As someone who has gone to a couple of therapists over a long period of time, this shit infuriates me. Fuck this person, you are making fun of all your (male?) clients, all the trust they put on you, all the possibly hardcore, life changing, defining stuff they trust you with, and your response when you turn your back is an ironic joke about men?
Get the fuck out of this field please, I can’t even imagine how someone like you would ever give good advice.
I would never say that, I think men need to stfu already, I read enough of their feeling spam + baseless demand for empathy on the only social interaction I get (reddit). My little bro does this too, gets full blown enrages that I don't want to play therapist to him, doesn't get why I don't want to discuss feelings shit.
My point is that maybe don’t just rage that all men are whining and expect that your brother will be as stoic as your sister is. I agree, I know bugger all about your family but justifying your bitching at all men because “my sister never pulls that shit” is laughable.
Because my sister is even more closed off than me. I'll explain with some anecdotes. At my dad's memorial my sister comes up to me and is laughing and goes, "you have to see this!" And she shows me the ad my dad put out for the dating service he met my mom on. I started crying (he had just died) and she looks disgusted and goes, "what is wrong with you?" and leaves.
For an anecdote about my relationship with my brother. Once when we were teenagers we were home alone and got in a fight over Doritos that somehow escalated (I don't remember any details of the escalation). At the clomax of the fight my brother loaded a singer slug into a shotgun then shot it out the front door so I'd "see that it was loaded" and then made me kneel down and promise a bunch of stuff and apologize for whatever it is that happened in the Doritos incedent. We don't really talk now because we fought again last time we lived together. So yeah it's mostly just unfortunate, not to be a buzzkill.
Can you please not project your particular situation to make any conclusions about how normal men and women interact ever again, please and thank you in advance.
Men need to LISTEN to women about their problems. It's misogyny to write it off as "bitching about your coworker for three hours and still doing nothing about it". Offering solutions is patriarchy, you just need to listen!
But fuck you for expressing even one of your problems out loud. It's not my job to comfort or support you, in fact you should pay me since I make 80% less working part time just to hear you bitch about your mom dying every third quarter.
what bothers me about rshort is that most guys on there aren't freakishly short or anything but they'll still blame their height for everything. Sure it makes things more difficult but if you're not freakishly short and also not ugly to boot you can still do well if you have a good physique. Similar as with the incel guys who'll focus only on aspects they can't change to avoid having to do anything about those which they can change.
I mean generally it makes things more difficult, that's my point, but yeah height isn't everything either and you can still be attractive despite it, so I don't think it's justified if some guys focus too much on it and blame all their relationship troubles on it. Which can be convenient of course because it's one of the things you can't change about yourself.
Fair enough, I suppose. More younger women in my experience are fine with shorter guys. Most of the girls in my MMA gym are my height or bigger (best friend is 6'2, what a goddess) and their partners are all usually around my size. I'm sure a lot of people are demeaning about height but if anyone shorter is reading this: you're awesome, cute/handsome/sexy/pretty/beautiful/transcendent, you're going places, and you'll meet someone who doesn't care about your height. Keep on rocking :)
Not a big fan of this allegory but it's still true. Women generally give awful advice to guys even if they're sincere, maybe it's better with lesbians but idk really.
I'll never trust a woman who doesn't acknowledge that sometimes she can be over emotional and irrational. I don't mind it, it's part of being in a relationship with a woman but a sure sign that a girl is proper, cluster b crazy is when they don't have awareness of it or refuse to acknowledge it.
According to what standard is she "over emotional and irrational"? She might feel completely normal and won't see the need to acknowledge anything and think you're the weird one.
Lol. "Men aren't allowed by society to have emotions. Let me BREAK OUT THE ANGRY JOYKILL SARCASM N CAPS LOCK TO EXPRESS MY EMOTIONS RIGHT THIS MOMENT." No one is stopping you from expressing emotions, pussy. You're just mad you don't like your emotions. It's literally your emotions making you mad.
I'm not at all, just not sure why he flies into a rage about me not being supportive enough when I don't turn into Dr. Phil. I would never have that expectation of him.
Feel them all you want. Feel them, process them, grow from them. Yes, yes, all the heck yeses. Just try not to subconsciously offload them on your partner and hope/expect that your partner adapts to alleviate the situation. That's it.
1000x yes on the expressing of emotions for a positive reason. Catharsis? For sure! It's the emotions that aren't being consciously expressed, but are heavy like insecurity, self-doubt, and fear, that can become really hard to support. A lot of dudes still suppress self-doubt and whatnot but that stress they feel inside can get transferred onto their partners via unhealthy behaviours.
For the dudes that are emotionally connected and don't do this: sincerest thanks.
The difference is between expressing your emotions and asking for assistance in some capacity. Men, do this. This is great. Your partner should be there for you as best as possible as you should be there for them.
It's more comparable to if women, almost daily, had raging PMS that they will not address but instead expect you to walk on eggshells, expect you to buy the tampons, and get upset if you don't do these things. That woman would be a garbage person, too.
The problem is if there are feelings like unaddressed fear or insecurity that ends up spilling into your relationship. Be mindful that your partner has their own emotional stuff going on. Men are taught that aggression and emotional offloading are normal whereas women are taught to be empathetic to the max. Neither group are awful for being socialized that way. But it's up to each person as a member of either group to better yourself when you can.
It's really more of a "help us help you." We are drained from trying to manage situations when guys internalize negative emotions and create patterns of conflict or aggression.
Yeah, the original post put it through a comedic lens. Like there has never been a joke about women PMS-ing or buying shoes. Don't let that get your nuts in a bunch too much.
It's more comparable to if women, almost daily, had raging PMS that they will not address but instead expect you to walk on eggshells, expect you to buy the tampons, and get upset if you don't do these things. That woman would be a garbage person, too.
So exactly the same shit that women do all the time, almost certainly including you?
Yo, express them! Heck yes! Just don't offload them. And be mindful that guys are conditioned to hide heavy feelings like fear and insecurity; those suppressed feelings can bubble into tension in your interpersonal relationships. But if men are socially taught that's normal, and that being emotionally open and constructive is abnormal, a lot of women end up trying to adapt themselves to 'fix' the situation.
You're still doing it. Your post started off great but then you went into "because men experience this, here's how it effects women"
Why the fuck would men care about your empathy when the FIRST THING YOU DO is turn it around to how it affects women?
It's like we skipped the part where men are actually having difficult emotional living conditions but all you want to talk about is how it affects women and how women have to adapt to it?
Why the fuck would men care about your empathy when the FIRST THING YOU DO is turn it around to how it affects women?
Because the issue is based on women already emotionally supporting them men that are having the difficult times. That's 100% the point. It's that, yes, y'all are having a difficult time and that, when unaddressed, can be unhealthily transferred to your partner. Try not to make your partner feel like they have to adapt to solve your problems. Your partner should be a support, not a solution, and healthy communication with reciprocal support is key.
If you honestly and strongly believe what you just wrote I ask you to actually look inside yourself and check your privilege before you continue down this path.
