OP's post (The Heroine):

I wanted to post this in r/relationshipadvice but I am afraid they will just call me a prude or kink shaming. It hurts that my husband would choose images of exploited women whose bodies are so different than mine, instead of sex with real live me, who has never shied away from sexual adventure and has encouraged fantasy and sexual exploration.The only resources that are anti porn are doing so based on religious messages. Have any other women here dealt with this kind of thing? Am I being a prude? How do I talk to him about this?

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Comments (Editors)

I can't believe the porn women are expected to put up with all of a sudden. No offense, but I would not want to look like most women in porn (many are lovely, but the style is usually way not my thing- and so many of the positions look both agonizing and unattractive.) It would break my heart if I thought that's what my husband was fantasizing about on the regular. He swears he's not into it; and while he could certainly be lying, I think we both have every right to expect better. Men like this are spoiled; and, like most spoiled people, it will ultimately be to their own detriment. (No trying to personally knock your husband- sadly, the overwhelming majority of seemingly nice dudes I've questioned lately seem to share his hobby.)

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Comments (Editors)

You are perfectly reasonable to be offended and hurt by your husband watching porn. You are not a prude. Or, if we take "prude" to mean any woman who does not enthusiastically capitulate to whatever sick habits and fantasies her male partner demands or subjects her to, then sure. Perhaps you're a prude, same as me.

You'll be made to believe you're crazy and an outlier if you ask this in any mainstream or leftist space.

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Comments (Editors)

Porn fucks with peoples brains, and men who consume a lot of porn are also more likely to abuse women

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Comments (Editors)

The word prude is used to shame women who have no interest in coddling or indulging dangerous, damaging sexual habits

If this word is ever used in your direction, know that it is a shaming tactic designed to make you COMPLY

Don't comply with practices that encourage exploitation

Don't comply with a husband who disrespects you by ignoring you, his wife, in favor of women he will never know or have to care about in his life

Comments (Editors)

You're absolutely not being a prude or unreasonable. There isn't anything wrong with what you're feeling. He's making you uncomfortable, supporting a harmful industry and setting himself up for numerous future problems all in one.

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So what do you think Dramacels? Do you think our heroine will succeed? Or will the husband transform into the savage beast that she's been preventing him from turning into?

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