"First of all, I know how Reddit is in this type of situations, so if you're here to criticize my lifestyle you can just leave, I've heard it all before.
Second of all, I know the title sounds weird, so just let me explain this one.
I met my wife, Nancy, while we were both in college, and we've been married for 2 years now. After college we both realized we needed to start working to pay bills, so we moved together and started working in a retail store, where she still works.
The reason why I'm not working with her anymore is because I have a huge passion for videogame designing. I really believe that my current project will be a success, and Nancy believes it too, which is why she agreed that after our marriage I would quit my job and join a promising start-up with a few guys that I've known from back in college.
Around the time of our wedding, we met Ben. He was 18, just got hired on his first job at the store, and I felt that he was as passionate as I was about everything vidya. Nancy and I invited him to our wedding, and we really bonded over time.
Then I started working at the start-up, which has been really heavy work and I feel put a big strain on my life and my relationship with my friends and my wife. Due to all the hours I put in, I felt as if my life consisted of nothing else than work and sleeping. I never had any fun and I never did anything with my wife anymore.
Now, my wife and I were never very social people. A "fun date" for us was always staying home and playing some videogames, but after some years you feel the monotony of that setting in.
So a year ago we started inviting Ben over to our place. Every Tuesday and Thursday I'm working nights, so him and Nancy came over at 5pm, and me and him left at 10pm when I had to go to work. We would game for 5hours straight, and Nancy and I would really enjoy having another person joining us. This happened for a couple of months until the exhaustion from my work started to set in, and I would sleep throughout most of the day. Ben kept coming over to game with Nancy at 5pm, but I'd simply wake up at around 8pm, get ready for work, and leave with Ben at around 10pm.
However, this meant that around 4 days a week, I'd have no interaction with my wife, and that really affected both of us emotionally. Her sexdrive was always higher than mine, and I feel like that was the biggest problem for her. Then one day, when I was getting ready to leave with Ben, I felt that I found the solution to all our problems. The next day I thought it over with Nancy, and while she was denying it, I could tell that she thought about it before too.
So the next time Ben came over, I told him that it's alright to spend the night, and Nancy took care of the rest. This has been going on for the last few months, and I feel that it really helped our relationship.
It was all going well in my love and work life, because as of last week we finished the alpha version of the game. I was so proud of it that I took the Thursday off to show it off to Nancy and Ben, and they really enjoyed it. We spent almost the entire night playing it, and I couldn't be more proud of what I had accomplished. Before going to sleep at around 2-3pm, I jokingly told Ben that "he better buy the game when it comes out", and his response was to tell me that buying videogames is stupid, and he told me in a mocking tone that you could always pirate them.
This just ruined the image that I had of Ben. I felt that the respect that I had for him was mutual, as he was one of the first people to congratulate me in my career change, but the tone of his voice showed me his true feelings about my line of work. We then all went to the bedroom for some fun time, but the mixed feelings that I was dealing with just made me go to sleep as soon as I could.
I don't know what to do in this situation. I can't share this lifestyle with someone that clearly doesn't respect me, but I don't think I can afford to lose Ben, either. Nancy is a very shy and romantic person, so I feel like trying to replace Ben would cause her more pain than I'm feeling right now.
Right now it's Tuesday and I didn't tell Nancy anything about how I felt, but they're gonna be home in a couple of hours and I don't know how to confront them about it. Do you think telling him to go home for today, until I figure myself out, would be too weird? Do you think that maybe Nancy should tell him that? I just don't want to lose the good life that I had these few months by being too rash with my words.
TLDR: Wife's boyfriend has shown that he doesn't respect my line of work, and I don't know if confronting him is worth losing the good life that we have right now"
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n/a SnapshillBot 2017-04-19
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n/a OniTan 2017-04-19
"First of all, I know how Reddit is in this type of situations, so if you're here to criticize my lifestyle you can just leave, I've heard it all before. Second of all, I know the title sounds weird, so just let me explain this one. I met my wife, Nancy, while we were both in college, and we've been married for 2 years now. After college we both realized we needed to start working to pay bills, so we moved together and started working in a retail store, where she still works.
The reason why I'm not working with her anymore is because I have a huge passion for videogame designing. I really believe that my current project will be a success, and Nancy believes it too, which is why she agreed that after our marriage I would quit my job and join a promising start-up with a few guys that I've known from back in college. Around the time of our wedding, we met Ben. He was 18, just got hired on his first job at the store, and I felt that he was as passionate as I was about everything vidya. Nancy and I invited him to our wedding, and we really bonded over time. Then I started working at the start-up, which has been really heavy work and I feel put a big strain on my life and my relationship with my friends and my wife. Due to all the hours I put in, I felt as if my life consisted of nothing else than work and sleeping. I never had any fun and I never did anything with my wife anymore. Now, my wife and I were never very social people. A "fun date" for us was always staying home and playing some videogames, but after some years you feel the monotony of that setting in. So a year ago we started inviting Ben over to our place. Every Tuesday and Thursday I'm working nights, so him and Nancy came over at 5pm, and me and him left at 10pm when I had to go to work. We would game for 5hours straight, and Nancy and I would really enjoy having another person joining us. This happened for a couple of months until the exhaustion from my work started to set in, and I would sleep throughout most of the day. Ben kept coming over to game with Nancy at 5pm, but I'd simply wake up at around 8pm, get ready for work, and leave with Ben at around 10pm. However, this meant that around 4 days a week, I'd have no interaction with my wife, and that really affected both of us emotionally. Her sexdrive was always higher than mine, and I feel like that was the biggest problem for her. Then one day, when I was getting ready to leave with Ben, I felt that I found the solution to all our problems. The next day I thought it over with Nancy, and while she was denying it, I could tell that she thought about it before too. So the next time Ben came over, I told him that it's alright to spend the night, and Nancy took care of the rest. This has been going on for the last few months, and I feel that it really helped our relationship. It was all going well in my love and work life, because as of last week we finished the alpha version of the game. I was so proud of it that I took the Thursday off to show it off to Nancy and Ben, and they really enjoyed it. We spent almost the entire night playing it, and I couldn't be more proud of what I had accomplished. Before going to sleep at around 2-3pm, I jokingly told Ben that "he better buy the game when it comes out", and his response was to tell me that buying videogames is stupid, and he told me in a mocking tone that you could always pirate them. This just ruined the image that I had of Ben. I felt that the respect that I had for him was mutual, as he was one of the first people to congratulate me in my career change, but the tone of his voice showed me his true feelings about my line of work. We then all went to the bedroom for some fun time, but the mixed feelings that I was dealing with just made me go to sleep as soon as I could. I don't know what to do in this situation. I can't share this lifestyle with someone that clearly doesn't respect me, but I don't think I can afford to lose Ben, either. Nancy is a very shy and romantic person, so I feel like trying to replace Ben would cause her more pain than I'm feeling right now. Right now it's Tuesday and I didn't tell Nancy anything about how I felt, but they're gonna be home in a couple of hours and I don't know how to confront them about it. Do you think telling him to go home for today, until I figure myself out, would be too weird? Do you think that maybe Nancy should tell him that? I just don't want to lose the good life that I had these few months by being too rash with my words.
TLDR: Wife's boyfriend has shown that he doesn't respect my line of work, and I don't know if confronting him is worth losing the good life that we have right now"
n/a bytewake 2017-04-19
this is why Trump won
n/a downerabuse 2017-04-19
You're stealing my post reeeee
/r/Drama/comments/6660mz/fuck_my_wife_all_you_want_but_video_game_piracy/
n/a OniTan 2017-04-19
Sorry fam.