My SO works full-time. I partly work from home, and I’m partly medically unable to work (chronic fatigue, chronic pain). Guess who still manages most of the household chores?
Selling bullshit on Etsy or making $5 every three weeks copywriting isn't "work," fam. Your post history says you're working on a novel. Again, not work.
and I’m partly medically unable to work (chronic fatigue, chronic pain)
I think it's hilarious how every millennial suddenly has "chronic fatigue." Maybe you eat shit and don't workout so your energy is zapped? You weren't born tired.
Guess who still manages most of the household chores?
It SHOULD be you, /u/Marali87, because your significant other supports you like a father. Do you have a contingency plan if this guy wises up and dumps you? You shouldn't call yourself a feminist if you're completely dependent on a man for survival.
"Dependent feminist". She's going to be the one who whines about her boyfriend's mistress in 5 years but won't leave him because she doesn't know how to adult.
Selling bullshit on Etsy or making $5 every three weeks copywriting isn't "work," fam. Your post history says you're working on a novel. Again, not work.
How about being a published author and writing coach? I have an actual income through royalties via my publisher and I have build up a client base with honest to goodness paying clients. We're not talking about 5 dollars (also, am not American so dollars are pretty meaningless to me anyway).
And yes, novel writing is work. And so is editting. What, do you think authors shouldn't get paid?
I think it's hilarious how every millennial suddenly has "chronic fatigue." Maybe you eat shit and don't workout so your energy is zapped? You weren't born tired.
I'm happy to know you got a laugh out of my medical condition, I guess :) I'm on a pretty strict, healthy diet and I have an excersise plan made by a physiotherapist. I was, in fact, "born tired", although yes, it did progress when I turned 17 or 18. You assume a lot about my life, what I've done and what I have not done. I get it - it's so easy to judge people based on a few written posts on the Internet. It's just not very graceful.
It SHOULD be you, /u/Marali87, because your significant other supports you like a father. Do you have a contingency plan if this guy wises up and dumps you? You shouldn't call yourself a feminist if you're completely dependent on a man for survival.
Oh, I agree that I am home more often, so I do most of the work. That's not a problem. It's less fun when my sweetheart, forgetful as he is, forgets to do the things he said he would do. That happens a couple times a week. Also, to put your mind at ease: I support myself :) Partly through my own income, partly through my country's version of disability support (which you can only get after a thorough vetting process, btw). If my SO and I were to break up (God forbid, he's the One and I adore him), I will be fine financially.
How about being a published author and writing coach?
You're the one who said "I partly work from home." If you're such an accomplished author, why the use of the word "partly?"
Also, WTF is a "writing coach?" Aren't those usually called English teachers?
I have an actual income through royalties via my publisher and I have build up a client base with honest to goodness paying clients.
Yes, I'm sure you're a NY Times best-seller. Being self-published on Amazon or selling a few copies of some novel with some tiny e-publishing house doesn't make you an "author."
And yes, novel writing is work. And so is editting.
Clearly not!
What, do you think authors shouldn't get paid?
I think they should get paid based on royalties and I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume that you don't make a living from your writing.
Also, to put your mind at ease: I support myself :) Partly through my own income
There's that word "partly" again.
partly through my country's version of disability support
I've never heard of a successful author who made a livable wage selling their work getting disability benefits from the government.
Who are you trying to convince of your success, me or yourself?
I'm gonna leave it at this: I'm not a native English speaker, I never studied to be an English teacher, I don't think I can reach the NY best-seller list with my Dutch novels but that sure would be sweet, one day!
Also, not self-published, although I really do admire the writers that manage to go that route and sell their work.
Other than that, you've decided to dislike me and that's fine. You can't please everyone and the Internet is a weird place sometimes. Good night! Or good day, assuming you're in the US. I do truly hope you will meet many people who are less frustrating to you than I am :)
So you get to sit at home all day persuing your passion at whatever pace takes your fancy and yet you still complain about keeping the home you spend all of your time in nice?
Your literaly everything wrong with western women in one package. Your husband goes and leaves the house and works a job that he more then likely dosent enjoy at all. While you lay at home all day "writing novels" and getting welfare money. He ask you to clean the house while he is at work and you throw a shit fit acting like he should not only go do a job he hates but also come home and work all day while your lazy ass has been "writing novels". He is a far better man then I am because frankly I would leave your ass on a curb if thats how it is gonna be.
I'm 1.60 and weigh 59 kg. I think I'm fine in that area :) I'm sorry that you're so frustrated, but you're just making stuff up about me :) I mean, we're never gonna meet so I can't convince you of anything. So whatever, I guess? Let's just say you're right and I am wrong and be done with it.
I'm confused, does WAJONG benefits require an approved doctors assessment? How do they asses "a disease or disability at a young age, and can you no longer work now and in the future"? The out of work for 2 years after 6 months of education/work part seems a bit easy tbh.
Yeah, to get a Wajong you have to have several talks with de bedrijfsarts from the UWV. Not your own doctor, for obvious reasons. But you have to bring your entire medical dossier, if you have it (mine was extensive from age 11). Then they assess your situation every few years.
The "now and in the future" part is more fluid though. Unless you're 100% afgekeurd (English word is lost on me atm), they will usually assume that there is a possibility for (part) recovery. In my case, that basically means that I can work under certain circumstances. I had to go through a whole process of submitting my business plan for their approval and to get permission to start as a ZZP'er to work freelance. This, combined with new medication, makes it possible for me to work a few hours a week. Sometimes I manage four hours, sometimes 10, sometimes even 20 (I know this is normal for most people, for me it's a victory).
What’s going on here anyway? I’m trying to wrap my mind about the purpose of this sub. Do you guys just grab random comments from another sub, repost it and then collectively hate on that poster until they feel bad or give up? I posted a brief reply to a user in another sub, then when I wake up I find myself in this weird back alley of reddit.
It used to be bigger during the 90s, but if you travel to certain parts of the world you could just use dollars without even bothering to convert to the local currency because the dollar would hold its value day-to-day better than their currency.
It did in many parts of europe until fairly recently. In the 80s if you went to east gremany, they were desperate for foreign currency, and so they had special shops where you could only buy things in foreign currency, such as dollars.
Other than Zimbabwe and other countries where illiterates run the Central Bank, that usually isn't why USD is accepted. It's just that with USD, you can usually charge a way bigger amount than you can with local currencies. People who haven't bothered converting their money can generally be expected to also be too retarded to realize how much something costs.
INR for example is quiet stable, even used in Nepal, Bhutan and Zimbabwe of all places but people in touristey places still salivate over USD because a mutt and his dollars are easily parted.
They love it because the USD can go decades without losing its value, which is more than you can say for any currency from less cultured parts of the world.
Unless your inflation is greater than your FD interest rates, that literally doesn't make any sense. You can invest your national currency in banks, you can't invest USD. Keeping money somewhere it isn't generating more money is a top tier retard move.
If you live somewhere with a central bank that isn't absolutely retarded, holding on to cash for decades is just about the most moronic thing you can do.
If he accepts USD, he'll have to get it changed anyway. Other than people in the tourism sector, no one accepts USD. If I tried giving USD to some grocer they'd think I was trying to scam them. Also you'd be surprised. Both the maids in my house take bank transfers.
If you live somewhere with a central bank that isn't absolutely retarded
And thus you have arrived at the problem many people face.
There are also other reasons, such as bypassing currency controls that people might like to have a foreign currency. Places like india and china have rules to try and prevent "currency flight", so native currency put in a bank is useless for certain purposes.
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I have an actual income through royalties via my publisher and I have build up a client base with honest to goodness paying clients. We're not talking about 5 dollars (also, am not American so dollars are pretty meaningless to me anyway).
And yes, novel writing is work. And so is editting. What, do you think authors shouldn't get paid?
Does this mean you actually sell books? Because authors only make money when they sell. A publisher doesn't just hand you money because you wrote something.
My mum has chronic fatigue and she is someone that still exercises every day at 52 and refuses to eat anything even slightly unhealthy so it is possible. That being said, she still works 4 days a week even with this condition that makes this trollxer "medically unable to work"
i used to have "chronic fatigue", though it's not a real medical condition, it just means "you're tired and hurt all the time and we don't know why", and it just eventually went away by itself. i had some weird virus when i lived in a tropical region and apparently, doctors told me your body can just shit itself and you feel fucked for months/years sometimes after a bad virus. i just had aches and pains everywhere, was really super tired.
also i still worked and studied with all that, since it's nowhere near as debilitating as fat women on the internet claim it is , they are legit using it as an excuse to do nothing.
Selling bullshit on Etsy or making $5 every three weeks copywriting isn't "work," fam. Your post history says you're working on a novel. Again, not work.
I'll bet those LuLaRoe checks are just flying through the front door.
Sounds like he’s being emotionally manipulative, childish and gaslighting you. I wouldn’t stay with someone go makes you feel that bad over reasonable requests.
Why these people always need to throw gas lighting into the mix? jesus christ
We went back to his parent’s house this week and I cleaned the house before we left. There were dishes in the sink but it was his turn but I asked him to do them before we left (would take 10 minutes.) He refused and now I’m having anxiety this whole trip thinking about this smelly sink full of dishes.
lol she is the one having anxiety attacks over dirty dishes and he is the crazy one. Im sure all of that is true
My boyfriend and I are both in college. He pays all the rent because he gets MUCH more (like 5x as much) financial aid as I do. Neither of us have a job. We agreed to split chores equally by alternating but he slacks soooo much. I do like 80% of the chores and the 20% he does he complains the whole time and holds it over my head that I don’t pay rent so I should be doing ALL the chores even though I have a disability.
. I wouldn’t stay with someone go makes you feel that bad over reasonable requests.
If she leaves, she'll have to pay rent tho. Quelle horror.
I take my frustrations from my disabilities out by mocking lolcows on r/drama. It's great and cheaper then therapy. I still have a job though so I pass the functioning bar.
My boyfriend and I are both in college. He pays all the rent because he gets MUCH more (like 5x as much) financial aid as I do. Neither of us have a job. We agreed to split chores equally by alternating but he slacks soooo much. I do like 80% of the chores and the 20% he does.
