How do I tactfully ask if someone is trans? 
You don't "love all women" if you were so hung up on the possibility of them having a peepee. It sounds like you should work on your trauma before you inflict it on the women of your local dating scene.
A story in three parts.
1. Our heroin asks for advice (Jannied)
Those is probably a troll post because she was supposedly married to a trans woman for a decade or something. Anyway, the story is she is talking to a woman on a dating site who starts gets flirty very quickly. 
Flirting? On a dating site?
She says she doesn't like peepee a few times and the other woman ignores it. Eventually the other woman asks if she's not into trans woman, she says no, the other woman calls her gross and loses interest.
Anyway, the 
s get very offended by this whole interaction and spend a lot of time trying to re-educate the lesbian on what it means to be a woman. Actually, the first two posters claim to be cis women.
2. Our heroin goes to her hugbox
This part doesn't add to the story, but it's probably why all the comments from the first part are downmarseyd, as the lesbian gang followed op into enemy territory and smashed that π button.
3. Trans rage
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Not allowed to ask how to ask if someone is a
, got it.
Also, when did Reddit start making these "modteam" accounts to let the 7 or so powerjannies hide their identities?
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Powerjannies have done this for ages so they can "action" people without facing any scrutiny on their actual accounts. They started as just regular reddit accounts where the jannies would collaborate and share the password.
But years and years ago reddit started hiding mod teams on subreddits because people were getting upset at the mods. tbh I think it might be one of the only websites of its kind where they do this. I can't think of any forums I used to post on that had moderators completely hidden like that.
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Yeah, so we're now in a situation where a handful of neurodivergents control most of the site, but you're not allowed to know who they are or what they're doing.
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Marsey unrelated
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It comes down to whether the post hurts
feelings, because of the absolute stranglehold they have on Reddit. In this case, a lesbian not liking girldick makes them sad, because if a someone who is attracted to women categorically does not like them then they feel invalidated.
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Its not an account, its an option when you post as a moderator now. Just a name hider really.
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