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REQUIRED READING :marseyreading: rdrama users shirtless pics

For some reason I can't find the TheGayRabbi nude pics, ghost poster partial peepee pic, and spal shirtless camping pics. I know theyve been posted though, I remember them being posted some time

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186035610342.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186039006584.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186054448333.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186081249633.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186086026304.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186126151667.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186130688372.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186133766134.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186135928025.webp

Also not actually shirtless but tight shirt

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17076186137561052.webp

Feel free to add any other ones I've missed

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Background: A pick-me gay is a fairly entrenched concept in the gay community. It's basically the 'not-like-other-girls' of gays.


I've gathered a collection of reddit threads discussing the concept.

/r/AskGayMen: What are your thoughts on pick me gays?

Most controversial comment: they choose assimilation instead of liberation which spawns debate on heteronormativity with hypocrisy of the comment being pointed out.

Most upvoted: no one should put down others to make themselves feel better ...folllwed by r/notlikepthergorls.

Ah the duality of gays.

:marseymonk:


That wasn't too spicy. Let's see what if there is anything better in /r/AskGayBros where OP laments being called a pick me for not 'personally believe in neo-pronouns, because I think the 11 color Progress Flag is ugly as frick, because I think most mainstream gay culture is shallow and materialistic, and because I want to improve the material conditions of people I strongly dislike and strongly disagree with.'.

(ALMOST) Most controversial: wish there were more gays like you. Tired of the multiple flags and pro nouns shit which spawns some back and forth about OP being a pick me c*nt and the person replying being sanctimonious af.

Most Upvoted: Stop worrying about what the crowd is doing. Just do you....followed by this whole lotta' nothing.


So there appear to be a range of opinions on the topic. Only a smattering of drama here and there.

So I turn to the last bastion of drama, /r/XenogendersAndMore.

Specifically this pickmegay/trans starter pack.

Nothing TOO spicy because this sub is literally an echochamber. But it's pretty funny because the starter pack itself reveals the author seething over people not being on board 100% with everything they say.


Anyway, /h/gaybros, what is your opinion?

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https://twitter.com/Aerixian/status/1760803690254938457

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https://twitter.com/Eimmot7/status/1760763663567188187

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https://twitter.com/MoshuaJoss/status/1760807795681902746

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https://twitter.com/IanBWright/status/1760835483288887801

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https://twitter.com/okokifyou/status/1760838721547423812

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https://twitter.com/quadkorps/status/1760766458400027122

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https://twitter.com/zh0nya/status/1760835773971222970

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Because we are superior to straights. Why is this even a question?

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Gigachads of AGB once again question the foid menace.

It is actually true i hope all pooners get off my fricking apps :#marseyannoyed:

!lgbt !cuteandvalid !femboys !besties !bottoms

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Anyone else have gay poopygasms???

I noticed on days where :marseydrama: I've had a lot of fiber, that my poop is rock hard and if I hold it in for a few days, I have a big log just chilling in my butt. It feels :marseyvapecrying: really :marseythinkorino2: good when the big poop log presses up against my prostate so I like to frick myself :marseypain: with it by pushing it out and sucking it back in (over the tub) and I've gotten so good at it that I can c*m hands-free.

Only problem is, that as I'm cumming :marseycoomer2: and having epic poopygasms, my butt convulsions mush up the poop, which totally ruins my fibrous poop dildo. Should :marseynorm: I just let the poop fall out of my butt and put it back in for later, or is there :marseycheerup: a way to not mush the poop or pinch my loaf????

Any tips and tricks would :marseymid: be much appreciated

:#marseythumbsup:

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How come Americans always think people are Americans :marseyburgergenocide:


I don't see many people on this sub calling gay people degenerates or calling for their extermination.

I see plenty of misogyny and transphobia though 🤷‍♂️

:smugtranstwittertalking#::marse#ywom!anmoment2talking:


Sandshit :marseyyawn: discussion


I became republican the day Hilary Clinton's emails leaked and I seen what they really think about gays. Although if I'm being real ever since that day I can't trust any politicians I almost hate them all equally. I feel like that was the only time we will ever see how they truly feel

:bra#inletmagatalking:


Because you are chronically online

:marsey#hesright:


In what ways they sound like republicans?

