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How do we feel about procreation? passing our genes and raising kids? : aspergers [386 comments]

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How do we feel about procreation? passing our genes and raising kids? : aspergers

I hope people don't take this the wrong, after all this is forum for ASD-people, so, here goes.

I thought for a long time that something is "wrong" with me. For transparancy, I'm F28, only diagnosed late last year. No kids.

Most people my age have kids. Others expect me any my partner to have kids soon/years ago. (been together 10 years).

I felt that since our genes are probably fricked, we shouldn't, "wouldn't be fair".
I also struggled a lot, at least before diagnosed. (oh, also the "deadly dual"; ASD aaand ADHD ).

I have wanted kids since I was young, but I also have respect for the task; it's not easy, involves sleep deprivations, unpredictability, lack of boundaries (kids don't have it - being all up in your business, and how others seem to forget boundaries when it comes to kids), a huge increase in social interaction and less choice in the matter, higher demands sensory and routine wise, etc etc, the list goes on.

Point; I felt my genetics and my skill sets socially is so far below average that it wouldn't be "fair" to bring kids into this world (this; like, our house, our social circle, etc.)
(I literally got zero friends, I only talk to some of my sisters and my partner, and I'll pick up the phone if mom or dad calls, but it's.. we're not close)

However, the last few years, I have noticed, and I'm not trying to be d1ckhead, but.. lots of these people having kids.. are .. morons? idiots? like... If _they_ can... then why can't I ?
I want kids. Why should I not have what I want, if all these other .. morons .. are having it?
I'm chosing to _not_ have kids, because of [reasons]; as if that would be bad, like for the kids.. ?
I know it isn't a competition and not easily "quantifiable" but I'm sure I'd still be a much better parent than a lot of the doofuses that have procreated latest years.

I'm tired of seeing high school bimbos and other various people making idiotic choices after idiotic choices - to also go on to have kids and keep making wild choices.
While I'm sitting here without kids thinking "it'd be for the best"

Now I can't say I won't make mistakes, but like, seeing how others are doing this "parenting" gig, I'm sure I'd get through it with "less".. "errors" than most of them.
After all, I'm now feeling more like I'm just cheating myself out of it, for no good reason.

(Sure, it will be hard, but, spending the rest of my life being sad that I didn't have kids because I was scared of doing a bad job? That doesn't sound better.
I mean, I'm not going to have many right away, like, twins is rare, you start of by 1 and if it goes directly to heck I have a sister, family, and last option; there is CPS, like, I'm not a complete idiot, I wouldn't harm the kid, the "worst" to happen is I might forget to make dinner or go to bed on time, and some social cues with school can be hard, but their to-be baby daddy is socially skilled so it'd work out??)

This was a hella long post, longer than I thought, and I'm sure I looped a little bit too, sorry for the repetitive parts, I'm just "airing" my thoughts as I have a pending conversation with my partner on this subject this week, and I'm talking to my sister tonight, about this specific topic, so I'm just looking for insights, thoughts, how others have thought about this, as I'm about to change my mind from a "no, I can't - because I'm not good enough - sadface" to "yes, i want to, let's do it"

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However, the last few years, I have noticed, and I'm not trying to be d1ckhead, but.. lots of these people having kids.. are .. morons? idiots? like... If they can... then why can't I ?

I want kids. Why should I not have what I want, if all these other .. morons .. are having it?

I'm chosing to not have kids, because of [reasons]; as if that would be bad, like for the kids.. ?

I know it isn't a competition and not easily "quantifiable" but I'm sure I'd still be a much better parent than a lot of the doofuses that have procreated latest years.

I'm tired of seeing high school bimbos and other various people making idiotic choices after idiotic choices - to also go on to have kids and keep making wild choices.

While I'm sitting here without kids thinking "it'd be for the best"

Now I can't say I won't make mistakes, but like, seeing how others are doing this "parenting" gig, I'm sure I'd get through it with "less".. "errors" than most of them.

Holy shit, the aspies are finally starting to become !nooticers

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Good for them, a lot of aspies would actually make decent parents.

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Billions must be born aspies

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This but unironically

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:marseyitsover: for r-slurs

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Yup. I always wondered why greencels go childfree - they're just ceding the world to people who don't care in the name of preserving it for those people who will ruin it, from their PoV. It's utterly incoherent, like most Blue narratives.

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Exactly. Like if you think the world is overpopulated then from a game-theory perspective sterilizing yourself is the stupidest thing you can do: the rational move is to sterilize the people who are most responsible for the overpopulation problem (ie, the ones who have most kids).

Leftist narratives are just so stupidly self-destructive

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>only diagnosed late last year (F28)

she doesn't have autism as most people "diagnosed" don't have it

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>only diagnosed late last year (F28)

:#marseychonkernoticeme:

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Late diagnosis is a wrong diagnosis

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Self-dagnosed are usually some orher flavour of crazy.

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Yep, her kids would have shit lives either way


From my heart in ink still bleeding: have this comment. Thanks for reading.

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>I want kids. Why should I not have what I want, if all these other .. morons .. are having it?

ME WANT BABY ME WANT BABY SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE :marseyletsfuckinggo2:

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Currently our political ruling class is importing subhuman morons from third world countries at high volume because "muh cultural enrichment" and "delicious foreign food" but having more high-intelligence aspies is somehow a bad thing?

I'd much rather have a country full of high-intelligence aspies instead of shit-for-brains lunchtime rowdies, but maybe that's because I actually have standards.

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