Becuase women on r/OkCupid are basically femcels anyway. Think about it, why are you on a dating app subreddit? For most of them, it's for advice because they just can't seem to find a good match. (Read: they aren't getting any matches)
That's one of the saddest most bitter subreddits I've been around.
they must be supremely ugly. girls that are a 4/10 and above get more messages than any human could possibly reply to, even if they had no job or no life outside of the dating app. imagine how sub humanely ugly they must look to actually need "advice".
Almost gives the impression that he doesn't have many friends if he thinks that this is something only women do.
If one of my friends starts talking to a girl that I knew from high school or college then he'll definitely be questioning me about what kind of person she is. I went to college close to my hometown so a bunch of girls I went to high school with were there. My friends that weren't from the area would always ask me which ones were worth pursuing.
TL;DR - play it safe, be a man and don't be effeminately open with feelings and make the mistake I made. I know society tries to encourage that and tell you it's okay but it really is detrimental to your dating success
1) He's totally right.
2) It's hysterical how he's getting dogpiled in the comments.
3) Sorta expected because look at who the target audience is? If they understood how date people they wouldn't be on a reddit forum for OkCupid.
Women want men to open up about their feelings, until they do. One of those things that sounds good to them in theory, then in practice they nope the fuck out, or want to tell you why your feelings are wrong, or why your feelings on the situation are hurting their feelings.
Well yeah, but first dates are not really the place to say “ohhh I was a totally loser in HS, hope you don’t mind that” imho. First of all, who gives a shit? Apparently the girl here does, which honestly says way more about her than about him.
Honestly what most likely happened is that, since they went to the same HS she asked around about the guy and got some bad news or something. Maybe he was a loser but honestly it ends up making you the biggest loser if you still care about that shit in your 30s, so maybe something worse happened. There’s always two sides to an story.
What I find remarkable though, like everyone else here is saying, is that everyone is dog piling on the guy. But it’s a dating sub on leddit. Of course the guy is wrong.
Yeah, either OP was that super weird kid rocking anime pins with trench coats and fox ears or was an absolute whiny bitch when talking about HS times. Probably a mix of both.
Lol. I just randomly dropped that comment while we were playing the game of throwing out names of people who know who the other might know, and sure enough we found a lot of common ones. It really was more my way of saying I'm not close with them, because I actually did suspect she would ask them about me.
I didn't say it during a date. It was during a text conversation where it was relevant to the subject and we were playing hometown geography. And you're probably right that that's what happened, but I really made that comment as a way of saying "I'm probably not close with anyone you know, but I know who they are". Probably should have phrased it that way.
Women want men to open up about their feelings, until they do
What they want is stereotypical gruff dude, but to be the one that he opens up to, because they're so special.
It works the same way with being an asshole. Why do girls always date guys who act like jerks? It's because of the gap between how we treat other people and how we are "so sweet" to them. They find that attractive, like weeaboos and their tsundere waifus.
Tsunderes are typically nice to everyone but the person they like (unless male), or are the hardest on the person they like. The appeal of a tsundere is the massive amounts of raw sexual frustration be directed towards you and a near abusive punishment/reward system.
The problem with men opening up about their feelings is that sometimes they feel women are flawed, both are individuals and as group. While it's understandable that they respond negatively to criticism, I'm not sure what else they were expecting.
Of course he's right. The opening stages of a relationship are a terrible time to open up. You lead off with your best stuff. You make yourself out to be the best version of yourself. It's not till phase 2 that you start slipping in how fucked up you actually are.
And you don't do it all at once. That shit is terrifying. It's like coming home to that new cute puppy that you got 2 weeks ago and finding out it murdered your cat, shit in your shoes, and sold drugs to the neighbor kid down the block. You slip your crazy in slowly. Like testing the water with your toes.
Now when phase 3 of the relationship hits, that's when you really open up about the uncle that made you watch Monty Python while fingerblasting his saint bernard. But only in phase 3 is this safe. Phase 4 is when you start moving in together and you don't want to wait till then because at that point you're right back to the crack dealing puppy scenario.
i told the last two girls i went on dates with that i was picked on and a total social recluse in high school. the first one ended up fucking me a week later, i dumped her because she got too clingy and weird. the second one still messages me right now.
i really think it doesn't matter, i do and say whatever i want tbh. though the second girl also related to me because she also was picked on in high school and massively grew up with social anxiety. the one before her however was always popular and seemed super outgoing.
