you weren't exclusive so it's fine
So she has been very ok with casual s*x, and has been involved in it a lot.
I kinda made peace with this thing. That Okay, one can do whatever one likes when single.. its her own thing to deal with.
But, she just told me about something and it shook me.
So after our first 2 dates, she met one of her ex-casual partners and slept with him.
...poor dude.
And now the Redditors weigh in:
You love her.
She was honest.
She stopped when you became exclusive.
These are the only facts that matter.
Don't cling to the "not experienced / not evolved." Accepting people sometimes date more than one person at a time until the exclusive conversation is evolution. Do you want to evolve or cling to a notion you can't articulate?
this shit sounds like brainwashing darn
Yeahβ¦ two dates? No direct talk about being boyfriend/girlfriend? I understand the discomfort but this is perfectly understandable to me & wouldnβt make me think sheβd eventually cheat or anything like that
Itβs not a big deal. She barely knew you. You werenβt official, YOU feeling that bond is different than you two being official.
wow they're just pooping all over this dude
This is fairly standard behavior in 2022. She liked you but didn't feel at that point the same way about you as she does now. This should not be seen as an indication that she will be unfaithful to you or that she has done anything wrong.
the entire thread is like this, these are just the most upmarseyd ones
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Moids in general will flip out if they feel they're being seen as boyfriend material but not hookup material(for foids it's the other way around). One commenter posted
which is literally the worst thing you could tell OP lmao. Being like "oh the other guy was slanging good peepee but he was kind of a jerk/bum so we never made it official" is going to cause the average moid to seethe on a CAT 5 level who now knows there's a guy that didn't even need to go through the effort of dating this foid to frick her.
Now there's actually nothing wrong with sleeping around while casually dating to find a monogamous partner, it's just the proximity of those two modes has shrunk even more in the current year which is only going to make men and women more averse to commitment. Foids be like "why should I stop fricking around when I have no idea he'll commit" and moids be like "why should I commit when I have no idea if she'll frick around", and it'll continue being this way(no explicit communication at the beginning) since foids have figured out pretending to not be fricking around gets commitment and moids have figured out pretending to commit gets them fricking.
Also /u/egirl-appreciator here's a nice role reversal
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