Quarter life crisis in /r/relationships

59  2017-10-23 by whoducksforducks

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Every time I see a post on /r/relationships with a 5+ year gap, I read it to laugh at their struggles.

same, at this point it's not even possible for age gap advocates to say that it's okay to chance it because they know a guy who knows a guy who successfully did it, there's just too much evidence that it usually goes down in flames or that some sort of abuse is involved

age gap advocates

Just call them what they are, sexual predators.

true

this particular gap isn't bad though, though i'd avoid the gap between OP's thighs if i were her bf

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Eh, it is pretty bad. A 33 year old has a lot more life experience and maturity than a 26 year old and is in a higher position in society, leading to an imbalance both power as well as privilege.

As a 29 year old I want absolutely nothing to do with 25 year olds, much less 23 year olds.

Who is more mature, a 23-year-old with kids and bills to pay or a 29-year-old NEET who shitposts on /r/drama? Seriously though, I admire that you're turning down the hordes of hot 25 year old women who are throwing themselves at you, unlike those fucking pedo Chads.

I always post here from work

you're right, that's better

Keep Yourself Safe

You sound 22

Being 33 with my sweet sweet girlfriend being 25 is good enough to not care about being called a sexual predator by Internet strangers

I'm curious, what exactly do your friends and co-workers think about you? Do they call you a loser to your face, or do they do it behind your back?

You're like a senior in high school who took a freshman to prom

They all think I'm fuckin nailing it as they see their wives fatten and sag in a downwards spiral of vaginal dryness and porn addiction.

Really m8? 25-33 is unacceptable these days?

/u/Frank_Tenpenny calling anyone a loser is just a gem of hypocrisy.

"Women are so far behind intellectually that an 8 year gap is really more like a 20 year gap."

-Frank_Tenpenny

You think 26 and 32 is a problem? Lmao.

Yeah it actually is. One party is in a higher position of power than the other and has more life experience, thereby making any "consent" between the two shaky at best.

I'm 29. I have literally nothing in common with someone 6 years my junior.

Bottom line is that it isn't hard to go for someone your own age, and you probably should do so to not look like an utter loser/predator.

uhhhhhhh

it's basically pedifilia is what it is, creep!

Quasi-pedophilia is a problem in this country.

A more stringent set of age of consent laws would definitely help, as it would prevent those with developed brains (25+) from taking advantage of those who are not at that stage yet.

nobody, but certainly no cis white males, should be allowed to date women below the age of true beauty: menopause

only creepy perverts could find women under 40 attractive.

ur mom goes to menopause

and if you don't find her attractive you are a pedophile.

I hooked up with a guy five years younger than me this weekend, whoops :(

You fucking pedo. I'm not even going to enact the effort to explain the creepy and GROSS power dynamics at play here.

Not sure if srs

Pretty much me atm

I've said it before and I'll say it again, they need to put a caveat in the sidebar that if the relationship involves a 5+ year gap, then that's more than likely the issue and they don't need advice

Two ex should put in there that if one side of a disagreement is male than he's automatically the cause and you don't need to post

also true

"it's always the man's fault, sweetie"

the fuck happened to age/2+7

People on this website can't get laid unless the girl was in kindergarten when they were in high school

I was banging chicks in their 20’s for 20 years until I got old and fat and gave up

I was on Facebook and saw a ton of weddings and engagements that happened this weekend and they are the worst. The worst rings, the most plain, ugly weddings, the worst make up, the worst people

You sound like a horrible person /u/InattentiveOpinion. Hopefully your boyfriend sees this and realizes that he needs to run

I told my boyfriend about it and his response was basically who cares about other people’s weddings and that it doesn’t matter.

He's absolutely right.

we have only been together for 6 months but 6 months when you’re 26 is a lifetime.

No it's not, it's 6 months.

I'll say it again, I hope your boyfriend sees what a loon you are and drops you like a bad habit.

6 months when you're 26 is a lifetime only if you're in solitary confinement. 6 months and she wants marriage and kids, good fucking hell man that's some all in at once shit. I would love to gamble against her. I would have everything she owns after the first hand.

Yeah that whole 6 months thing is hilarious. 6 months is a lifetime when you're 10 and waiting on Christmas to come around, but in your 20's that's nothing.

I just got out of a 5 year relationship and I had years that went by like they were nothing. 6 months is only a long time if you're not happy, and if you're not happy the 12 months until you divorce is going to feel like two lifetimes.