Think of it like "help us help you." We get drained when there's a constant expectation to help your partner when they create negative patterns out of unhealthy emotions. It's hard to guess what is wrong, if it even has to do with us, and it's even harder to try to help and be supportive. The complaint on TrollX has to do with situations when someone has a lot of negative internalized emotions (like when guys are told culturally not to talk about pain) turn into unhealthy lifestyle patterns to which your partner needs to adjust. It's tiring. Your partner will never have an unlimited emotional availability to help you and if it's a longterm pattern the battery has a harder time recharging.
More communication, more purposeful venting, more constructive conversations would be amazing. It solves women's problem in this circumstance AND it provides men more opportunities to be open about their needs and struggles.
Be open and communicate with love. If it doesn't apply to you, that's amazing. Thank you.
I hope your day has had a hint of positivity even if there's not a lot in this thread.
Your partner will never have an unlimited emotional availability to help you and if it's a longterm pattern the battery has a harder time recharging.
As a guy, I'd warn you that if you're ever with someone who tells you this, it's a red flag that they are narcissistic. Normal empathetic people don't have batteries, only robots pretending to be empathetic do.
More communication, more purposeful venting, more constructive conversations would be amazing. It solves women's problem in this circumstance AND it provides men more opportunities to be open about their needs and struggles.
The problem with this picture you're painting is again, if someone were to say something like this to you I'd warn that they were narcissistic. The key is that you are the person having difficult problems, and if your partner said something like this they'd be shifting it so that their problems of you talking are more difficult and need to be "solved" and yours are secondary and don't actually need to be solved, as long as you're not bothering them. Their time is precious after all.
More communication and purposeful venting and constructive conversations are all fine, but if you don't want to be treated as a therapist then you wouldn't want any of these things. A therapist isn't someone you just jabber on about your problems, it's someone you work through your problems with, hence everyone's butthurt at the meme. Taking offense at a partner sharing their problems with you as they would a therapist is just narcissistic, to use that word again.
If you're ever with someone during a time of emotional duress and open up to them and their response is "Adjusting to your unhealthy lifestyle patterns is tiring," end things immediately, because they don't care about you. Your partner opening up emotionally as they would a therapist is always a good thing. If thinking about another person's problems causes you stress or drains your battery such that you want them to shut up, rethink whether or not you are friends or care about that person.
Read this with a clear mind. I want you to understand you just made it soumd that the most important part of a man's internal problem is how it effects women around them. Back up, read that again. Now you're beginning to get why men don't bother to express their feelings.
It's not the most important part of a person's life, but you externalizing negative patterns onto your partner and burdening them with your internal issues should be a pretty important part of your life.
The problem is NOT with expression. It's with internalizing negative emotions (stress, doubt, self-loathing) and creating negative patterns to which you expect your partner to adjust IN LIEU of working on the root issue yourself.
Express, yes. Expect a partner to adapt to negative patterns of behaviour to soothe your issues, no.
Talking about emotions doesn't make them go away. Maybe negative patterns stemming from stress simply are stress manifesting and have nothing to do with bottling up
Then you still shouldn't expect your partner to adapt, in an unlimited capacity, to your stress patterns. But talking about them helps address them with your partner. Maybe there is a trigger that can be reduced/removed. But it's definitely healthier to be open about those stresses and figure out how to manage it/its symptoms in a constructive and respectful way for both parties involved.
Right. But if there are buried emotions within yourself (stress, anxiety, insecurity) that guys are told to bury and they are causing you to behave in ways that put strain on your partner then you have to do some of the emotional digging to work that all out. Support and adaptation are a part of any relationship, yes. It's when those subconscious elements become a negative pattern that the partner adapts around instead of the negative pattern getting addressed. That's really it. If it doesn't apply to you, that's wonderful and thank you for being an awesome human!
Guys told not to express emotions will bottle them up. Anyone that bottles up problems for an extended period ends up internalizing that stress. It might make you more short-tempered, quicker to judge, restless, what have you. The only problem is if people aren't recognizing "hey, I'm being really short-tempered lately. Why am I doing that?" and instead taking it out on their partner for not being understanding in an unlimited capacity. If you have a problem, but don't recognize it, you might be putting pressure on your loved ones to handle you more delicately. Not just your partner necessarily, your parents or friends too.
It's just tiring and frustrating to modify things to soothe someone else IF they are not doing anything to improve their part of the situation.
The if is the important part. If they're working on improving their situation, then yes, support the absolute living heck our of them. That's super constructive and great longterm.
This is word salad. Just drop talking about society telling men stuff (it's how you end up making this a male problem) and just reason in terms of humans pshychology.
Yeah, all humans react negatively if they're conditioned to bottle up stress and fear and what have you. It's really unfortunate that we teach boys that's normal at the expense of their personal wellbeing.
When a friend talks to me about something, it's not offloading. If you do it every day and don't try to improve your part of the situation, it's offloading. Basically, don't expect unlimited emotional support from your partner and try to be mindful if there are buried emotions that are causing strain on your relationship. Open up about those and work on constructive things.
If you do it every day and don't try to improve your part of the situation, it's offloading.
That's funny, because when women bitch and moan every day without doing anything to fix their shit feminists tell me it's "venting" and a vital part of psychological health and who the fuck am I to get in the way with my toxic male ideas like actually telling you to fix your shit.
But when I do it I guess it's "offloading" because I'm a man and fuck men.
Dude. I'm saying TO VENT. Just do it with a purpose or at least take advice if you're going to use someone's time to listen to your problems.
I don't like it when ladies complain without a purpose, either, so I feel like you're trying to create a double standard that doesn't exist.
Finally, most of the "offloading" issues are using someone's time + not doing anything about it after, repeatedly.
If it doesn't apply to you, then honestly, thank you for being decent even if this comment thread isn't the nicest and have a cheery afternoon (I hope it's afternoon where you are).
I too have seriousposted on /r/drama. When you wake up tomorrow you might not be proud of yourself and I just want to tell you that the feeling fades after a while, people forget and move on.
Because they tell you about it after they blow up on your or have a meltdown and you go "ah, I guess the last few weeks/months make more sense now." It's not exactly an isolated experience for ANYONE who is burying hard emotions to burst at some point.
So, if we believe that society tells guys to bury their emotions (toxic masculinity) + stress reactions (internalized problems erupting), is it not believable that there has been a pattern in a lot of relationships that rely on women being empathetic while this is happening. And generally, you should be. Another problem is if the support isn't reciprocal. But needing emotional support at the expense of your partner's wellbeing can't be for an unlimited duration or else the emotional battery in your partner gets drained and doesn't have time to refill.
Feminism taught me males only want Women for their bodies. Your experiences are invalid.
They are the folks on /r/Drama that are getting upset about this post and saying things like they:
understand why a man might tie a concrete block to one of these hos and push them off a bridge
An incel recently killed 10 people in a van attack in Toronto. They aren't exactly a joke subculture when they advocate for/commit violent crimes as a community.
Your toxic feministicy is showing. Unable to bottle up your misandry in toxic subs like TrollX, and instead coming here to taunt the very people you hate on merit for how they were born, for the crime of having feelings you find inopportune
I hope someone, actually, gives you some love today. You seem very hateful so I want there to be some positivity or goodness that crosses your path this afternoon. Have a good one.
