Hello, I too am fat and black. When I was 18 and 140 pounds LIGHTER, my mom told me no one would want me because I'm fat. I'm now 28 and weigh 359 pounds as of this morning. I'm in a healthy relationship, have a good career, and just got my MBA.

Wow she grew up by over 2 in 10 years. MBA is also a degree for rich kids. For curiosity checked her profile for healthy relationship:

So I assume it's healthy relationship with her illness

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My favorite trope is that women are too emotional to be good leaders. Have you seen some of the men in charge? Trump has the emotional regulation of a toddler on meth and people think he'd make a good leader. Elon Musk got on stage and told his customers to go frick themselves because they hurt his fee-fees. These men are absolutely unhinged.

I want to underline your point about loving all of yourself. It is so, so important.

When I was in middle school I was put on a medication that made me eat endlessly. My hunger was utterly insatiable. I would never feel full even when my stomach felt like it was bursting at the seams. I had stopped looking at the scale when I hit 300 lbs. I don't know where my weight peaked. I didn't want to know at that point.

Almost 15 years later I'm still trying to work the last bit of it off. I fluctuate around 220 lbs. I'm still learning about my emotional eating habits. And I would resent the way I looked. Which made me feel worse, which only led to more eating.

Around 80% black women are obese, something must not be right.

Have you read Sonya Renee Taylor's "The Body is Not an Apology"? She's a Black woman in a larger body and I think she is smart and wise and sexy beyond measure. Also, Roxanne Gay's work, but mostly "Hunger." There aren't enough voices coming from Black women who self-identify as fat, but I do think the numbers are growing.

Sexy beyond measure

>There aren't enough voices coming from Black women who self-identify as fat, but I do think the numbers are growing.

Last part she ain't wrong tho

Speaking as a white woman, I agree. I used to do some rave-wear "influencing" and a specific company would have only one plus size model/rep, which often was also their only black model/rep as well. I love that they were giving black women a platform, but I'd wager you do not appreciate being the token "fat" and "black" every time.

Such perfect sucker punch

It is ok to live your life like you are the main character. I'm a black women, my body is small not large but I also find myself on the margins and feeling invisible because I'm not a standard issue black women (I'm mixed, im dorky as heck, i talk weird, I'm massively over educated, my hobbies and interests are strange for any race) I dont belong anywhere and I don't see myself anywhere (except for on billboard ads of companies that are trying to not have just white people in their ads anymore but still want to appeal mainly to white people so they use a light skinned 3B curly haired agreeable bendable young black woman, its so identical and ubiquitous its hard not to notice)

Oooh I suffer being the perfect black role model while not being fat I am so invisible just similar looking girls like me are on billboards, have I mentioned I am smell not fat, I don't belong anywhere I am not like you fat black ghetto trash I am not like other black girls.

I love how you can always find on XXhomoshrome comment like those

Please be kind to yourself with the thought of “I could lose weight…”. That should be irrelevant to the fact you are being mistreated.

You shouldn't have to lose weight to gain respect.

I mean if she can go to 800lbs I'll be impressed

I completely understand. I spent almost all of my life punishing my body for my perceived life's failures and forcing it to carry my emotional pain.

It sucks that society can't see past our flesh prisons, but I understand people use appearance to categorize others and make determinations from there.

My only advice is to focus on those who see you for who you actually are and disregard the others. We are on this planet for a limited time, we can't allow others to dictate our identity. Our opinion of ourselves matters more than anyone else's. Choose who you want to be, be them, and love them.

I mean they are pooping on they body while ignoring its the user of that body who maintained that body to become a pile of fat than they get angry that the user of that body is looked down because that user can't keep that body in shape

Eh it's been long without sucker punches eh

As a former fat white woman, it was not easy either. And I was not sexualized at all. I was called Shamu, I was constantly heckled by men, saying disgusting things, guessing my weight, or making fun of me. I have gone on a great journey and lost 250 pounds over 10 years ago. And my favorite thing is just disappearing in a crowd now, not being noticed, not being looked at, and just being able to live without the fear of some butthole injecting their opinion about me on me.

Serious question to help me understand something:

Can you please give me a bit of insight into your last sentence? I don't know about situations where losing weight (from a high starting point) is a medical risk.

(Of course I'm not asking about private specifics, so if it is hard to give me an answer I understand)

Losing weight for me isn't a medical risk, just not a big priority right now. I added it in there, cause people always like to say “well you can change your weight” or “you don't have to be fat” and I didn't want to hear it.

