Quite a few Black and brown women have recently asked me how they can help their white women friends understand white privilege
7 2019-09-19 by HardIsLife
in the hopes that they'll start their anti-racism journey. In the hopes that their white women friends can become trustworthy.
Here's what I've learned: whiteness is the most powerful drug on the planet. And if you, yourself, don't want to wean yourself off of whiteness, it can't and won't happen.
You have to not just want to wean yourself, you have to desperately want to wean yourself.
Nearly all my closest friends were white women. They would have done anything for me.
EXCEPT GIVE UP WHITENESS.
I spent one full year meeting them for coffee, drinks, lunch, dinner. I sent them articles. I wrote articles. I sent them those. Rather than show an interest in awakening, nearly ALL of them, dumped me.
Dumping has involved a pinch of ghosting, a dash of "I'm really worried about you, WE are really worried about you." It's involved leaving me and my family out of group plans - and pretending it was an accident.
It's involved leaving me out of group plans - and not pretending it was an accident. Some of these women weren't really even friends before, but have bonded over their mutual disdain for me and my "craziness."
They've bonded around WHITENESS.
This is no different than the KKK. Instead of robes, they coalesce around brunch, weddings, spin classes.
I no longer harbor anger towards them. I'd be lying if I said it didn't make me sad from time to time, because it does.
But the overarching feelings I have are
(a) UNDERSTANDING. Understanding how they are all just reading from their Whiteness Script. A script they received before they were born and
(b) FEAR.
Fear that if the intense love they had for me and my family wasn't enough to reflect on their own white supremacy, what hope do we have.
Those who love us still love whiteness more. By a long shot.
The most powerful drug on the planet.
As for that advice: save your time, save your energy, save your heart. Until and unless they themselves want to eradicate the toxic whiteness embedded in their DNA, it'll never happen and you'll be crushed trying.
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1 jewdanksdad 2019-09-19
Imagine being lawlz. You shit post daily, you get mocked, no one likes you, your life is worthless.
Then behold! You larp as a foid, and suddenly, you get more attention! But at the end of the day, you're still lawlz.
1 LeEpicMemerDude69420 2019-09-19
Hard is lawlz?
1 jewdanksdad 2019-09-19
Mull it over. It makes the most sense
1 AltOverNow 2019-09-19
it makes sense now
1 HardIsLife 2019-09-19
Anyone but him 🤮
1 600_lbs_of_sin 2019-09-19
that's exactly what lawlz would say 🤔
1 SQLerection 2019-09-19
Mayos can never win. Either they die white or live the rest of their lives being accused of larping and appropriation.
1 _-ctrl-_ 2019-09-19
And that’s a good thing
1 MrBufkin 2019-09-19
I weaned your mother 😏
1 Boywithpants 2019-09-19
Source?
1 HardIsLife 2019-09-19
https://mobile.twitter.com/sairasameerarao/status/1164913894516654081
1 SerialBrain420 2019-09-19
Wow someone unironically wrote that! I honestly thought this was pretty funny, but that makes it even better.
1 AnnoyinTheGoyim 2019-09-19
You’re like the masterlawlz of deuxrama. Minus the stickies yet somehow worse.
1 HardIsLife 2019-09-19
Fuck you
1 Chapose 2019-09-19
There is usually only one lawlz sticky which you can scroll past, but this dude here spams. Probably half of the stuff posted the last few weeks is from him.
1 BaldwinIVofJerusalem 2019-09-19
Definitely more than half
1 rDramaWorstsubreddit 2019-09-19
Suburban asians are as culturally white as any person can get.