Your condescending, contradictory bullshit isn't attractive to anyone except your frothing, basement-dwelling, virgin army.

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I guess she never hired that male escort.

Probably tough to do on Walmart wages. Still, things should take a major uptick when she starts that job decorating cakes. Who needs dick when you can have sheet cake?

I want to do something I enjoy and have interest in.

And you're putting me on blast for it. Ok.

If working in a bakery gets you more money to pay off that debt, afford therapy, and get you that escort, go for it!

I'm not seeing an escort, but thanks for your genuine concern.

How the fuck have you never had a guy want to stick his dick in you? Have you even been to a club? I see fat girls with guys grinding on their asses all the time. You must be hideous if literally no drunk dude ever showed interest in you.

No guy I ever WANTED wanted to. I'm allowed to not be interested in every gross creep.

So you belong on /r/choosingbeggars.

What do you look like? Height, weight? You don't have to post a pic, but can we get a description so we can figure out what seems to be driving people away? Do you have bad acne? Crooked teeth? A mannish face?

Look we've had our run ins and I definitely don't agree with everything you say or post and you probably think I'm a massive cunt (spoiler alert: I am). Now as much as I love a little light cyberbullying and even though it probably goes against /r/dramas rules, you're right here.

Sure you won't be rolling in cash or opening a custom bake shop with Duff or anything, but taking a job you don't hate every day will do wonders for your mental health and outlook on life. Hell, being a happier overall person probably won't hurt in scoring a date either. So shit, if you wanna decorate cakes, go decorate cakes gurl. Even if it's just some rosettes and "happy birthday timmy" on some sheet cakes, it's still a step forward and up and that's what's important.

Also, Jesus fucking Christ, invest some more time and effort into online dating. At least give it a fighting chance.

I wonder what OP's job is that they think they're so great. Probably professional shitstain.

Oh god. It's you. Never mind.

You know, even though she implied I work as a "professional shitstain", I sincerely hope she manages to pull herself up the career ladder a couple of notches for the very reasons you mentioned. Gotta start somewhere.

Let's crowdsource a male escort and film it

No thank you.

/u/apprehensiveabtthis

Jesus fucking Christ its not hard. I'm an autistic lesbian and I even I've fucked men.

Just - Be in good shape

Do your hair

Have an interesting hobby

Socialise more

I mean come on now. Do you not socialise at your work? Have you not joined any clubs? Have you even tried match?

even I've fucked men.

That's nice. I'm happy for you.

I'm giving you advice here, no need too be snappy

You think I'd still be in this situation if it was as easy as clubs and hair?

Well, did you ever be in good shape, do your hair, have an interesting hobby and socialise frequently?

Hard to socialize when everyone shoots you down.

Wjat do you mean by being shoot down?

People not being interested in talking to me, much less anything beyond that.

Then be more interesrting and make yourself more attractive.

I actually AM interesting in attractive. Not that you would know, you're just some stranger posting in a rude thread about me.

Well i mean, you obiousely are not if peeps just ignore you.

At least I don't sleep with people I'm not even attracted to.

I only every sleep with good looking people, especially black girls.

I mean, you're just trying everything to blame everything and everyone else but yourself here. Just accept your faults and work on them

I love how you think I'm totally unaware that I have a problem and think I'm perfect or something. As if being unkissed at 33 is like "yep. Everything's fine. Just dandy. NO problems here whatsoever!"

all you're doing is venting about it on Reddit. I gave you advice and instead of going ah thanks I'll give it a go you sexy nip lesbian, you instead make excuses and buried your head in the sand

I'm not making excuses, I know I need to change completely. The problem with being unkissed at 33 is that nobody understands.

we've all got problems that nobody else understands. Now stop posting on reddit and get out there and turn your life around

You didn't like dick?

its was alright. Just that men were never that attractive.

Maybe when I get older

Try a tranny.

Maybe when I get older

Gonna fake liking dick to please the parents? That's the Nip in you talking. Save your future husbando the seppuku, and just embrace your lesbianism.

Not every woman is going to be a 115 lb slip of a thing, especially when she's 5'6". That's...not short.

/u/apprehensiveabtthis, not with that attitude. Also, any girl under 5'8 is short and shouldn't pass 130.

Such is law in Trump's America. Where we are again "America the Beautiful," and not "America the Self-Proclaimed Healthy Weight."

In a reference book I have for group psychotherapy, the author breaks down several different archetypes that are likely to appear in groups. One is the "help-rejecting complainer." That's this person to a T.

Unlike the other archetypes, the author has very minimal insight into reaching the help rejecting complainer, and its really the only time in the book where he projects anything other than wisdom and confidence. These are very hard people to help, though it's fun to watch redditors try their hand.

Redditors have been trying to help for four years. Every single post devolves into a shitstorm of angsty blame, foul curses, and repeated references to bad parenting.

It'd be awesome if she accepted responsibility for her bullshit and actually changed her life, but I really doubt it'll ever come to pass because she loves playing that victim card.

Would you mind PMing me the book title & author. I'd enjoy reading more about that.

No PM necessary, it's The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom. It's definitely meant for clinicians and there are a lot of chapters that cover the nuts and bolts of running groups, but he's a wonderful writer so parts may be interesting even if you're not in the field.

Excellent. Thank you for the recommendation; I'll be purchasing a copy.

I did some googling and found this: http://www.psychcongress.com/blog/treating-help-rejecting-complainer

It definitely rings true because there are people in my family that fall into this behavioral process

A lot of this comes down to the old, dumb adage of "everything happens for a reason." Help-rejecting complainers like the woman in the linked post get some sort of "benefit" from the pattern of relating, even if it doesn't look like a benefit to others - for example, if eliciting sympathy is the only way you know how to draw others to you, having your problems solved actually becomes a threat to that dynamic.

Wow! This really blew up! /s

And the coward has deleted all her comments. What a surprise.

u/inkwater, you're not fooling anyone, there's a person inside of you who is a total dick.

Jane, I see you want an argument, but I'm not going to engage with your comments. If you really want to get help someday, you will. Here's hoping you get all the validation and insights you need and deserve.

I don't want an argument.

"I'm not going to engage" yet here you are responding.

What I would like is an apology for making this post about me.

Are you going to apologize? That would be nice. And you're a nice person. So apologize.

It would also be nice if you apologized not only to me, but everyone who actually works as a cake decorator for making fun of it. I'm sorry not everyone can have so grandiose and glamorous a job as the illustrious inkwater.

Maybe you should apologize for making this post and explain why you thought this was okay.

Also, my name is not Jane.