B-word fat, doesn't want to change and lose weight, want to change the world and force accepting her fat butt

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It was 20 years ago. And if you're a good actor people will get over it. He said racist shit but he's not as bad as a ton of people in Hollywood. It would be so interesting to see Seinfeld and Richards get together for one last series. (334)

A lot of murderers haven't killed as many people as Hitler, but they're still murderers. Your argument is dumb.Edit: Lot of people missing my point and defending a racist because he made them laugh once. Nice. It is very easy to go through your life without calling anyone the N word. (-106)

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It was 20 years ago. And if you're a good actor people will get over it. He said racist shit but he's not as bad as a ton of people in Hollywood. It would be so interesting to see Seinfeld and Richards get together for one last series. (334)

While that is true, I don't think that means we should forgive him (esp. since he's done nothing to make amends). I think it just shows all the more why we need to hold the scum in Hollywood accountable for their actions. (-37)

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Can't really know how racist someone is inside. He got angry at audience members talking 20 years ago and definitely acted racist and dropped a million N bombs. Go watch Dave Chappelle's laugh factory episode on the same stage afterward, it's awesome. Guy screwed up, but people do. (44)

All of us have screwed up at one point or another. Although, I have never yelled the N word because I was annoyed...Whole lot of handwaving going on here. (-21)

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I've gone back and forth wonder whether he said it because he is/was a seething racist normally able to hide his true feelings, or because he is spoiled and immature and thought it was the most hurtful thing he could say. But, I realized that the result is the same whether he's a racist "at heart" or not. He used racist language and his position of power in the moment and as a white man to belittle a black man. He may or may not walk around with racist thoughts threatening to spill out every moment, but he certainly was willing and able to fire a racist comedic weapon. Does doing a racist thing always mean somebody a racist?* Probably not, but the hurt and harm it causes is the same either way. To that end, all the attention was put on the figuring out his feelings and not the feelings of those that were hurt by what was said and who said it. *Is a loan officer a racist if they just need a paycheck and have no control over lending algorithms they've come to realize are bias... (1)

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Cancel culture is so weird. I still haven't forgiven Chris Brown for beating rhiana, but racism I can get over. Louis ck sexually assaulted other women by exposing himself and idc anymore, but I didnt find him as funny anymore either. When we find out someone cheated on their spouse, the world seems to go to shit on them but I'm just here not caring cus its not my business or illegal. There's no standard to this. Cancelculture is relative to public opinion and applied by the those in charge. People tried to cancel dave, which I found ignorant of them, and Netflix basically told them to go frick themselves lol. (1)

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Yes, let's just pass judgment on everyone based on their worst moment. Ignore everything else! Are you 12 years old??? Do you also look at yourself through that lens, or do you give yourself a pass?  (1)

No? It's just that some people's worst moments are so bad that everything else they do don't make up for it.If someone's worst moment is being rude while stressed but always a great person otherwise, they are most likely considered a great person.If someone's worst moment is murdering people while stressed but always a great person otherwise, they are most likely considered a murderer.If your worst moment makes you do something a lot worse than other people could ever imagine themselves doing, then your worst moment is probably bad enough for you to be judged by that a lot more heavily.If you don't understand that, you're probably the one who's 12. (2)

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Belgian Government Will Intervene In Cases Where Prostitutes Refuse Sexual Acts Too Often

A new law in Belgium celebrated by activists for providing a “labour contract” to prostitutes will also enable their pimps to punish them with a government mediator if they refuse s*x more than 10 times in a six-month period. The Belgian Parliament voted for the law on May 3, with 93 in favor, zero opposed, and 33 abstentions.

The legislation is being touted as a win by UTSOPI, the Belgium Union of S*x Workers, which had lobbied extensively for the legislation. The law outlines that prostitutes will receive health insurance, a pension, maternity and holiday leave, and unemployment benefits. Their pimps will be forced to provide them with a “safety button” to use for emergencies.

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Prostitutes are to be granted “rights” to refuse sexual acts, stop sexual acts, perform sexual acts in the manner they prefer, and refuse to sit behind Amsterdam-style windows (public facing windows where prostitutes are on display). However, should a prostitute use these “rights” 10 times within six months, their pimp can then call on a government mediator to intervene.

Only 10 picky moments/6 months for these hoes

Sometimes, when I'm sad, I'll think about the fact that women erected a symbol of feminism defiantly standing in the way of a statue that symbolizes economic prosperity.

What's funnier is the original bull is a guerilla work of art that the creator wasn't paid to do, while the girl was erected as an advertisement for State Street capital's new gender diversity etf: $SHE

What's the worst book you've ever read, discounting self published crap?

I bought my mom Jo Watson's Among Others half a decade ago for mother's day.

I didn't know much about the industry so I thought that it winning the Hugo meant it had to be at least of decent quality. It was so bad that she said it had to read it too

300 pages of the most pretentious precious child crap

Quake boomers!