Isn't funny that by her own numbers he pays 80% of the rent but it's unfair she has to do 80% the chores? She couldn't have made those numbers line up better if she tried.
gaslighting is just the new popular term to show people are 'smart'. It went from ad hominem to straw man arguments.
Telling her he isn't going to do the dishes isn't gaslighting and if she gets anxiety attacks about dishes that she could have done in 10 minutes (her words) then maybe she should question her sanity.
lol she is the one having anxiety attacks over dirty dishes and he is the crazy one. Im sure all of that is true
Interesting they seem to have different priorities to household chores. I wonder what kind of impact "mess causes anxiety" vs "it will be okay" might have on distribution of who does more chores...
Nahh migtoes are the male equivalent to gender critical women, I actually find them more obnoxious than incels. People like to shit on incels but, many of the mentally ill, ugly, social reject guys probably have never had a girlfriend or anything. Many migtoes have dated shitty women and instead carry on about how their prior shitty relationships represent all women.
lots of them are divorced dudes. i know a dude just like them, cept he doesn't identify with any retarded internet acronyms. basically he had a really shitty marriage, it ended, and now he just talks about how all women suck and relationships are lame, any time the topic of pussy comes up. it's a pretty typical thing.
Yup I was like that for a while after being cheated on and eventually you just relax and stop caring as much, going through life with hur dur "women are evil" rhetoric is not a healthy way to cope.
but they aren't proud, and they need women, they just can't get em.
the true term for a man who has ascended beyond gussy, is a volcel, and it's the greatest state of being. that, or a man who only fucks traps and passable trannies.
That's so stupid, if one works full-time and the other part-time it's absolutely justified to expect the one who works part-time to do more of the household stuff.
Dishes are like 20 minutes, vacuuming 20, trash 5 per day. For my house twice a week back lawn and front lawn take an hour. Once a week flower beds take 30. Add various once in a while chores and it could eat up that much.
They share a room and she's home all day on disability and 'working on a novel'. Do you think she writes at least 8 hours a day monday-friday? I don't.
Nor do I see a problem in saying that the fact of being a sole breadwinner should't be used as an excuse for not doing housework at all.
Well, whats appropriate then? If you sit in your house all day, then the house work is your responsibility. Thats the least you could do. Expecting the man to bust his ass all day and then expecting him to do housework when he comes home means.. you are a hypocritical feminist.
See. That’s the whole point. You don’t need a cleaning lady. You need a financially dependent woman to do it for you and tell you what a loser you are from time to time when she resentfully let’s you stick it in her once a month.
But sometimes there becomes this expectation that they no longer have to take care of anything for themselves cuz it's your job. That's not a fair expectation.
When you stay at home most of the time, while the other one busts his ass out there, earning a living, you better be doing most of the chores. Sure you can have him do the easy ones like washing dishes and stuff, but it is not fair to expect him to mow the lawn after he's back from work.
Also on the weekends things should be split 50/50 cuz he's off at that time too. Teamwork!
Sure. He only gets two days off while you stay at home 7 days. Teamwork.
u/starshine8316, get off your high horse. Talk it out before the couple starts living together so nobody gets to bitch at each other when dishes aren't getting cleaned.
Do people really need to be guided to know how to handle responsibilities? Maybe it's time to bring arranged marriage into this country.
Um if you read, he's getting a government grant and so is she. They both equally go to school. So outside of him getting a larger amount of money, they are essentially on a level playing field in terms of "work." She also said that they did agree to do 50/50 share of chores and he isn't holding up his end of the bargain. So moving along.
I am advocating for the partner who is at home doing a majority/ larger percentage of the household work. I didn't specify exactly what that should be. I think it's reasonable to expect a clean home when you arrive home from work. I wasn't saying otherwise. But if the breadwinner is being lazy and can't get their socks in the hamper or throw away their wrappers, or basic cleaning up after yourself, yeah that's a shitty way to treat your partner. And I'm the bread winner at the moment BTW. So I've been the selfish asshole in the past and I am speaking from experience here. You're not fucking opponents in some gender war, you're a team, a partnership, and you do your best to limit resentment in your partner. Two adults picking up the slack for each other because we're both adults contributing to the successful running of the household. I don't expect my hubs to be on the clock every damned second, cuz I bring home the money right now. I don't think a man should expect that if his woman in the reverse. Yeah pitch in a little on the weekends. You feel proud that you're taking care of your home too.
Lastly, She also has mentioned a disability that he doesn't have. So yeah, her partner should feel a bit motivated to help her where he can on the more difficult tasks. Duh!
And arranged marriage has proven successful in limited examples, with cultures that practice that and have loving families who want the best for them. But very few and far between, I'd say. But sir, I suspect you aren't very concerned for the welfare of the individuals you'd assign to an arranged marriage. I don't think I'd trust your judgement in that scenario I must confess.
So tipping my hat to you whilst on my Clydesdale. How's the weather down there?
Well if you know of a taller horse then by all means suggest one. Just playing off the high horse comment. Not really a horse girl either. That was the tallest one that came to mind.
Oh I wouldn't fret about that too much. White people are breeding themselves out of existence in short order. Give it a few generations of inter-racial coupling, as the ease of world travel increases. Ha, but that means every group will be mixed too. Frikkin Yay! As my 1/2 Asian 1/2 white hubs says, "mutts are usually the smartest and the best!" He's biased of course, but I think he's an awesome example of the smartest and the best. So yeah... ☺️
Actually, I've got an exciting opportunity for your husband, tell him he needs to go browse /r/hapas and /r/asianmasculinity in order to understand his place in the world.
Nah outside of his mutt philosophy he doesn't really put stock into his heritage on either side. He settles himself as simply American. Calls people out when appropriate. Doesn't go along with any narrative that people attempt to thrust upon him.
Oh my. I giggled at this one! Yeah he's scarily well versed on all these issues. He's actually more of the school of thought that he thinks it foolish to take pride in any race association as it's not something you had control over. Similar to saying something like I'm proud to be bi-pedal. LOL Additionally he hasn't internalized the racism so much as he feels he's in a much better position than those of a single race. He's better off as he has an unique and aerial view that others don't have.
I think its sad that you encourage the erasure of his culture, and continued racism directed towards people of color. This is exactly the kind of thing the asian maculinity community was created to combat, and he needs to be exposed to it.
They would, first of all, explain to him that he is clearly in an abusive relationship and needs to get out now.
You know, you must be right, I'm just a white devil woman brainwashing him with my magical vagina!
No but really he's been reading this whole thread. He's laughing with me right now, and I'm showing him that subreddit now. I'll update on his response to it.
Ha! Me changing that mans mind on ANYTHING. Ha! You're too much!
Ouch, that really hits in the feels. I've never seen guys do this, but really lonely women defending themselves on the internet invent fake spouses/boyfriends and claim they're "just over their shoulder". Bleh, I'm depressed now. You don't have to lie to us here you know that right? I was suspicious before, but that statement kind of confirmed it for me.
He's laughing with me right now, and I'm showing him that subreddit now. I'll update on his response to it.
If there's one iron law of the internet its when someone says they're laughing at something, it actually means they're seething with anger.
I guess I get it. I, or maybe the world in general, doesn't make sense to you if I'm not that single, seething, angry, harpy lying in the internet??? Cuz, what, if my half Asian husband, rejects your ideas on how he should internalize his view of himself, he can't possibly be real? You need to believe this about me don't you?
Im really not angry I'm quite enjoying this exchange actually.
You keep telling me I'm upset, but I'm totally smiling and giggling in bed as I type this.
Are you trying to convince me, or yourself?
Oh dude, no way, now I'm an incel? This is exactly the comedy I needed tonight love, thank you so much! Heh, you called me an incel.
Yes, "now" you're an incel, your life choices had nothing to do with it. And there you go again with the unconvincing claims that you're "not angry".
Oh hey btw, my totally not real, Asian husband is on Reddit now because of this convo! We have one more redditor cuz of you. How awesome is that?
I'm glad he's not real, because I would be majorly upset with you if you actually increased the number of redditors in the world. That shit would be straight up immoral.
Oh hey on a more serious note, I really haven't encouraged any erasure of culture. His momma and I have had long talks about her heritage and what she wants to make sure our children know about their cultural roots. She is very serious and takes pride in her roots. She's shared her experiences with racism and overcoming the odds with emigrating from her home country, learning English and making a success of herself despite it all. Bad ass lady too, I've learned a lot from her. We've talked about what she hopes I will incorporate into my mothering style, where she thinks American culture gets it wrong. It's been enlightening and quite welcome to get her perspective. She's taught me so much from
Cooking tradition dishes to cultural folklore, native language. It's been great! Truly. So you know with all the banter below, make know mistake, I love every part of my husband and it's precisely his unique experience that has made him the man I love and respect.
Woah, you're flooding my inbox here, calm down a bit!
His momma and I have had long talks about her heritage and what she wants to make sure our children know about their cultural roots.
This is more than I need to know about your fantasy life.
We've talked about what she hopes I will incorporate into my mothering style, where she thinks American culture gets it wrong
Remember, if your children get Bs in school, burn their most treasured stuffed animal. That's super important in asian culture.
It's been enlightening and quite welcome to get her perspective. She's taught me so much from Cooking tradition dishes to cultural folklore, native language, but that's just a small highlight list. It's been great!
Jesus Christ lady, can you stay away from appropriating the culture of asian people in your sick fantasies? Are you so bereft of imagination you have to consume another culture? That's offensive. These things that are so "cool" to you are things that PoC faced discrimination for, and they don't need your basic-becky bitch ass yapping about how "multicural" you are on facebook.
Okay I'll bite. I am angry at what you've said now. You've insinuated that I'm an cultural appropriating virtue signaling and racist incel. I'm not any of those things.
I particularly take issue with the virtue signaling, culturally appropriating racist bit.
Everything I've told you was in earnest and the truth! I don't know if you're just having a bad night, but dammit if you don't come off as a judgmental gatekeeping asshole!
Yeah I am familiar with Asian parenting stereotypes. That wasn't what I was referring to. Are you saying My MIL isn't allowed to recognize the differences in American parenting vs how her parents raised her? Yeah she has a vested interest in how her grandchildren are raised and influenced. So in the course of our relationship she has voiced her concerns. As you aware that in my culture we value this? We parent like this? You can do it this way? And I've taken that to heart and given her the respect she's due.