Women don't know how to handle men expressing anything outside of the accepted range of emotions. You guys live in a hyper privileged existence where men automatically censor their self expression to make you as comfortable as possible.
And then you drooling retards demand that men express their feelings, and now that guys do, you're all comfortable and now its just such a huge issue omgggggggggg
They shouldn't, but they're learning to act like this. I work with a bunch of normies who are eagerly internalizing this kind of thinking and trying to put it into practice, and as a result we all need to take part in meetings about Our Feelings every time there's a minor communication issue that could be easily solved if everyone put their grown-up pants on and dealt with it. I honestly wouldn't care if it was just internet bullshit but this is becoming the new social norm in whole swaths of society, especially anything connected to politics.
What is it about you dick-repellents that makes you all speak like this? Is it there some adverse side-effect from all the rainbow coloured shit you pour in your hair that makes you talk like a gibbering faggot? Or are you all just so bereft of any individuality that you just parrot however some faux-sassy hambeast on tumblr writes?
My issues with women are entirely external. Namely, the fact they have neither dick nor bussy, but instead some disgusting self-lubricating axe wound and weird mounds of fat.
For the love of God, stop downvoting the lolcows. People have -15 on their retarded rants and they're being hidden, this isn't CA or MDE or whatever, give the lolcows upvotes so they're encouraged to say more hilarious retarded shit
The thread makes more sense when you consider that by "relationship" they mean "banging a guy for a few weeks or months that they met on a hookup app."
Did you happen to notice that in my clarification response I used completely gender neutral language and wasn't down voted to oblivion? This is how you pull the thread back to some sanity while a) being charitable, b) steelmanning the general sentiment, c) acknowledging that responsibility cuts both ways and d) solving the actual problem instead of picking teams and having five minutes for instigation.
Boring a) don't be charitable, that shits for pussies, b) agree with the general sentiment in a way that makes everyone hate you, c) responsibility is for the chumps you can pin the blame on and d) problems are fun, they give women something to complain about.
American Liberal feminism kinda sucks. Feminism is awesome though - keep telling yourself that it's a cancer - can't go against the bubble/circle jerk now can you? You sound like you're a victim of groupthink and just as brainwashed as the groups your criticize.
You can call yourself Feminist, we'll just call ourselves egalitarians (for autistic: basically it means "decent human being") or simply decent human beings.
Humanism is for both sexes- feminism is for women it's just language. I was really chill in my comment lol dunno where you got autistic screeching from. I don't agree with egalitarianism because men and women are different and face different problems.
Im a woman living in the Middle East lol I would be a tard if I weren't a feminist. Americans need to get over themselves and stop thinking the world revolves around them. You can't delete an entire global movement because one country over-did it.
Ya calling people autist isn’t an argument and won’t discourage people from speaking their minds. The tide is rolling back lololol y’all overused autist, feminazi, snowflake, cuck etc- they have no meaning or power anymore. Logic and nuance and moderation are coming back in vogue and I couldn’t be more relieved.
Good thing I don’t care - I’ve been on the sjw side then the anti sjw side then realized both sides are full of shit. I am arguing from a place of empirical evidence- that women as a global class have the shitty end if the deal due to their biology. That’s just the reality of things, it’s how the world works. I’m sorry if you think that’s a lie, it just means you live in a good country.
Wouldn't need to use it if autistic feminazis like you that want to be special (snowflakes) didn't exist, to be honest you can't blame anyone but yourself on that one.
You are an actual parrot lol.
Culturally my beef is with sexual violence, but if you read what I wrote- our biology is whats fucking us over. We are weaker than men and the designated baby makers. These two things alone fuck over so many women in the world.
And again, get over yourself american - you havent seen or experienced suffering. Try being a woman in india or the middle east or china during the one child policy times. The majority of women on earth live in oppressive countries - stop being so small minded please.
We are weaker than men and the designated baby makers
then
Try being a woman in india or the middle east or china during the one child policy times.
Care to explain why you complain about one child policy when it's opposite of "designated baby makers", and ignore the fact that you can choose to never have kids?
Condoms paired with abortion when you're that fucking retarded that you can't even keep a condom intact, is how you never have to worry about kids.
Or be a femcel, who gives a shit.
Also lol, "American", keep assuming autist, I live in a country, which Americans would call "third world country".
Try being a woman
How about do it yourself first before telling me what to do, if you are able to complain on internet unironically then your life isn't shit, otherwise people wouldn't have to deal with your shit since you couldn't go online, hypocrite.
What on earth are you on about? Im impressed with your ability to to just ignore thousands of years worth of history, social studies, politics and economics. Any how exactly can you be from the third world and still call feminism cancer? Do you not leave the house?
I feel like this may be over bearing but as a young woman I have noticed a pattern between me and my friends, of mean who expect me to be there for them emotionally, even if we have established a casual relationship.
I don’t think it’s fair to use the “I’m showing my emotional side” excuse to unburden all your emotional distress onto someone who isn’t asking for it.
My best example is the last two guys I were with both had suicidal episodes in front of me, without even hinting beforehand that these were issues that they were dealing with. I think it’s these types of instances that the women on the thread are discussing, because that is not fair to do to anyone regardless of gender.
This isn't a gender thing though. There's a woman I'm friends with a work with a shared hobby. I'm married and not trying to bang her, so she's determined I'm a "safe guy" for her to unload her problems onto. Some of them are real issues I care about, others are self inflicted, but we are good enough friends for me to call her on her bullshit. Even worse are the woman coworker clique issues that I have interest in getting in the middle of. xxx
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1 SnapshillBot 2018-05-06
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1 Ultrashitposter 2018-05-06
ree why link to srssucks
1 PossibleYoung 2018-05-06
ree
1 PossibleYoung 2018-05-06
the next day I link to srs, and people comment. "haha srs isnt a thing."
1 pitterpatterwater 2018-05-06
Imagine caring about SRS in the year 2018.
1 Atimo3 2018-05-06
While listening to Gangnam Style and acting like Mitt Romney is relevant.
1 pitterpatterwater 2018-05-06
And posting about ethics in games journalism.
1 KT-47 2018-05-06
Woman literally gets paid to hear men’s problems, still bitches about how weak they are.
/u/pizzashill is right about everything.
1 Ylteni 2018-05-06
why would a man even go to a therapist let alone a female one?
1 1slumber 2018-05-06
Cause sometimes being a mob boss just gets to be too much
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-05-06
Those damn ducks
1 mcslibbin 2018-05-06
That episode where he can't eat deli cold cuts cuz he saw his dad fuck his mom near some meat.
...I'm pretty sure that's the plot of that one.
1 loperetti 2018-05-06
Cause of Dr Melfis legs of course
1 youshareon 2018-05-06
/u/whyihatepink Can you explain why you're in this position if it's such a hardship?
1 NeoModerateOne 2018-05-06
They even play dragonage
1 SaintJason 2018-05-06
Holy shit that's messed up thank god she's of the market.
1 ason 2018-05-06
Lucky guy. He's probably getting hate-pegged as we speak
1 TinyJibble 2018-05-06
Of all sad words of tongue and pen...
