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Trains & enbies betrayed by they/them journo's :marseylongpost2: about dropping pronouns because it's not unique and special anymore :marseysjw:


These days, it feels as if an identity that, not long ago, felt unique to me in most rooms I entered has gone mass. Yes, part of what I’m personally upset about is the fact that this thing I loved isn’t so alt anymore. But more than that, it feels as if pronoun culture has contributed to nonbinary becoming just the third gender after male and female, more static and concrete than its original fluid intentions. The same nonbinary person who complained about nonbinary stereotypes lamented to me, “I don’t want to be a homogeneous normcore mashing of the two genders.” Ben hoped, “If man or woman can mean so many things, then so can nonbinary.” We all became nonbinary to escape gendered expectations, and now we’re stuck again. I can’t help but think that the walking-on-eggshells battle for pronouns is turning my gender into a human-resources-approved corporate product, more neutered than neutral, and, maybe above all else, profoundly unromantic. Next time, just call me by my name.



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>there are those who use she/they and he/they or dozens upon dozens of “neo-pronouns” like ze/zir and fae/faer

I've never met a ze or a xe or anything. I'm kind of excited to find out what my response will be when I finally do: I'm betting either involuntary vomiting or some type of violent aneurysm.

You should run because you probably entered a furry convention by mistake :!marseyworried:

Or stay if that's your thing :marseynut:


I accidentally went to a pizza place once with my family at the same time a local furry convention was... taking a lunch break? Idk but I had to stop my little cousin from giving the "cute fuzzy things" a hug :marseyyikes:

Pizza... Furry...