Hello everyone, I'm need some advice from other polyamorous people.
The best psychologists around! 
I'll try to keep this vague in case my partner follows this sub.
He got tested and said that he was clean, but I am still waiting for my results.
The STI is treatable fortunately,
but I am still upset that this is happening because my partner does not practice safe s*x
because he "can't" use condoms. He also has had multiple partners besides me and the ex within the last few months none of which he used protection with.
However I am required by him to use protection whenever I have s*x with anyone who is not him (I have one other partner besides him).
I know it's a double standard and his excuse for not using condoms is dumb, and not only is he putting me at risk but also my other partner. I've tried to speak to him before about using condoms especially when he was seeing multiple people at the same time but it did not go well.
I haven't spoken to him about how I feel about the condom issue since, and I know I have to now that this is happening. As of right now I have no interest in having s*x with him at all especially unprotected, and while he is still having unprotected s*x with other people.
To be honest I am really anxious about having this conversation because I know it will lead to an argument, and he can be explosive.
I don't really know how to go about starting the conversation or what to say. I know it's not his fault that she cheated on him, and he may feel like I'm punishing him for her actions, but i can't go through this again. Next time it could be something worse. Idk what to do and I've just been avoiding him in the meantime. Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated.
How did she cheat on him? Y’all are poly. Are you saying “cheated on” instead of “lied to”?
Please do not use the word clean to refer the absence of an STI. Its immature and gross.
Not using condoms??.. red flag. Says he "can't" use condoms???..red flag. Says that you have to use them, but refuses to use them???... red flag.
Gets explosive with you when you voice your concerns????? HUGE RED FLAG!!!
Gentle reminder that using the word “clean” in regards to STI status stigmatizes STIs and leads to fewer people getting tested!
I (F) am allergic to traditional latex condoms and sometimes even the non latex ones give me a reaction.
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me upvoting the post to ever so slightly increase the chance her partner sees it
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Gotta be
to put up with this
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Not necessarily. I know a chick who's in a poly relationship and she's hot, fit, educated, and comes from a respectable family. She's also self-loathing and crazy as a fricking loon though.
Having a harem seems like an awesome idea, until you actually meet the sort of woman who'd agree to that....
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Can someone tell her bf that his Fleshlight punching bag is talking
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Oh no, the bad thing is being stigmatized!
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Regardless, she posted this to childfree 2 years ago
My fur babies and I beg to differ
The owners of all trad accounts should be required to post face
https://instagram.com/worth__fighting__for/
Cringe f slurs.
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this cuts very deep
I need to start going out more
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Lmao the trad r-slurs would literally crumble at a self sufficient community, because they cannot log off, they're just as internet addicted as the blue hairs they mock. Plus they're unironically skinny fat weak cute twinks. Pure delusion.
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Not true, some of them are just fat. There are even a few jacked ones but those all seem to be closeted dudes for some reason
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Unironically what the frick is wrong with these people? Polys are like the absolute highest risk group for STDs and they're not using condoms? This is insanity
Oh well, at least the other polyamorous people are giving her good advice, which is to cut and run. She'll absolutely refuse to take it, but they tried
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Honestly, an incel is better off than your typical poly person. Incels at least jerk off to attractive people, but polys have some masochistic delusion that if they frick five 2s thats the same as hooking up with a 10
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https://rdrama.net/post/176869/hi-i-want-to-eat-a
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imagine you raise a daughter that grows up to be a vegan "feeder" to a coprophage "slave"
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How do you cheat if youre poly neighbor that’s youre whole shit neighbor
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"Hey frick whoever but you gotta tell me and use condoms"
Seems pretty straightforward tbqh
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“Ya babe just go frick 1,000,000 peepees but pinky promise to not get an STD. Omg no what how did this happen you cheater!”
Fricking r-slurred
loser 
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L2read
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Maybe you need to learn
to read because that wasn’t their frickinng arrangement, r-slur.
He made her used protection but openly refused to use protection himself because “he couldn’t” and when she asked him to he said no and she continued to frick him anyway and got an std. CUTE TWINK!
