Nightmare scenario can become reality
Hi guys, I have been hanging out here for quite awhile and it has helped. I've been suffering through your garden variety limerence—gay male LO (I am hetero female) who opened with a year of love bombing and hero worship (I was the smartest coolest person he ever met, he knew from day 1 we would be “a couple,” it's “so lucky I'm not a guy” or he'd be in real trouble, etc etc). I am a closed off, semi-bitchy adult female who likes very few people and is ok that they return the favor. But I met this dude during covid (we were colleagues in an online endeavor) and he somehow blew through all of my defenses.
Cue up a year of blissful friendship in which I have never felt so seen and just completely approved of and appreciated. Most people don't get my jokes, he got them all. He noticed and praised the parts of myself I most value.
Then as covid eased he start pulling back, less attention, less fawning. This triggers limerence for the first time in my life. I confusedly think it must be sexual/a romantic crush, even though I feel zero lust. Just wanna sit by him and maybe hold hands. Just vacuum up everything about him and be near, do every darn thing together. Be bffs til we dead and buried.
I disclose crush. It's not a crisis but it mildly accelerates the withdrawal dynamic.
Cue up a year of drama. Me: “Why don't you text back instantly? I like you more than you like me.” Him: “I love you, you're my bff, we share a brain! But i am v busy and can't be on call to you 24/7.” Cycles of fighting—turn off my shared location, block hime, text nasty shit—then making up. He missed me, I'm the only one who X Y Z, etc. Repeat cycle. Each time, i get more convinced I've lost my mind and need to end this. But sink back into that warm bath every god darn time.
Mid October I discover some fundamental two-facedness (he's still texting with someone he told me he cut off ties with). Some scales fall from my eyes. Not all, of course, but some. I say “Dude, enough. If i can't trust you we can't be close. You are a dishonest people pleaser who will say anything to the person in front of you to get their love and approval. I hope one day you are mature enough to be honest with yourself and others. From now on I consider you a pleasant acquaintance, not a bestie.”
He immediately cuts of ALL communication. When I keep trying to get a response, and employ our work communication app as well as private texts, he goes “leave me alone, i no longer want to interact with you.” No other response, no explanation. I follow up with some wtf ranting. Finally i say “if you won't sit down with me to figure out how to manage our shared worklife, we may need to ask HR to mediate.”
Within 3 hours, he goes to HR to accuse me of stalking and harassment, shares ALL our texts, says god only knows what. Long story short, after a month of investigation—which involves interviewing him, interviewing me, looking at texts, and nothing else—HR calls me in. I am fired for stalking and retaliation. They don't have to share WHY they believe this, this is their conclusion. My badge and keys are taken, I am escorted out.
I never in a million scrillion years saw this coming. I was a credulous fool who loved this guy like my own family and trusted him 100%. He called me his ride or die b-word (in a nice way) but turned on me full force and blew up my career. I'm in shock and so disgusted. I am in a union and the union is fighting my termination. But I'm heartbroken and also pessimistic because my texting was OTT. But that was true for a very long time and he always came back, so maybe he won't be able to get away with suddenly weaponizing what he never complained about.
My only real message here is BE CAREFUL. The person you would do anything for may just come at you with murder in their eyes one day.
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Its the goddarn gay agenda
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If that's the globohomo agenda then I support it!
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No more white women in the workplace?
Shit, my bussy is now open for business.
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Next step: pants-free Fridays.
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3rd Step: peepee-sucking booth like those AmaZen booths.
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'This is the kiddy pool.
'Remember to never pee on Chris anywhere other than at the kiddy pool; otherwise we're going to have to write you up.'
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Make that free use Fridays and I'm in
Give me coins for hats!
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What about straight men who are nice to look at?
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Depends how much you like sucking peepee.
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Depends on how big yours is
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Hetero size kings smdh
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Well yeah, if im gonna turn into a strag it better be the thickest juiciest peepee ever
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Maybe on contract basis, but cant be trusted. To many simps.
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what the frick is limerence
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Like a crush on steroids
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I'd say it's less "on steroids" and more "I'm using technical language to imply that I'm a victim with no agency in this".
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having seen it first-hand it's like the person gets temporary BPD,
@FrozenPilgrim is right
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Did you have a stalker?