In this sub you can say way more stuff than in others, but still if it's not in the "agenda list" or is slightly different from the lgbt standards - then you're gonna get cancelled/called all the -phobic shit and downvoted to the ground

Because there is no half stepping. You can be a bigot all you want, but don't be surprised when you get called one, or labelled log cabin/republican gay etc. Because that's what you fricking are. Smh. Any centimeter of you saying anything stupid/bigoted (basically if you have any mindsets to where you're judging others; "I hate trans/I don't understand trans/Drag queens creep me out/Such and such, they look weird/what's with all this pan and demi bullshit/why do they have to go by they/them" etc. Yeah no. It's creeping more on Republican rhetoric, sorry. Because we cannot judge. I'm a cis gay man yes, and although it's not something I personally deal with, and I could easily be buttholes and idiots like them, but nope. I support everyone in the LGBTQ community. but again. Karma, to each their own. It tells me all about them etc.

So yeah. Either you're not a bigot. Or you are a bigot. Very simple Wheel of Fortune gameplay to follow.

:marseywingcu#ck: This user (/u/imaanotherthrowaway) has several other posts throughout the thread but I can't be bothered to copy them here because they're all massive walls of text that I doubt anyone will bother reading anyways. :marseywords:


I mean, I don't care when I'm being called a bigot by some dumb American liberal psychos that change their gender and pronouns every Sunday or even creating new ones every month.

I am simply a gay man that lives his life like a normal human being and I am following simple facts of biology, history and common sense. If some bearded dude in a dress wants to be called "she" or "they". Nah, pal, sorry, I'd rather call you "it" other than "she/they".

:marseycho#nkerpassgenocide:

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We're back y'all :marseyhomofascist::marseylgbtflag3::marseylgbtflag3:

Welcome back to /h/gaybros :marseysalutepride:

Reminder that straight men, particularly straight yt men, are NOT welcome here

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The content filter on Bing's image generator actually pisses me off

My friend is having a spat with his husband over cheese right now so I wanted to generate a picture of the situation. The prompt "man eating cheese while his partner looks on angrily" worked first try with a photo of a woman yelling at a man while he was enjoying cheese. I changed "partner" to husband and was blocked by the filter, calling the prompt "unsafe". I tried a bunch of different variations but all were deemed "unsafe". I simplified it down to "man angry at husband" and was still stonewalled. Every attempt at getting a photo of a man expressing negative emotions at his partner was blocked. Even the most basic prompt "Man angry at husband" did not work. "male friend" fine. "another man", fine. But "boyfriend" and "husband" are all trigger words for the AI. I'm actually offended that the LGBTQIA++ inspired hand-holdy bullshit they put on the AI has wrapped around to being homophobic.

Here's as close as I got.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/16967379164465492.webp

Tl;dr: Kill AI jannies, behead AI jannies, round-house kick AI jannies into the dirt.

BTW, if you get this stupid pufferfish telling you there's high demand it's bullshit. You just asked for something that the algo doesn't like but not egregious enough to give you the warning.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1696740831010587.webp

!lgbt !gayporn !bottoms !reportmaxxers !pinknames

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Happy New Year /h/gaybros.

I'm in need of :marseycoin: so I've gone with the tried and true strategy of looking at /r/askgaybros front page where all seethe slowly congeals.

I was not disappointed. Please find a selection of quotes.


I was perma banned from Grindr cause I said no trans in my profile. Sorry I don't want to have sexy time with a chick who thinks she's a dude and has a gash or a dude in a dress with a peepee who thinks he's a chick. Nope no thank you! Scruff is much better about not having trans on there for some reason.

If they are men in dresses then what's the problem? It's a gay app, isn't it?

:#marseyoctopus2:

*If you wanna be a woman so bad stop using an app meant for men.*

Grindr has been welcoming trans folks for years now. It's not an app meant for men any longer. Personally I don't lose sleep over it, and block them just as I would for anyone I am not interested in.

Right because the Trans invaded our spaces again, like they did with GLAAD (should be called TrAAD), HRC, the rainbow flag and now Grindr. No spaces are safe for gays and lesbians anymore.

:#marseyhesright:

Grindr was supposed to be an app for MEN seeking S*x with MEN.

I'm in NYC and I see tons of bio females and men seeking them (may saying "No men!") which really should not be allowed.

all queer people should be welcome but yea straights seeking straights is an unforseen issue that I dont see a solution for and trans people really have nothing to do with it

'Umm actually it's straight people that are the problem'

:#marseynerd3talking:

And lastly, though no engagement, I thought this was funny:

This sub is being canvassed by disingenuous right-wingers, unfortunately. While I agree that the app needs a better filter to ensure both gay men and trans women have a safer space.