1 the_popcorn_pisser 2018-05-06
As someone who has gone to a couple of therapists over a long period of time, this shit infuriates me. Fuck this person, you are making fun of all your (male?) clients, all the trust they put on you, all the possibly hardcore, life changing, defining stuff they trust you with, and your response when you turn your back is an ironic joke about men?
Get the fuck out of this field please, I can’t even imagine how someone like you would ever give good advice.
1 pizzashill 2018-05-06
Retards on /r/politics are calling people incels currently when they attack the democratic party.
Of course I was right.
1 HungerArtistatlunch 2018-05-06
I thought men needed to be more open about their feelings in order to fight toxic masculinity?
1 JustStayYourself 2018-05-06
Sorry, that makes too much sense.
1 xxxrivenmainxxx 2018-05-06
chad has to commit and stop pump&dumping*
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
I would never say that, I think men need to stfu already, I read enough of their feeling spam + baseless demand for empathy on the only social interaction I get (reddit). My little bro does this too, gets full blown enrages that I don't want to play therapist to him, doesn't get why I don't want to discuss feelings shit.
1 HungerArtistatlunch 2018-05-06
I bet if you let your brother fuck you he wouldn't waste your time by talking about feelings.
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
🎶🎶🎶
1 TheOtherGuy9603 2018-05-06
You've been waiting for this a long time haven't you
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
very, but I wasn't sure if to post this one or this one
1 loperetti 2018-05-06
Is that why porn sites are constantly recommending me incest porn?
1 Cdace 2018-05-06
Get him a dinosaur 🦖 action figure and he’ll be fine
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
I feel bad but it's too awkward for me.
1 Cdace 2018-05-06
Family’s important you gotta support each other. That bond is as strong as a Spinosaurus
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
Give it a couple of years and your brother will realize you're a moron just like your sister did
1 Manannin 2018-05-06
Not everyone deals with stuff the same way, if it’s a big issue to you you could speak to your parents about it.
1 zergling_Lester 2018-05-06
So why does he talk to you and not your sister? Explain your family to me, it's fascinating!
1 Manannin 2018-05-06
My point is that maybe don’t just rage that all men are whining and expect that your brother will be as stoic as your sister is. I agree, I know bugger all about your family but justifying your bitching at all men because “my sister never pulls that shit” is laughable.
1 zergling_Lester 2018-05-06
Um, I replied to the wrong comment and then you replied to me all wrong, lol.
1 Manannin 2018-05-06
And my reply was such raw arse righteous anger, too!
1 disgruntled_chode 2018-05-06
1 Manannin 2018-05-06
Don’t you tell me what to do... Funky Crime!
1 zergling_Lester 2018-05-06
So why does he talk to you and not your sister? Explain your family to me, it's fascinating!
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
Because my sister is even more closed off than me. I'll explain with some anecdotes. At my dad's memorial my sister comes up to me and is laughing and goes, "you have to see this!" And she shows me the ad my dad put out for the dating service he met my mom on. I started crying (he had just died) and she looks disgusted and goes, "what is wrong with you?" and leaves.
For an anecdote about my relationship with my brother. Once when we were teenagers we were home alone and got in a fight over Doritos that somehow escalated (I don't remember any details of the escalation). At the clomax of the fight my brother loaded a singer slug into a shotgun then shot it out the front door so I'd "see that it was loaded" and then made me kneel down and promise a bunch of stuff and apologize for whatever it is that happened in the Doritos incedent. We don't really talk now because we fought again last time we lived together. So yeah it's mostly just unfortunate, not to be a buzzkill.
1 menvaren 2018-05-06
I understand why you're here.
1 zergling_Lester 2018-05-06
Can you please not project your particular situation to make any conclusions about how normal men and women interact ever again, please and thank you in advance.
1 TinyJibble 2018-05-06
It sounds like your family is too well adjusted and functional for you to be on this sub tbh.
1 Intelligent_Delay 2018-05-06
So what you are saying is mental illness runs in your family?
1 Dismal_Neighborhood 2018-05-06
This is fascinating. Could you tell me a few more stories like this about your family?
1 Intelligent_Delay 2018-05-06
Cuz your sister is busy being plowed by a chad as her emotional support.
1 Fletch71011 2018-05-06
So you support toxic masculinity?
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
look at you being all tsundere to your ototo. Secret feelings for each other?
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
🤢🤢🤢
1 MooseHeckler 2018-05-06
Wincest.
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
https://m.imgur.com/gallery/V0l2ZSW
1 aqouta 2018-05-06
Don't 👏 downvote 👏 the 👏 lolcows
1 CucksLoveTrump 2018-05-06
I found your problem. Go outside. Join a kickball team. Jfc
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
No my man, that's emotional labor.
At least to trollx subscribers.
1 telandrias 2018-05-06
Men need to LISTEN to women about their problems. It's misogyny to write it off as "bitching about your coworker for three hours and still doing nothing about it". Offering solutions is patriarchy, you just need to listen!
But fuck you for expressing even one of your problems out loud. It's not my job to comfort or support you, in fact you should pay me since I make 80% less working part time just to hear you bitch about your mom dying every third quarter.
1 Sumido 2018-05-06
Damn, you fell for the trap. Doing what they want is not what they want, also not doing what they want is not what they want.
They just want to whine, complain and bully people. That's all. Give in an they will move the goalpost. So stick to your guns.
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
Seriously, asking women what they want in a guy and following that advice is like the worst thing you can do.
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
Well yeah, people get triggered af when they don't like the truth, see /r/short. Same basic concept for how feminists dislike "no fat chicks".
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
what bothers me about rshort is that most guys on there aren't freakishly short or anything but they'll still blame their height for everything. Sure it makes things more difficult but if you're not freakishly short and also not ugly to boot you can still do well if you have a good physique. Similar as with the incel guys who'll focus only on aspects they can't change to avoid having to do anything about those which they can change.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Wait, my partner is 5' and I'm 5'8. He's never had lady troubles. Shorties can still be just as attractive!
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
I mean generally it makes things more difficult, that's my point, but yeah height isn't everything either and you can still be attractive despite it, so I don't think it's justified if some guys focus too much on it and blame all their relationship troubles on it. Which can be convenient of course because it's one of the things you can't change about yourself.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Fair enough, I suppose. More younger women in my experience are fine with shorter guys. Most of the girls in my MMA gym are my height or bigger (best friend is 6'2, what a goddess) and their partners are all usually around my size. I'm sure a lot of people are demeaning about height but if anyone shorter is reading this: you're awesome, cute/handsome/sexy/pretty/beautiful/transcendent, you're going places, and you'll meet someone who doesn't care about your height. Keep on rocking :)
1 ThatDamnedImp 2018-05-06
Don't ask a deer how to hunt.
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-05-06
Not a big fan of this allegory but it's still true. Women generally give awful advice to guys even if they're sincere, maybe it's better with lesbians but idk really.
1 Awayfone 2018-05-06
No it is answering question honestly that is the worst idea.
1 wow___justwow 2018-05-06
Lol someone in that thread asked for help debunking a meme, which contained the contradiction you just described.
Can you imagine asking for help debunking a meme?
