In short, I "used to" be a trans guy. I still feel that I'm male but detransitioned. I'm much happier now that I'm, in a sense, re-closeted.
Edit for idiots: Would you rather wear a hot costume that nobody knows is a costume, or have everyone interpret your real self as a weird costume?
I'm really feminine (I have the facial proportions of a snapchat filter minus the bloated lips) & I didn't want to be a hypermasculine guy since male fashion kind of sucks (especially because I'm poor) so that made it really difficult to feel happy with myself because I either was dressed in a way I disliked (trying my best at passing without regard for my own style) or was getting misgendered because I was dressing in the way I liked. No matter how hard I tried to pass I was still misgendered anyway, usually being mistaken as a thief (baggy clothes.) I was even referred to correctly as "sir" once by an old southern man, but then he saw that I was wearing an earring & said "oh, sorry; MISS."
I was mid-teens then & my mother was supportive up until the topic of getting hormone blockers/HRT. I realized it would take years for me to begin any sort of gender reaffirming practices, & even longer for those gender reaffirming practices to actually garner results in the way I was percieved by others. Then I figured... what does it matter what other people think my gender is? You don't know the genitals of anyone you talk to unless you've seen them naked, cis or otherwise. If people want to percieve me as female, that's on them for not being close enough with me to know what my true identity is. I like feeling good about myself, not struggling emotionally, mentally, & physically for the validation of others.
Also my tits are great & it'd be a shame to get rid of em 
Is anyone else in the same boat or am I just an overcomplicated freakazoid? I just thought it'd be interesting to see other people's reaction to my logic. Sorry I'm a "yapper."
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Hey, I saw that you just joined rdrama and a group of people who hate me are trying to smear my name by calling me a date male feminist. I just wanted to let you know that it's not true. If you want all the receipts proving it they're right here.
The TL;DR is that I hooked up with one of the hot girls on rdrama, and since I was twice her age, a lot of the guys here who wanted to bang her got jealous and assumed that the only way I could have managed that was by raping her, even though she herself said both before and afterwards that it was all completely consensual. So now that you're the new hot girl on rdrama, I guess they think that I'm going to somehow seduce you into flying all the way across the country (or some crazy shit like that) to hook up with me and they're trying to talk shit about me to make sure that doesnt happen. I don't understand it either, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm a nice guy and I hope you'll look at the evidence and make up your own mind instead of listening to all the jealous haters.
Anyway, with that little intro out of the way, welcome to rdrama! The culture's a little rough here and you're probably going to get tons of requests to •show boobsU but if you talk to some of the women here first before engaging with all the creepy dudes, they'll give you some good advice to avoid stalkers and predators. Or (If you haven't been scared off by the rumor mill) you're welcome to ask me and I'm happy to help.
Just out of curiosity, how did you find this place?
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