/u/InattentiveOpinion

maybe if you didn't spend the 26 years before you met your boyfriend sucking random cock guys would want to marry you.

nice assumption and nice assumption that all desirable guys give a shit

it sounds like she was a female incel anyway

nice assumption that all desirable guys give a shit

>implying this isn't the truth

also at what age does female virginity become a negative?

implying this isn't the truth

Depend on the person, some care more than others. I wouldn't date a guy with a big partner count, but I know plenty of ppl who would.

also at what age does female virginity become a negative?

That's a good question. Late 20s?

I wouldn't date a guy with a big partner count

what do you consider high? as far as I've seen girls usually consider upwards of 50 high, whereas most guys will see 15-20 as "problematic" and REEEEE the fuck out. I personally wouldn't date anyone with more than 10 partners.

To be young and have options. Wait until you're 45 and then you're just happy that there's another semi attractive person who's not disease-ridden that you can dip your bean in

Oh there's no need. I plan on killing myself before 30.

No time like the present.

Good to finally meet someone with their life goals figured out.

I plan on killing myself before 30.

Could you edit this out please? I don't come here for good news.

I personally wouldn't date anyone with more than 10 partners.

don't worry buddy, I don't think you're a hot commodity anyway

there's no need to be rude, I don't hate your mother I just wouldn't marry her.

Depend on the person, some care more than others. I wouldn't date a guy with a big partner count

Pls no slutshame.

Shitposting aside, why?

I'd rather have a dick sucking pro than a virgin, assuming all else is equal.

Assuming she will suck it after she gets her hooks in you

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I’m irrationally angry right now. I was on Facebook and saw a ton of weddings and engagements that happened this weekend and they are the worst. The worst rings, the most plain, ugly weddings, the worst make up, the worst people, just everything is making me mad. I told my boyfriend about it and his response was basically who cares about other people’s weddings and that it doesn’t matter. It made me think about when he is going to marry me, we have only been together for 6 months but 6 months when you’re 26 is a lifetime. He keeps telling me to be patient but I would like to have a husband and a baby before I turn 30 and I’m almost 27. I’m just so uncontrollably angry that I’m not married or pregnant and there are people younger than me, less successful than me who are married and pregnant or have kids. I feel like he knows he would marry me so he should at least ask and not make me wait for forever. I’m ready to have my moment! I just feel like I need to do something, like idk tell him what he needs to do. I know he wants a family with me, we talk about baby names and he knows I’m not on birth control, and I will never ever take it again. I mean I just don’t know how to not be mad at this or at him when I have to look at the most undeserving people in life getting married and pregnant and I actually do deserve it and I could actually provide for a kid. So frustrating. I’m frustrated with him for not wanting it now, given he has a lot going on, he lost his job recently but still I make more than him and I will likely make more than him for forever because I have a masters and he has a HS diploma. He already has a kid too so even more reason he should be ready for more, he shouldn’t want a huge gap in kids. I want to put the pressure on but I don’t want to upset him either.
**TL;DR I get super jealous when I see anyone I know get married (even though statistically speaking it will likely end in divorce) and now I am pressuring my boyfriend for marriage or a baby or both within the next 3 years.

Women shouldn't be allowed on social media. u/InattentiveOpinion delete your Facebook account or prepare for inevitable cat ladyhood

/u/InattentiveOpinion, let me give it to you straight: you're a nutcase and having a kid won't solve your other problems, it will just add +1 to your list of poor life decisions

tbh, she's just being realistic about the time frame of her biology. She wants kids. Female fertility takes a nosedive after 30.

she has four years until she's 30, and with contemporary medicine, waiting until you're like 33 or something isn't a big deal. fertility in no way justifies her acting like a crazy asshole and rushing to get married to somebody she barely even knows.

The society's attitude to ephebophiles is a result of necromatriarchy

The biological truth is that every time a female ovulates, she's that step closer to being reproductively dead. Unlike men, females have a finite supply of ovulae, and they are literally dying a bit every time they ovulate.

But of course the age of consent laws were lobbied for by reproductively dead women (hence, necromatriarchy), and their sole point is to brainwash men into necrophilia, and to stigmatize and outlaw the natural male sexuality that is attracted to living females.

Mark my words, it wouldn't be long until the gradual rising of the age of consent ends up around 40-50 years so those reproductively dead females like Shillary and those who vote for her have their chance at a necrophiliac dicking from the brainwashed betas.

