Is the relationship abusive changes depending on the gender in r/relationships

30  2017-11-16 by ghuy123

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/7d6pa0/i33f_was_slapped_awake_by_my_boyfriend26m_of_2/?st=JA1OYMKM&sh=88bd5b2b

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2kdqym/i28m_was_slapped_awake_by_my_girlfriend26f_of_2/?st=JA1OY1XN&sh=55da6571

Seems like the difference in whether or not a relationships is abusive is tough to tell. Someone slaps their partner that sounds abusive right well you gotta take in the circumstances you know like what gender they are.

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It's shit like this that makes my life worse as a Eurasian because even if you look amazing you're still a subhuman because Asian women happily marry guys who look like they've been in industrial accidents over an Asian guy. It makes Asian looking males look like the worst fucking losers on earth. The guy is absolutely offensive to look at. Like his face literally makes my stomach churl because he's so ugly. I'd even be mad if he had a white girlfriend People feel they have the liberty to say of course your dad is white. Because white guys see shit like this where some fucking quasimodo looking freak can get Asian girls and they use it as ammo as to how shittyy asian guys are...

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This is why bussy is better than gussy. Bussy won't slap you awake, bussy will drill you in ass until you bleed and/or wake up.

bussy > gussy everytime

There are too many bottoms on this sub

Did the mods lock it as soon as the double standard got called out?

Yep wonder why.

These kinds of troll posts are always so interesting and I'm probably going to start reposting gender flipped relationship posts

The one about the guy was 3 years ago

It'd be funnier if it was a post from last week because you'd probably get the same people commenting different things

No, this is perfect because it's literally word-for-word the same thing. If you do one from last week, people will probably remember it. If you change the words, people will say the scenario was slightly different, so that's why people responded differently.

people will probably remember it

Implying that the gurus of /r/relationships aren't severely mentally handicapped

First post since it's been removed:

I'm going to skip to the important part. I met my boyfriend Jack 2 years ago. We met at a ComicCon, got his number, wonderful relationship started, yada yada you know how it goes...

We've NEVER hit each other. Haven't even come close.

Right now, I'm occupied at work. All the time. More than the 9-4/5 routine, because it helps me if I work overtime. Its stressful work, but someone's gotta do it. So, for the past 3 weeks, I've spent most of my at office, or even when I'm at home I'm thinking about work.

So, our relationship has suffered a bit. he has a much more laid back job and is relatively relaxed. he started complaining about the lack of attention, intimacy, sex. This problem grew exponentially and well, I told him that yesterday, we'd have a nice date at a special restaurant. Its quite isolated and a lovely place for a date. We usually go there to celebrate milestones in our lives.

So, he said that once I get off work at around 5-6ish, I'll go home, take a shower and meet him at the restaurant. he'd be out with a friend and he'll take a cab to the restaurant. We'd meet at around 7:30.

So everything's going to plan. I come back absolutely frustrated from work. I'm tired, I'm pissed, I'm melancholic, but mostly I'm tired. Its still only 5:15. I thought that I have plenty of time to shower and change and take the 30 min drive to the restaurant. I take off my coat and shoes and just lay down on the couch. I listen to an Arctic Monkeys album and at around the 4/5th song, I'm asleep. It must've been one hell of a deep sleep.

The next thing I sense, is a sharp stinging feeling. I open my eyes and see Jack in tears in dress. My eyes are barely focused when the second slap comes again. I put up my hands in defence, and luckily the third blow never comes. He flings himself on the chair, howling. I checked my watch and it was 9:15.

He then starts yelling. In a way he never has before. I knew I had fucked up. All I could mutter was a sorry. 15 minutes later he went to the bed. I crashed on the couch.

He's been ignoring me. I'm lucky to have caught a break at work for a while.

Don't quite know where to go from here. Stranger of the internet, y'all got any advice ?


tl;dr: Came shit tired from work, accidentally slept and missed a date with boyfriend, got slapped awake and yelled at, suffering from the aftermath.

/u/vixeepeach

My boyfriend of 3 and half years punched me just last Wednesday. He slapped me a year ago and it got worse and worse and more frequent after he got away with it for so long. It will get worse. I know from experience. Mine hit me because I am always so busy and had no time for him or sex. We didn't live together. Please take care of yourself before it gets to where I am at with my man

What retarded were you doing to get punched? I bet it was because you were rustling around in the fridge again while he was trying to play vidya. You're "always so busy" but you got time enough to stuff your face full of Brie and Dijon mustard you Jezebel.

You poor soul. What does it do for you to randomly troll someone who has done nothing to you? Nothing in this world will make you happy; nothing wholesome, that is.

What does it do for you to randomly troll someone who has done nothing to you?

You realize that you post on a creative writing subreddit, right? Literally nothing on that board is real, probably including your own story

Sounds legit.

For future reference:

import re
from pathlib import Path
import requests

def match_users(url):
    r = requests.get(url, headers={'User-Agent': 'Mozilla/5.0 (Macintosh; Intel Mac OS X 10_10_1) AppleWebKit/537.36 (KHTML, like Gecko) Chrome/39.0.2171.95 Safari/537.36'})
    assert r.status_code == 200
    s = r.text
    return set(m.group(1) for m in re.finditer(r'data-author="([^"]+)"', s))


s1 = match_users('https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2kdqym/i28m_was_slapped_awake_by_my_girlfriend26f_of_2/?st=JA1OY1XN&sh=55da6571')
s2 = match_users('https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/7d6pa0/i33f_was_slapped_awake_by_my_boyfriend26m_of_2/?st=JA1OYMKM&sh=88bd5b2b')
print(s1)
print(s2)
print(s1 & s2)

Unfortunately no intersection this time.

Oh Jesus, literal blatant hypocrisy, this is just too juicy

This is gold