Being 26 year old man that's never been in a relationship, I have no idea how I'm going to handle these kinds of situations when they come up. Good thing younger me didn't discover stuff like r/incels and MGTOW.
Ace it's very simple. You either communicate your discontent and try to improve the relationship or emotionally manipulate your partner into banging through guilt/fear of loss.
Um thanks for the advice, but I wasn't being literal. Obviously, I would communicate with my SO.
Also, the title of this thread is pretty misleading seeing as hardly anyone was shaming the OP of the r/relationship_advice post. More so the comments calling his gf a selfish bitch.
A lot of people misunderstand the concept of being asexual. The asexual community defines the term as not having sexual desire. Asexual individuals can engage in relationships for emotional reasons, but they can still enjoy the physical aspects of sex. It's about sexual attraction being absent, not necessarily being repulsed by the concept of sex.
I am generalizing though, there are many branches of asexuality that feel differently on the matter.
A lot of people misunderstand the concept of being asexual. The asexual community defines the term as not having sexual attraction. Asexual individuals can engage in relationships for emotional reasons, but they can still enjoy the physical aspects of sex. It's about sexual attraction being absent, not necessarily being repulsed by the concept of sex. Enjoying orgasms has nothing to do with ones sexual attraction.
adjective
1.
without sexual feelings or associations.
"she rested her hand on the back of his head, in a maternal, wholly asexual, gesture"
2.
BIOLOGY
(of reproduction) not involving the fusion of gametes.
I am generalizing though, there are many branches of asexuality that feel differently on the matter.
Frankly it is a load of horse shit. If you dont experience sexual attraction at all, sure call yourself asexual. Howeber, dont try and convince me people are enjoying sex while asexual, its complete nonsense moving into Sapiosexual horseshit to give yourself a special title. Like pansexual even, just call yourself bi and sit the fuck down fam.
There is no reason to be so aggresive. I linked the official asexual site which answers many of the questions you may have. If you prefer to ignore the resource, that's fine but you are choosing to be willfully ignorant and close minded.
There is a societal misconception with the idea of asexuality, and your definitions reflect that.
Again, sexual attraction does not mean one doesn't enjoy orgasms, they just don't feel the desire to have sex with people.
There is no reason to be so aggresive. I linked the official asexual site which answers many of the questions you may have. If you prefer to ignore the resource, that's fine but you are choosing to be willfully ignorant and close minded.
Asexuals making a website isnt a resource, its advocacy. I can ignore people wanting to be special all day, dosent make them right, and it dosent make me ignorant. Just because Sapiosexuals have a website dosent make Sapiosexuals a actual thing. Its just people with preferences trying to pump themselves up. So like I said, your gf cant love sex and be asexual. Its oxymoronic horseshit and you should be euthanized.
There is a societal misconception with the idea of asexuality, and your definitions reflect that.
It isnt a misconception, its people recognizing bullshitters when they see them.
Again, sexual attraction does not mean one doesn't enjoy orgasms, they just don't feel the desire to have sex with people.
Life is full of confusion. Confusion of love, passion, and romance. Confusion of family and friends. Confusion with life itself. What path we take, what turns we make. How we roll our dice.
It can be hard to understand a person's world view when it is so different from you own.
Sexual attraction is the idea that you see people who you would want sexually, this is absent from asexuals. While an asexual may not find someone sexually attractive, that can find them beautiful just as you may find a flower to be aesthetically pleasing.
Not desiring people sexually does not have anything to do with the pleasure receptors of the genetalia. The genetalia releases feelings of pleasure when touched, which is enjoyable to most all individuals. So an ansexual can not have sexual attraction but yet still very much enjoy sexual satisfation, like an orgasm.
The difference here is an emotional attraction being absent, but a physical receptor still being present.
The link i posted near the parent comment will explain a lot of these questions.
All asexuals don't have sexual attraction, but beyond that there are differences between groups. Some asexuals still enjoy sex, while others don't.
Some asexuals only enjoy the emotional side of a relationship, while others also enjoy the physical side.
Sexual attraction is what differentiates a homosexual (sexually attracted to same sex), vs a heterosexual (sexual attraction to opposite sex).
