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I can see why they get asked to calm down.

Maybe if you weren't always mansplaining they wouldn't feel a "hot flash of rage" when you tell someone to calm down.

Actually, those hot flashes are likely your menopause or menzies acting up.

Retard: -attempts to prove she's totally rational and capable of calmly debating by running to her safe space and vomiting for four hours-

Flock o' retards: i see nothing wrong with your behavior

It's infuriating. I have heard guys tell each other to calm down, I have a friend to says it to everyone. But it does seem to be much less common.

Maybe there's a reason for that. I'll give you a hint, it's not the men.

I think its because men can be in much more rage and then calm down by themselves very quickly without being told, and then not be mad at the other for another 12 weeks. If the matter is over, you can be just like before again.

Your title game is terrible.

Haha calm down.

...you're gonna talk shit about ovaryact right now? Literally kys. There's no better title this week I've seen

calm down /u/phedre, you're acting like a woman.

Found the woman

No need to have a femper tantrum.

I have NEVER heard a guy tell another guy to "calm down," ever. Ever. Not once. Jesus Christ.

/u/danceontheborderline maybe if you would just calm down for once and try to think about this rationally you'd realize "calm down" is an incredibly common thing said to people of all genders.

I don't know where these people live that they'd think otherwise. I'm pretty sure 90% of internet shitposting involves working the other guy up just so you can reply "calm down" or "u mad bro" or whatever else implies they're unreasonably angry -- which is something you'd expect the people of TrollX to understand.

All I'm saying is that there comes a point when you have to grow up and realize that not all of your problems are caused by sexism. Some of them may on the contrary be in your power to change. For example the next time you're raging at some dudebro mansplainer for telling you to calm down, you could instead try taking a deep breath and calming down.

maybe if you would just calm down for once and try to think about this rationally...

Because of assholes like you I can't hear the phrase 'calm down' without feeling a hot flash of menopausal rage. It's like that feeling when someone tells you to do something (like insult another r/Drama subscriber) that you were just about to do on your own. UGH.

I remember thinking the same thing back in middle school when my mom would tell me to get ready for school when I was already getting ready. Then I grew up.

Yeah mom is way nicer when you don't have to go to school any more.

She's very mean to me and tells me to go out job hunting or find a girlfriend. But I tell her my (cause) needs help on the internet and I still got a few months before I turn 38 so it's not like i'm running out of time.

Oi cunt calm your tits

Some of them may on the contrary be in your power to change.

The theme of TrollX (and indeed the entire Femsphere) is that the world should change to accommodate a woman's every whim.*

*As long as that woman identifies as feminist, and is white.

And especially if she has a penis.

as long as its a feminine penis

Hey, thanks for the joining the conversation!

I think a lot of my perspective comes from my PhD work in Philosophy, and especially doing post-grad research and work one of the most heavily male fields in higher ed - and also one of the most "argument based" fields, too.

I don't spend a ton of time shitposting on the internet (reddit is always a guilty pleasure...) so I guess it's possible that guys on the internet spend a lot of time telling each other to "calm down." Most of my experience comes from academia, and I can tell you, it can be kind of frustrating to watch two grown men yell at each other across a table about Heidegger but when a woman joins in, the tone changes to strange condescension and, yeah, a lot of "calm down" phrases that just weren't really happening across the table before.

So maybe you're right, maybe it's more common for guys to use language like that on the internet, with anonymity, than it is for grown male professionals in an academic space.

I appreciate the critique and thoughts!

/r/iamverysmart

Sorry, I wasn't trying to put anyone down. I was just trying to put my frustration in the context of work for me.

Calm down, I'm just busting your balls ovaries

Lady, you need to fuckin' relax

LOWER YOUR FUCKING TONE

We're all extremely triggered by your implied condescenscion. We are all very insecure autists and cry ourselves to sleep in our respective mothers' basements, didn't you know?

So check your privilege, m'kay.

I lost all 10 of my $1.49 BK tendies because of this.

Smart people don't go into a philosophy career :⁾

/r/iamverysmart is that way. Maybe you just hang out with shitty people.

Maybe you just hang out with shitty people

if she works in academia, this is 100% true

This entire thread should be linked given all the STEMshits.

In academia. In research. Gives anecdotes.

Yeah it's Philosophy, not like it's a real science or anything.

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It's The Gay Science

Philosophy isn't a science.

Don't let /u/pointmanzero hear you say that

Have told friends and been told to calm down. Have penis.

Well clearly your friends are man children who don't know how to act like grown men (unsurprising). In the real world men only tell women to calm down.

I can attest to the fact that myself and my male roommates often tell each other to calm down. This is done almost entirely to piss each other off, as no one likes to be told to calm down.

