I am a female INTJ (and a very good-looking one) who always gets too much attention from the WRONG males. The only men who have the balls to approach me are either complete losers (we're talking about the worst of the worst - idiotic pizza delivery guys, waiters, creeps on the street and etc.) or super feminine guys. I have a very "masculine", cold, stoic vibe (despite my traditionally feminine closet/hair and makeup style) which is a turn off for the masculine men i desire, i guess. They all usually stare at non-stop but don't dare to actually talk to me. It's ridiculous.

The only guy I've met (and approved of) who dared to approach me and stick around was VERY remarkably masculine. Both physically and mentally. He was super tall, intelligent, handsome, successful. I think that INTJ females can be in a relationship only with guys who are even more masculine than we are but they're veeery hard to find, especially nowadays. I really hate the "anti toxic masculinity", "flower/feminine guy" trend that's going on right now because while toxic masculinity has really got to go, a lot of young adults/teens/people overall have the wrong perception of what toxic masculinity really means. Yes, men shouldn't be pressured to be violent, emotionally detached and etc. but this doesn't mean that i want to date some overly emotional, nail polish-wearing, effeminate, irresponsible guy. I'm sorry.

Being attracted to masculine men as an INTJ woman really is a curse. I'm almost positive that I'll stay single forever. I'm somewhat okay with that because i have other priorities but it can get very lonely sometimes and i would much rather prefer being completely alone than having to act all "girly" and "submissive" 24/7. Just couldn't be me.