so i am 23 years old. I recently achieved financial independence, I also have a pretty good job at a reputable multinational company. I love working here, but it has become commonplace and repetitive.
at the same time, things seem as empty as if nothing would make me happy anymore. i don't feel satisfied and i don't feel happy.
in the past, travel and worldview made me happy, I felt something, and it gave me something I could hardly wait for every month.
so i don't know .. i'm stuck and i feel empty. as if something is seriously missing that I can’t satisfy
i feel like i'm good at things but i'm never the best .. for example i got to the second best rank in the video game i play but i could never get the best. it's a repetitive pattern in several things I do in life, I feel like I can never be the "best" in something it's keeping me up a lot at nights
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I really think the key to not killing yourself as an adult is constantly restructuring your life in a way so that you always have something to look forward to. If you are in a rut, then it's best to schedule something out for the future, like seeing an old friend or going on a trip. In the meantime, while you wait for these larger events, pick up a new hobby / exercise / etc., anything that gives you continual positive feedback from improvement or completion.
If you're constantly learning, there isn't really a pressure to be "the best" at something, because you're really just focused on getting better than your baseline. It's better to be frustrated than bored. I like video games but I also think that these kinds of hobbies can't be anything using a screen; our monkey brains aren't wired to get the desired response from them.
It's not really possible to achieve true satisfaction I think, but if you make sure you're working towards the concept of it you'll keep the sad away and that's what matters more.
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