Maybe you guys would get less angry if you cuddled more.

That sounds less fun tbh.

After discussing this with my roommates we reached the unanimous decision that you need to calm down.

In my male circles it tends to be " calm the FUCK down" but normally just saying "your being a pussy" is a trump card to anything.

I think a lot of my perspective comes from my PhD work in Philosophy

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PhD in philosophy = "I want a doctorate but don't want to do a lot of work for it."

Philosophy is closer to math than most STEM degrees. One of the most difficult courses I've taken was a MATH/PHIL Set Theory class.

So, what you're saying is the highest lever of math course you ever took entailed the counting games played in preschool. Got it.

You're not very familiar with math, are you?

Apparently quite a bit more than you are. I get it, you have an inferiority complex because you weren't able to progress in any of the STEM fields or math that was more complex than counting to 100, so you settled for some joke other major like philosophy. Not everyone can do STEM, and that's ok! You're still special and can still have an enriching and productive life, chief.

I'm CS/Math, not philosophy.

Yeah...right. We believe you. ;-)

If that's the persona you want to create for yourself, no worries. Plenty of people live in delusions!

CS is a huge major, especially on reddit. It's statistically more likely I'm being truthful.

Yes, I understand that it's a huge major, I'm not doubting that at all. Just doubting the veracity of your claim to be a CS major, or that you've gone any higher in math than counting to 100. The fact that CS is a huge major does not mean that you are a CS major. It doesn't even prove you've gone further in math than counting to 100, chief. Maybe you should calm down, take a break, and try to form a cogent argument that makes sense.

You realize that Calculus is 200-level and required for practically every major, correct? Lower stuff is like college algebra and geometry, and and that point, why not just doubt I've even attended college? I feel like you're just dragging me around on some troll-escapade. Mission accomplished, I guess.

Just because something is a college-level course doesn't mean you took it or that you're in college, or that you can count past 100. But hey, if you want to continue to live in a fantasy world in which you are majoring in CS, or hell even in college, I'll let you. It doesn't affect negatively in anyway. I just hope you don't live in that fantasy world for too long, for your sake.

I actually dropped out in 7th grade. #2cool4school

That explains a lot.

I'll be completely honest. I'm not literate.

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Have you considered that perhaps your great dislike for being told to calm down makes it so that you really only notice and remember the times people tell you (a woman) to calm down, and not the times people tell men to calm down? That your "lived experience" might have a selection bias, and is in any case kinda irrelevant (no offense) to a question which exceeds its scope? I mean, my perspective is that the bus is only late when I'm already late for work, and yet I have a sneaking suspicion that my being late for work has absolutely nothing to do with the transit schedule.

Also your experience studying philosophy is almost certainly not representative of the world at large, since everyone studying philosophy at the graduate level has autism, by definition, and likely also has a host of other social and personal problems. So it's not surprising that they're telling each other to calm down all the time -- probably most of them should calm down.

Tbh I'm not sure why'd you'd admit publicly to something like that. It certainly doesn't help you argument for us to know you're working on a PhD in Philosophy. Obviously you're gonna think everyone is condescending to you. Literally every grad student ever thinks their peers are condescending to them. If they weren't neurotic maladapts constantly paranoid that no one took them seriously they wouldn't have ended up in grad school in the first place.

I think a lot of my perspective comes from my PhD work in Philosophy

Or, as they're known today, GEDs

Ok, so you took your experiences from an extremely niche section of the populace and decided to apply that globally?

Are you sure you're actually in academia?

If you really are a normal educated person in a respectable field you may want to think twice about the kind of loons you surround yourself with on trollx.

Then again I'm here in r/drama so maybe this is a bit of a glass house scenario.

Lol "respectable field" did you miss the part where she said philosophy? Going for a PhD in philosophy lol. Why not just burn a barrel of cash? Same net result.

Jesus fuck, settle down STEMlord.

Please tell me what jobs a PhD in philosophy opens up that isn't teaching.

Philosophy probably opens up a career in law would be my guess. And if money is the only thing you care about, why not just sell your soul and go to med school?

I'm really not trying to be a dick when I ask this, but how exactly does that open up a career in law? Why not just get a law degree? Money isn't the only thing I care about. Paying down college debt in a reasonable amount of time is, though. This woman will likely be paying down that debt for her entire life. Good luck leaving anything behind to your children when your debt collectors will be after their piece.

I don't know, philosophy is a pretty common pre-law major. I would hope someone working towards a PhD plans to go into research/teaching and is being paid a stipend for her current work. I also doubt philosophy post-grads are making less than 60k by mid career so it's definitely justifiable if passion > income.

