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Trains & enbies betrayed by they/them journo's :marseylongpost2: about dropping pronouns because it's not unique and special anymore :marseysjw:


These days, it feels as if an identity that, not long ago, felt unique to me in most rooms I entered has gone mass. Yes, part of what I’m personally upset about is the fact that this thing I loved isn’t so alt anymore. But more than that, it feels as if pronoun culture has contributed to nonbinary becoming just the third gender after male and female, more static and concrete than its original fluid intentions. The same nonbinary person who complained about nonbinary stereotypes lamented to me, “I don’t want to be a homogeneous normcore mashing of the two genders.” Ben hoped, “If man or woman can mean so many things, then so can nonbinary.” We all became nonbinary to escape gendered expectations, and now we’re stuck again. I can’t help but think that the walking-on-eggshells battle for pronouns is turning my gender into a human-resources-approved corporate product, more neutered than neutral, and, maybe above all else, profoundly unromantic. Next time, just call me by my name.



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Next time, just call me by my name.

It's almost as if your name is meant to be the thing that makes you special and unique, not your 'pronouns'.

I can barely remember the faces of people I’m around all day, you expect me to know their names too? I just start talking in the general direction of someone.

If I can't remember your name I just make one up. It's usually better than the real one anyway.

bud buddy and how's it going is everyones pronouns to me :marseyboomer:

I agree, people who name themselves really don’t know their place, your identity is entirely for the sake of the people talking to you, the fuck?

Shut up, Bernard


Grug just point and grunt at people. Save time.

Take the "hey you! yeah, you!" pill.

“You” is too humanizing. Just talk at them and make direct eye contact.