And your last paragraph of vitriol. No I don't think her experiences being discriminated against are cool. The fact that she would trust me enough to share her painful experiences and love for her heritage is a wonderful thing. I am cognizant of and recognize that because I am white in America I have not been on the receiving end of racism. I will always have a myopia to what that is like. I do understand my limitations and shortcomings. Here's where I am coming from. Why she chose to trust me and not keep me at arms length. I'm adopted which allowed me a modicum of empathy to some of her experiences that I wouldn't otherwise have had. When I was adopted it was seen as a shameful thing that I should hide about myself. My parents told me to never tell anyone. It was viewed that adopting someone's bastard child was a shameful thing. But inevitably people saw that I looked different and asked me if I was the milkman's kid. I heard adults wondering if I was the product of an affair. I eventually told people I was adopted to stop that noise, but it got worse. My schoolmates would look at me with disdain and call me a bastard ew! When I tried to explain that no, my parents were married when they adopted me, they said "well you started out as a throw away trash baby." Ouch. I always had to fight to be seen as a person, worthy of dignity and respect. To not be seen as less than because of something I had no control over. "She's adopted, but it's okay she's just like us." Was a mild example.
Then there was a lack of information about my birth family and heritage. "If you're not your parents REAL child then what are you, where do you come from?" Fuck all of I know, and I am their REAL child. I watched my sibling be told by my parents about how they look like this family member and there goes the Sicilian/Irish temper. But God love em, They had none of these answers for me. Multicultural week at school was hell cuz we always had todo A family tree project and I was told by my peers that I was a liar cuz I put my adopted family's info. I don't know my birth family I don't know. I hated that assignment. So I floated in this sea of ambiguity not knowing where I fit, who I belonged to, who I looked like, trying to forge an identity. When I finally did meet my birth family and found out who's laugh I shared and my feet aren't weird their just like my great aunt's. That both sides of my family each predominantly came from their own European country. I belonged somewhere finally. I finally started to feel whole, like a jig saw puzzle being put together. I wanted to learn how we'd came to America. Do we have any cultural traditions we've kept? What are they. Hey what is that what town does it come from? Can you share the family recipe for that? Fast forward a few years and I marry into a family that is a different culture than the one I've been newly minted into. I had questions. It was important to me to understand as much as I could. I wanted my children to have all the answers I didn't have growing up. My MIL got to know me and saw my interest as genuine. I wasn't looking at her as some novelty of entertainment. I truly was trying to connect with her. And there was this mild form of connection with being taken seriously as a person and not being dismissed for something you couldn't help. She had it worse, more than I could ever know, so I am not putting myself on the same level at all. But my experiences helped me to understand in a small way. That helped us to connect.
So I've said everything to you in earnest. I love my husbands family dearly. I do the best with what I have, and I have many shortcomings. But I am not the person you have painted me as.
How immature are you to get this angry over internet comments? I hope you calm down, becky, and don't do something stupid like get a chinese character tattoo you think means "peace" but actually says "hooker".
I think a bigger percentage of the household duties falls on the spouse at home. But
Which is a response to this one:
What if the guy is working full time though?
If the guy works full time, wife do most of the chores, and vice versa.
The college part only comes up in the following comment, after the one I was replying to, which is completely irrelevant to my point.
Regarding that college stuff, I would just say dump the man if it really bothers you that much. Having anxiety over dishes is just dumb.
But sir, I suspect you aren't very concerned for the welfare of the individuals you'd assign to an arranged marriage. I don't think I'd trust your judgement in that scenario I must confess.
I was completely being cheeky. But exactly what do you mean when you say "feminism."
I'm all for the battles fought by 1st wave and 2nd wave feminism. Without their work I wouldn't be able to support my family in the interim of my hubs looking for a new job. And I like living under a roof and having clothes on my back and food in my belly.
In regards to today's 3rd wave feminism, where it's more of a fainting couch sort of feminism and women don't want equality but rather the feeling smacks of wanting their turn to oppress the male gender. No I'm not a proponent of that philosophy at all. I love the men in my family and I don't advocate for discrimination against them either.
Can you be more specific in your disdain?
In regards to my race, not much can be done in that arena. And I'm not all that well off by American standards but very thankful for what I do have.
In regards to today's 3rd wave feminism, where it's more of a fainting couch sort of feminism and women don't want equality but rather the feeling smacks of wanting their turn to oppress the male gender. No I'm not a proponent of that philosophy at all.
Didn't expect that.
You don't belong on trollX to be honest, they'd probably bitch you out if you said that over there.
But see, /u/adool999 said "what if" which means it's a supposed scenario. He's not saying anything about his expectations. Why would you misconstrue what he was trying to say?
He said what if partner a was working full time. Not "what if" partner b was doing absolutely nothing all day. It's assumed that partner a and partner b will be working. That's the default assumption. Because that statistically the reality in the (I see your right wing weird bullshit about the fact that I mentioned) the current year.
He said what if partner a was working full time. Not "what if" partner b *was doing absolutely nothing all day.
Thank you for reiterating the painfully obvious
Because that statistically the reality
hey, what if the US was 95% Hispanic?
lol that's not a statistical reality so I'm gonna take your assumption and modify it
damn you're dense af. He's asking for opinions in a scenario where a guy is working full time and the woman a housewife. Doesn't mean she's doesn't have her own chores.
So because it's painfully obvious your post was pointless? My criticising a person because they made the assumption that the female partner wasn't working is something you agree with?
And yeah you definitely seem like you'd wear a maga cap to a political rally.
My criticising a person because they made the assumption that the female partner wasn't working
That never happened. See, you're assuming that he made that assumption. That's why I'm saying you're misconstruing his words (most probably, deliberately)
oh oh wait! But i know what he REALLY meant
uh no sweaty. That's now how "words" work. This isn't some pretentious prose by a drunktard in a cabin.
Man I'm working only off of the actual words. He said what if the man works full time? I point out that it's the default, for both partners.
You come in here and say "ho ho we'll have you considered that mayyyyybe be meant 😹😹😹 that the woman was not working at all xD!!!!" Now you're standing here and telling that I'm the one making things up? That's bloody priceless.
And btw I did click to your profile, didn't have to scroll down to see you using racial slurs. Fuck off back to the sole of your dog emperor's boots. I hear they got a bit dirty, if you don't hurry you'll have to compete with all the other little good boys trying to lick them clean. And you don't wanna do that, it'd be gay!
Threatening physical violence, "day of the rope when" referencing the lovely hate novel from the 70s when all the "differents" get hanged, and asking when it's going to happen, is a strict violation of the sitewide rules of Reddit :)
They actually very recently reclarified the rules regarding advocating, endorsing, or glorifying violence of any kind! Your comment is squarely on the other side baby.
Ok, you do realize what sub this is in? Like, the mayocide is advocated for every day here, this place is a massive pisstake. I have seen far worse that didn't result in someone getting this gussyblasted.
A very vague statement that in and of itself does not mean anything, and that became a popular meme is not really grounds for "threatening physical violence". If such things upset you this much, turn around and run, because it only gets worse here lol.
Sitting on your ass and writing novels all day doesn't count.
If someone works half an hour less per day than you that's not a reason for them to do the bulk of the housework that's patently absurd
Good thing nobody said that, then. Strawman, anyone? If someone works 40 hours a week and their partner only works 10, then the partner can easily take 10 hours out of the week to keep the fucking house clean. It's not that hard.
Unpaid work? Who is suppose to pay you for living your life
But let's assume unpaid work is not fantasy, on average men still work more total hours. Average might have men doing less non work related labour but the gap in actual work done is large enough to overtake it
(I see your right wing weird bullshit about the fact that I mentioned)
Not everyone who disagrees with you us "right wing" you mongoloid. Ed is left-wing, and shits on Trump and his supporters more than literally anyone else here. You're just so far left that you think everyone else is extreme-right. It's always an interesting phenomenon. T_D users call us "cucked libtards" instead.
White people average 38.7 hours per week. Black people 38.4. Latinx 38. Asian 38.8.
People 25-54 average 40.3. 55+ is 37.8.
But go off.
I've spent significant time in South America, I even had a semi serious relationship with a girl while I was in Colombia. I'm still close with her but if called her a latinx instead of a latina she would certainly cut off all ties with me because it's retarded.
Well, dumbass, there was nothing about the post that implies the woman doesn't have a job. You've inserted that information yourself because you assume the woman in the scenario doesn't work. While that might have been mostly true sixty years ago, most homes today are dual income.
And why the fuck wouldn't you split the work with your spouse? She's not your goddamn maid,
Well, dumbass, there was nothing about the comment that implies the man doesn't do housework. You've inserted that information yourself because you assume the man in the scenario doesn't work. While that might have been true literally never, most homes today are dual income.
If you read through those comments and compare them to the title of this thread, you can clearly see that the people who take umbrage with the situation as described here didn't read the original comments. It's a bunch of "victims" in here getting butt hurt that they should be expected to do equal work around the home and how that expectation is malicious. Most of the people in the original tread are describing their personal situations and how they were expected to carry out the household chores by virtue of their gender.
Do you understand how hypothetical situations work? Everyone doesn't work. There are actually people that are married and don't work. I know some of these people personally.
I am not an incel, but I am glad that term totally isn't going to be used for "people that don't agree with me" and apparently u/Pizzashill is right again on that front.
In a situation where only one spouse works or at least is the only full time worker, how should household chores be resolved?
Not my wife. She makes $0 per hour. Good thing she married a man who paid attention to his education so he can support a family of four on a single income.
My husband doesn’t do any cleaning or cooking and I stay home. I basically clean the house like 2 hours every day and then sit on my ass/parent. It’s not hard.
Neither of us have jobs. He gets 5x as much financial aid as I do. When it gets dispersed I deposit my entire check for the year into an account that goes towards rent, utilities, and groceries. I have 0 spending money. I can’t work because I have cancer. But thanks for caring :)
My boyfriend and I are both in college. He pays all the rent because he gets MUCH more (like 5x as much) financial aid as I do. Neither of us have a job. We agreed to split chores equally by alternating but he slacks soooo much. I do like 80% of the chores and the 20% he does he complains the whole time and holds it over my head that I don’t pay rent so I should be doing ALL the chores even though I have a disability.
