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[๐Ÿค“๐Ÿค“๐Ÿค“๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜] AITA for Breaking Up with My Girlfriend Because She Dressed Like a "Slut"

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You don't get to "set boundaries" on other people's behavior. "You can't wear that" is not a boundary. It's a control."I prefer to date women who dress more conservatively" is a boundary. You're NTA for knowing your own preferences and dating accordingly. YWBTA if you continued to try to change HER behavior to make her compatible with your preferences. (3560)

I wonder if this is supposed to be the other side of the post where a girl left her bf over a similar issue. In that one the bf ended up "breaking up with her" which was just fine by everyone else involved. (47)

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YTA On behalf of all women you did her a favor. You're controlling and insecure. (-2)

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she and her friends are right, yta (14)

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Your boundaries are YOUR boundaries, anything that forces UPON YOUR PERSON something you don't want to do or expereience qualifies as your boundary.THIS IS NOT something to do with YOUR boundaries, policing YOUR soon to be ex-GF's clothing choices and vacation choices is NOT enforcing your boundaries, it's TRESPASSING HERS , WTH bro!?, these are not the 1800's, your GF is not your property, you ARE insecure and should address that with your GF on why this makes you insecureYou say you "know" what goes on in "these trips" that sounds incredibly controlling and toxic (unless you have evidence that your GF has cheated and is not to be trusted)Here's the thing, you do not trust your GF, theres a reason behind that (and it's not her clothing choices), either she has done something like cheating to lose your trust or you've been hurt in the past or had a negative experience that you haven't gotten over.If she cheats, she cheats and you'll find out, and ditch a bad relationship, if she doe... (1)

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What in the actual frick am I reading in these comments??? Have you been in relationships? Because it seems like people are just throwing terms around. Where is this absolute crap coming from? A boundary has shit all to do with clothes. A boundary is "I don't want to fight at work, I need to focus". "I don't want to do this sexually". They're supposed to keep us safe. A PREFERENCE is a desire. You want a 6 foot 5 man with a 6 figure income or a woman who "dresses modestly". Or maybe you want someone to dress more provocatively. That's a PREFERENCE. Not a boundary. If you prefer that person, call a spade a spade but stop bullpooping around. Which leads to. Saying absolute bullshit like "I know what goes on in Miami" or implying that dressing a certain way leads to cheating is just that absolute insecure bullshit. Why? Because you have no basis for saying it. Clearly you aren't going to Miami. Clearly you aren't dressing provocatively. But you're an expert? Just stop. A compromise is... (1)

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YTA A "boundary" isn't telling someone how to dress, you trying to control what she wears is by definition controlling. Your girlfriend is right and you are insecure. It's okay to break up with her because you feel insecure with her, but you should never have tried to change her in the first place. Hate to break it to you but she is 22 and it's extremely normal to dress "provocatively" at that age. She isn't a child anymore and her clothing will reflect that. She isn't trying to "provoke" anything. She is probably just looking at other pretty girls on instagram and getting interested in their style. Which is NORMAL. You don't know "what goes down in miami" yes people party, but it's not like everyone who does will automatically cheat. If she hasn't cheated on you before then it's unfair to think that of her after 5 years. It's controlling to tell her she should be excluded from her friend's trip too. Idk if you have actually been to Miami, but i have. You know what happens in Miami?... (1)

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You don't get to "set boundaries" on other people's behavior. "You can't wear that" is not a boundary. It's a control."I prefer to date women who dress more conservatively" is a boundary.

I prefer Hamms over Natty Light, but I'll take what's offered. My wife not fricking other dudes isn't a preference.

She doesn't have to respect that boundary, and she doesn't have to be my wife.

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"You can't wear that" is controlling, while "if you wear that I'm leaving the relationship" is weaponising therapy speak. There really is no winning

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There really is no winning

Take the bussypill :marseyhomofascist:

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Bottoms are spiritually women and literally codified the term "cute twinkry"

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"Boundary" is an rslurred way of saying that. Like if it's a nonnegotiable term of your agreement that your partner is sober, say that, but it's not your boundary that she doesn't drink.

Black trans lives matters more than dramneurodivergents'

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You're violating my boundaries and being very toxic trying to control the fricking language men use to express ourselves. Honestly, it's invalidating, but to be expected coming from someone so narcissistic. :marseysmughips: And I already know your next move will be to fricking gaslight me. @degorius I got your back, bro.

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A defined limit is literally the definition of the word boundary.

Can't imagine why you're single :marseyeyeroll:

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I just really need u guise to respect my boundaries okay???? :marseyxi:

Black trans lives matter

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I prefer Hamms

At that point just get Hurricane or Olde English. :marseysmug3:

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Hamms is the absolute best lawn chair beer. Like 75 cents a can, almost no flavor when most of that cheap shit tastes like absolute butt, and is still around 5% ABV. Strong enough to get drunk if you want, but weak enough to drink all day long while doing yard work or at family event.

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75 cents a can

What distortion in the spacetime continuum did you just emerge from. :marseyshook:

almost no flavor

Still too much. I fricking hate beer but if I gotta do it, it's gonna be Olympia. !pnw

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What distortion in the spacetime continuum did you just emerge from

The rural Midwest, sometimes being behind the times rocks.

$18+tax for a 30 pack. I honestly dont know why more people dont drink over Keystone and Natty Light and that kind of shit. Its like only me and old dudes.

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Speaking of distortions of the space time continuum, wasn't Olympia beer discontinued like 20 years ago?

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I can't say when the last time I saw it was, but it was definitely in the last 5 years. I assume these days there's probably about 3 bottling plants in the country and they can just slap on whatever label they want. Beer always tastes bad, so who's going to tell the difference?

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>Almost no flavor

:#marseyyikes:

You Americans and your boring beer flavor.

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