Asexuals aren't sexually attracted to either sex, but they still have genetalia. Physical stimulation of genetalia causes pleasure, which is irrelevant to sexual attraction.
Sexual attraction is aften lumped in with sexual satisfation, but it doesn't have to be. When an individual masterbates, they aren't sexually attracted to their hand, yet they still have sexual satisfation.
I still don't get it, but I'll accept that's how you identify.
To me it seems like an arbitrary distinction is being made between desire and arousal, but whatever floats your boat.
/u/ialwayswanttacos you need to dread game that ho. Fuck other bitches and she'll either step up her game or dump you. Either way she's doing you a favor.
/u/TheLadyEve do you have a boyfriend you don't bang?
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n/a newcomer_ts 2017-05-17
By God, what a cancer of thread.
With honourable exception of /u/BanzaiTree
n/a nmx179 2017-05-17
If you think /u/BanzaiTree is the exception in that thread it might just be time to self trepanate.
n/a Eternal_Mr_Bones 2017-05-17
Looks like plenty of people ITT need some /r/drama relationship advice.
/u/acethunder21
Ace it's very simple. You either communicate your discontent and try to improve the relationship or emotionally manipulate your partner into banging through guilt/fear of loss.
n/a Card-nal 2017-05-17
He's old for an SRDine.
n/a VaultVeteran 2017-05-17
Don't worry /u/acethunder21, I'm pretty sure you'll never have to worry about these kind of situations coming up. Ever.
n/a acethunder21 2017-05-17
Um thanks for the advice, but I wasn't being literal. Obviously, I would communicate with my SO.
Also, the title of this thread is pretty misleading seeing as hardly anyone was shaming the OP of the r/relationship_advice post. More so the comments calling his gf a selfish bitch.
n/a WalterMatthau 2017-05-17
Man, both a virgin and illiterate. Must be a tough life.
n/a PrigBickDoblems 2017-05-17
So you mean they cherry-picked through the thread to find something to get outraged about?
If so, why care about the OP of this thread cherry-picking through that one to find something to laugh at?
n/a I_DRINK_TO_FORGET 2017-05-17
If you cant fuck your gf you dump her and find one who isnt shit.
n/a SperglockHolmes 2017-05-17
I thought they waited until marriage before they stopped wanting to have sex.
Sitcom laugh track
n/a HodorTheDoorHolder 2017-05-17
record scratch
n/a OniTan 2017-05-17
"Ehh, no Peg." (Toilet flushes)
n/a bareballzthebitch 2017-05-17
How is she a gf if you are not having sex with her?
n/a theherps 2017-05-17
/u/IAlwaysWantTacos needs to learn about the joys of bussy tbh
n/a Thhueros 2017-05-17
Move from /r/MGTOW to /r/MGTOWWOM
n/a jPaolo 2017-05-17
Why are they so insufferable
n/a zahlman 2017-05-17
Because they resent being so tightly packed in the cans.
n/a Works_of_memercy 2017-05-17
And with so much salt.
n/a zahlman 2017-05-17
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n/a lvl99SkrubRekker 2017-05-17
/u/dudw8462
His has to be the dumbest thing I have ever read.
n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
A lot of people misunderstand the concept of being asexual. The asexual community defines the term as not having sexual desire. Asexual individuals can engage in relationships for emotional reasons, but they can still enjoy the physical aspects of sex. It's about sexual attraction being absent, not necessarily being repulsed by the concept of sex.
I am generalizing though, there are many branches of asexuality that feel differently on the matter.
n/a JohnGalt316 2017-05-17
that just means she isn't sexually attracted TO YOU lol
to a better guy it would be a whole different story
n/a lvl99SkrubRekker 2017-05-17
adjective
1.
without sexual feelings or associations.
"she rested her hand on the back of his head, in a maternal, wholly asexual, gesture"
2.
BIOLOGY
(of reproduction) not involving the fusion of gametes.