Funny how many of the posters in this thread seem to have the "literally can't even"s when it comes to work.
Sounds like he’s being emotionally manipulative, childish and gaslighting you. I wouldn’t stay with someone go makes you feel that bad over reasonable requests.
And now they've just descended into self parody. /u/lils1971 I can't tell the difference between you and someone trying to make fun of the average teenager giving advice on /r/relationships.
Gaslighting is when you use subtle, incremental changes that you deny occurring to undermine someone's credibility and make them doubt themselves. Being huffy over dishes doesn't count.
My boyfriend and I are both in college. He pays all the rent because he gets MUCH more (like 5x as much) financial aid as I do. Neither of us have a job. We agreed to split chores equally by alternating but he slacks soooo much. I do like 80% of the chores and the 20% he does he complains the whole time and holds it over my head that I don’t pay rent so I should be doing ALL the chores even though I have a disability.
Is it just me or do all lazy leeches have a disability now?
I swear I have never seen this many people cry "muh disability" until 2018
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1 SnapshillBot 2018-07-04
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1 rationalhuckleberry 2018-07-04
A diet and weight loss will help with that.
1 QueenOfTheIncels 2018-07-04
Good for him, sounds like a go-getter!
Selling bullshit on Etsy or making $5 every three weeks copywriting isn't "work," fam. Your post history says you're working on a novel. Again, not work.
I think it's hilarious how every millennial suddenly has "chronic fatigue." Maybe you eat shit and don't workout so your energy is zapped? You weren't born tired.
It SHOULD be you, /u/Marali87, because your significant other supports you like a father. Do you have a contingency plan if this guy wises up and dumps you? You shouldn't call yourself a feminist if you're completely dependent on a man for survival.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
"Dependent feminist". She's going to be the one who whines about her boyfriend's mistress in 5 years but won't leave him because she doesn't know how to adult.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
Wow. Ok.
How about being a published author and writing coach? I have an actual income through royalties via my publisher and I have build up a client base with honest to goodness paying clients. We're not talking about 5 dollars (also, am not American so dollars are pretty meaningless to me anyway).
And yes, novel writing is work. And so is editting. What, do you think authors shouldn't get paid?
I'm happy to know you got a laugh out of my medical condition, I guess :) I'm on a pretty strict, healthy diet and I have an excersise plan made by a physiotherapist. I was, in fact, "born tired", although yes, it did progress when I turned 17 or 18. You assume a lot about my life, what I've done and what I have not done. I get it - it's so easy to judge people based on a few written posts on the Internet. It's just not very graceful.
1 QueenOfTheIncels 2018-07-04
You're the one who said "I partly work from home." If you're such an accomplished author, why the use of the word "partly?"
Also, WTF is a "writing coach?" Aren't those usually called English teachers?
Yes, I'm sure you're a NY Times best-seller. Being self-published on Amazon or selling a few copies of some novel with some tiny e-publishing house doesn't make you an "author."
Clearly not!
I think they should get paid based on royalties and I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume that you don't make a living from your writing.
There's that word "partly" again.
I've never heard of a successful author who made a livable wage selling their work getting disability benefits from the government.
Who are you trying to convince of your success, me or yourself?
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
I'm gonna leave it at this: I'm not a native English speaker, I never studied to be an English teacher, I don't think I can reach the NY best-seller list with my Dutch novels but that sure would be sweet, one day!
Also, not self-published, although I really do admire the writers that manage to go that route and sell their work.
Other than that, you've decided to dislike me and that's fine. You can't please everyone and the Internet is a weird place sometimes. Good night! Or good day, assuming you're in the US. I do truly hope you will meet many people who are less frustrating to you than I am :)
1 QueenOfTheIncels 2018-07-04
You didn't explain why a successful published author like yourself needs government welfare money to survive.
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
She's successfully backed-out of this drama and you are responsible for the loss.
1 BuyMeAnNSX 2018-07-04
Why didn't you do them then? Did your fingers hurt from typing all day?
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
I did not write that :)
1 BuyMeAnNSX 2018-07-04
You did though. It was quoted from you off of your page :)
I think you write more on reddit than you do your novel.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
Are you trolling or are you confusing me with someone else? I genuiney cannot tell, lol. This place is the weirdest I’ve been in a while.
1 nanonan 2018-07-04
So you get to sit at home all day persuing your passion at whatever pace takes your fancy and yet you still complain about keeping the home you spend all of your time in nice?
1 Putuna 2018-07-04
Your literaly everything wrong with western women in one package. Your husband goes and leaves the house and works a job that he more then likely dosent enjoy at all. While you lay at home all day "writing novels" and getting welfare money. He ask you to clean the house while he is at work and you throw a shit fit acting like he should not only go do a job he hates but also come home and work all day while your lazy ass has been "writing novels". He is a far better man then I am because frankly I would leave your ass on a curb if thats how it is gonna be.
1 EarnestNoMeta 2018-07-04
farts loudly
1 nmx179 2018-07-04
God forbid you take responsibility for your narcissistic, shit-headed opinions.
1 reiniging24 2018-07-04
What does " I support myself :) Partly through my own income"
Supporting yourself partly.
Shouldn't it either by supporting yourself.
Or you're being partly supported.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
Being fine financially because you live off the government from being tired from being fat.
Sweet racket.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
I'm 1.60 and weigh 59 kg. I think I'm fine in that area :) I'm sorry that you're so frustrated, but you're just making stuff up about me :) I mean, we're never gonna meet so I can't convince you of anything. So whatever, I guess? Let's just say you're right and I am wrong and be done with it.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
So you are perfectly normal weight yet cannot work? Yet you also claim to have a job too.
1 mrv3 2018-07-04
> Can't work
> Works
Can't be both.
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
Could be a female game dev.
1 dramaac 2018-07-04
I had to convert that to real units of measurement, but it looks like you're all good. And Dutch too, huh? So pretty open-minded?
Do you ever travel without your bf and like to go see new and interesting places?
1 Ylajali_2002 2018-07-04
For Americans, a kg is 5 lbs and a meter is 2.5 feet.
So she weighs 295 lbs and is 4 feet tall. Which actually is average for the Dutch.
1 22333444455555666666 2018-07-04
its 130 pounds you retard
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
Wrong.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
I'm confused, does WAJONG benefits require an approved doctors assessment? How do they asses "a disease or disability at a young age, and can you no longer work now and in the future"? The out of work for 2 years after 6 months of education/work part seems a bit easy tbh.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
Yeah, to get a Wajong you have to have several talks with de bedrijfsarts from the UWV. Not your own doctor, for obvious reasons. But you have to bring your entire medical dossier, if you have it (mine was extensive from age 11). Then they assess your situation every few years. The "now and in the future" part is more fluid though. Unless you're 100% afgekeurd (English word is lost on me atm), they will usually assume that there is a possibility for (part) recovery. In my case, that basically means that I can work under certain circumstances. I had to go through a whole process of submitting my business plan for their approval and to get permission to start as a ZZP'er to work freelance. This, combined with new medication, makes it possible for me to work a few hours a week. Sometimes I manage four hours, sometimes 10, sometimes even 20 (I know this is normal for most people, for me it's a victory).
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
Ah. Sorry to hear. Hope you may get better someday.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
Also guys... It's RUDE to downvote guests here.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
What’s going on here anyway? I’m trying to wrap my mind about the purpose of this sub. Do you guys just grab random comments from another sub, repost it and then collectively hate on that poster until they feel bad or give up? I posted a brief reply to a user in another sub, then when I wake up I find myself in this weird back alley of reddit.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
See the sidebar. It explains everything. Most of us are now busy mocking other disabled posters - namely t_d retards.
1 Redactor0 2018-07-04
That's a pretty offensive thing to say on the 4th of July, tyvm. 😒
1 h-kissinger 2018-07-04
What a random special snowflake. US dollars are worthless in the Netherlands.
1 DistortedLines 2018-07-04
It's very rude tho
1 JoeFalchetto 2018-07-04
US Dollars (and Euros) are worth something in any place in the world that has a bank where you can exchange them for the local currency.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
It used to be bigger during the 90s, but if you travel to certain parts of the world you could just use dollars without even bothering to convert to the local currency because the dollar would hold its value day-to-day better than their currency.
1 h-kissinger 2018-07-04
True, but that never applied to Europe.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
It did in many parts of europe until fairly recently. In the 80s if you went to east gremany, they were desperate for foreign currency, and so they had special shops where you could only buy things in foreign currency, such as dollars.
1 Gil-Gandel 2018-07-04
Soviet bloc though. Actual Europe, west of the Iron Curtain, they'd pretty much tell you to fuck off.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Eh, maybe in the heart of london or in paris, but plenty of western europe wasn't really civilized until a few decades ago.
1 JoeFalchetto 2018-07-04
I recently traveled to Laos and Cambodia, and this still holds true there.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
The UN doesn't call them "shithole countries" for no reason.
1 SuitableHippo999 2018-07-04
Other than Zimbabwe and other countries where illiterates run the Central Bank, that usually isn't why USD is accepted. It's just that with USD, you can usually charge a way bigger amount than you can with local currencies. People who haven't bothered converting their money can generally be expected to also be too retarded to realize how much something costs.
INR for example is quiet stable, even used in Nepal, Bhutan and Zimbabwe of all places but people in touristey places still salivate over USD because a mutt and his dollars are easily parted.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
They love it because the USD can go decades without losing its value, which is more than you can say for any currency from less cultured parts of the world.
1 SuitableHippo999 2018-07-04
Unless your inflation is greater than your FD interest rates, that literally doesn't make any sense. You can invest your national currency in banks, you can't invest USD. Keeping money somewhere it isn't generating more money is a top tier retard move.
If you live somewhere with a central bank that isn't absolutely retarded, holding on to cash for decades is just about the most moronic thing you can do.
1 JoeFalchetto 2018-07-04
The guy who sells street food in an unpaved road in the outskirts of Kolkata is definitely investing his INR in treasury bonds.
1 SuitableHippo999 2018-07-04
If he accepts USD, he'll have to get it changed anyway. Other than people in the tourism sector, no one accepts USD. If I tried giving USD to some grocer they'd think I was trying to scam them. Also you'd be surprised. Both the maids in my house take bank transfers.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
And thus you have arrived at the problem many people face.
