I'm disappointed too, dude. It's pretty hurtful to me that she seems to be ignoring me. I have no clue why either. I'm not even joking, it's legitly pretty depressing for me.

I chose to believe that her parents have arranged a marriage for her and introduced her to the groom when she was visiting them.

Since she loves me so much she chose to break off contact with me since she couldn't bear it. It's a traditional story of love against societal standards. I hope she'll come to her senses and realise that she doesn't have to marry him but can be with me instead.

But for real though. It is weird that before and when she was visiting them we wrote somewhat regularly. Then she didn't have connection for a while because of Chinese censorship and since she's back it seems to work again but she didn't read the messages I wrote her.

I don't really get it

and then you start sending nasty messages like that... well then you've seriously fucked up, son. Then you can kiss your waifu dreams goodbye, and it'll be your fault.

True which is why I just wrote her once some time after she got back, and it was a nice message too.

But I don't get why she doesn't even read my messages. Her WhatsApp seems to work again and it says she's been online recently too ...

Didn't even hit on her and if she doesn't like me like that it's still useful to know other students since you can get material, learn for exams together and such.

So I'm a bit confused by her seemingly ignoring me.

Well she's been back since Tuesday I think and I wrote her once when she was still in China as a response but she didn't get that until she got back because it barely works there. But she hasn't read that yet. And I wrote her yesterday asking her how shes been and about her trip and If she's been thinking about what classes she might want to take.

This is very depressing to me. I even worked out 6/7 days every week during my holidays just to look good for her :(

That is kind of a long time to not say anything

I know, right? Also not even reading what I wrote her. I find that weird too.

Also it just seems out of character for her. She'd often write me on her own and seemed like a nice girl.

You've got a serious case of one-itis. You have to realize that there's plenty more chinks in the sea, man.

Yeah, it just feels bad though ... I meet someone cute and she seems nice too and then she just ignores me for no reason ... I'm taking Chinese classes starting in October, I actually told her that too. Then I can hit on tiny Asian women in their native language :)

Do you know when she's due back?

Like permanently? Second time I saw her she told me she's still here for one and a half years. Her German is really good too. She should stay here with me :(

I thought she was on like a two week trip or something.

It was like six weeks. Her family lives in China and she visited them. But she should be back since last week, and I'll go back next week or so. And she's here in Germany for another one and a half years.

I'd give her another week before accepting your loss.

Yeah I guess. Weird part is that as I said even for studying reasons it's helpful to know others and also it's super likely for me to come across her since the place isn't that big which makes it weird for her to ignore and I'm still not sure why she would.

Keep hitting the gym, and I'm sure you'll find yourself another tiny Asian princess.

That's what motivates me tbh 😔 it's just depressing to me because I thought she could be that person for me

Just try to not obsess over here before you ask her out, yeah? That makes rejection worse by an order of magnitude.

Okay, I can see that. But I also don't get why you would ignore someone you're only on a friendly basis with. Didn't even hit on her or anything yet

Well, if you see her again in person, it would be totally understandable and acceptable to ask why she stopped talking to you. I think you're entitled to an answer about that, if nothing else.

Yeah I thought so too. Like I'm just wondering but I don't get at all why she went from writing with me regularly to just ignoring me.

At first I thought it was because her WhatsApp didn't work again right away but that doesn't seem to be the case since it says she's been online recently. I'd get it if I'd done anything like send her a ton of messages when she was unresponsive or said something creepy but I didn't do any of those things.

But still, there's no shortage of women who still could be that person for you.

Thanks, hope you're right

As unique as you think she is, she really isn't. You have a type, tiny 4'9" Asian women. That's fine.

It's not even that specific though I do think slim Asian women under 5' are the hottest. But I also liked her because she seemed like a nice and sweet person. It seems weird for her to do that ...

Plus, if you're working out even semi-regularly, you're already in a better position than a large percentage of your dating competition.

I'm decently strong, at least compared to all people at my uni gym and most people at my other gym. If I get shredded I'll look really good.

That's mostly my goal soon until April, to get really lean so she'll see me again and then regret just ignoring me. But by then I'll walk with another cute Chinese girl hand in hand.

J think you're right anyway. First of all cute, petite Chinese women aren't that rare and secondly I probably just imagined her to be something that she isn't even and made her out as a way better person than she actually is ...

Unfortunately I'm not joking. It's actually pretty hurtful to me. At least I thought we were friends so I don't understand why she goes from writing regularly with me to completely ignoring me.