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Dorks who spend their whole life on computers discuss how computers destroyed their self-worth

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41609099

The other day I was talking to a psychologist about [difficult personal situation which I am unable to discuss publicly] and she said to me "This must be really damaging to your self-worth." And, my honest internal reaction to her statement (although I didn't say it out loud to her) was "Self-worth, what is that?" Because I'm not sure if I have any? I don't mean that in the negative sense that I think I am worthless or anything. It is just that in my mind "self" and "worth" are concepts which do not intersect. Maybe that's an neurodivergent trait.

The flip side of detaching self-esteem from technical competency is that you can make very strong assertions without being arrogant. :marseyroman:


Every user on HN has a score (up votes vs down votes) based on reactions to comments and submissions.

How many of us will not be our authentic selves in a comment because of fear of how others might react? I know that I have done this.

Oh no, what if the orangesite doesn't like my hot take on trans bathrooms at Rustconf :soycrychicken:

"a server tells me her manager won't give her the Saturday-night money shift until she has more followers"

Does this really happen? Or maybe just in the USA?

Why would I, as a customer, care about server's follower count? Is it somehow correlated with their performance?

Not exactly the same, but some friends and I have a tradition of going to a local equivalent to Hooters on Mother's Day since it's the only place that you don't need a reservation. The last time we went the server gave us all an official card with her name on it where we could go to leave feedback for her.

Completely unrelated, but this hot girl talked to me one time. :marseybeingnerd:

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I have a career, nice coworkers, have few hobbys and have good friends. The only thing fricking up my selfworth honestly is the dating landscape with all this social media artificial bullshit were nobody wants to commit anymore and everything is fake. It is not worth engaging in it currently and you rather focus on yourself and education/career more it gets you further. If by chance you meet a unicorn take the chance but else just don't bother it only fricks with your selfworth.

Funny, I have career issues and dating is easy but that's only because I was willing to stake my whole life on it and use everything in my power to change it (except changing my looks - I look mediocre).

Happily married right now. Feel free to email me to exchange some career advice for dating advice.

OMG someone please email @Metamage for dating advice and report back. :marseyinshallah:

mettamage-at-protonmail.com

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