/u/turtlesrprettycool is retarded. I'm a STEM lord and know that arts courses, at least beyond undergrad, can be difficult. Philosophy likely does not have many employment opportunities apart from teaching, but by the time you are a post doc you are probably a master of arguing. Well, at least arguing in the academic sense, which probably is very good for Law.

Some phil PhDs think they are super geniuses, but its much more common in STEM because Reason. Will. Prevail

Maybe they can tel me why i want fries with that when they take my order.

Maybe this is why women aren't taken seriously in academia...

With a phd in philosophy i assume you took at least a few psych classes, guys dont tell other guys to calm down as often because guys argue using logic and reasoning more often instead of emotions or phrases starting with "i feel". It is not always sound logic or reasoning, but if it was there would not be the arguments.

I don't know if it applies to you or not, but the stereotype of women being emotional isn't totally wrong, when guys say calm down they mean "stop trying to emotion this and logic it instead" im really drunk right now, so i cant provide better wording or reasoning, but good luck

Relax buddy, it was just a personal anecdote.

Calm down buddy its just a meme

Lmao. Ok chief. You seem triggered there, pal.

Since you studied philosophy, you might want to consider reading up more on stoicism. Not only is it interesting, it's also (the only?) practically useful philosophy.

Also, women are more emotional than men. You're not told to calm down because you're a woman, you're told to calm down because you need to calm down and you need to calm down because you're a woman. Get over it.

If your hormones let you, that is.

Does PhD work, shit posts in trollX, goes to defend self in drama, doesn't know how to calm down.

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I appreciate the critique and thoughts!

Calm down.

doing post-grad research and work one of the most heavily male fields in higher ed - and also one of the most "argument based" fields, too.

Which field are you talking about that's heavily male dominated and argument based? Genuinely curious.

It can't be engineering, I don't remember much arguing with the professor on the capacity of beams.

Hey, thanks for the joining the conversation!

This was when I reached for the bleach.

I think a lot of my perspective comes from my PhD work in Philosophy, and especially doing post-grad research

This was when I drank it. For a chick you sure love waving your dick around.

I appreciate the critique and thoughts!

Fuck you too.

First of all, perhaps when

two grown men yell at each other across a table about Heidegger but when a woman joins in, the tone changes to strange condescension and, yeah, a lot of "calm down" phrases that just weren't really happening across the table before

Perhaps it was an argument between them, not you. I don't really care for people that but into conversations that were started without them unless I know them well.

I'm obviously quite late to the party but, as I cannot very well voice my opinion in the real world without repercussions (hear me out), whether real or imaginary, I'd share some of my experience in grad studies.

I am a male in a male dominated field. However, the graduate studies portion of that field is about 50/50.

You might get frustrated with "calm down", but what is sometimes quite difficult for some male and female students is getting cut off and told you are wrong. I do, however, understand being told that. Many professors do not do that, but some do. I grew up with many people of that more direct type, and will probably grow up to be one.

The single only person who pushes back and thinks they know better than the prof (spoiler alert: they don't), is a girl I expect would post in ways much like you. No one in my group, other than her brainwashed underlings, shares her views that our professor is a misogynistic out of touch old white man.

You don't know how much I want to tell her to "calm down", or even "shut the fuck up". But I don't. Why? She will literally go to the university paper and write a story about our woman hating lab. She has told people that he has thought about it. Even though the other 5+ girls in our group would counter those claims, the university and general societal left leaning population would crucify both myself and my professor. No one dares speak out for fear of out of scope, shitty undeserved consequences.

The worst thing is that she now basically has free reign to shit talk anyone and everyone with no repercussions because our prof tries so hard to get women into our work, and thinks he will be seen as shitty by firing one grad student. She can throw shitty remarks towards me and I can't respond for fear of losing my degree, plus any sort of respect from some potential employers. While I would not rejoice, I would feel no sadness if she tripped in front of a bus. I believe I would find most of the women in the lab would agree.

It's not just her either. The majority of petty and shitty profs I had in undergrad were women. When I changed majors for grad studies, I haven't had any problems with any prof, male or female.

This makes me want to dislike almost any woman in STEM, but I don't, because that's retarded.

TL;DR You think men are shitty in liberal studies, I think women are shitty in STEM, but I don't actually believe that and you seem to.

Most of the time I say it lately it's towards children or drunk people.

Maybe /r/theredpill is right and women are like children? I'd ask TwoX but if "calm down" makes them rage ill get doxxed and murdered.

Where some guys could be literally throwing punches at eachother and still call it a rational debate.

"Hey Tom where'd you get that black eye?"