1 aqouta 2018-05-06
In 10 years memes will be the primary form of communication.
1 Awayfone 2018-05-06
They aren't now?
1 wow___justwow 2018-05-06
Salt the Earth
1 Ace4929 2018-05-06
Yea but not to meeeee
1 aqouta 2018-05-06
Men actually don't exist, they're proto traps that up until not we haven't had the technology to transition into bussy.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
I thought women were oversensitive and so we were supposed to be nicer to them?
1 Karmaisforsuckers 2018-05-06
They think all men should be able to open up and be vulneravle but that all men also should never actually need to do that because it's unnatractive.
1 gyrotur 2018-05-06
AI waifus when?
1 Nopepole 2018-05-06
Not soon enough.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Kizuna """AI""" is close enough, the problem is that it's for weebs.
1 Nopepole 2018-05-06
You can follow Toshiro to the promise land, or you can step a-fucking-side.
1 no_maps_no_plans 2018-05-06
Women are incapable of empathy.
Cute boys are though.
bussy > gussy
1 Sumido 2018-05-06
Faggots are worse than women. By far.
1 Atimo3 2018-05-06
This level of faggotry is of the charts!
1 420upboatBLAZEit 2018-05-06
You've never interacted with a woman confirmed.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Well, you definitely are worse than women, faggot.
If you don't like bussy you're gay.
1 runner_man_123 2018-05-06
To be fair the """""men""""" that they're probably interacting with are probably whiny little shits.
1 Wopitikitotengo 2018-05-06
I'll never trust a woman who doesn't acknowledge that sometimes she can be over emotional and irrational. I don't mind it, it's part of being in a relationship with a woman but a sure sign that a girl is proper, cluster b crazy is when they don't have awareness of it or refuse to acknowledge it.
1 Sumido 2018-05-06
According to what standard is she "over emotional and irrational"? She might feel completely normal and won't see the need to acknowledge anything and think you're the weird one.
1 KT-47 2018-05-06
t. doormat
1 Awayfone 2018-05-06
Sounds irrational
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
What are you smoking autist, they always are overemotional.
1 FedoraWearingNegus 2018-05-06
obviously these aren't the ones with basic empathy skills
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
What other are there?
1 Nopepole 2018-05-06
These hippos go on a ice cream holocaust just from being called fat.
1 ChaddingTater 2018-05-06
I'm not saying I condone it, but reading TrollX I understand why a man might tie a concrete block to one of these hos and push them off a dock
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
They say suicides are encouraged by alcoholism and drugs...having a trollxer in a close vicinity works better.
1 TheMortarGuy 2018-05-06
I have more critical thinking skills in my ass hairs than that entire thread has.
Jesus fuck, who even are these fucking idiots?
"men aren't allowed by society to feel emotions, and do you have ANY IDEA HOW HARD THAT IS ON WOMEN! WE WOMEN HAVE IT SO HAAAAAAARD"
Fucking idiots.
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
Lol. "Men aren't allowed by society to have emotions. Let me BREAK OUT THE ANGRY JOYKILL SARCASM N CAPS LOCK TO EXPRESS MY EMOTIONS RIGHT THIS MOMENT." No one is stopping you from expressing emotions, pussy. You're just mad you don't like your emotions. It's literally your emotions making you mad.
1 TheMortarGuy 2018-05-06
So now you're telling me how I feel? I'm not mad, I'm annoyed that you actually think your sane.
That's the rub, the part that gets me. Is that you think your making sense!
Please go in about how loving and supporting of a partner you are. I'd love to hear it.
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
Your the one not making sense here, Mortimor. But please go in about how loving and supporting of a partner you are. I'd love to hear it.
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
U get all ur social interaction from Reddit, u won't ever have a partner to love and support.
1 ChaddingTater 2018-05-06
Are you one of those unfuckable hags or one of their betaboi orbiters?
1 Sumido 2018-05-06
Says the person who is critical of her brother expressing emotions.
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
I'm not at all, just not sure why he flies into a rage about me not being supportive enough when I don't turn into Dr. Phil. I would never have that expectation of him.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
Tell him to keep himself safe.
1 1slumber 2018-05-06
you can't make fun of someone doing something and then do it yourself
1 PM_ME_UR_SUSPICIONS 2018-05-06
Yes I can.
1 ThatDamnedImp 2018-05-06
Feminism says that equality means women get to do everything they criticuze men fot.
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-05-06
Get out of here mayo hamplanet. No whites allowed
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Feel them all you want. Feel them, process them, grow from them. Yes, yes, all the heck yeses. Just try not to subconsciously offload them on your partner and hope/expect that your partner adapts to alleviate the situation. That's it.
1000x yes on the expressing of emotions for a positive reason. Catharsis? For sure! It's the emotions that aren't being consciously expressed, but are heavy like insecurity, self-doubt, and fear, that can become really hard to support. A lot of dudes still suppress self-doubt and whatnot but that stress they feel inside can get transferred onto their partners via unhealthy behaviours.
For the dudes that are emotionally connected and don't do this: sincerest thanks.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
So...next time when you are having a bad day, don't even try and say something too me Samantha...oh and fron now on, buy your tampons on your own.
Lol
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
The difference is between expressing your emotions and asking for assistance in some capacity. Men, do this. This is great. Your partner should be there for you as best as possible as you should be there for them.
It's more comparable to if women, almost daily, had raging PMS that they will not address but instead expect you to walk on eggshells, expect you to buy the tampons, and get upset if you don't do these things. That woman would be a garbage person, too.
The problem is if there are feelings like unaddressed fear or insecurity that ends up spilling into your relationship. Be mindful that your partner has their own emotional stuff going on. Men are taught that aggression and emotional offloading are normal whereas women are taught to be empathetic to the max. Neither group are awful for being socialized that way. But it's up to each person as a member of either group to better yourself when you can.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
Woman, you clearly don't understand anything about shitposting, or overreacting on r/drama.
I'm not gonna mansplain it for you, because that would be just rude. Instead I'm gonna ask a very smart woman to do it for me.
u/normie_girl i need you.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
S'all good. I'm not offended. I'd rather the topic get a little more visibility in hopes of more mindfulness in the world. Have a fab day, brother.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
you are too sane or good for this sub..
Run child, run while u can.
1 pigeondoubletake 2018-05-06
yes
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Here's a dancing manatee for your kindness!
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
Cute.
Here's your puppy pic
https://designerdoginfo.files.wordpress.com/2012/10/puppy-sleeping-with-teddy-bear.jpg
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Awww, thank you! That's an adorable puppy/
1 ThatDamnedImp 2018-05-06
I'd rather it gets more attention so that everyone can see that feminists are all narcissists and histrionicists
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
It's really more of a "help us help you." We are drained from trying to manage situations when guys internalize negative emotions and create patterns of conflict or aggression.
Yeah, the original post put it through a comedic lens. Like there has never been a joke about women PMS-ing or buying shoes. Don't let that get your nuts in a bunch too much.
1 normie_girl 2018-05-06
/u/voicelesshoodwinker is a woman-hating asshole who's probably drunk right now.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-05-06
Hey, I'm just tipsy.
