How dare you break up with me because of my mental illness!? 😨😱🤗

5  2020-04-07 by dramasutra2020

Please sort by controversial. Codependency is defined as a divine state in a relationship, where having your balls caged up in a chastity belt is an honor. It is the equivalent to the Buddhist state of Nirvana - the highest and most noble state.

Then your a bad partner. If you can’t support someone through tough times you’re pretty terrible

He’s better off without her. What a shallow reason to leave somebody. I hope she learns something about herself for next time before she thinks someone should hang up their hat on a person like her.

I wouldn’t use the term “normal partner” but I get where you are coming from

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2  Lysis10 2020-04-07

oh god b-slurs with bipolar and BPD are the worst. It's always some dumb coont with rage issues doing shitty things and then saying "but muh illness muh illness." 😱

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1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

I have a friend who is bipolar and would never in a million years get closer. I stayed with her a few times for vacation and all I can say that in general people with poor self awareness, mood control, who may not even meet the threshold yet ) for mental illness are never good ideas as partners.

I support her journey and socialize with her but would never allow her to be closer.

I am not her partner but I can already imagine the conflict we would go through with her spending habits, substance use and mood disturbances.

There are times I believe where she tried to manipulate me, usually from her poor spending habits and also when she is depressed and lonely. So it isn't so simple as boohoo, I am sad. It branches off into other areas that may potentially affect your life.🤔🤔

I keep her at a healthy distance. I am not that close but can already see all the issues if we were married.

I feel the vast majority of people who justify staying in these romantic relationships are either mentally ill themselves and cannot comprehend the damage they do or they are healthy people who never actually met anyone genuinely mentally ill.

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1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

I have a friend who is bipolar and would never in a million years get closer. I stayed with her a few times for vacation and all I can say that in general people with poor self awareness, mood control, who may not even meet the threshold yet ) for mental illness are never good ideas as partners.

I support her journey and socialize with her but would never allow her to be closer.

I am not her partner but I can already imagine the conflict we would go through with her spending habits, substance use and mood disturbances.

There are times I believe where she tried to manipulate me, usually from her poor spending habits and also when she is depressed and lonely. So it isn't so simple as boohoo, I am sad. It branches off into other areas that may potentially affect your life.🤔🤔

I keep her at a healthy distance. I am not that close but can already see all the issues if we were married.

I am saying all this even though she has a therapist and is on meds. She is aware enough that she will apologize and say she is sorry if she recognizes her behavior as needy or manipulative . Now this is just a friend i keept at a distance... imagine a bipolar person refusing their meds and living with you...

I feel the vast majority of people who justify staying in these romantic relationships are either mentally ill themselves and cannot comprehend the damage they do or they are healthy people who never actually met anyone genuinely mentally ill. 😦😨😧🤭

1  Lysis10 2020-04-07

I had a nice response to this (I saw it before automod got it lol) but idk what word is bad so I scrapped it.

I did say good for you though for staying away. Those people are bad news. ✌

1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

This autobot thing is bonkers. It removes everything even when compliant to emoji rules. When did this bot get hired to work at drama and also why is it here? Just for lolz? 🤣

1  Lysis10 2020-04-07

for lolz most likely. I think they fixed the buggy emoji problem. 😎

1  snallygaster 2020-04-07

You sound like a good person for being kind but understanding where to stop; most people can't do that, at least not until they've been burned at least once.

For some reason my family member would consistently become best friends with a Cluster B girl throughout her youth, and it took ages of getting caught up in these tornadoes of backstabbing and dramu to see the signs. A few of them could have easily ruined her life if she didn't have a support network, and this is without romance involved.

A handful of people with 🧛‍♂️BPD🧛 have worked really hard to improve, and it tends to get less severe in age, and some people with bipolar disorder have a less severe form or respond well to treatment, but even then it's probably not a commitment you want to make unless you're fully aware of what it entails and set strong guidelines as to when to leave.

The same even extends to 'lesser' mental illness like depression and anxiety, or a partner who as experienced trauma. It can be challenging for a partner who isn't willing to take on that burden and, seemingly against common wisdom, usually worse if both partners are mentally ill or traumatized.

2  somestupidname1 2020-04-07

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2  snallygaster 2020-04-07

I 👀looked🕶 them up on the ☎️internet📠

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1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

I actually have been burned. My family is all cluster B. It was hard to realize what was ok and not when i entered the real world.

I am glad your fam member is out. These people are not good to be around. Usually closeness with someone makes it hard to distinguish what is right and wrong since boundaries get blurries.

You can only see normal when you experience it through a positive support network. Good for her in gettinf out!

I always do a reality check every now and then to see who might try or has tried crossing boundaries in an innappropriate way.

Everything u said is spot on. There are those willing to change but it is still a big burden you are entering.

I think what is most underrated is those lesser illnesses. People don't seem to get that depression and anxiety isn't just poor sad person or poor nervous person. Controlling behaviors, helplessness and constant self-victimization can be an outcome.

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1  snallygaster 2020-04-07

I actually have been burned. My family is all cluster B. It was hard to realize what was ok and not when i entered the real world.

Wow, that's rough. One of the worst things about cluster B is that it can more or less spread by virtue of the fact that other close/immediate family members have it. I'm glad you got out and now understand what is and isn't normal 🤗 I've heard that many who grow up in situations like yours end up getting victimized because the dysfunction is normal to them.