One of the best games on r/drama is figuring out if it's pasta serious post, troll post, or some kinda combo

He's right, and that is what matters.

If this isn't pasta by god it needs to be

>implying butt toast is capable of generating his own content.

This is pretty much what I mean.

It's pasta. I have it saved somewhere

You don't keep your pasta in an indexed SQL table which you can quickly search?

NOOB

Idk wtf that is bc I'm 67 and just use the save function below posts

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Female fertility takes a nosedive after 30.

Lmao no it doesn't.

Tell that to the 40 year old I know who keeps getting pregnant “by accident”.

Exactly and the quality of my eggs gets worse and I don’t want a kid with Downs ideally, I mean if it happened I would love it still but I don’t want to set myself up for that

Oh sweetie, your children are already predispositioned towards autism, its genetic, you know?

I don't want a kid with Down's

Don't breed, you can't have one if you don't get knocked up with one. Actually, don't breed anyways because you're nuttier than squirrel shit and no child and it's father should have to put up with an insane mother.

WEW LAD I really hope this isn't real cuz wow, just everything about that bitch is a total mess, holy shit

I'm your biggest fan snally

Back off slut 😤

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y u no respond to PM?

Explanation in a few days I promise.

you're adorable 😍😍😍

Take me seriously OKAY?? I said I'll fight you irl! Don't underestimate me ( ._.)

BACK OFF, EDWARD IS MINE! 😡

Are you guys gonna get married and have babies?

I hate you so fuckin much y can't I b marred and pregnant too I desrb b happy rndhdhmdwo their godm

r/therewasanattempt

RIP

I wasn't invited to the wedding between that Jewish girl and that Nazi that used to come here so I demand an invitation. I bought a new fascinator for nothing.

Eww, children are gross and a waste of perfectly good shekels.

Oh my 💁💅 I already have suitors fighting over me! 👀💃🏼

P.S. y u no respond to PM?

See I wanted to tell you i'd be away for a while and apparently now it's gonna be on and off like this for a few months. If I just said it to you, you wouldn't believe me :p

Between this and the shitty discord app that tanks my battery plus 3 chat groups on messenger and telegram, shit gets weird for me and my phone lol. So sorry! :( maybe somewhere in the near future? Plus 2 other guys also PM'd me so sorry to those dudes too.

Also WTF!!! Holy shit the cringey af post and comments here https://www.reddit.com/r/Drama/comments/796hwk/it_appears_as_though_ed_butteredpuppets_has_been/

and the cringey comments here https://www.reddit.com/r/Drama/comments/79bv43/with_the_object_of_his_obsession_gone_one_rdrama/

Like it was fun for a while but now it's all r/sadcringe material tbh. r/drama is already shitty enough. I'm gonna mute him just so he can stop sperging. Lol. It's embarrassing. ¯\_(ツ) _/¯

Not a word of that is believable you giant sack of mental illness. Least of all the part where you're totally not butthurt about multiple threads blowing you the fuck out. Get dead ASAP TBQH.

This

Shit was boring af this past week.

Between the hollowed, jfk files, indictment, spez's ama and much more? Gtfo man :p

Nah fo real diggity dog.

Jfk: No aliens

Indictment: dumb yank bullshit

Hollowed:wtf is that? Bitch only thing hollw is my bong b4 i light shit up.

Spez Ama: Saving Grace. Bless up! Bless up!

She must be really fucking hot for him to tolerate that

Somebody wife that hot mess, stat.

You know shit's bad when snally says you're a total mess.

Hormones are a hell of a drug.

This feels like one of those "I'll post some insane shit as a women to get them to agree with me and hate the male counterpart" baits.

but 6 months when you’re 26 is a lifetime.

fucking hell i'm 26 and i routinely find shit from around 2014 that i swear happened earlier this year.

Reddit time doesn't count.

Seems like an ovary-action on her part hahaha.

I feel like marriage is just always having someone to do stuff with and have sex a bunch every day, and then you have kids and they are adorable and beautiful and funny and smart and you just love on them all the time.

Being unmarried is boring, I go to work, I go home, I text my boyfriend I spend time with him and I sleep that’s pretty much life

Guys I think this might be one of those "trolls"

U/InattentiveOpinion, being married is as boring as not being married, you inbred moron. Literally nothing changes.

You may have meant u/InattentiveOpinion, instead of U/InattentiveOpinion,.