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I wasnt talking about OP you double BIPOC. Learn English
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I don’t give a frick who you’re talking about BIPOC, that’s not who I was talking about it and you responded to me cute twink. Your need to defend fat polyamorous redditors
has you smugly responding and serious 
posting 
on r drama 
dot net keep yourself safe 
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Sorry, didnt read but those are some cute marseys. Keep yourself safe though
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Giving awards
show you care and that you are actually 
steaming 
mad that fat poly redditors 
are under 
attack 
it’s that simple 
friend 
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KEEP YOURSELF SAFE BIPOCMINION TRUMP IS COMING FOR U FBIBIPOCS
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He didn't cheat, she did. She's not in the polycule so she's expected to be monogamous because her lack of sexual self control affects the entire polycule.
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Oh wow, a sexual deviant involved fricking strangers in a “polycule” lacked self control?
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I want to report that comment for misinformation to the admins so bad but too bad they stopped giving a shit.
I never seen an r-slured slut foid be so wrong and be so smug about it.
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But most STI are curable. Not everything is AIDS.
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Virals are more common and to basically say oh it's all mostly curable invites recklessness and stupidity.
Sure let's breed penicillin resistant Clap
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The best part is that you can only catch herpes once!
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Everyone involved in this deserves to suffer. Every-one.
I want to live in a world where people who make selfish, fricked up decisions based solely on aberrant sexual desire simply cease to exist.
No more coomers. No more
s. No more incels. No more fetishists. No more sexual abusers.
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You'll be living in a world with little to no male population and you will not be living for long since the civilization will collapse in hours.
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How does a polycel get cheated on I’m so confused.
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They’ll do some insane mental gymnastics to pretend like they are not just some spiritually bankrupt s*x addict. “Oh dude we have this rule where I frick 10 women but the 9th girl I frick is a only allowed to duck my 3rd girlfriends ex husband”
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How can you catch something from someone who is testing negative? Do the tests just have random results?
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This might shock you, but the guy who has outbursts when the topic of condoms comes up and insists on not using them with random nasty b-words might be lying
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The condom dichotomy actually kinda makes sense. Unless her husband is a gay bottom, then her risk for an STI is 7x his
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Inshallah when the global caliphate comes to the US there are enough street cleaners to deal with the mess left after they are judged for their sins with a tall building. If Allah believes them to be without sin they will float.
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I wonder if the dude is black
(we need a : blacksrentfree : emote btw)
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Why did you use Donkey Kong to represent a Black person?
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This sounds like on those things they've just convinced themselves is true because they're too scared to call someone over the phone.
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It should be noted that I've upvoted every single person who's disagreed with me here, as far as I know.
That said.
In 7th grade, I took an SAT test without preparing for it at all, it was spur-of-the-moment, I knew about it about an hour ahead of time and didn't do any research or anything. I scored higher on it than the average person using it to apply for college in my area.
An IQ test has shown me to be in the 99.9th percentile for IQ. This is the highest result the test I was given reaches; anything further and they'd consider it to be within the margin of error for that test.
My mother's boyfriend of 8 years is an aerospace engineer who graduated Virginia Tech. At the age of 15, I understand physics better than him, and I owe very little of it to him, as he would rarely give me a decent explanation of anything, just tell me that my ideas were wrong and become aggravated with me for not quite understanding thermodynamics. He's not particularly successful as an engineer, but I've met lots of other engineers who aren't as good as me at physics, so I'm guessing that's not just a result of him being bad at it.
I'm also pretty good at engineering. I don't have a degree, and other than physics I don't have a better understanding of any aspect of engineering than any actual engineer, but I have lots of ingenuity for inventing new things. For example, I independently invented regenerative brakes before finding out what they were, and I was only seven or eight years old when I started inventing wireless electricity solutions (my first idea being to use a powerful infrared laser to transmit energy; admittedly not the best plan).
I have independently thought of basically every branch of philosophy I've come across. Every question of existentialism which I've seen discussed in SMBC or xkcd or Reddit or anywhere else, the thoughts haven't been new to me. Philosophy has pretty much gotten trivial for me; I've considered taking a philosophy course just to see how easy it is.