There are also other reasons, such as bypassing currency controls that people might like to have a foreign currency. Places like india and china have rules to try and prevent "currency flight", so native currency put in a bank is useless for certain purposes.
1 h-kissinger 2018-07-04
Useless is a better term. Sure they have some value, but no one not a financial institution will accept them.
1 EarnestNoMeta 2018-07-04
youre useless
1 ErictheRedding 2018-07-04
Technically they’re worth 8/10ths of a euro.
1 h-kissinger 2018-07-04
Agreed. But lots of things have value; grams of platinum are much more valuable.
But you need to find someone to convert them for you.
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
Europe has universal converters.
1 h-kissinger 2018-07-04
What is a universal converter?
I've lived and worked in Europe, and I have no idea what you are talking about.
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
A universal converter works by rearranging subatomic particles, which are abundant everywhere in the universe, to form molecules and arrange those molecules to form the object. For example, to create a pork chop, the UC would first form atoms of carbon, hydrogen, nitrogen, etc., then arrange them into amino acids, proteins, and cells, and assemble the particles into the form of a pork chop.
This process requires the destructive conversion of bulk matter into energy and its subsequent reformation into a pre-scanned matter pattern. In principle, this is similar to the transporter, but on a smaller scale. However, unlike transporters, which duplicate matter at the quantum level, UCs must be capable of a large number of different materials on demand. If patterns were to be stored at the quantum level, an impossible amount of data storage (or a set of original copies of the materials) would be required. To resolve this, patterns are stored in memory at the molecular level.
The drawback of doing so is that it is impossible to replicate objects with complicated quantum structures, such as living beings, dilithium, or latinum. In reality, living beings and/or cited elements are not necessarily more complex on a quantum level; the putative 'extra complexity' is used an in-universe function to head off questions such as 'why can't Starfleet replicate people?'[citation needed] In the TNG episode "Allegiance", aliens used their version of UCs to create a Picard impostor. Additionally, read/write errors cause a number of single-bit errors to occur in replicated materials. Though usually undetectable to human senses, computer scanning can be used to reveal these discrepancies, and they may explain the frequent complaint (by some gourmets and connoisseurs) that replicated food and beverages suffer from substandard taste. These errors also may cause a nontoxic material to become toxic when replicated, or create strains of deadly viruses and bacteria from previously harmless ones.
1 Thhueros 2018-07-04
The Dutch will be worthless even when Trump creates the new American Slave Trade.
1 OniTan 2018-07-04
Does this mean you actually sell books? Because authors only make money when they sell. A publisher doesn't just hand you money because you wrote something.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
I think you answered your own question then? Yes, my books sell.
1 OniTan 2018-07-04
Approximately how many?
1 cuteman 2018-07-04
Dozens of people have bought her $0.99 kindle book!
1 HumptyDumptysBalls 2018-07-04
$50 says your "publisher" is actually you, and that your book is just on Kindle.
Said every morbidly obese HAES ever. "But there were onions and lettuce on my triple cheeseburger!"
What the fuck are we even arguing about then?
1 ffbtaw 2018-07-04
Tbf she isn't an Ameriburger so it's possible, if unlikely, that shes telling the truth.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
It's possible! Hope springs eternal, I guess.
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
About my books and my weight, apparently. For some reason.
1 HumptyDumptysBalls 2018-07-04
It has to be a video of you farting on them.
But why are you so desperate for $50 if you're an accomplished author and writing coach?
1 Marali87 2018-07-04
I'm fine without the fifty bucks, but you offered! :) Peace, friend.
1 Pastelitomaracucho 2018-07-04
[DOOM voice] "She's here...."
1 ffbtaw 2018-07-04
What percentage of your boyfriends salary do you make? Excluding disability benefits.
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
"Stop disproving my argument :'((((("
1 orangetato 2018-07-04
My mum has chronic fatigue and she is someone that still exercises every day at 52 and refuses to eat anything even slightly unhealthy so it is possible. That being said, she still works 4 days a week even with this condition that makes this trollxer "medically unable to work"
1 PM_ME_REDHEAD_BABES 2018-07-04
As someone with chronic fatigue I'm gonna say I'm in the same boat as your mum. This cow is just using it as an excuse to not do shit.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
i used to have "chronic fatigue", though it's not a real medical condition, it just means "you're tired and hurt all the time and we don't know why", and it just eventually went away by itself. i had some weird virus when i lived in a tropical region and apparently, doctors told me your body can just shit itself and you feel fucked for months/years sometimes after a bad virus. i just had aches and pains everywhere, was really super tired.
also i still worked and studied with all that, since it's nowhere near as debilitating as fat women on the internet claim it is , they are legit using it as an excuse to do nothing.
1 EarnestNoMeta 2018-07-04
your mom is a lazy thot
1 CompetitiveLoiterer 2018-07-04
muh fibromyalgia
1 BussyControl 2018-07-04
I'll bet those LuLaRoe checks are just flying through the front door.
1 helppls555 2018-07-04
let me guess: the knees.
1 rationalhuckleberry 2018-07-04
Let’s not forget the cankles
1 Alexlincoln2 2018-07-04
Ping the person
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
Son
1 rationalhuckleberry 2018-07-04
Father!
1 AlohaWarrior34 2018-07-04
u/banana_phone, you DO realize that earning the income neccesary to pay the bills IS work, right?
1 CulturalYogurt 2018-07-04
not until you have an academese term for it like "financial labor"
1 HumptyDumptysBalls 2018-07-04
If /u/banana_phone doesn't see her husband working, it doesn't really count.
1 CisWhiteMaleREEE 2018-07-04
men working full time and being responsible for the financial security of couple/family is PATRIARCHY and ABUSE
1 ltedt 2018-07-04
Why these people always need to throw gas lighting into the mix? jesus christ
lol she is the one having anxiety attacks over dirty dishes and he is the crazy one. Im sure all of that is true
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-07-04
Because they themselves constatly gaslight men, so to feel better they grandstand on the internet?
1 helppls555 2018-07-04
this guy gets it. in fact, even the ancient greeks got it already. there's a reason why the odyssey warns us about sirens
1 PM_ME_UR_FIGURINES 2018-07-04
And opening strange boxes. And fucking your mom.
1 wiking85 2018-07-04
Words of wisdom
1 DuBBle 2018-07-04
Fucking your Mom isn't that bad.
1 GadolBoobies 2018-07-04
DARVO
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
If she leaves, she'll have to pay rent tho. Quelle horror.
1 Chicup 2018-07-04
Sometimes I feel I'm the only one one reddit who isn't on an anti-depressant or can actually function.
1 PM_ME_UR_FIGURINES 2018-07-04
I feel like Reddit isn’t really the best place to find examples of evolutionary successful people. Or successful people.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
I take my frustrations from my disabilities out by mocking lolcows on r/drama. It's great and cheaper then therapy. I still have a job though so I pass the functioning bar.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
well sort of , you let other men fuck your wife lmfao
1 Chicup 2018-07-04
Even exchange of property.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
why don't you just cheat behind their back like i do? that way to get to fuck other girls and not have to see your wife get plowed by other dudes.
1 cleverseneca 2018-07-04
Isn't funny that by her own numbers he pays 80% of the rent but it's unfair she has to do 80% the chores? She couldn't have made those numbers line up better if she tried.
1 Alexlincoln2 2018-07-04
These people haven't seen vertigo have they?
1 BuyMeAnNSX 2018-07-04
gaslighting is just the new popular term to show people are 'smart'. It went from ad hominem to straw man arguments.
Telling her he isn't going to do the dishes isn't gaslighting and if she gets anxiety attacks about dishes that she could have done in 10 minutes (her words) then maybe she should question her sanity.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
most of them don't even know what gaslighting means.
1 Fletch71011 2018-07-04
They're gaslighting men into thinking they're gaslighting women. It's gaslighting all the way down.
1 wiking85 2018-07-04
How deep does this go?!
1 CompetitiveLoiterer 2018-07-04
gaslighting is non-falsifiable yet places the burden of proof on the accused. Like a lite version of rape accusations.
1 Awayfone 2018-07-04
Interesting they seem to have different priorities to household chores. I wonder what kind of impact "mess causes anxiety" vs "it will be okay" might have on distribution of who does more chores...
1 rnjbond 2018-07-04
They read the term in an article once and now have to use it daily on the Internet.
1 SecretDragoon 2018-07-04
I'm a proud man who don't need no wo-man.
1 helppls555 2018-07-04
yea there's a word for that already: incel
1 AlohaWarrior34 2018-07-04
Incelcide when?
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-07-04
They take care of that on their own. You don't meet very many old virgins do you?
1 banananutbranmuffin 2018-07-04
I thought it was migtoe
1 COMMUNIST_WARRIOR 2018-07-04
synonyms
1 banananutbranmuffin 2018-07-04
Nahh migtoes are the male equivalent to gender critical women, I actually find them more obnoxious than incels. People like to shit on incels but, many of the mentally ill, ugly, social reject guys probably have never had a girlfriend or anything. Many migtoes have dated shitty women and instead carry on about how their prior shitty relationships represent all women.
1 COMMUNIST_WARRIOR 2018-07-04
no mgtow has ever had sex, they're just crypto-incels
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
lots of them are divorced dudes. i know a dude just like them, cept he doesn't identify with any retarded internet acronyms. basically he had a really shitty marriage, it ended, and now he just talks about how all women suck and relationships are lame, any time the topic of pussy comes up. it's a pretty typical thing.
1 banananutbranmuffin 2018-07-04
Yup I was like that for a while after being cheated on and eventually you just relax and stop caring as much, going through life with hur dur "women are evil" rhetoric is not a healthy way to cope.
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
Could be /r/mgtowwom
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
but they aren't proud, and they need women, they just can't get em.
the true term for a man who has ascended beyond gussy, is a volcel, and it's the greatest state of being. that, or a man who only fucks traps and passable trannies.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
Nah. Mail order brides exist.
1 CulturalYogurt 2018-07-04
Even better, skip an extra step and just fuck the mailman.