Lol
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
This could easily be solved with Male Genocide, smdh.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
I'mma just going to vote 'no' on that one, dawg.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
WOW, someones has a little too much internalized Patriarchy. Oh, wait you right, a little slave labor reparations never hurt, then male genocide.
1 1slumber 2018-05-06
These things aren't taught, they're intrinsic male traits
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
Both genders do that tho. Women will say men get angry for no reason, men will say the same thing of women.
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
So exactly the same shit that women do all the time, almost certainly including you?
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
You apparently know a lot of garbage women. That sucks.
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
#NotAllWomen lmao
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Exactly.
1 Gil-Gandel 2018-05-06
NAWALT
1 TheMortarGuy 2018-05-06
Stay away from men as a whole. We don't want you.
You are advertising yourself as a shit partner. If you don't want to help support me, why the fuck would I want to help support you?
Trying to put conditions on support or feelings makes me have the feelings that I want to stay the fuck away from a selfish person like you.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Yo, express them! Heck yes! Just don't offload them. And be mindful that guys are conditioned to hide heavy feelings like fear and insecurity; those suppressed feelings can bubble into tension in your interpersonal relationships. But if men are socially taught that's normal, and that being emotionally open and constructive is abnormal, a lot of women end up trying to adapt themselves to 'fix' the situation.
If it's reciprocal support: ALL OF THE YES.
1 TheMortarGuy 2018-05-06
You're still doing it. Your post started off great but then you went into "because men experience this, here's how it effects women"
Why the fuck would men care about your empathy when the FIRST THING YOU DO is turn it around to how it affects women?
It's like we skipped the part where men are actually having difficult emotional living conditions but all you want to talk about is how it affects women and how women have to adapt to it?
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Because the issue is based on women already emotionally supporting them men that are having the difficult times. That's 100% the point. It's that, yes, y'all are having a difficult time and that, when unaddressed, can be unhealthily transferred to your partner. Try not to make your partner feel like they have to adapt to solve your problems. Your partner should be a support, not a solution, and healthy communication with reciprocal support is key.
1 Homer00025 2018-05-06
If you honestly and strongly believe what you just wrote I ask you to actually look inside yourself and check your privilege before you continue down this path.
1 TheMortarGuy 2018-05-06
You're still missing the point. You are making it about you.
You are making our problem... About you.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Think of it like "help us help you." We get drained when there's a constant expectation to help your partner when they create negative patterns out of unhealthy emotions. It's hard to guess what is wrong, if it even has to do with us, and it's even harder to try to help and be supportive. The complaint on TrollX has to do with situations when someone has a lot of negative internalized emotions (like when guys are told culturally not to talk about pain) turn into unhealthy lifestyle patterns to which your partner needs to adjust. It's tiring. Your partner will never have an unlimited emotional availability to help you and if it's a longterm pattern the battery has a harder time recharging.
More communication, more purposeful venting, more constructive conversations would be amazing. It solves women's problem in this circumstance AND it provides men more opportunities to be open about their needs and struggles.
Be open and communicate with love. If it doesn't apply to you, that's amazing. Thank you.
I hope your day has had a hint of positivity even if there's not a lot in this thread.
1 peachwithinreach 2018-05-06
As a guy, I'd warn you that if you're ever with someone who tells you this, it's a red flag that they are narcissistic. Normal empathetic people don't have batteries, only robots pretending to be empathetic do.
The problem with this picture you're painting is again, if someone were to say something like this to you I'd warn that they were narcissistic. The key is that you are the person having difficult problems, and if your partner said something like this they'd be shifting it so that their problems of you talking are more difficult and need to be "solved" and yours are secondary and don't actually need to be solved, as long as you're not bothering them. Their time is precious after all.
More communication and purposeful venting and constructive conversations are all fine, but if you don't want to be treated as a therapist then you wouldn't want any of these things. A therapist isn't someone you just jabber on about your problems, it's someone you work through your problems with, hence everyone's butthurt at the meme. Taking offense at a partner sharing their problems with you as they would a therapist is just narcissistic, to use that word again.
If you're ever with someone during a time of emotional duress and open up to them and their response is "Adjusting to your unhealthy lifestyle patterns is tiring," end things immediately, because they don't care about you. Your partner opening up emotionally as they would a therapist is always a good thing. If thinking about another person's problems causes you stress or drains your battery such that you want them to shut up, rethink whether or not you are friends or care about that person.
1 HorrorElection 2018-05-06
1 420upboatBLAZEit 2018-05-06
Read this with a clear mind. I want you to understand you just made it soumd that the most important part of a man's internal problem is how it effects women around them. Back up, read that again. Now you're beginning to get why men don't bother to express their feelings.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
It's not the most important part of a person's life, but you externalizing negative patterns onto your partner and burdening them with your internal issues should be a pretty important part of your life.
The problem is NOT with expression. It's with internalizing negative emotions (stress, doubt, self-loathing) and creating negative patterns to which you expect your partner to adjust IN LIEU of working on the root issue yourself.
Express, yes. Expect a partner to adapt to negative patterns of behaviour to soothe your issues, no.
1 HorrorElection 2018-05-06
What does internalizing an emotion even fuckin' mean? Emotions are already internalized ffs. You are complaining that emotions are arising in general
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Internalizing: "bottling up" to the point of personal detriment.
1 HorrorElection 2018-05-06
Talking about emotions doesn't make them go away. Maybe negative patterns stemming from stress simply are stress manifesting and have nothing to do with bottling up
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Then you still shouldn't expect your partner to adapt, in an unlimited capacity, to your stress patterns. But talking about them helps address them with your partner. Maybe there is a trigger that can be reduced/removed. But it's definitely healthier to be open about those stresses and figure out how to manage it/its symptoms in a constructive and respectful way for both parties involved.
1 MooseHeckler 2018-05-06
You have to adapt yourself to your partner that is how relationships work.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Right. But if there are buried emotions within yourself (stress, anxiety, insecurity) that guys are told to bury and they are causing you to behave in ways that put strain on your partner then you have to do some of the emotional digging to work that all out. Support and adaptation are a part of any relationship, yes. It's when those subconscious elements become a negative pattern that the partner adapts around instead of the negative pattern getting addressed. That's really it. If it doesn't apply to you, that's wonderful and thank you for being an awesome human!
1 MooseHeckler 2018-05-06
I do not understand what you are saying and honestly trollx is a toxic place.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Guys told not to express emotions will bottle them up. Anyone that bottles up problems for an extended period ends up internalizing that stress. It might make you more short-tempered, quicker to judge, restless, what have you. The only problem is if people aren't recognizing "hey, I'm being really short-tempered lately. Why am I doing that?" and instead taking it out on their partner for not being understanding in an unlimited capacity. If you have a problem, but don't recognize it, you might be putting pressure on your loved ones to handle you more delicately. Not just your partner necessarily, your parents or friends too.
It's just tiring and frustrating to modify things to soothe someone else IF they are not doing anything to improve their part of the situation.
The if is the important part. If they're working on improving their situation, then yes, support the absolute living heck our of them. That's super constructive and great longterm.
