Mom Emotional Blackmails Me to Keep Junk

1  2019-01-13 by Raptorwulf

I have a mom (I'm an adult child of I what I think is a Narcissist mom), who basically uses a scary tone of voice when she says "don't get rid of it!" "Don't sell it!, You need a bigger place, keep everything".

So I have this wooden chest she had made for me years ago, didn't pay though... apparently the neighbor did it to suck up to her and tried to ask her out...so there is not exactly a lot of meaning behind it. It's "solid high quality wood, you won't get another like it...it's worth money" (cough oh....I need money mom more than a hurt very heavy space wasting box in my apartment!).

Spouse is pressuring me to sell it.i feel both are wrong to push either burden on me....but I admit I don't really love it. It's been more a burden, and I'd it's actually worth money, I could use it. The only thing holding me back. Is my mom's controlling emotional blackmail, like if I sold it, she'd probably not only freak out, she'd be all " I won't help you any more". She freaks over anything. It's a massive emotional burden dealing with her materialism. She complained 9ur home is too small, but homes are damn expensive and says "move out here, you are stupid to live there".

It's so friggin heavy though and you can't stack stuff on it well. It would be better to have a good shelf that can hold a ton more things. If I separated from my spouse I'd also have less crap to haul around. She doesn't know, because she doesn't respect it....but I actually want to travel. Aka I don't feel attached to it.

I'd only keep it from fear of shame attacks and if I could get it customized with designs and images all over (it's very plain and also scratched up)

Suggestions? Do I keep it til mom croaks years later, secretly sell it off, store it at her place? Currently not possible though she's 2 provinces over. She'd just tell us like last time to rent 2 storage lockers.....(cough who's paying?)

12 comments

1  popallen 2019-01-13

Cut the cord

1  LightUmbra 2019-01-13

Sell it and tell your mom to eat shit

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

Or eat the dust I can finally wipe from where it used to sit lol

1  MandirKahaBanega 2019-01-13

Become rich and buy a palace

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

Nobody just becomes rich here unless you are filthy, I guess the rest become physically so once house flipped onto a street....

1  ShamesMainName 2019-01-13

Could you maybe try to stop acting like a child? Ask yourself "What does it mean to ME". It is your gift, and simultaneously your burden. I'd keep it just because there's a story and contention behind it, but those are uniquely my emotions. But if it is really that useless to you, then remove it. Put it out front on the curb and have no further discussion. Also, get a better job and ditch that ox of a spouse you have. This box is a microcosm of your life. You probably live in a dirty home with dirty people, and just like the box, it was probably a sulky, last ditch effort to make something meaningful out of an already bad situation. You cant even begin to use the box as a foundation because of how poorly it was formed during development, so the box must stay by itself. I'd suggest looking into transcendentalism and converting to the true faith of Allah. Your life is yours alone. You owe nobody anything.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

Sorry already have a faith. Mom however does not, she is stuck living in past through material things and lacks the will to look inward to cut her smoking addictions out of her life...but nobody can force others to change. It's not acting like a child, this is sadly a more common issue than you likely know called emotional control and blackmail with guilt....it starts early on your developing brain like an emotional implant or virus. Then it takes an Awakening to realize you been duped and when you suddenly resist, the controller behavior acts up more to keep you in line because they are inside a weak insecure person who needs to be desperately needed abnormally in order to live.

That said, mom isn't a real monster but she sure odes need some "help" to wake up from her denial before she wakes up and sees everything she knows has walked away from her drama.

1  ShamesMainName 2019-01-13

Yooo I forgo about this. How's it go. How's your life!? Better or worse than a month ago? Please I'm interested.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

At first, I thought she was getting the idea and adjusting, you know. She did stay inside hotel....then she started to cry and use family helps family propoganda at me and shaming us like we left her to die or something. And said she's either not flying over anymore, or not visiting us next time . Still got the chest, it's too darn heavy to take anywhere, I'd want to have it valued to make it worth the headache.

Now she said she's... driving out in summer. She doesn't get that just cause spouse is acting lil nicer doesn't mean he wants her over. Ufg. She never learns.....

1  ShamesMainName 2019-01-13

And I guess it's not an option to say "We love you, but its not possible for us for you to stay here. I'd rather us be cordial and have you respect my FUCKING boundaries than have to completely cut you off at you and change the locks to my house."

1  RandolphCox 2019-01-13

i am really hoping you are a woman. the estrogen is so potent here.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

I'm yes unfortunately I am? You must be something called not a woman, the type that pillages and murders for fun?

1  accounttttttttttt 2019-01-13

i would keep it since a big handmade chest sounds cool, but throwing out things you don't want, can't store, or haven't used in years is pretty basic. watch hoarders or something for inspiration and learn to stand up to mommy.

1  mohkohnsepicgun 2019-01-13

Mom emotionally blackmails me to keep junk.

Was sure this was going to be tranny castration drama.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

Don't even care to know, more a reflection of yourself

1  notcyberpope 2019-01-13

Dig a hole and put the box in the hole, get in the box, close it and never leave.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

Wow, someone on internet telling people to die...not new.

1  notcyberpope 2019-01-13

Great ideas never go out of style.

1  Raptorwulf 2019-01-13

I hope you go to jail if someone actually does what you say one day and serve dutifully