Legbeards seethe

I've been talking to a guy that quite a few years older than I am. We clicked instantly, share a few interests and have lovely conversations. Except for yesterday.

We live quite a bit apart so we haven't met yet, but we were talking about how we'd spend a lazy Sunday together. We were talking about being lazy in bed and just cuddling. I jokingly said that it'll be fine if he doesn't mind a bit of leg hair. But then his mood changed, saying that he expects me to shave my legs or he'll wear sweatpants. He doesn't want to feel leg hair.

I mean, I guess I get it a bit. But it's cold here, it's autumn, and I ain't shaving my legs when no one but me (and maybe my partner) sees them. In the spring and summer it's fine, I shave my legs whenever I wear a dress, skirt, or shorts. I just thought a dude in his forties would be okay with leg hair lol.

EDIT: I've received a “Reddit Cares” message over this post. Seriously, guys? Lmao.

“Sorry, not going to happen. I use my hair for navigation.. like a cats whiskers”

foid jokes

Body hair on women is natural and sexy. Alot of men are just silly and also conditioned by society.

I had the opposite experience. I remember snuggling one night, he put his arm over me, which left his hand on my arm, and he noticeably jolted when he touched the hair I've had on my arms since I was 5?

He realised I'd notice his reaction, and left it there long enough that he assummed I was asleep when he moved it.

After we broke up, part of the message he sent me regarding things I'd need to “fix” about my body, if I was ever going to get naked in front of someone else, was my body hair in general.

I have hirsutism caused by PCOS, so I'm furry. Not much I can do, because I have neither the inclination, time, money or pain tolerance to wax everything from the cheeks down - like a candle.

I mentioned the hirsutism once and was told “don't show me. What has been seen cannot be unseen.”

40+ and 27 is the bigger red flag here

"I guess I get it a bit."

I'll be the first to say I dont get it at all. If he doesn't remove his own hair he's a hypocrite at best

Hypocrisy is, at best, a secondary issue. He's threatening to withhold intimacy unless she complies with his personal preferences. Imagine if she had told him she wouldn't cuddle him unless he got his hair permed...

>He's threatening to withhold intimacy unless she complies with his personal preferences.