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[๐Ÿค“๐Ÿค“๐Ÿค“๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜] AITA for Breaking Up with My Girlfriend Because She Dressed Like a "Slut"

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You don't get to "set boundaries" on other people's behavior. "You can't wear that" is not a boundary. It's a control."I prefer to date women who dress more conservatively" is a boundary. You're NTA for knowing your own preferences and dating accordingly. YWBTA if you continued to try to change HER behavior to make her compatible with your preferences. (3560)
I wonder if this is supposed to be the other side of the post where a girl left her bf over a similar issue. In that one the bf ended up "breaking up with her" which was just fine by everyone else involved. (47)
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YTA On behalf of all women you did her a favor. You're controlling and insecure. (-2)
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she and her friends are right, yta (14)
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Your boundaries are YOUR boundaries, anything that forces UPON YOUR PERSON something you don't want to do or expereience qualifies as your boundary.THIS IS NOT something to do with YOUR boundaries, policing YOUR soon to be ex-GF's clothing choices and vacation choices is NOT enforcing your boundaries, it's TRESPASSING HERS , WTH bro!?, these are not the 1800's, your GF is not your property, you ARE insecure and should address that with your GF on why this makes you insecureYou say you "know" what goes on in "these trips" that sounds incredibly controlling and toxic (unless you have evidence that your GF has cheated and is not to be trusted)Here's the thing, you do not trust your GF, theres a reason behind that (and it's not her clothing choices), either she has done something like cheating to lose your trust or you've been hurt in the past or had a negative experience that you haven't gotten over.If she cheats, she cheats and you'll find out, and ditch a bad relationship, if she doe... (1)
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What in the actual frick am I reading in these comments??? Have you been in relationships? Because it seems like people are just throwing terms around. Where is this absolute crap coming from? A boundary has shit all to do with clothes. A boundary is "I don't want to fight at work, I need to focus". "I don't want to do this sexually". They're supposed to keep us safe. A PREFERENCE is a desire. You want a 6 foot 5 man with a 6 figure income or a woman who "dresses modestly". Or maybe you want someone to dress more provocatively. That's a PREFERENCE. Not a boundary. If you prefer that person, call a spade a spade but stop bullpooping around. Which leads to. Saying absolute bullshit like "I know what goes on in Miami" or implying that dressing a certain way leads to cheating is just that absolute insecure bullshit. Why? Because you have no basis for saying it. Clearly you aren't going to Miami. Clearly you aren't dressing provocatively. But you're an expert? Just stop. A compromise is... (1)
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YTA A "boundary" isn't telling someone how to dress, you trying to control what she wears is by definition controlling. Your girlfriend is right and you are insecure. It's okay to break up with her because you feel insecure with her, but you should never have tried to change her in the first place. Hate to break it to you but she is 22 and it's extremely normal to dress "provocatively" at that age. She isn't a child anymore and her clothing will reflect that. She isn't trying to "provoke" anything. She is probably just looking at other pretty girls on instagram and getting interested in their style. Which is NORMAL. You don't know "what goes down in miami" yes people party, but it's not like everyone who does will automatically cheat. If she hasn't cheated on you before then it's unfair to think that of her after 5 years. It's controlling to tell her she should be excluded from her friend's trip too. Idk if you have actually been to Miami, but i have. You know what happens in Miami?... (1)
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Now wait a month and post this one:
AITA for Breaking Up with My Boyfriend Because He Dressed Like a "Tatebro"
I (21F) recently broke up with my girlfriend (22M) of 5 years, We've been having some issues lately, mainly revolving around his clothing choices and social plans. He's been dressing a lot more alpha than he used to, wearing outfits that are tight and revealing when we go out. I tried to express how uncomfortable it made me, but he said he wasn't dressing for anyone else but himself and that he should be able to wear whatever he wants.
The breaking point came when him and his friends started planning a bros' trip to Miami. I'm not naรฏve โ€” I know what goes down in Miami during these kinds of dudetrips, especially with how his friends are. They're all single and like to party. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him going, especially with how he's been dressing lately, and asked if he could at least change his outfits a bit or reconsider the trip. He refused and said I was being controlling.
I couldn't take it anymore and told him that if he didn't respect my boundaries, then we were done. He got mad, said I was insecure, and accused me of trying to control his life. I broke up with him on the spot because I felt like he wasn't respecting Me.
Now, his dudebro friends are blasting me online, calling me controlling and a feminist. Even some of our mutual friends are saying I overreacted and that I should have trusted him. But in my mind, I feel like I was justified because I was just asking for some respect and compromise. AITA?
Oh my god his comments are gold too. The implications in this analogy are master bait:
>I care if she's showing her body. Why would she even want attention from other men, and even if she says no, why would I give another man the chance? If you had the best top-of-the line security system, why would you be okay with someone trying to break into your house?































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