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-07-04
That's so stupid, if one works full-time and the other part-time it's absolutely justified to expect the one who works part-time to do more of the household stuff.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-07-04
More yes, but not everything, at least clean your room.
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
Naw I'm working 40-50 hours a week, you're working 20. You can take an extra 10-15 a week to fucking keep the living space clean.
1 d-amazo 2018-07-04
how fucking filthy are you that it takes 10-15 hours a week to clean?
1 ason 2018-07-04
A lot of that is emotional labor, which is the hardest labor of all.
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
Dishes are like 20 minutes, vacuuming 20, trash 5 per day. For my house twice a week back lawn and front lawn take an hour. Once a week flower beds take 30. Add various once in a while chores and it could eat up that much.
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
20 minutes of vacuuming per day?
1 Femicide 2018-07-04
some people live in a whole house and not some shitty apartment, you poorfag. a 2 story house with multiple bathrooms, easily that time or more.
1 BuyMeAnNSX 2018-07-04
They share a room and she's home all day on disability and 'working on a novel'. Do you think she writes at least 8 hours a day monday-friday? I don't.
1 OnePercentOfMonster 2018-07-04
How much time do you think it takes to do household chores? 50 hours a week?
1 parameciidae 2018-07-04
That's basically what the people I saw in the linked post were saying.
1 voicelesshoodwinker 2018-07-04
Surprisingly, I see no problems in a trollx post itself ( i know right).
Nor do I see a problem in saying that the fact of being a sole breadwinner could be used as an excuse for not doing absolutely no housework ever.
Most of other comments though - same basic trollxbullshit.
1 tritter211 2018-07-04
Well, whats appropriate then? If you sit in your house all day, then the house work is your responsibility. Thats the least you could do. Expecting the man to bust his ass all day and then expecting him to do housework when he comes home means.. you are a hypocritical feminist.
you will only have a point if you get a real job.
1 ffbtaw 2018-07-04
Lotta man-hating women out there.
1 dogDroolsCatsRules 2018-07-04
Fucking poorfags are infesting reddit. It's the housecleaner that take care of the house, not your wife for fuck sake.
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-04
Daddy got upset and cut them off.
1 mcslibbin 2018-07-04
I am not wealthy but i do pay people to clean my house because I'm a single man and a piece of shit.
And daddy's policies are seriously making it hard to find someone affordable. My last house cleaner was a fucking mayo
1 PM_ME_UR_FIGURINES 2018-07-04
See. That’s the whole point. You don’t need a cleaning lady. You need a financially dependent woman to do it for you and tell you what a loser you are from time to time when she resentfully let’s you stick it in her once a month.
1 mcslibbin 2018-07-04
Haha you joke but this is what heterosexuals actually believe
1 Femicide 2018-07-04
imagine still being a hetero in 2018 while knowing that sexuality is fluid and bussy exists.
1 mcslibbin 2018-07-04
no thank you
1 movielover2018 2018-07-04
Daddy keeps fucking them so Mommy doesn't allow them any more
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
👆👆👆
1 Pepperglue 2018-07-04
When you stay at home most of the time, while the other one busts his ass out there, earning a living, you better be doing most of the chores. Sure you can have him do the easy ones like washing dishes and stuff, but it is not fair to expect him to mow the lawn after he's back from work.
Sure. He only gets two days off while you stay at home 7 days. Teamwork.
u/starshine8316, get off your high horse. Talk it out before the couple starts living together so nobody gets to bitch at each other when dishes aren't getting cleaned.
Do people really need to be guided to know how to handle responsibilities? Maybe it's time to bring arranged marriage into this country.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Um if you read, he's getting a government grant and so is she. They both equally go to school. So outside of him getting a larger amount of money, they are essentially on a level playing field in terms of "work." She also said that they did agree to do 50/50 share of chores and he isn't holding up his end of the bargain. So moving along.
I am advocating for the partner who is at home doing a majority/ larger percentage of the household work. I didn't specify exactly what that should be. I think it's reasonable to expect a clean home when you arrive home from work. I wasn't saying otherwise. But if the breadwinner is being lazy and can't get their socks in the hamper or throw away their wrappers, or basic cleaning up after yourself, yeah that's a shitty way to treat your partner. And I'm the bread winner at the moment BTW. So I've been the selfish asshole in the past and I am speaking from experience here. You're not fucking opponents in some gender war, you're a team, a partnership, and you do your best to limit resentment in your partner. Two adults picking up the slack for each other because we're both adults contributing to the successful running of the household. I don't expect my hubs to be on the clock every damned second, cuz I bring home the money right now. I don't think a man should expect that if his woman in the reverse. Yeah pitch in a little on the weekends. You feel proud that you're taking care of your home too.
Lastly, She also has mentioned a disability that he doesn't have. So yeah, her partner should feel a bit motivated to help her where he can on the more difficult tasks. Duh!
And arranged marriage has proven successful in limited examples, with cultures that practice that and have loving families who want the best for them. But very few and far between, I'd say. But sir, I suspect you aren't very concerned for the welfare of the individuals you'd assign to an arranged marriage. I don't think I'd trust your judgement in that scenario I must confess.
So tipping my hat to you whilst on my Clydesdale. How's the weather down there?
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
Why are horse girls always insufferable?
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Well if you know of a taller horse then by all means suggest one. Just playing off the high horse comment. Not really a horse girl either. That was the tallest one that came to mind.
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
I didn't read anything you wrote except the horse thing. My life's goal is eliminate all the horse girls. It's an important step towards Mayocide.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Oh I wouldn't fret about that too much. White people are breeding themselves out of existence in short order. Give it a few generations of inter-racial coupling, as the ease of world travel increases. Ha, but that means every group will be mixed too. Frikkin Yay! As my 1/2 Asian 1/2 white hubs says, "mutts are usually the smartest and the best!" He's biased of course, but I think he's an awesome example of the smartest and the best. So yeah... ☺️
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
Sorry. We go by the one drop theory here.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
I'm gobsmacked, I got nuthin.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
https://youtu.be/vWJphD0sg1I
The point I want to make with Bill Burr is at 2:50 in. Gotta hang out with everybody.
1 LightUmbra 2018-07-04
Use something like this to make a link skip to a videom
?t=1m16s
1 WO_Schrodinger 2018-07-04
yuck
1 GreatTelephone 2018-07-04
Holy shit. Hapas really do never win. Was /u/eurasiantiger right after all?
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Actually, I've got an exciting opportunity for your husband, tell him he needs to go browse /r/hapas and /r/asianmasculinity in order to understand his place in the world.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Nah outside of his mutt philosophy he doesn't really put stock into his heritage on either side. He settles himself as simply American. Calls people out when appropriate. Doesn't go along with any narrative that people attempt to thrust upon him.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
All the more reason for him to read /r/hapas he's cleary a victim of internalized racism.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Oh my. I giggled at this one! Yeah he's scarily well versed on all these issues. He's actually more of the school of thought that he thinks it foolish to take pride in any race association as it's not something you had control over. Similar to saying something like I'm proud to be bi-pedal. LOL Additionally he hasn't internalized the racism so much as he feels he's in a much better position than those of a single race. He's better off as he has an unique and aerial view that others don't have.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
I think its sad that you encourage the erasure of his culture, and continued racism directed towards people of color. This is exactly the kind of thing the asian maculinity community was created to combat, and he needs to be exposed to it.
They would, first of all, explain to him that he is clearly in an abusive relationship and needs to get out now.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
You know, you must be right, I'm just a white devil woman brainwashing him with my magical vagina!
No but really he's been reading this whole thread. He's laughing with me right now, and I'm showing him that subreddit now. I'll update on his response to it.
Ha! Me changing that mans mind on ANYTHING. Ha! You're too much!
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Ouch, that really hits in the feels. I've never seen guys do this, but really lonely women defending themselves on the internet invent fake spouses/boyfriends and claim they're "just over their shoulder". Bleh, I'm depressed now. You don't have to lie to us here you know that right? I was suspicious before, but that statement kind of confirmed it for me.
If there's one iron law of the internet its when someone says they're laughing at something, it actually means they're seething with anger.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Whatever you need to believe buddy!
I guess I get it. I, or maybe the world in general, doesn't make sense to you if I'm not that single, seething, angry, harpy lying in the internet??? Cuz, what, if my half Asian husband, rejects your ideas on how he should internalize his view of himself, he can't possibly be real? You need to believe this about me don't you?
Im really not angry I'm quite enjoying this exchange actually.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Your words not mine.
Lol, sweaty, that might as well be written down in a "Guide to internet arguments" under the heading "how to know when they're very upset".
Yes, because incels inventing fictional companions is so, so uncommon.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Oh yeah, I thought it had some good cadence with the flow of adjectives.
You keep telling me I'm upset, but I'm totally smiling and giggling in bed as I type this.
Oh dude, no way, now I'm an incel? This is exactly the comedy I needed tonight love, thank you so much! Heh, you called me an incel.
Oh hey btw, my totally not real, Asian husband is on Reddit now because of this convo! We have one more redditor cuz of you. How awesome is that?
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Are you trying to convince me, or yourself?
Yes, "now" you're an incel, your life choices had nothing to do with it. And there you go again with the unconvincing claims that you're "not angry".
I'm glad he's not real, because I would be majorly upset with you if you actually increased the number of redditors in the world. That shit would be straight up immoral.
1 SparklingWiggles1369 2018-07-04
Can women be incels???
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
To answer your question with a question; is /r/trollxchromosomes a thing?
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Oh hey on a more serious note, I really haven't encouraged any erasure of culture. His momma and I have had long talks about her heritage and what she wants to make sure our children know about their cultural roots. She is very serious and takes pride in her roots. She's shared her experiences with racism and overcoming the odds with emigrating from her home country, learning English and making a success of herself despite it all. Bad ass lady too, I've learned a lot from her. We've talked about what she hopes I will incorporate into my mothering style, where she thinks American culture gets it wrong. It's been enlightening and quite welcome to get her perspective. She's taught me so much from Cooking tradition dishes to cultural folklore, native language. It's been great! Truly. So you know with all the banter below, make know mistake, I love every part of my husband and it's precisely his unique experience that has made him the man I love and respect.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Woah, you're flooding my inbox here, calm down a bit!
This is more than I need to know about your fantasy life.