I'm getting that vibe lately. It's just disturbing to me.

:#marseyschizowalltalking:

Also lately? Lol.


Anyway, there is a bit more in the thread, including some people being like 'Okay then why can't straight people be included if no one should be barred'? And with no irony, pro-trans posters saying 'it isn't for them'.

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Why don't they ever tell you how fricking painful buttsex is

Like seriously. I had to b-word out of it today even with plenty of lube cause it felt like I was getting torn in half. Like what the frick bussy? How could you do this to me?

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What's the length of your longest relationship?

How are you doing in the dating department?

!lgbt !bottoms !gayporn

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https://old.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/174vep5/am_i_transphobic?sort=controversial

The other day at work, I was helping this young transgender man customer and I didn't know he was transgender until he corrected me very rudely after I said “It would be in the next aisle Miss” saying “ugh why does everyone misgender me? My pronouns are he/him, can't you tell?” And whispered to his friend “cis people annoy me” and I'm not even cis? (I'm a demigirl)

TLDR: A transgender man got upset I assumed he was a woman and I accidentally used the wrong pronouns but I apologized and afterwards addressed him with the proper pronouns . Am I transphobic?

Some choice replies:


:soysnoo: Sounds to me like he was worn out with multiple incidental misgenderings and lashed out, doesn't make you transphobic for making a mistake as long as you correct yourself once you know better.

We're won't punish you, as long as you educate yourself, sweaty.


:soysnoo2: Your not transphobic, but I'm going to go against the hugboxing and say, gendered language is pretty dumb, and easy to avoid. What's wrong with "it's in the next isle" ? Unless you are talking to an old AF person who will get mad if you don't bow and kiss their feet, you will never get in trouble using gender neutral language.

:soysnoo3: Mhm! I am trans, and would rather someone not call me sir/ma'am, and just say, "It's in the next isle."

You should be rude to people and avoid polite titles because you might offend the permanently offended.


:!soysnoo4: you're not transphobic. maybe stop using the gendered terms though so it doesn't happen again

:marseyeyeroll:


:!marseysoyjak: No but he's allowed to be upset about being misgendered and vent to his friend. We non-passing people are allowed to vent and correct people on misgendering us. Passing shouldn't be a prerequisite for not being misgendered. Next time, use less gendered langauge and don't eavesdrop on private convos

While you may not be transphobic, you're a horrible rude prick anyway!

:!marseysoyjaktalking:

There are some minor slapfights in this comment chain between trans-activists and trans-supremacists.

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Ok, so this is a bit old, but I thought y'all might be interested. !lgbt

https://old.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/tf30e9/max_and_yos?sort=controversial

Max and Yos are a gay couple and minor e-celebs on social media. They also whore themselves on OnlyThots, but everyone has to make a buck, right?

I don't follow them, but they appear to be a garden variety happy gay couple (who whore themselves on OnlyThots). So, where is the drama?

Max happens to be a beefy white guy, and Yos happens to be a skinny asian twink. You can guess where this is going.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17041964922206113.webp

Some homo posted on reddit that the couple's relationship was just like the dirty old white man and a submissive asian women stereotype. Some duscussions unfold.


:!marseyhomofascist: Asians are allowed to do and be what they want without needing to conform to or defy stereotypes.

:hesrightyouknow:

:!soyreddit: spare the think piece pls cause nobody said otherwise

OP gets defensive right off the bat.


:!marseychingchongpearlclutch: As an Asian gay man, I find their content, which is monetized, creepy offense and degrading. Maybe Yos hasn't realized or doesn't believe he deserves better but he's being exploited in a really gross way.

Insecure gaysian diagnoses Yos with Stockholm Syndrome (and possibly white supremacy).


:marseylgbtflag3: They seem to love each other genuinelly, I used to watch their YouTube videos, and was subscribed to their onlyfans a few months ago. Max has been clear about having a type he feels attracted to. He even once said to Yos that he (Max) married his fetish (asian twink guy). I dont think is a bad thing.

:!soysnoo4: The issue is that the white guy will age and will morph into the daddy bear stereotype. The Asian twink won't be able to remain the same forever. White dude will dump asian guy and can still get another one. unfortunately an aging Asian twink is not a fetish or stereotype in gay culture (as opposed to daddy or bears)

Another redditor chimes in to tell the future. :!marseyfortuneteller:


There are a couple of other minor slapfights in the thread. There is also a thread on /r/gaysian full of moral indignation:

https://old.reddit.com/r/gaysian/comments/jc2qb7/asian_white_relationship_youtube_channel?sort=controversial

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:siren: TWINK ALERT :siren: Thinspo posting!