A meme I hear on a lot of my online dates is the "vulnerability" is attractive. But they really mean that in the same way that an interviewer means the question, "what is your greatest weakness." You're not supposed to give a real answer that makes you look weak, like I was bullied when I was a kid, you're supposed to give a fake sense of vulnerability like you have some dark lurking demon and she's supposed to dig down and figure you out over time. "You're hard to read" is the most common thing I hear before she offers up the gussy.
I was expecting this to be another bullshit sorry as usual but after reading /u/sexy_in_the_privates other comments in the thread it seems believable. But the real reason clearly was her friends told her he was a giant shitheel not just unpopular.
Do you think that the point of dating is to push all the right buttons until the woman does what you want
Dating? No. Asking someone out to a first date? Yeah, that's mostly about tricking them into thinking you're the kind of person worth the effort of getting to know.
Rather than call him a cretin, perhaps you could enlighten him with your wondrous philosophy on relationships. After all, to be that dogmatic about this must mean you actual l have a dogma about it right?
If you or anyone you know are struggling, please, PLEASE reach out for help. You are worthy, you are loved and you will always be able to find assistance.
Please speak to a family member, close friend or doctor. If you want to speak with someone anonymously please find prevention hotlines below:
No, we do not like men who are open about their feelings and emotional. We don't like weak and feminine men, we like strong ones that are stoic. Stop acting like a little bitch, that's my job :)
bitch, if a man was 6'4, had a chad jaw and big lean muscular build, you woudln't give a fuck if he was bullied in high school, you'd swoon over how it's so cool that he is able to be open with his loser feelings and be vulnerable.
No, he would be hot but he would be hotter if he was masculine. Its like a super hot woman with big tits can be a massive asshole to evwryone and still get guys.
i guess i have different experiences. i never used dating advice from any where, but almost any time i ever dated a girl it directly contradicts this whole "men have to be masculine" shit. first girl i ever dated i told her her awkward vulnerabilities and shit about me, i think i even cried. she said something like how awesome she thought it was that i opened up to her.
i tell most girls anything about me they ask, and for context, i was a loser in high school too and mostly had no friends, i have social anxiety and act awkward on dates, and has a history of retarded emotional problems.
not a single girl ever dumped me over any of it. one girl i dated recently kept saying it was "cute" how shy i was. it's probably cause i'm tall and have a decent face and work out alot. i assume that it's just only "cute" cause i'm attractive.
never met a woman who needs men to be hyper masculine, then again, maybe i just somehow subconsciously filter out those women, but basically i'm a huge pussy with shyness and girls still like me.
The thought of any man telling a girl he's wanting to impress he was a loser at school is just straight retarded in fairness, anyway men being really open about their feelings is weird anyway grow some balls and get over it, moping around isn't going to help you.
r/OKCupid is a horrible place to get actual dating advice, not sure why anyone would go there willingly. You'll see the same people initially bitch about "uggos" then whine about "toxicity in online dating".
This site is like 98% battling back and forth over dating and courtship.
I will never understand how folks dont just understand. If the other man/woman finds you attractive you are probably in the clear. If the other man/woman does not find you attractive there is nothing you can do to wooooooo them. Usually you can't tell if they find you attractive or not so you have to say hello. After that move the fuck on one way or the other. Its not complex at all its one of the most basic aspects of the universe. STFU.
This actually wasn't on OKcupid, haven't used that in years. It was on a way better dating app.
But back in the day when I used to frequent there, that sub was for general discussion about online dating, even on tinder and the like. /r/tinder isn't really a discussion sub, it's just for posting entertaining conversations.
101 comments
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-07-16
Women are so fucking fragile about males complaining about dating being hard, lmao.
1 CirqueDuFuder 2018-07-16
God forbid women lose their oppression narrative.
1 spookyguy109 2018-07-16
Can't wait for the globohomo gayplex to fall apart and patriarchy to be reestablished.
1 saddertadder 2018-07-16
Uhhhh yeah
1 Jackdom95 2018-07-16
it's because the ones who bitch about it also can't get dates. same reason incels lose their shit whenever a woman implies men sometimes also suck.
1 RealJackAnchor 2018-07-16
Becuase women on r/OkCupid are basically femcels anyway. Think about it, why are you on a dating app subreddit? For most of them, it's for advice because they just can't seem to find a good match. (Read: they aren't getting any matches)
That's one of the saddest most bitter subreddits I've been around.