Remember, if your children get Bs in school, burn their most treasured stuffed animal. That's super important in asian culture.
Jesus Christ lady, can you stay away from appropriating the culture of asian people in your sick fantasies? Are you so bereft of imagination you have to consume another culture? That's offensive. These things that are so "cool" to you are things that PoC faced discrimination for, and they don't need your basic-becky bitch ass yapping about how "multicural" you are on facebook.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Okay I'll bite. I am angry at what you've said now. You've insinuated that I'm an cultural appropriating virtue signaling and racist incel. I'm not any of those things. I particularly take issue with the virtue signaling, culturally appropriating racist bit.
Everything I've told you was in earnest and the truth! I don't know if you're just having a bad night, but dammit if you don't come off as a judgmental gatekeeping asshole!
Yeah I am familiar with Asian parenting stereotypes. That wasn't what I was referring to. Are you saying My MIL isn't allowed to recognize the differences in American parenting vs how her parents raised her? Yeah she has a vested interest in how her grandchildren are raised and influenced. So in the course of our relationship she has voiced her concerns. As you aware that in my culture we value this? We parent like this? You can do it this way? And I've taken that to heart and given her the respect she's due.
And your last paragraph of vitriol. No I don't think her experiences being discriminated against are cool. The fact that she would trust me enough to share her painful experiences and love for her heritage is a wonderful thing. I am cognizant of and recognize that because I am white in America I have not been on the receiving end of racism. I will always have a myopia to what that is like. I do understand my limitations and shortcomings. Here's where I am coming from. Why she chose to trust me and not keep me at arms length. I'm adopted which allowed me a modicum of empathy to some of her experiences that I wouldn't otherwise have had. When I was adopted it was seen as a shameful thing that I should hide about myself. My parents told me to never tell anyone. It was viewed that adopting someone's bastard child was a shameful thing. But inevitably people saw that I looked different and asked me if I was the milkman's kid. I heard adults wondering if I was the product of an affair. I eventually told people I was adopted to stop that noise, but it got worse. My schoolmates would look at me with disdain and call me a bastard ew! When I tried to explain that no, my parents were married when they adopted me, they said "well you started out as a throw away trash baby." Ouch. I always had to fight to be seen as a person, worthy of dignity and respect. To not be seen as less than because of something I had no control over. "She's adopted, but it's okay she's just like us." Was a mild example. Then there was a lack of information about my birth family and heritage. "If you're not your parents REAL child then what are you, where do you come from?" Fuck all of I know, and I am their REAL child. I watched my sibling be told by my parents about how they look like this family member and there goes the Sicilian/Irish temper. But God love em, They had none of these answers for me. Multicultural week at school was hell cuz we always had todo A family tree project and I was told by my peers that I was a liar cuz I put my adopted family's info. I don't know my birth family I don't know. I hated that assignment. So I floated in this sea of ambiguity not knowing where I fit, who I belonged to, who I looked like, trying to forge an identity. When I finally did meet my birth family and found out who's laugh I shared and my feet aren't weird their just like my great aunt's. That both sides of my family each predominantly came from their own European country. I belonged somewhere finally. I finally started to feel whole, like a jig saw puzzle being put together. I wanted to learn how we'd came to America. Do we have any cultural traditions we've kept? What are they. Hey what is that what town does it come from? Can you share the family recipe for that? Fast forward a few years and I marry into a family that is a different culture than the one I've been newly minted into. I had questions. It was important to me to understand as much as I could. I wanted my children to have all the answers I didn't have growing up. My MIL got to know me and saw my interest as genuine. I wasn't looking at her as some novelty of entertainment. I truly was trying to connect with her. And there was this mild form of connection with being taken seriously as a person and not being dismissed for something you couldn't help. She had it worse, more than I could ever know, so I am not putting myself on the same level at all. But my experiences helped me to understand in a small way. That helped us to connect.
So I've said everything to you in earnest. I love my husbands family dearly. I do the best with what I have, and I have many shortcomings. But I am not the person you have painted me as.
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
tl;dr
How immature are you to get this angry over internet comments? I hope you calm down, becky, and don't do something stupid like get a chinese character tattoo you think means "peace" but actually says "hooker".
1 Hammer_of_truthiness 2018-07-04
A drop of mayo spoils the sandwich kiddo.
We here advocate for a hard mayocide, ya feel?
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
based
1 Thulean-Dragon 2018-07-04
Elliot Roger 2.0 coming up.
Lemme guess, he posts on /r/aznidentity while you post on trollX yeah?
1 Pepperglue 2018-07-04
I was only replying to this part:
Which is a response to this one:
If the guy works full time, wife do most of the chores, and vice versa.
The college part only comes up in the following comment, after the one I was replying to, which is completely irrelevant to my point.
Regarding that college stuff, I would just say dump the man if it really bothers you that much. Having anxiety over dishes is just dumb.
Must I really put /s at the end of that sentence?
1 X69PU55YD3STR0Y3R69X 2018-07-04
Typical rich white femanist. And you wonder why people of color, especially male PoC dislike femanism.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
I was completely being cheeky. But exactly what do you mean when you say "feminism."
I'm all for the battles fought by 1st wave and 2nd wave feminism. Without their work I wouldn't be able to support my family in the interim of my hubs looking for a new job. And I like living under a roof and having clothes on my back and food in my belly.
In regards to today's 3rd wave feminism, where it's more of a fainting couch sort of feminism and women don't want equality but rather the feeling smacks of wanting their turn to oppress the male gender. No I'm not a proponent of that philosophy at all. I love the men in my family and I don't advocate for discrimination against them either.
Can you be more specific in your disdain?
In regards to my race, not much can be done in that arena. And I'm not all that well off by American standards but very thankful for what I do have.
1 Thulean-Dragon 2018-07-04
Didn't expect that.
You don't belong on trollX to be honest, they'd probably bitch you out if you said that over there.
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Duly noted. Thank you. :)
1 tfdidido 2018-07-04
This should be such an easy thing
If he works 50h and she works 20h, is completely reasonable to expect her to work 15 or whatever hours in the house without him moving a finger
If they were both working the same amount of hours then is completely reasonable to expect things to be 50/50 in home
Otherwise, if one partner does more average work than the other is not a marriage, is care work
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
ssgshhshs
1 King-Achelexus 2018-07-04
Counterpoint: nobody in that subreddit will ever have a boyfriend/husband.
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-07-04
I could get more bussy than any girl there
1 OniTan 2018-07-04
Yeah but the guys at the glory hole won't let you live with them.
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-07-04
:(
1 tritter211 2018-07-04
Woke feminist women on reddit is like the male version of neckbeards of reddit.
So chances are, your counterpoint is mostly true.
1 Thulean-Dragon 2018-07-04
TrollX are literally female incels.
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
It's true. Didn't one of them literally admit it?
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
they shouldn't, but i'm sure many do
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
/u/vacuousaptitude
But see, /u/adool999 said "what if" which means it's a supposed scenario. He's not saying anything about his expectations. Why would you misconstrue what he was trying to say?
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
He said what if partner a was working full time. Not "what if" partner b was doing absolutely nothing all day. It's assumed that partner a and partner b will be working. That's the default assumption. Because that statistically the reality in the (I see your right wing weird bullshit about the fact that I mentioned) the current year.
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
Thank you for reiterating the painfully obvious
damn you're dense af. He's asking for opinions in a scenario where a guy is working full time and the woman a housewife. Doesn't mean she's doesn't have her own chores.
😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏😂👏
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
So because it's painfully obvious your post was pointless? My criticising a person because they made the assumption that the female partner wasn't working is something you agree with?
And yeah you definitely seem like you'd wear a maga cap to a political rally.
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
That never happened. See, you're assuming that he made that assumption. That's why I'm saying you're misconstruing his words (most probably, deliberately)
uh no sweaty. That's now how "words" work. This isn't some pretentious prose by a drunktard in a cabin.
https://i.imgur.com/aks7kxV.png
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
Man I'm working only off of the actual words. He said what if the man works full time? I point out that it's the default, for both partners.
You come in here and say "ho ho we'll have you considered that mayyyyybe be meant 😹😹😹 that the woman was not working at all xD!!!!" Now you're standing here and telling that I'm the one making things up? That's bloody priceless.
And btw I did click to your profile, didn't have to scroll down to see you using racial slurs. Fuck off back to the sole of your dog emperor's boots. I hear they got a bit dirty, if you don't hurry you'll have to compete with all the other little good boys trying to lick them clean. And you don't wanna do that, it'd be gay!
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
same
It's ok sweaty, this explains everything, including the delusions lol.
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
https://youtu.be/A1wB9kZ2dnA
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
you deserve rape
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
Calm down, edgelord.
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
You are morally and physically incapable of criticizing anyone's post quality
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
Le rape tee hee Xd
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
Fetal alcohol syndrome tee hee
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
You're painfully unfunny and 24/7 mad and you doubling down on your cringe is making this worse tbh 😂
1 yourdeadwife 2018-07-04
Response
1 WO_Schrodinger 2018-07-04
day of the rope when
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
Violation of Reddit rules waddup boi
1 WO_Schrodinger 2018-07-04
pardon?
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
Threatening physical violence, "day of the rope when" referencing the lovely hate novel from the 70s when all the "differents" get hanged, and asking when it's going to happen, is a strict violation of the sitewide rules of Reddit :)
They actually very recently reclarified the rules regarding advocating, endorsing, or glorifying violence of any kind! Your comment is squarely on the other side baby.
1 WO_Schrodinger 2018-07-04
Ok, you do realize what sub this is in? Like, the mayocide is advocated for every day here, this place is a massive pisstake. I have seen far worse that didn't result in someone getting this gussyblasted.
A very vague statement that in and of itself does not mean anything, and that became a popular meme is not really grounds for "threatening physical violence". If such things upset you this much, turn around and run, because it only gets worse here lol.
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
"day of the rope" is just referring to our support for a designated day where the hard workers at rope factories could be recognized for their efforts
1 COMMUNIST_WARRIOR 2018-07-04
Reddit law*
1 LickMyElbowItsACOCK 2018-07-04
this is the part where I call you a fag but get assblasted when it happens to me somewhere down the line and someone calls me a fag.
but you're actually a fag because we're just taking the piss and you're gay.