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Morning Jimie how's your day so far xxx
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Just two messages lmao, rookie shit.
Trans Lives Matter.
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I'm playing the long game.
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oh shit. I've experienced this a couple times.
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Its time for you and me to rise up and strike back
Don't stop until we dominate
Won't you feel great when we exterminate
All organic life!
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result of not finishing a thought through and making up a word for being mid-way, then since they are redditors they go and make a subreddit about it
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From my 5 seconds of looking it up, it is, in fact, a crush that people want to be more important than it is and feel different than the millions of people that came before them experiencing the exact same thing.
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Ok so you know the deaf community... they call themselves "the deaf community"
but stalkers call themselves "the limmerence community" because if they weren't melodramatic weirdos like that they probably wouldn't be stalkers
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Me, bimothy, hecko
Trans lives matter
Hello I'm bimothy
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You are my limerence Bimothy, hecko
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I don't think you are limerence tbh
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Friend zone for women
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I get why with parents and children and cheating partners, but do people other than this actually do this? Fricking weird.
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Keyed. If you're not navigating by sextant you're no better than an npc.
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I blackout drunk sometimes, this shit is fun to review every month
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Why would you threaten someone's livelihood with HR and allow them the chance to get to HR first? She deserved to get sacked for her stupidity.
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Foid assumed HR would automatically take her side.
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Not a bad assumption
But she fricked up
She didn't realize gay men use HR better than even white women
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lmao which one of you is this?
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Oh so now its rdrama worthy when it happens IRL despite it happening all the time on here.
Invite her here.
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Yeah..closed off
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Why? He's gay. Why would you do this? There is nothing good that can come from such a confession.
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She thought she could change him
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See a non-crazy foid (if such a creature exists) would have the self-reflection to be like 'Hey man, I really enjoy our relationship, but I'm starting to get romantic feelings and it's not healthy. I hope this doesn't make things weird'.
Or alternatively say nothing and not be a fricking creep you goddarn weirdo.
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Yes the only option here is to not tell him at all. If I get a crush on a straight chick, I don't tell her. All it can possibly do is make shit weird and creep her out.
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She's not wrong about this, that's why nowadays I rarely give a shit about romantic prospects until they've given up the gussy
Also why I seldom hit on or even flirt with coworkers
She should have known better
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People who bring or start romance in the workplace deserve everything they get.
Including murder.
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Or quickies during lunch break.
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Shameless flirting in the workplace is one of the grind's only in-person benefits (unless you're ugly)
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You obviously don't have a sexless "work wife" relationship.
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Why would I want to have anything to do with a foid?
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My parents met at work and they're doing fine.
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Yea and look what they produced.
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Fricking co-workers is fun
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Something something "my ex-wife" something something
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Stalkers all have limerence in case you're wondering what it is
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You know how feminists are always going on about how men need to be taught not to r*pe, not to stalk, not to harass? Women literally do need to be taught that. This woman and all the others like her cannot see what they are doing and don't understand how insane they look.
I know a BPD foid and she's constantly ranting at me about her latest insane shit and then she'll pause and get this look and ask me "Am I being insane again?" because she's slowly started to realise after 20 fricking years of therapy that she needs someone else to re-align her tracks.
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Nice work whichever dramatard this is.
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BPD brain.
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Filipinas 🥰
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Me holding a white latina 15 minutes after she tried to stab me
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I want a woman like this
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Same, bro.
No fatties, tho
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Why?
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You have been instructed, exactly once, to cease contacting this number. Continuing to do so and bringing in HR constitutes misdemeanor telephone harassment.
Enjoy unemployment, stalker.
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You are unrivaled when it comes to finding internet weirdos.
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Thank you :)))
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The problem with women is they do see but still ignore their own vision.
Also she is r-slurred for constantly vying for attention after a dozen nos. You are supposed to get that out of your system if that poison ever made its way in in the first place way before you get a job.
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Bye Bye Borderline
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This is how fujos are born.
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No means no. This would be red flags and "contact HR NOW" if she cut contact and he occupied the same break room as her
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Snapshots:
undelete.pullpush.io
ghostarchive.org
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
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marsey.pink
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Where's the drama?
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Frozen is just doxing herself is all
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