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-07-16
Their meetup pictures look pretty much how you'd expect them to look
1 Alimentas 2018-07-16
Link?
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
OP here. I've actually been to them and I can confirm this lol
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
they must be supremely ugly. girls that are a 4/10 and above get more messages than any human could possibly reply to, even if they had no job or no life outside of the dating app. imagine how sub humanely ugly they must look to actually need "advice".
1 wont_be_silent 2018-07-16
What are you, gay or something? This is r/Drame - We're MEN here! We never think about anything, ESPECIALLY WOMEN.
In. Out. Repeat if necessary. That's all you need to know about women.
Jesus, what are they teaching kids these days.
1 gnrlysrs 2018-07-16
not just the subreddit, okcupid the app is slim pickins, mostly fat tumblr nerds or emo black girls, meaning mostly mental illness.
1 Awayfone 2018-07-16
There is a reason these fine women are on a subreddit for a dating app
1 Peetrius 2018-07-16
How sad does one have to be to go to a dataing app subreddit on lessons how to socialize?
1 DumNerds 2018-07-16
to be fair guy got shut down once and immediately started cry-typing an essay on Reddit
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
Are we reading the same post? The linked OP is a turbo autist of the highest degree
I guess it's not surprising some people here relate to him
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-07-16
At least I'm not a Knicks fan
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
Uncalled for tbh
1 SAC-Lawn_Gnome 2018-07-16
At least you're not a Mets fan(I hope)
1 reallyrunningnow 2018-07-16
I N S E C U R E
1 SnapshillBot 2018-07-16
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1 UniverseInH 2018-07-16
More like she asked some of their common acquaintances about him and they told him what a pussy he used to be.
1 DoctorFahrenheit 2018-07-16
Tru if you got bullied in highschool you're either a sperg or gay
1 XhotwheelsloverX 2018-07-16
No need to repeat yourself
1 DoctorFahrenheit 2018-07-16
I'm sure some of them are just sluts
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
Making a side comment and then immediately attempting to shift to another subject is pretty much the opposite of "whining".
1 DoctorFahrenheit 2018-07-16
Nah that's definitely whining, though perhaps passive aggressively. That's even more bitch-made behavior tbh
1 -Mopsus- 2018-07-16
Almost gives the impression that he doesn't have many friends if he thinks that this is something only women do.
If one of my friends starts talking to a girl that I knew from high school or college then he'll definitely be questioning me about what kind of person she is. I went to college close to my hometown so a bunch of girls I went to high school with were there. My friends that weren't from the area would always ask me which ones were worth pursuing.
1 HailSanta2512 2018-07-16
Honestly I don't even know who dodged the bullet here but I'm glad we got to hear the shots
1 gyrotur 2018-07-16
Serves him right, should have waited for the AI waifus to arrive like a real man does.
1 __Toradorable__ 2018-07-16
Amen. 2D shall inherit the earth.
1 Peetrius 2018-07-16
Inshallah
1 Whaddaulookinat 2018-07-16
... I have an inkling there's more to this story than either he realises or is informing.
Can't quite put my finger on it though...
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
I can take a screenshot of the conversation where it happened if anyone's interested.
1 ricoue 2018-07-16
One anecdotal experience = /= universal truth.
1 BobosReturn 2018-07-16
I was on that dudes side until I read more of his comments, she dodged a bullet
1 VidiotGamer 2018-07-16
1) He's totally right.
2) It's hysterical how he's getting dogpiled in the comments.
3) Sorta expected because look at who the target audience is? If they understood how date people they wouldn't be on a reddit forum for OkCupid.
1 Mikeavelli 2018-07-16
Ironically, he's getting dogpiled for opening up about his feelings on the topic.
1 nybbas 2018-07-16
Women want men to open up about their feelings, until they do. One of those things that sounds good to them in theory, then in practice they nope the fuck out, or want to tell you why your feelings are wrong, or why your feelings on the situation are hurting their feelings.
1 the_popcorn_pisser 2018-07-16
Well yeah, but first dates are not really the place to say “ohhh I was a totally loser in HS, hope you don’t mind that” imho. First of all, who gives a shit? Apparently the girl here does, which honestly says way more about her than about him.
Honestly what most likely happened is that, since they went to the same HS she asked around about the guy and got some bad news or something. Maybe he was a loser but honestly it ends up making you the biggest loser if you still care about that shit in your 30s, so maybe something worse happened. There’s always two sides to an story.