1 HorrorElection 2018-05-06
This is word salad. Just drop talking about society telling men stuff (it's how you end up making this a male problem) and just reason in terms of humans pshychology.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Yeah, all humans react negatively if they're conditioned to bottle up stress and fear and what have you. It's really unfortunate that we teach boys that's normal at the expense of their personal wellbeing.
1 Fletch71011 2018-05-06
How do you not see how incredibly selfish this viewpoint is? You're making everything about yourself. That's not how relationships work.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
See other comments about "help us help you"
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
"Express your emotions, as long as it's not any of the icky, bad emotions that I don't want to have to deal with"
Fuck you.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
When a friend talks to me about something, it's not offloading. If you do it every day and don't try to improve your part of the situation, it's offloading. Basically, don't expect unlimited emotional support from your partner and try to be mindful if there are buried emotions that are causing strain on your relationship. Open up about those and work on constructive things.
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
That's funny, because when women bitch and moan every day without doing anything to fix their shit feminists tell me it's "venting" and a vital part of psychological health and who the fuck am I to get in the way with my toxic male ideas like actually telling you to fix your shit.
But when I do it I guess it's "offloading" because I'm a man and fuck men.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Dude. I'm saying TO VENT. Just do it with a purpose or at least take advice if you're going to use someone's time to listen to your problems.
I don't like it when ladies complain without a purpose, either, so I feel like you're trying to create a double standard that doesn't exist.
Finally, most of the "offloading" issues are using someone's time + not doing anything about it after, repeatedly.
If it doesn't apply to you, then honestly, thank you for being decent even if this comment thread isn't the nicest and have a cheery afternoon (I hope it's afternoon where you are).
1 normie_girl 2018-05-06
I too have seriousposted on /r/drama. When you wake up tomorrow you might not be proud of yourself and I just want to tell you that the feeling fades after a while, people forget and move on.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
How do you know these men are feeling something they're not expressing, but not something they're expressing? 🤔🤔🤔
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Because they tell you about it after they blow up on your or have a meltdown and you go "ah, I guess the last few weeks/months make more sense now." It's not exactly an isolated experience for ANYONE who is burying hard emotions to burst at some point.
So, if we believe that society tells guys to bury their emotions (toxic masculinity) + stress reactions (internalized problems erupting), is it not believable that there has been a pattern in a lot of relationships that rely on women being empathetic while this is happening. And generally, you should be. Another problem is if the support isn't reciprocal. But needing emotional support at the expense of your partner's wellbeing can't be for an unlimited duration or else the emotional battery in your partner gets drained and doesn't have time to refill.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
Feminism taught me males only want Women for their bodies. Your experiences are invalid.
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Your eloquence is stunning.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
Your toxic feministicy is showing. Unable to bottle up your misandry in toxic subs like TrollX, and instead coming here to taunt the very people you hate on merit for how they were born, for the crime of having feelings you find inopportune
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
I hope you get a hug today.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
I hope men treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
*checks post history
Welp, looks like they are
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
I hope someone, actually, gives you some love today. You seem very hateful so I want there to be some positivity or goodness that crosses your path this afternoon. Have a good one.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
I hope the cereal you eat tomorrow morning is stale. 😈😈😈
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
I hope you get a basket of fresh fruit, some wonderful pancakes, and a glass of cool milk tomorrow morning. Cheers!
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-05-06
No U
1 Hammer_of_truthiness 2018-05-06
Women don't know how to handle men expressing anything outside of the accepted range of emotions. You guys live in a hyper privileged existence where men automatically censor their self expression to make you as comfortable as possible.
And then you drooling retards demand that men express their feelings, and now that guys do, you're all comfortable and now its just such a huge issue omgggggggggg
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
FTFY. No one normal acts like this
1 disgruntled_chode 2018-05-06
They shouldn't, but they're learning to act like this. I work with a bunch of normies who are eagerly internalizing this kind of thinking and trying to put it into practice, and as a result we all need to take part in meetings about Our Feelings every time there's a minor communication issue that could be easily solved if everyone put their grown-up pants on and dealt with it. I honestly wouldn't care if it was just internet bullshit but this is becoming the new social norm in whole swaths of society, especially anything connected to politics.
1 ExtraChromosomeSpork 2018-05-06
What is it about you dick-repellents that makes you all speak like this? Is it there some adverse side-effect from all the rainbow coloured shit you pour in your hair that makes you talk like a gibbering faggot? Or are you all just so bereft of any individuality that you just parrot however some faux-sassy hambeast on tumblr writes?
1 v_is_one_person 2018-05-06
1 KinnieBee 2018-05-06
Wow. Do you have some internal issues with women? That's a pretty drastic and inaccurate caricature. You could probably use a hug.
1 ExtraChromosomeSpork 2018-05-06
My issues with women are entirely external. Namely, the fact they have neither dick nor bussy, but instead some disgusting self-lubricating axe wound and weird mounds of fat.
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-05-06
Yes, because women never do this
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
For the love of God, stop downvoting the lolcows. People have -15 on their retarded rants and they're being hidden, this isn't CA or MDE or whatever, give the lolcows upvotes so they're encouraged to say more hilarious retarded shit
1 Eggeeh 2018-05-06
Bu-bu-but how am I supposed to know who's right and wrong?!
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
Make comments with snappy one liners and gifs from Futurama, duh
1 Karmaisforsuckers 2018-05-06
I'll show ye...
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
ok idiot.
1 cultish_alibi 2018-05-06
REE DON'T TRY AND DEFLECT MY GENERALISATION
1 canhavealotofmoney 2018-05-06
it seems some people want to feel superior no matter how stupid their opinions are. whatevvevevevevever.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
If I'm retarded and don't understand what anyone else says I am superior because I don't even need to try to think about them.
1 canhavealotofmoney 2018-05-06
thats ok though because youre retarded. no one can fault you. its not you. you were born that way.
1 canhavealotofmoney 2018-05-06
ipso facto
1 Fletch71011 2018-05-06
It honestly seems like TrollX has a community more pathetic than incels at this point.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
If incels and TrollX autists started dating both these problems would be solved but no.
1 Magehunter_Skassi 2018-05-06
The thread makes more sense when you consider that by "relationship" they mean "banging a guy for a few weeks or months that they met on a hookup app."
1 strathmeyer 2018-05-06
"My therapist says I'm a bad kisser."
1 ticktockwarrior 2018-05-06
Warning: OP is an incel. Do not engage. I repeat, do not engage.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Actual incel spotted.
1 PM_ME_UR_SUSPICIONS 2018-05-06
Incels are just cucks that can't even score the girlfriend that would inevitably cuck them.
1 ferongr 2018-05-06
Which faggot mod tagged this?
1 SaintJason 2018-05-06
/u/ThetamingoftheMew you were THIS close to realizing how double standards end up fucking over everyone and proceeded to double down.
It's 2018 it's ok to be a dude.
1 ThetamingoftheMew 2018-05-06
Did you happen to notice that in my clarification response I used completely gender neutral language and wasn't down voted to oblivion? This is how you pull the thread back to some sanity while a) being charitable, b) steelmanning the general sentiment, c) acknowledging that responsibility cuts both ways and d) solving the actual problem instead of picking teams and having five minutes for instigation.