1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

Oh man 👨 it did. My highschool and up to early 20s was like that.

Finally, it feels so good to breathe... just not covid-19 air🎃😼

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1  Giulio-Cesare 2020-04-07

I'm bipolar and it's why I never date people I actually care about. Couldn't put someone I genuinely like through the bullshit of dating me.🌱

0  Yellowofthecornholio 2020-04-07

Seriousposting on my Drama acct 😔 what has the rona come to 🤔🤔 and fuck you bot why don't you like my emojis?

I work in mental health and for better or worse have a demeanor that attracts people with damage. Made the mistake of shacking up with one because the crazy ones also tend to be crazy hot. Plus, outside of the illness, they're just regular people.

Once you get enmeshed, it's hard to get out. The threats of suicide, the self-harm, the weird high that comes from those moments when everything is fine and they are full of love and joy and it feels like maybe now things will be okay.

Then they decide you are conspiring with their doctors against them and threaten to stab you as many times as they can without killing you 🤷

But I haven't totally written off anyone with a mood disorder. I'm currently quarantined with a dude with BP2 who has used the time to manage medication dosage and stop drinking.

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1  Yellowofthecornholio 2020-04-07

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1  snallygaster 2020-04-07

Thanks to social media (especially twitter, reddit and tumblr), the once noble mental health awareness movement has become warped into a disgusting movement that encourages people to self-diagnose, refuse to get treatment if they are actually mentally ill, use their diagnosis/self-diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior (regardless of whether or not it is an explanation), and shame people into putting up with them because they're sick or claim to be sick. It's disgusting and imo creating a bunch of zoomers who want to act like selfish little shits and/or underperform because they're mentally ill and how dare somebody suggest that they try to better themselves.

That said, most of the people who claim to have 🧛‍♂️BPD🧛 on social media are probably self-diagnosed teenagers since it's been the trendy mental illness du jour for the past five years or so.

3  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

This needs to be upvoted so hard it cums 😇😇

2  Lysis10 2020-04-07

I think what's hard for someone who doesn't know or understand to differentiate between people who are diagnosed and try to do better and the ones who just use mental illness as a crutch to be a bad person.

I've dealt with mentally ill family members, and it's very hard when they are manipulative and you don't know if you are the bad person for being impatient or you need to cut them out.

People like that will suck the life out of you and ruin you, and it's very hard to cut them out without feeling guilty. 🧛‍♀️ I cut out the family member with the offer that if they get treatment that I will come back. That was 10 years ago and this person refuses to see a psychiatrist and continues to do terrible things to people, so I stay away still and doubt they will ever own up to their issues and get treatment.

2  snallygaster 2020-04-07

I think what's hard for someone who doesn't know or understand to differentiate between people who are diagnosed and try to do better and the ones who just use mental illness as a crutch to be a bad person.

It seems like it would be pretty obvious whether somebody is actually taking steps to improve, but once you get to the point where somebody is making excuses for their behavior, they've probably gotten their hooks in you. Plus it's probably even rougher in the case of BPD or NPD where the person in question will apologize profusely for their wrongdoings and seemingly try to make it up to you and people with BP will have long periods of relative normalcy.

I 've dealt with mentally ill family members, and it's very hard when they are manipulative and you don't know if you are the bad person for being impatient or you need to cut them out.

People like that will suck the life out of you and ruin you, and it's very hard to cut them out without feeling guilty. 🧛‍♀️ I cut out the family member with the offer that if they get treatment that I will come back. That was 10 years ago and this person refuses to see a psychiatrist and continues to do terrible things to people, so I stay away still and doubt they will ever own up to their issues and get treatment.

Oh yeah, it's much more complicated with the family that you're born with because their behavior has been normal for your entire life, you probably have to see them at least once a year unless you cut out other family members or eschew family gatherings, etc.

It sounds like you've made the right decision; it seems like most people don't when it comes to a family member. My parents have spent tens of thousands of dollars bailing my 🧟NPD🤴 uncle out of trouble, and recently they keep talking about cutting contact, but they keep getting roped in by self-created crises that affect his wife and kids. It makes logical sense to cut him out of their life, but in reality it's of course much harder when the relationship runs deep. Which of course is a good reason to avoid dating people with a personality disorder unless you're absolutely positive that they're not only trying to improve but have already committed to it and made a lot of progress.

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1  dramasutra2020 2020-04-07

Yeah, not all mental illnesses are equal but personally I stay away. Glad u established a cut aka purge.

You hit a nail with what many mental illness advocates forget. Learned helplessness, victimization, defensiveness are common behaviors of people with mental illness. It is extremely difficult to get them treated and often it takes years and even then, depends on the right relationship with therapist as well.

Some people are not worth it. Good for you! 🤢

2  Yellowofthecornholio 2020-04-07

I think too people who have been diagnosed with 🧛‍♂️BPD🧛 tend to have a larger social media footprint than a lot of others. They can control and curate that environment better and it also gives them easier access to quick sympathy/validation.

1  snallygaster 2020-04-07

Yeah, it seems to be pretty much designed for people with HPD and NPD too.

I recently found out about a couple of girls who are pretty much attention-seeking themselves to death on 🤳Instagram📷 and am writing a post about it; it's some of the craziest shit I've seen online.

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1  Starship_Litterbox_C 2020-04-07

If you rule out partners with mental illness then wh*te women as a whole will leave the genetic pool in the next 25 years