What I find remarkable though, like everyone else here is saying, is that everyone is dog piling on the guy. But it’s a dating sub on leddit. Of course the guy is wrong.
1 nybbas 2018-07-16
For sure.
1 nyekks 2018-07-16
depends how you say it. 100% he said it in a way that implied he was still that same loser.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
has to be more to why she rejected him. no sane girl i ever met remotely gave a flying fuck that i was picked on in high school and hated it.
1 die_rattin 2018-07-16
I found it, I found the problem
1 DrRockzosCocaine 2018-07-16
Yeah, either OP was that super weird kid rocking anime pins with trench coats and fox ears or was an absolute whiny bitch when talking about HS times. Probably a mix of both.
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
Lol. I just randomly dropped that comment while we were playing the game of throwing out names of people who know who the other might know, and sure enough we found a lot of common ones. It really was more my way of saying I'm not close with them, because I actually did suspect she would ask them about me.
1 grep_var_log 2018-07-16
I'm going to hazard a guess he was in the Trenchcoat Mafia.
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
The quote is in the post is literally how I said it.
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
Hi there.
I didn't say it during a date. It was during a text conversation where it was relevant to the subject and we were playing hometown geography. And you're probably right that that's what happened, but I really made that comment as a way of saying "I'm probably not close with anyone you know, but I know who they are". Probably should have phrased it that way.
1 the_popcorn_pisser 2018-07-16
Eh don’t sweat it, you probably dodged a bullet there to be honest.
1 VidiotGamer 2018-07-16
What they want is stereotypical gruff dude, but to be the one that he opens up to, because they're so special.
It works the same way with being an asshole. Why do girls always date guys who act like jerks? It's because of the gap between how we treat other people and how we are "so sweet" to them. They find that attractive, like weeaboos and their tsundere waifus.
1 Nopepole 2018-07-16
FAKE NEWS
Tsunderes are typically nice to everyone but the person they like (unless male), or are the hardest on the person they like. The appeal of a tsundere is the massive amounts of raw sexual frustration be directed towards you and a near abusive punishment/reward system.
1 gnrlysrs 2018-07-16
If I shed a single tear reminiscing about a dead friend, my gf is ready to do anything to make me feel better.
But if I was blubbering about it, I'm sure it would make her a little uncomfortable.
Women want men to have emotions, but it has to fall within a certain range that still turns them on.
1 gederman 2018-07-16
The problem with men opening up about their feelings is that sometimes they feel women are flawed, both are individuals and as group. While it's understandable that they respond negatively to criticism, I'm not sure what else they were expecting.
1 odintal 2018-07-16
Of course he's right. The opening stages of a relationship are a terrible time to open up. You lead off with your best stuff. You make yourself out to be the best version of yourself. It's not till phase 2 that you start slipping in how fucked up you actually are.
And you don't do it all at once. That shit is terrifying. It's like coming home to that new cute puppy that you got 2 weeks ago and finding out it murdered your cat, shit in your shoes, and sold drugs to the neighbor kid down the block. You slip your crazy in slowly. Like testing the water with your toes.
Now when phase 3 of the relationship hits, that's when you really open up about the uncle that made you watch Monty Python while fingerblasting his saint bernard. But only in phase 3 is this safe. Phase 4 is when you start moving in together and you don't want to wait till then because at that point you're right back to the crack dealing puppy scenario.
1 DumNerds 2018-07-16
boi got rejected once and typed an entire essay on Reddit, you’re saying you wanna hold any conversations with this guy?
1 nomad1c 2018-07-16
nah man, that was debunked by that landwhale who's husband cried on their third date
(ignore the fact that she's still on a dating site to fuck other dudes)
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
i told the last two girls i went on dates with that i was picked on and a total social recluse in high school. the first one ended up fucking me a week later, i dumped her because she got too clingy and weird. the second one still messages me right now.
i really think it doesn't matter, i do and say whatever i want tbh. though the second girl also related to me because she also was picked on in high school and massively grew up with social anxiety. the one before her however was always popular and seemed super outgoing.
just be good looking you ugly dweeb.