"Oh I just got into a rational debate with this guy and he logical fallacy-ed me right in the face. You should see the other guy though, I undermined his premises so hard he ended up in the hospital."

Lol quite a bit of hypocrisy in that thread. Complaining about tone policing while simultaneously policing language in that very OP, talking about getting triggered into a rage but acting like telling a person so easily triggered into a rage to calm down is unreasonable, lying about never hearing a guy tell another guy to calm down like it doesn't happen every fucking day on tv news.

These people all need to find a pier and stand on it together, so that it collapses under their immense weight, and they float to china because they're so round they will unfortunately be buoyant. But at least in China they practice some extreme tone policing and these retards can actually experience what that's like, since they fear it so much.

e: didn't even notice the trans in there providing the incredible insight of having seen the world from both sexes. This person can 100% confirm that every time they've ever been told to calm down has been while presenting as a woman.

Hey /u/nikkitgirl, you're a liar and probably a degenerate.

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/u/lykkestrom is a fierce warrior:

when I'm in one of those situations where guys look every girl up and down and mentally "rate" her before moving on, I do it to them.

The face on guys' faces when you do it back to them and they realise what you're doing can be quite revelatory

Yeah, every guy I know is always horrified when women check them out. They will literally go comatose from the trauma.

Who's fucking bright idea was it to teach women how to read and write?

Putting women in a room and telling them to have a conversation proves the redpill right 78% of the time.

Picture the average 2x poster.

What a moron. I mentally rate everyone I see. This bitch gets an automatic failing grade

Apparently there are two kinds of people who get angrier when you tell them to calm down: alcoholic husbands and strong Western womyn.

You're forgetting metalheads. There is not one thing in existence that is more fragile than a metalheads feelings.

WHERE IS HE? I'll FIGHT ANYONE RIGHT NOW.

((I just started my damn period, Taco Bell just fucked up my order, AND I just listened to Trump's speech and I'm ready to fight anyone))

Lol /u/RedTrailWildCat you're getting all bent out of shape over nothing and taking it out on irrelevant things. I know you're on your period and your fast food order isn't just how you want it, but I mean seriously you're getting mad at Trump's speech? Everything he said was pretty reasonable why would you even say that?

I hope you got something else to eat and had time to cool off about all this.

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What are you talking about I've never even posted there. You're just making stuff up now.

I just don't understand why you're so upset.

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Uh, trying to understand the thoughts and feelings of my fellow human makes me pissed off?

Actually, it's called empathy and you should try it sometime rather than just being rude to people you don't know.

There's no need for all this hate. Have you been feeling ok (besides the period and taco bell situation)?

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I asked you your thoughts on why you were upset. You know, like a person who cares about other people. In return you told me to go crawl off somewhere and to fuck off.

I'm not upset with you about your behavior, just disappointed. I'll still show kindness to others despite your hateful comments towards me though. Because that's what I believe in.

I hope you can take this moment to reflect on the way you treat people, calm down, and be a better person to others in the future.

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You know, being empathetic doesn't necessarily mean only treating your friends and the people you know with respect. In fact, having empathy often times means kindness towards people you don't actually know and/or are different from you.

It's pretty easy to be nice to people you're already friends with. What I'd like to see from you is opening your eyes a little to the world and seeing that it's ok to be good to people you don't know. Or even people who are a little bit different than you.

There's a whole world of people out there you don't know and they each have their own hopes, dreams and aspirations. Try to be good to them instead of hostile. Empathy isn't a limited resource that will run out just because you used it on your friends once. It's ok to share it with everybody. Take down hate with love.

There's a lot you could learn from our experience together today and I hope you can relax a little and open your heart to becoming a better person.

https://youtu.be/1k8craCGpgs

I'm afraid you scared the lolcow away.

She just didn't have enough love in her heart

:(

You turned the mirror on her, and she didn't like what she saw.

Too much taco bell I presume.

These days it's probably too much box wine, isn't it?

Don't wine shame with a name like that.

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Obviously something I've said has pissed you off enough to write a comment.

Sounds to me like you're implying he should... calm down. Gross.

stfu and go clean your filthy house you fat bitch, I bet you look in the mirror and think your face is weird and it makes you feel bad and then you sit on your bed to contemplate and look down at your fat stomach to see 3-4 fat white rolls you fat cunt lmao kys and start the mayocide now you worthless no good whore.

Woah man

I think you should calm down man.

Wow this is me_irl :(

Isn't it misogynistic to say women are irrational on their periods?

Reality has a misogynistic bias.

No. It's misogynistic to believe they can't make their own choices in life and be successful.