1 SaintJason 2018-05-06
Well fuck me, I messed up good on you being sane in that thread.
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
"Being charitable" is for autistic mouthbreathers too stupid to understand that sometimes people are in fact just assholes.
1 ThetamingoftheMew 2018-05-06
gr8 b8 m8
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
What happened to charity and steelmanning? Oh wait, I said something that hurt your babydick, so it all went right out the window, lmao.
1 PM_ME_UR_SUSPICIONS 2018-05-06
Boring a) don't be charitable, that shits for pussies, b) agree with the general sentiment in a way that makes everyone hate you, c) responsibility is for the chumps you can pin the blame on and d) problems are fun, they give women something to complain about.
1 DrDougberger 2018-05-06
Pick one
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
Careful, drama, you're quickly turning into an anti-feminist sub
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Any decent human being understands that feminism is one of cancers of society, alongside MGTOW, incels and even religion, so what's the problem?
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
American Liberal feminism kinda sucks. Feminism is awesome though - keep telling yourself that it's a cancer - can't go against the bubble/circle jerk now can you? You sound like you're a victim of groupthink and just as brainwashed as the groups your criticize.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Ok autist.
You can call yourself Feminist, we'll just call ourselves egalitarians (for autistic: basically it means "decent human being") or simply decent human beings.
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
Humanism is for both sexes- feminism is for women it's just language. I was really chill in my comment lol dunno where you got autistic screeching from. I don't agree with egalitarianism because men and women are different and face different problems. Im a woman living in the Middle East lol I would be a tard if I weren't a feminist. Americans need to get over themselves and stop thinking the world revolves around them. You can't delete an entire global movement because one country over-did it.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
If you unironically think that feminism isn't just another cult then you're autist, not sure what's hard to understand.
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
Ya calling people autist isn’t an argument and won’t discourage people from speaking their minds. The tide is rolling back lololol y’all overused autist, feminazi, snowflake, cuck etc- they have no meaning or power anymore. Logic and nuance and moderation are coming back in vogue and I couldn’t be more relieved.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Wouldn't need to use it if autistic feminazis like you that want to be special (snowflakes) didn't exist tbh.
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
Good thing I don’t care - I’ve been on the sjw side then the anti sjw side then realized both sides are full of shit. I am arguing from a place of empirical evidence- that women as a global class have the shitty end if the deal due to their biology. That’s just the reality of things, it’s how the world works. I’m sorry if you think that’s a lie, it just means you live in a good country.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Wouldn't need to use it if autistic feminazis like you that want to be special (snowflakes) didn't exist, to be honest you can't blame anyone but yourself on that one.
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
You are an actual parrot lol. Culturally my beef is with sexual violence, but if you read what I wrote- our biology is whats fucking us over. We are weaker than men and the designated baby makers. These two things alone fuck over so many women in the world.
And again, get over yourself american - you havent seen or experienced suffering. Try being a woman in india or the middle east or china during the one child policy times. The majority of women on earth live in oppressive countries - stop being so small minded please.
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
then
Care to explain why you complain about one child policy when it's opposite of "designated baby makers", and ignore the fact that you can choose to never have kids?
Condoms paired with abortion when you're that fucking retarded that you can't even keep a condom intact, is how you never have to worry about kids.
Or be a femcel, who gives a shit.
Also lol, "American", keep assuming autist, I live in a country, which Americans would call "third world country".
How about do it yourself first before telling me what to do, if you are able to complain on internet unironically then your life isn't shit, otherwise people wouldn't have to deal with your shit since you couldn't go online, hypocrite.
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
What on earth are you on about? Im impressed with your ability to to just ignore thousands of years worth of history, social studies, politics and economics. Any how exactly can you be from the third world and still call feminism cancer? Do you not leave the house?
1 PurpleIcy 2018-05-06
Yeah 200 years ago every non-white was a slave, might aswell complain about that one too, autist.
This is 2018, you can stop crying about what happened thousands of years ago.
1 uniqueguy263 2018-05-06
Pretty much
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
Oh heaven forbid
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
It actually would be lame af though- would become edgelord central.
1 PM_ME_UR_SUSPICIONS 2018-05-06
Throw it on the pile.
1 pi_over_3 2018-05-06
So you are acknowledging this bullshit is part of feminism?
1 xcallmesunshine 2018-05-06
Oh yes 100% I just think some people take it too far in the other direction.
1 nmx179 2018-05-06
Shorter u/nice-socks:
How dare men have feelings 'n' shit, ew, gross
1 high_side 2018-05-06
I hope /u/wild-yet-tasty is one of Ed's alts.
1 double-happiness 2018-05-06
Society has tended to repress women's tendency to be cruel and heartless in the past, so...
1 bmibaby 2018-05-06
I feel like this may be over bearing but as a young woman I have noticed a pattern between me and my friends, of mean who expect me to be there for them emotionally, even if we have established a casual relationship.
I don’t think it’s fair to use the “I’m showing my emotional side” excuse to unburden all your emotional distress onto someone who isn’t asking for it.
My best example is the last two guys I were with both had suicidal episodes in front of me, without even hinting beforehand that these were issues that they were dealing with. I think it’s these types of instances that the women on the thread are discussing, because that is not fair to do to anyone regardless of gender.
1 pi_over_3 2018-05-06
This isn't a gender thing though. There's a woman I'm friends with a work with a shared hobby. I'm married and not trying to bang her, so she's determined I'm a "safe guy" for her to unload her problems onto. Some of them are real issues I care about, others are self inflicted, but we are good enough friends for me to call her on her bullshit. Even worse are the woman coworker clique issues that I have interest in getting in the middle of. xxx
1 double-happiness 2018-05-06
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DcdBpA8UQAASIeB.jpg
That's so disgusting. I've had a woman say she thought it was "freaky" I've never met my father... https://i.imgflip.com/3tg8b.jpg?a423720
1 Haruhanahanako 2018-05-06
The funnier thing is how insecure everyone is that a joke has been made at the expense of men for once.
1 ComedicSans 2018-05-06
Where's the drama? This isn't a /r/trollx callout sub.
1 PossibleYoung 2018-05-06
I don't know, lol. DON*T BLAME Me, Im not the one who upvotes these posts.!
https://www.reddit.com/r/Drama/comments/8hf8g2/menslib_mod_spends_three_hours_and_a_half_dozen/dyjr054/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Drama/comments/8hf8g2/menslib_mod_spends_three_hours_and_a_half_dozen/dyjr8tl/?context=3
1 ComedicSans 2018-05-06
This isn't an incel support sub. You have to go back.
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-05-06
The irony in r/drama incels making fun of TrollX incels is fucking amazing to witness! https://i.imgur.com/tafngOt.gif
1 pi_over_3 2018-05-06
2XC seems like one to me.
1 PowerOfJerkoffMagic 2018-05-06
Very nice! 🥂I appreciate you actually owning up to it in those comments.
Anyway is a gif I made about a week ago for this exact scenario
https://j.gifs.com/W7X50X.gif
1 RH_Ivan 2018-05-06
wubba lubba dub dub
1 pi_over_3 2018-05-06
/u/nicesocks proving yet again that 2XC is the female /r/incels