Jannies go crosspost this to /h/fatpeoplehate.

This is the twink btw https://twitter.com/tyler02020202/status/1720296300699427072

If it weren't for the :pepezoomerhair: I'd be jealous.

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Wow he even has the shoulder tearing like me :marseyembrace:

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Those hips... :marseyslurp:

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:marseyi: :marseyi:

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I'd post one of myself if I had a bf to take the picture :marseygiveup:

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Do it. I'm on an embaressingly small amount of cocktails on a work trip.

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gays or bisexual bottoms only.

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It's Malespo Monday!!! :soyjackwow: :bigsmilesoyjak: (No Nom November Day 20)

:#marseyjam: :#marseyhomofascist: :#marseyjam:

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  • Ben, Mitch, and Benjamin live in Los Angeles with their 20-month-old adopted daughter, Tegan.

  • The throuple have spent over four years and more than $170,000 on having their children.

  • They want to draw attention to the hidden and emotional costs of adoption and surrogacy.

*This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Mitch Rolam, 37; Benjamin Rolam, 35; and Ben Rodriguez Rolam, 38, a Los Angeles throuple --- or a three-person romantic relationship. *This essay has been edited for length and clarity. Insider verified their adoption and surrogacy expenses through receipts they provided.

We became a throuple after two of us --- Ben and Mitch, who had been together for 14 years --- met Benjamin on the Atlantis gay cruise in February 2019.

All three of us got ceremonially married in Kauai, Hawaii, in September that same year. And at the same time, two of us --- Benjamin and Mitch --- also got legally married.

Mitch works in finance, Benjamin in e-commerce, and Ben in a beauty company. The three of us live together in Los Angeles with our 20-month-old daughter, Tegan, whom we adopted in 2022.

And we're expecting our second child, through surrogacy, in December this year.

We spent over $170,000 on adoption and surrogacy

Let's add things up.

  • The first adoption agency's fees: We spent $18,200 on our first adoption agency in 2019. We were paying for them to share our profile with expectant mothers, and though we were with them for two years, we only got one failed match with a prospective mother who wound up not going with us.

  • Attorney fees: We spent around $13,000 to hire an attorney in 2021 so we could start looking for matches through private adoption. The attorney helps communicate with expectant mothers and connects us with other attorneys in states where the birth will take place. We also paid $7,000 for an attorney in the state where Tegan was born.

  • Google ads: We spent around $6,000 on Google ads to share our website with expectant mothers.

  • Social-services agency: We paid $4,000 in fees for a social services agency in California.

The whole adoption process, from start to finish, took us four years. And that all adds up to over $48,000.

With surrogacy, which we also started pursuing around the same time in 2019, it cost us $86,000 for five embryo transfers with the first agency we used. None of the transfers were successful. And the second agency we used cost us at least $110,000. Thankfully, Mitch's company covered $70,000.

We're expecting to meet the newest member of our family in December.

All in all, that's over $170,000 we've spent out of pocket so far. We've been keeping track for tax purposes.

These costs don't even include the cost of travel for adoption and surrogacy. It also does not include the amount we're still expecting to pay in agency and attorney fees in December for our second child.

There are many hidden costs, both financial and emotional

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Adoption is an amazing and rewarding journey, but only once it finally happens.

At first, we thought we wanted to adopt both of our kids. But that changed once we actually went through the adoption process.

We met dozens of mothers, and we had to commit a lot of effort and time into creating relationships with someone who's probably not going to call you back the next week, all while explaining to them why we would be the best parents.

And we had multiple failed adoptions before Tegan, where we went in and held the baby, flying across the country to do so, thinking we're having a baby now, only to be told: "No, we're not going to pick you." It was so emotionally draining.

We didn't have anything in Tegan's room prepared for the longest time because the attorney told us not to fill it --- all it would do is to remind us of her if we got rejected.

There were just a lot of hidden costs. From small expenses like court fees or traveling for the surrogacy and adoption process piling up, to the disappointment of spending two years on something without seeing an outcome.

But at the same time, people are constantly asking us if we're sure we want this, and our answer is: Yes.

When you're planning to have a family --- through the route we're using --- you have to have all these conversations and understand what you want.

It's a big commitment, and there just isn't enough information available for people to know how costly this is.

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