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I feel like that’s not true

The only reason marriage matters is for religious and legal reasons (for example, filing taxes), but how do you think the relationship dynamic is going to change?

how do you think the relationship dynamic is going to change?

All the sex, of course! Unemployment and being forced into marriage really turns men on, right?

It's harder for a husband to leave her than a boyfriend

I would hate to see him work fast food or something.. honestly I would probably not be able to be with him anymore if he did.

You can't leave your husband as easily as a boyfriend. Don't get married to a loser who's about to go working in fast food.

He doesn’t work fast food, I said if he did I would have to leave him

I feel like that’s not true

Sadly you'll never get to test that theory.

I will, he’s going to marry me

Can I be a bridesmaid?

I don’t want bridesmaids, I don’t want anyone stealing my shine. My friends can come and watch but no bridesmaids

I don’t want anyone stealing my shine

Probably for the best you don't invite me then. I look radiant.

lol I thought there was a chance that this was real until now.

Every bride knows they are complete losers if they have no friends to be bridesmaids.

Every bride knows they are complete losers if they have no friends to be bridesmaids.  

Thinking weddings are even remotely important

great input, keep it up

Enjoy your three months of marriage

"Forget your dreams and everything you achieved through hard work and stay with your girl." - /r/relationships, probably

/u/InattentiveOpinion

I at least appreciate that you realize you're being irrational.

we have only been together for 6 months but 6 months when you’re 26 is a lifetime

It's actually the opposite, the older you get, the less each day makes up in the context of your entire life.

I would like to have a husband and a baby before I turn 30 and I’m almost 27.

Babies are overrated, you seem to be going a bit "baby crazy". I do remember reading in my biology textbook that the chance of your child having Down's syndrome rises a lot after you hit 30, so I guess you're right on that though.

I have to look at the most undeserving people in life getting married and pregnant and I actually do deserve it and I could actually provide for a kid.

You sound like an incel.

He already has a kid too so even more reason he should be ready for more, he shouldn’t want a huge gap in kids.

No, not even more reason. You recognize that he's not exactly in the best situation right now:

I’m frustrated with him for not wanting it now, given he has a lot going on, he lost his job recently but still I make more than him and I will likely make more than him for forever because I have a masters and he has a HS diploma.

After you have a kid, you're going to take maternity leave, right? It seems like you really want kids, so I assume you're going to want to take care of them, which means you won't be working. You should be really financially stable before having a kid.

I just don’t want to be old and unmarried that would be so embarrassing watching everyone else live this awesome married life with kids and I’m just twiddling my thumbs

You care too much about everyone else, social awareness is healthy but you seem obsessed. Kids suck, anyway.

I feel like marriage is just always having someone to do stuff with and have sex a bunch every day, and then you have kids and they are adorable and beautiful and funny and smart and you just love on them all the time.

Being unmarried is boring, I go to work, I go home, I text my boyfriend I spend time with him and I sleep that’s pretty much life

The only actual difference between unmarried and married here is that you have kids. Your phrasing "they are adorable and beautiful and funny and smart and you just love on them all the time" makes me think that you should get a dog or cat or something, not a kid. What if your kid turns out disabled, autistic, has severe birth defects, or turns out to be an /r/drama poster? You're going to be devastated because you're basically pinning all your hopes on this.

Idk, I’m stressed all the time like people think I’m a loser for not being married

Fuck those people, honestly, stop looking at Facebook all the time, it's shit. Do they actually tell you that they think you're a loser? Are they joking? If yes, it's a joke, if not, ignore them.

No I know that I want to show off but I also want to be married and just always have someone

Um, no. That's not what marriage is, what if he divorces you? Marriage doesn't mean that he's going to stay with you forever, it's just a piece of paper and a wedding (which is going to cost you a shit-ton of money, seeing that you want to make it extravagant).

Bottom line: get a pet, forget about kids, don't worry about "not having someone" because even if you break up with him, you have the rest of your life to find someone else.

Marriage is generally a bad deal for men. Source: been divorced twice once with a child.

I work two jobs, one is a community based mental health job the other is as a private practice therapist.

Holy shit this girl is supposed to be helping other people with mental issues.

Maybe she helps them by showing then what bad crazy behavior looks like and they're all "oh shit is this what I sound like? I gotta chill rd down."

This bitch sounds like a desperate female incel. Of course, she could just be bat shit crazy.