Upvoted just to spite whoever flaired this tbh

It's that beta cuck /u/Zachums. I would bet money on it.

wasn't me, idgaf. It's a weak post, but I also look down on trollx, so I'm at a net 0 on this one.

Oops. I thought you had said somewhere you subbed there.

I mean he probably is to mine them for retarded drama

This exactly.

I thought everyone subbed at awful places.

I'm subbed here.

Me too

Its like going to walmart to feel skinny and good looking. Just looking at any female subs makes me feel grateful that my life isn't dominated by pointless shit.

I'm at a net 0 on this one

Just like in my RES tag

You don't upvote yourself? Lol weirdo.

My go-to scapegoat is usually /u/HAHApointsatyou

<3

IT WAS ME ALL ALONG!!!

On the one hand, I find that hard to believe. On the other hand, I believe that.

Calm down snally

suk my balls

You got it, ill even put a finger in your butt for free.

Ah son of a bitch!

snally, your flairs are retarded. please stop embarrassing yourself.

Anyone who would stand up to defend trollx is as bad as the Nazis.

#punchatrollxer

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nice flair

So much obesity over there. I never go.

I have NEVER heard a guy tell another guy to "calm down," ever. Ever. Not once. Jesus Christ.

I also have never heard a guy tell another guy he wants to lick his titties so I guess inter-gender interactions are just different or something.

I also have never heard a guy tell another guy he wants to lick his titties

get out more

My 'tism hates sunlight.

FUCK if one more guy tells me to "calm down" in a political discussion I swear to God... I have NEVER heard a guy tell another guy to "calm down," ever. Ever. Not once. Jesus Christ. This is literally everything I hate, too. SOLIDARITY.

/u/danceontheborderline calm down.

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So you were the mayo behind this the whole time? Seems so obvious now...

FUCK if one more guy tells me to "calm down" in a political discussion I swear to God... I have NEVER heard a guy tell another guy to "calm down," ever. Ever. Not once. Jesus Christ.

/u/danceontheborderline

Uh, where the fuck are you from where men have never NOT ONCE told eachother to calm down during a political argument?

Reddit is mostly men, and it happens all the time.

Are you fucking retarded? Lol

This is literally everything I hate, too. SOLIDARITY.

Calm down you dumb bitch and get back to your tumblr, box wine, and cats.

box wine and cats

these two things are pretty great tho

box wine and cats

these two things are pretty great tho

A) The retardedly large jugs are better

B) Team Dog, suck it.

More like Dance on the Borderline Personality Disorder.

Team dog! Raise up!

I had no idea they felt this way. Out of respect I will instead tell womens to simmer down now, instead.

Hahahaha thanks!

Calm down, just calm down.

One of them chicks said her husband says relax in perfectly reasonable scenarios and it makes her cringe everytime. They need to chill the fuck out over there.

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Ovaryact. My god man. That's genius!

It's true u/beverlydriveghosts, everytime someone says calm down to me, I fly into a rage

Imagine how much better life would be if women would all just giggle and look pretty and suck people off.

interesting that /u/SOfoundmyotherone didn't post the messages that caused her to be told to calm down. probably something unbelievably shrill

Cuck mods as always.

/u/nmx179 I kind of want you to die for posting more low effort, minimal drama, 'trollx offended my delicate sensibilities' dreck. However you also gave me 'ovaryact,' and that's pretty awesome.

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Ugh, one of my good friends told me to 'calm down' the other day. Shit. Was. Lost. Don't think he'll do that again.

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So, your friend was right. You apparently did need to calm down. A calm person doesn't react the way you did. Are you always like that? Or was it that time of the month and you were just acting on hormones and raw emotion? To be honest, you sound a little unhinged and probably do need to calm down a bit.

Ok, apparently my hyperbole of saying I lost my shit was taken the wrong way. My bad, I should have communicated more clearly. His comment made me angry because up until then I had been engaging in a very calm, but forthright, conversation on Twitter about the representation of women in my little corner of science. I very directly told him not to tell me to calm down, and explained my position. Thanks for the reminder that text based communication lacks the subtlety of spoken language.

The stupidest fucking thing I've ever read:

My husband is a fan of 'relax.' He doesn't say it in arguments. He says it in totally reasonable contexts. Like, he doesn't want to throw the football with the kid as soon as he gets home, he wants to sit down and relax first. Or it's time to stop running around, relax and slow down before bed. Or if the kid will relax for five minutes he'll be asleep. Normal reasonable stuff, and probably has no idea how often he says it. That's why I don't mention that it makes me cringe every time -- it has a very different meaning for me.

/u/SOfoundmyotherone needs to calm down. Prolly on her period or something.