1 la_creatura_123 2018-07-16
A meme I hear on a lot of my online dates is the "vulnerability" is attractive. But they really mean that in the same way that an interviewer means the question, "what is your greatest weakness." You're not supposed to give a real answer that makes you look weak, like I was bullied when I was a kid, you're supposed to give a fake sense of vulnerability like you have some dark lurking demon and she's supposed to dig down and figure you out over time. "You're hard to read" is the most common thing I hear before she offers up the gussy.
1 playitagainzak_ 2018-07-16
I'm pretty by 'vulnerability' they mean they want to get them naked.
1 myshl0ng 2018-07-16
Foids, string em up
1 Power_Incarnate 2018-07-16
I was expecting this to be another bullshit sorry as usual but after reading /u/sexy_in_the_privates other comments in the thread it seems believable. But the real reason clearly was her friends told her he was a giant shitheel not just unpopular.
1 Boring_normie 2018-07-16
I didn't go to lunch because they made me go to social skills group counseling for my autism during my lunch period.
1 spookyguy109 2018-07-16
Wow women don't respond well to weakness, who woulda thunk it?
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
if chad is sensitive and has vulnerability, it's cute and endearing. if a man less than 7/10 has it, it's just pathetic and unattractive.
1 midairfistfight 2018-07-16
Dating? No. Asking someone out to a first date? Yeah, that's mostly about tricking them into thinking you're the kind of person worth the effort of getting to know.
1 DoctorFahrenheit 2018-07-16
Hey ladies, multiple felon (no convictions) with deep emotional issues and a substance abusers problem here.
I was a very popular drug dealer in high school and won two different things in the year book. Please PM my nudes and mod invites.
1 charming_tainter 2018-07-16
Being successful at 30 on dating apps is like being successful on monkey bars in elementary school. As long as you're not too fat you'll be successful
1 Lupusvorax 2018-07-16
Unironicallg calls OP an incel cretin on a OkCupid sub.
1 Wednesday_Atoms 2018-07-16
I don't know you. Don't tag me in shit.
1 MemeAnalzyer 2018-07-16
you know it's r/drama tradition to tag people right?
1 Wednesday_Atoms 2018-07-16
I don't care about your messy passive aggressive BS.
1 kei-kurono2 2018-07-16
So do you like active aggression? Then Stfu whore!
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
do you talk to the ladies on your little "i'm still a single loser at age 30" dating app like that?
1 old_grumpy_grandpa 2018-07-16
>passive aggressive
This bitch so dumb she can't even recognize an insult
1 toynbeeidea16 2018-07-16
/u/Wednesday_Atoms, I apologize on behalf of /r/drama for pinging you.
Everyone, I think we owe /u/Wednesday_Atoms an apology, right now.
1 Alexlincoln2 2018-07-16
Rather than call him a cretin, perhaps you could enlighten him with your wondrous philosophy on relationships. After all, to be that dogmatic about this must mean you actual l have a dogma about it right?
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
She's right tho
Linked OP very clearly has the social skills of the captain of the high school esports team
1 Lupusvorax 2018-07-16
Frankly, I find it a little hypocritical to decide someone's social skills while hanging out on a dating app sub.
That would be like someone ripping on a fast person while they're grabbing their third helping at the Golden Corral.
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
You can have social skills and be on a dating app just like you can be not fat and be at a buffet
Both are just increasingly less likely as you stray away from urban areas
1 Lupusvorax 2018-07-16
And this is your professional opinion as a metrochode, right?
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
It's my professional opinion from traveling to places like the south or Midwest and seeing how gross and obese everyone is compared to the Northeast
1 Lupusvorax 2018-07-16
So metrochode it is.....
By the way, check your privilege mate.
1 XhotwheelsloverX 2018-07-16
Nothing wrong with that
1 Lupusvorax 2018-07-16
What I meant was 'ripping on a fat person while the one doing the ripping was on their third helping at the golden corral'.
apologies...
1 reiniging24 2018-07-16
This is (partly) why I'm dateless and friendless, not that I care enough to change. Honesty only works if it's something positive.
This is pretty much enough to kill all interest instantly the few times I do meet a woman.
"what do you do all day"
Reddit.
"Don't you have a job?"
Min wage blue collar.
Men I work with tend to get sad looks if they ask me about my life and I tell them.
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
I mean no shit, what do you expect?
Go be more interesting and less of a loser
1 reiniging24 2018-07-16
You're getting triggered for me?
I can't help it when the only thing I enjoy is agitating others.