1 throwawayaccount_34 2018-07-04
Anyone else championing an Edocide?
HWNDU
1 aqouta 2018-07-04
woah ed, I can't handle how right wing you've been lately, mommy bucks late?
1 adool999 2018-07-04
Really? I assumed it's implied. Yeah no shit the house work is split if both work the same hours.
1 Awayfone 2018-07-04
I'd it assume work same hours?
Men on average work more than women. That one reason there is a wage gap
1 vacuousaptitude 2018-07-04
Women work more hours than men in every survey and study conducted in all but a few countries, when you count paid and unpaid work.
If someone works half an hour less per day than you that's not a reason for them to do the bulk of the housework that's patently absurd
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
Sitting on your ass and writing novels all day doesn't count.
Good thing nobody said that, then. Strawman, anyone? If someone works 40 hours a week and their partner only works 10, then the partner can easily take 10 hours out of the week to keep the fucking house clean. It's not that hard.
1 Awayfone 2018-07-04
Unpaid work? Who is suppose to pay you for living your life
But let's assume unpaid work is not fantasy, on average men still work more total hours. Average might have men doing less non work related labour but the gap in actual work done is large enough to overtake it
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
Not everyone who disagrees with you us "right wing" you mongoloid. Ed is left-wing, and shits on Trump and his supporters more than literally anyone else here. You're just so far left that you think everyone else is extreme-right. It's always an interesting phenomenon. T_D users call us "cucked libtards" instead.
1 sixty_nine_69 2018-07-04
I've spent significant time in South America, I even had a semi serious relationship with a girl while I was in Colombia. I'm still close with her but if called her a latinx instead of a latina she would certainly cut off all ties with me because it's retarded.
1 newcomer_ts 2018-07-04
Why breathe?
1 Ed_ButteredToast 2018-07-04
r/2meirl4meirl
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
i'll hold the pillow over your head if you need help to not breath baby
1 Kumdogmillionaire 2018-07-04
Low hanging fruit. The legbeards at trollX are all a bunch of mongoloid retards
1 SageKnows 2018-07-04
I tried to comment but then I realized I was banned for trying to reply to the same thread some months ago.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
u/perfruit_mix
You think someone having no income or job is pertinent to who does housework when compared to someone else making all the money and going out to work?
I honestly don't know how millennial legbeards reached this point.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
Well, dumbass, there was nothing about the post that implies the woman doesn't have a job. You've inserted that information yourself because you assume the woman in the scenario doesn't work. While that might have been mostly true sixty years ago, most homes today are dual income.
And why the fuck wouldn't you split the work with your spouse? She's not your goddamn maid,
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
You replied to a hypothetical saying why does it matter.
If she isn't a maid, then the guy isn't your free ATM.
You do realize shit isn't free right? And that work takes up time as well? You know these things, correct?
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
So in your made up scenario in your head where you're somehow a victim, the man isn't required to pull his weight around the home because he works?
Everybody works. You're not special, you fucking incel. Get over it.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-07-04
Well, dumbass, there was nothing about the comment that implies the man doesn't do housework. You've inserted that information yourself because you assume the man in the scenario doesn't work. While that might have been true literally never, most homes today are dual income.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
It's literally a comment about "what if" as in its staying "he doesn't do any housework because he works all day," you dumb shit.
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-07-04
>Re-reads comments
>still no idea where you think you've read this
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
I was linked here by some dumb fuck who obviously didn't fully grasp what the comments were about.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrollXChromosomes/comments/8w0ike/found_this_on_facebook_damn_straight/e1s2fkk
If you read through those comments and compare them to the title of this thread, you can clearly see that the people who take umbrage with the situation as described here didn't read the original comments. It's a bunch of "victims" in here getting butt hurt that they should be expected to do equal work around the home and how that expectation is malicious. Most of the people in the original tread are describing their personal situations and how they were expected to carry out the household chores by virtue of their gender.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
Do you understand how hypothetical situations work? Everyone doesn't work. There are actually people that are married and don't work. I know some of these people personally.
I am not an incel, but I am glad that term totally isn't going to be used for "people that don't agree with me" and apparently u/Pizzashill is right again on that front.
In a situation where only one spouse works or at least is the only full time worker, how should household chores be resolved?
1 movielover2018 2018-07-04
Lol your entire sub is full of victim mentality ridden bitches
1 officerkondo 2018-07-04
Not my wife. She makes $0 per hour. Good thing she married a man who paid attention to his education so he can support a family of four on a single income.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
I bet you're one of those "not all men" idiots because you miss the fucking point nine times out of ten willfully or you're just that dumb.
1 officerkondo 2018-07-04
You have nothing of value to wager in the first place.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-04
Thank God you came with a vagina that can manage to support the worthless creature attached to it.
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
Households where the wife stays home and the husband works are vastly more common than the opposite.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
you can literally google for this information, dipshit:
https://www.bls.gov/news.release/famee.t05.htm
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
And that data supports my statement.
Lol what's your point here?
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
WITH OWN CHILDREN UNDER 18 YEARS/married, spouse present - employment population ratio: (men) 91.3 (women) 66.7
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
So... it's more likely that the father is the sole breadwinner than the mother.
Thanks for pointing out where I'm right.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
it's easier to gaslight when shit you typed isn't readily available, you dumb shit.
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
I literally don't know what you're trying to argue here.
I said that households where the husband works and the wife doesn't are more common than households where the wife works and the husband doesn't.
You then got really angry and posted proof that I was right.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
directly from the labor report:
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
Oh, I get it. You're just too dumb to realize what the word "opposite" means.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
that 61.9 figure is the opposite in your sentence.
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
No the opposite is where the wife works and husband stays home, but you apparently can't wrap that concept around your small head.
I'd also be interested to see better stats that take part time employment into account, since I'd bet that the numbers would be much more skewed.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
your statement is predicated on a contrarian argument that a single household income is more common than dual incomes.
1 im-a-koala 2018-07-04
It's not, but thanks for misreading my comment and then sperging out about it.
1 perfruit_mix 2018-07-04
you literally commented to a comment about everybody working.
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
You're literally proving his argument right.
1 womp____womp 2018-07-04
lmao
1 mcslibbin 2018-07-04
I think you know it's fewer
1 motherjoad 2018-07-04
My husband doesn’t do any cleaning or cooking and I stay home. I basically clean the house like 2 hours every day and then sit on my ass/parent. It’s not hard.
1 Thulean-Dragon 2018-07-04
We're dealing with a pack of lazy, entitled cunts that think it's the Victorian Era and daily chores take 9 hours.
1 HumptyDumptysBalls 2018-07-04
Idiots still think it's 1900 where chores take 9 hours a day.
You don't even have to vacuum anymore because automatic robots do it.
How the fuck can you be home all day and not be able to cook and clean? It's literally an hour a day of work.
1 Thulean-Dragon 2018-07-04
But what about muh emoshunul labour?
1 Feanorfanclub 2018-07-04
Everyone please post your favorite thinking emoji gifs. This is mine.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
/u/bubbline
"my boyfriend pays all the rent but expects me to do more housework"
oh my god, what a shit lord, you go find yourself a better paypig sweety.
1 Bubbline 2018-07-04
Neither of us have jobs. He gets 5x as much financial aid as I do. When it gets dispersed I deposit my entire check for the year into an account that goes towards rent, utilities, and groceries. I have 0 spending money. I can’t work because I have cancer. But thanks for caring :)
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
ah man , the first time i ever actually pinged someone to make fun of them and you make me feel bad cause you have cancer. sorry =[
1 Bubbline 2018-07-04
Everyone is going through something. That’s why you don’t go around saying mean shit about strangers...sweety.
1 Awayfone 2018-07-04
Hie fors your check go to rent if he pays all of it?
1 Bubbline 2018-07-04
If you split it up over 12 months, I technically pay 8% of the rent each month. It was just easier to say that way.
1 NortromTheSilencer 2018-07-04
So he makes 5 times as much and pays 9x as much rent? Do some chores
1 Bubbline 2018-07-04
I do 90% of the chores.
1 AtomicWolf425 2018-07-04
You should. That's fair.
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
sending good vibes, thots, and prayers
1 AtomicWolf425 2018-07-04
I agree. Entitlement is cancer.
1 Bubbline 2018-07-04
so is actual cancer
1 Keith_Moonpie 2018-07-04
you can post on reddit you can work
1 starshine8316 2018-07-04
Lol my apologies, I stand corrected.
1 shallowm 2018-07-04
Did you mean to reply to another comment?
1 SuperObviousShill 2018-07-04
Funny how many of the posters in this thread seem to have the "literally can't even"s when it comes to work.
And now they've just descended into self parody. /u/lils1971 I can't tell the difference between you and someone trying to make fun of the average teenager giving advice on /r/relationships.
Gaslighting is when you use subtle, incremental changes that you deny occurring to undermine someone's credibility and make them doubt themselves. Being huffy over dishes doesn't count.
1 Sasukefan99 2018-07-04
Is it just me or do all lazy leeches have a disability now?
I swear I have never seen this many people cry "muh disability" until 2018
1 QueenOfTheIncels 2018-07-04
No shit! I'm really doubting this person is in a wheelchair or has some physical ailment that prevents her from doing basic housework.
If he's paying the rent, he's damn right she should be doing the chores.
But to be honest, the spineless dudes who hang onto these broads are worse than the broads themselves.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-04
for many dudes relationship pussy is the only pussy they ever get, so they cling onto whatever girl will take them and put up with it.
1 Kuonji 2018-07-04
lol...what?!
1 rnjbond 2018-07-04
I love when people use gaslighting to sound smart and use it so incorrectly
1 kermit_was_right 2018-07-04
I have to say, the discussion under this particular comment is pretty reasonable. The rest of the post has some doozies though.
1 cuteman 2018-07-04
Top comment
More like your sedentary life style, poor diet and reading Facebook until 1am so you get 5 hours of sleep a night probably doesnt help.
1 morerokk 2018-07-04
Yes. And you know damn well that if the woman was the breadwinner, you TrollX'ers would demand that the man does all the chores.
But who am I kidding, I'm talking to a literal female incel. Go scream at people on the autism spectrum some more, TrollX seems to love that.