. If the emojis were self-insert chudjaks, hanging soyj-ACKs, or hyperspecific shirtjaks, then OP might have an argument (although OP would still be a goon for the HR commissars, even if he had evidence of wrongthink).
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Wow YTA? Has wokism lost the mandate of reddit?
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What's wrong here? The coworker and he disagreed over if the emojis were appropriate, so they got the Code of Conduct specialist involved to referee
This is how shit's supposed to be managed
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HR only exists in its current form due to fear of being sued in the absurd legal climate we live under or investigated by the EEOC. I think the government should stay out of these trivial disputes but it's impossible for state authority not to take a side when antidiscrimination law is conceptualized as it currently is.
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I was thinking of it more like an internal pseudo-legal system (that all employees voluntarily subscribe to) rather than governmental CYA. From that perspective I could see it as assholish if he's creating potential liability by raising awareness about it
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