Hi! I am in a peculiar sexual situation, and I was hoping someone here may have some insight on it

I'm a 31-yo guy, and a week ago I had my first sexual experience (never too late for success I guess!)

It was really nice, my partner was great, and I am proud to report that I gave her an orgasm

However I couldn't come myself, despite being very aroused and my partner really wanting to help. What's weirder is that later I tried to masturbate and still couldn't.

Two days later, we saw each other again, and we couldn't have s*x for logistical reasons but there was a lot of flirting and heavy petting. By the end my testicles were extremely painful (though still a lovely afternoon all things considered). And yet afterwards, nothing.

That was 5 days ago! Still nothing to date.

Since then whe has been traveling pretty far away. We've been exchanging some suggestive texts, I regularly fantasize about her, I have trouble focusing on anything complicated, and I have erections galore.

I initially speculated that it was stress (even though I felt relatively calm), but I've been sleeping well, and despite the distraction and the occasional testicular pain I feel quite good emotionally.

I tried watching porn etc, no effect, I just get bored. I've never experienced this state before.

I asked Claude what it thought but it gave me boilerplate "oh you just need to get used to the new situation, or maybe you're too stressed, if nothing changes a week from now you should see a Professional"

But this seems more like psychology than urology (otherwise why would it occur at this precise moment?), so any intervention is likely to have a small effect size. Besides, I know LLMs have their faults but how is a random doctor going to help if Claude has no idea?

We're planning to meet again this weekend, if I'm still in the same state then I guess I'll be a very altruistic partner again lol

But at some point she's gonna wonder what's wrong (even more than she did the first time I mean). I'm happy to tell her the facts but I'd also like to be able to explain them.

Does anyone know about this phenomenon, or have any idea what could be going on?

Or maybe you know someone I could get in touch with

Thank you!

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