Psychology, I actually understand better than people with degrees. Unlike engineering, there's no aspect of psychology which I don't have a very good understanding of. I can debunk many of even Sigmund Freud's theories.
I'm a good enough writer that I'm writing a book and so far everybody who's read any of it has said it was really good and plausible to expect to have published. And that's not just, like, me and family members, that counts strangers on the Internet. I've heard zero negative appraisal of it so far; people have critiqued it, but not insulted it.
I don't know if that will suffice as evidence that I'm intelligent. I'm done with it, though, because I'd rather defend my maturity, since it's what you've spent the most time attacking. The following are some examples of my morals and ethical code.
I believe firmly that everybody deserves a future. If we were to capture Hitler at the end of WWII, I would be against executing him. In fact, if we had any way of rehabilitating him and knowing that he wasn't just faking it, I'd even support the concept of letting him go free. This is essentially because I think that whoever you are in the present is a separate entity from who you were in the past and who you are in the future, and while your present self should take responsibility for your past self's actions, it shouldn't be punished for them simply for the sake of punishment, especially if the present self regrets the actions of the past self and feels genuine guilt about them.
I don't believe in judgement of people based on their personal choices as long as those personal choices aren't harming others. I don't have any issue with any type of sexuality whatsoever (short of physically acting out necrophilia, pedophilia, or other acts which have a harmful affect on others - but I don't care what a person's fantasies consist of, as long as they recognize the difference between reality and fiction and can separate them). I don't have any issue with anybody over what type of music they listen to, or clothes they wear, etc. I know that's not really an impressive moral, but it's unfortunately rare; a great many people, especially those my age, are judgmental about these things.
I love everyone, even people I hate. I wish my worst enemies good fortune and happiness. Rick Perry is a vile, piece of shit human being, deserving of zero respect, but I wish for him to change for the better and live the best life possible. I wish this for everyone.
I'm pretty much a pacifist. I've taken a broken nose without fighting back or seeking retribution, because the guy stopped punching after that. The only time I'll fight back is if 1) the person attacking me shows no signs of stopping and 2) if I don't attack, I'll come out worse than the other person will if I do. In other words, if fighting someone is going to end up being more harmful to them than just letting them go will be to me, I don't fight back. I've therefore never had a reason to fight back against anyone in anything serious, because my ability to take pain has so far made it so that I'm never in a situation where I'll be worse off after a fight. If I'm not going to get any hospitalizing injuries, I really don't care.
The only exception is if someone is going after my life. Even then, I'll do the minimum amount of harm to them that I possibly can in protecting myself. If someone points a gun at me and I can get out of it without harming them, I'd prefer to do that over killing them.
I consider myself a feminist. I don't believe in enforced or uniform gender roles; they may happen naturally, but they should never be coerced into happening unnaturally. As in, the societal pressure for gender roles should really go, even if it'll turn out that the majority of relationships continue operating the same way of their own accord. I treat women with the same outlook I treat men, and never participate in the old Reddit "women are crazy" circlejerk, because there are multiple women out there and each have different personalities just like there are multiple men out there and each with different personalities. I don't think you do much of anything except scare off the awesome women out there by going on and on about the ones who aren't awesome.
That doesn't mean I look for places to victimize women, I just don't believe it's fair to make generalizations such as the one about women acting like everything's OK when it's really not (and that's a particularly harsh example, because all humans do that).
I'm kind of tired of citing these examples and I'm guessing you're getting tired of reading them, if you've even made it this far. In closing, the people who know me in real life all respect me, as do a great many people in the Reddit brony community, where I spend most of my time and where I'm pretty known for being helpful around the community. A lot of people in my segment of the community are depressed or going through hard times, and I spend a lot of time giving advice and support to people there. Yesterday someone quoted a case of me doing this in a post asking everyone what their favorite motivational/inspirational quote was, and that comment was second to the top, so I guess other people agreed (though, granted, it was a pretty low-traffic post, only about a dozen competing comments).
And, uh, I'm a pretty good moderator.
All that, and I think your behavior in this thread was totally assholish. So what do you think, now that you at least slightly know me?
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This doesn't sound like a typical polycel relationship. I think these are legit just frickable cheaters
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