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Redditor asks if she is YTA for being a white (burger) woman

https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ucbdu0/aita_for_serving_my_husbands_family_mac_n_cheese?sort=controversial

My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks ago

AMWF πŸ€”

I said fine then went and made some Mac N cheese. The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is.

Every single time

:#marseydisagree:

My husband's mom looked at me and was appalled. I noticed something was wrong. She asked if I really found it "appropriate" to serve her and the family Mac N cheese. I asked why not and she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong when it comes to hosting. I said excuse me?

:!#chadwomanasian: :#marseymayo:

NTA. Why on earth would your husband not tell you?? Also, does he need a map to the kitchen? Also...traditionally family bring food TO the new mom, not the other way around.

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There isn't an asian culture I'm aware of that doesn't practice some form of postpartum confinement

Asian here. And in my tradition, the family is supposed to bring YOU food.

Also...traditionally family bring food TO the new mom, not the other way around.

Hang on a second! I'm Asian and in my culture, new moms are supposed to be coddled, fed nourishing soups etc, and certainly not expected to cook a feast for guests. Your

NTA. Tell them it’s customary for THEM to bring YOU food.. that’s the unspoken tradition..

Why are they all saying this when they don't know where the Husband's family is from? Is there one Asian monoculture or something?

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Are they all really the same?

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Yeah she ends up saying his family was 'Korean originally' so I guess her husband is first Gen American. Still I don't think Koreans are typically like that to new mothers. Lol.

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Yes

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OP called herself an 'american' and called him 'asian' so most likely chinx or at least East Asian. She would have called him an Indian if he was a currycel

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Asian americans pride themselves on joining together as a monoculture which does nothing but drink bubble tea and make fun of their parents cultural quirks.

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At face level it seems rude for OP's in-laws to just turn up. But then when you read into it:

born 4 weeks ago

barely able to shower

My husband's family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby. I tried to hold them off as much as I could [why isn't she letting her in-laws see the baby?]

cause the house was a M.E.S.S y'all

mac n cheese

I think we're only hearing one, quite selective, side of this story.

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If I was coming over to my grandbaby’s house for the first time and the mother flexes her cooking prowess with powdered Mac and cheese from a box I would rightfully be concerned for the child’s future nutritional well-being.

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She's not even making good butt homemade mac n' cheese. She is the butthole

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You're like Hitler, but at least Hitler had some respect for Germany, and could paint a little

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