1 Somenakedguy 2018-07-16
No I'm just judging you as a mega autist
Enjoy the loneliness
1 reiniging24 2018-07-16
Oh well, it's not like autism can be cured.
Electroshock therapy was promising but it only caused me amnesia.
1 toynbeeidea16 2018-07-16
I wouldn't mind a little amnesia, tbh.
1 theMadLad97 2018-07-16
He's getting blasted, but he's correct.
1 shallowm 2018-07-16
x
1 RajeshAlt 2018-07-16
1 Alexlincoln2 2018-07-16
that helpline wasn't helpful at all. They kept trying to talk me out of it. 7.8/10
1 YameteOniichanItai 2018-07-16
He clearly has unresolved issues. I mean, who's okay with dating a woman older than him? That's just wrong.
1 femininegrill 2018-07-16
Women here:
No, we do not like men who are open about their feelings and emotional. We don't like weak and feminine men, we like strong ones that are stoic. Stop acting like a little bitch, that's my job :)
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
bitch, if a man was 6'4, had a chad jaw and big lean muscular build, you woudln't give a fuck if he was bullied in high school, you'd swoon over how it's so cool that he is able to be open with his loser feelings and be vulnerable.
1 femininegrill 2018-07-16
No, he would be hot but he would be hotter if he was masculine. Its like a super hot woman with big tits can be a massive asshole to evwryone and still get guys.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
i guess i have different experiences. i never used dating advice from any where, but almost any time i ever dated a girl it directly contradicts this whole "men have to be masculine" shit. first girl i ever dated i told her her awkward vulnerabilities and shit about me, i think i even cried. she said something like how awesome she thought it was that i opened up to her.
i tell most girls anything about me they ask, and for context, i was a loser in high school too and mostly had no friends, i have social anxiety and act awkward on dates, and has a history of retarded emotional problems.
not a single girl ever dumped me over any of it. one girl i dated recently kept saying it was "cute" how shy i was. it's probably cause i'm tall and have a decent face and work out alot. i assume that it's just only "cute" cause i'm attractive.
never met a woman who needs men to be hyper masculine, then again, maybe i just somehow subconsciously filter out those women, but basically i'm a huge pussy with shyness and girls still like me.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
so hot people can do whatever they want and get still dick/pussy? yeah, i already know that.
1 shitpersonality 2018-07-16
Massive assholes are my fetish.
1 ItsGettinBetterMan 2018-07-16
The thought of any man telling a girl he's wanting to impress he was a loser at school is just straight retarded in fairness, anyway men being really open about their feelings is weird anyway grow some balls and get over it, moping around isn't going to help you.
1 TransexualWiener 2018-07-16
dude is just ugly. i tell girls how much of a loser i am and was in the past all the time, most of them still are interested.
he just doesn't have enough chad features.
1 a_thumb_in_my_bum 2018-07-16
FAKE AND HETEROSEXUAL
1 libelecsBlackWolf 2018-07-16
> taking dating advice from women
> taking fishing advice from fish
1 Feanorfanclub 2018-07-16
r/OKCupid is a horrible place to get actual dating advice, not sure why anyone would go there willingly. You'll see the same people initially bitch about "uggos" then whine about "toxicity in online dating".
1 EdLesliesBarber 2018-07-16
This site is like 98% battling back and forth over dating and courtship. I will never understand how folks dont just understand. If the other man/woman finds you attractive you are probably in the clear. If the other man/woman does not find you attractive there is nothing you can do to wooooooo them. Usually you can't tell if they find you attractive or not so you have to say hello. After that move the fuck on one way or the other. Its not complex at all its one of the most basic aspects of the universe. STFU.
1 CommonThroat 2018-07-16
Using okcupid beyond the not tinder swipe mode
Lel
1 onionprincess 2018-07-16
I think she was looking for any excuse to not see him and.. picked that lol
1 friend1y 2018-07-16
The only 100% effective pickup line that works as a response to every possible thing she might say:
"Yeah babe, whatever."
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
Noted.
1 bugslife22112 2018-07-16
this guy sounds cool
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
Someone didn't read the topic...
1 aef823 2018-07-16
Mistake one
Mistake two
1 sexy_in_the_privates 2018-07-16
This actually wasn't on OKcupid, haven't used that in years. It was on a way better dating app.
But back in the day when I used to frequent there, that sub was for general discussion about online dating, even on tinder and the like. /r/tinder isn't really a discussion sub, it's just for posting entertaining conversations.