Frankly it is a load of horse shit. If you dont experience sexual attraction at all, sure call yourself asexual. Howeber, dont try and convince me people are enjoying sex while asexual, its complete nonsense moving into Sapiosexual horseshit to give yourself a special title. Like pansexual even, just call yourself bi and sit the fuck down fam.
n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
There is no reason to be so aggresive. I linked the official asexual site which answers many of the questions you may have. If you prefer to ignore the resource, that's fine but you are choosing to be willfully ignorant and close minded.
There is a societal misconception with the idea of asexuality, and your definitions reflect that.
Again, sexual attraction does not mean one doesn't enjoy orgasms, they just don't feel the desire to have sex with people.
n/a ricardogce 2017-05-17
lol
n/a lvl99SkrubRekker 2017-05-17
Asexuals making a website isnt a resource, its advocacy. I can ignore people wanting to be special all day, dosent make them right, and it dosent make me ignorant. Just because Sapiosexuals have a website dosent make Sapiosexuals a actual thing. Its just people with preferences trying to pump themselves up. So like I said, your gf cant love sex and be asexual. Its oxymoronic horseshit and you should be euthanized.
It isnt a misconception, its people recognizing bullshitters when they see them.
hard eye roll
n/a Hammer_of_truthiness 2017-05-17
God skrub your posting game is on point today you just butcher a hooker or something fam?
n/a lvl99SkrubRekker 2017-05-17
Thai ladyboi but close enough broseph.
n/a TheLadyEve 2017-05-17
Wait wait...how can you enjoy sex if you don't experience sexual attraction? That's very confusing.
n/a UnrelatedCommentxXx 2017-05-17
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n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
It can be hard to understand a person's world view when it is so different from you own.
Sexual attraction is the idea that you see people who you would want sexually, this is absent from asexuals. While an asexual may not find someone sexually attractive, that can find them beautiful just as you may find a flower to be aesthetically pleasing.
Not desiring people sexually does not have anything to do with the pleasure receptors of the genetalia. The genetalia releases feelings of pleasure when touched, which is enjoyable to most all individuals. So an ansexual can not have sexual attraction but yet still very much enjoy sexual satisfation, like an orgasm.
The difference here is an emotional attraction being absent, but a physical receptor still being present.
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n/a TheLadyEve 2017-05-17
So why would an asexual person want to have sex in the first place?
n/a lvl99SkrubRekker 2017-05-17
Y u even trying fam? This battle was lost before it started.
n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
The link i posted near the parent comment will explain a lot of these questions.
All asexuals don't have sexual attraction, but beyond that there are differences between groups. Some asexuals still enjoy sex, while others don't.
Some asexuals only enjoy the emotional side of a relationship, while others also enjoy the physical side.
Sexual attraction is what differentiates a homosexual (sexually attracted to same sex), vs a heterosexual (sexual attraction to opposite sex).
Asexuals aren't sexually attracted to either sex, but they still have genetalia. Physical stimulation of genetalia causes pleasure, which is irrelevant to sexual attraction.
Sexual attraction is aften lumped in with sexual satisfation, but it doesn't have to be. When an individual masterbates, they aren't sexually attracted to their hand, yet they still have sexual satisfation.
I hope this helps.
n/a TheLadyEve 2017-05-17
I still don't get it, but I'll accept that's how you identify. To me it seems like an arbitrary distinction is being made between desire and arousal, but whatever floats your boat.
n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
I don't personally identify that way, I'm a heterosexual sexual personally. I just know people that identify that way and have done research into it.
n/a sombresobriquet 2017-05-17
That's stupid. The asexual community is stupid. You're stupid for parroting that shit.
n/a dude8462 2017-05-17
You're entitled to your own opinions, but judging opinions that contradict your own as "stupid" is a way to lead a close minded life.
n/a OniTan 2017-05-17
/u/ialwayswanttacos you need to dread game that ho. Fuck other bitches and she'll either step up her game or dump you. Either way she's doing you a favor.
/u/TheLadyEve do you have a boyfriend you don't bang?
n/a TheLadyEve 2017-05-17
Nah I'm good. My sex life is fine. I was with a LL asshole who shamed me for wanting to fuck, then I dumped him and now life is great.