[OLD DRAMA] Keeping track of the pronouns in my teens social group is exhausting. : TrueOffMyChest

To start, let me say that my husband and I do not care about our children’s or their friends gender identities beyond a deep desire to respect the young people in our lives and create a supportive and positive environment for them. We’re both queer, we understand how hard navigating adolescence can be, and we want to make sure our home is accepting and welcoming to everyone who steps foot in our door.

Our daughter’s friends go through frequent pronoun changes. Often each time I see one of these kids, they will be using a different set of pronouns and a new name and I cannot for the life of me keep it all straight. Our relationship with her friends is cordial and that’s about it, which honestly I feel is appropriate. I’m not a teenager, and so beyond exchanging pleasantries, providing snacks, and offering a ride home they are not a big part of my life. I would honestly struggle to remember their names if they WERENT changing regularly.

But…every time I get it wrong, my daughter gets incredibly offended on their behalf. I am trying so hard but it is just exhausting. Questioning who you are at this age is developmentally appropriate and I don’t begrudge them that, but I also can’t wait till her social group settles into more long lasting identities.

For now I’m just apologizing frequently and baking a lot of cookies.

The kids never stood a chance

Remind me how does a "Queer" couple have children? Pretty sure that's biologically impossible, other than adoption or insemination process.

Name tags. Everywhere you go carry name tags and a sharpie and before any conversation may begin name tags with name and pronouns must be worn. If they complain then you can point out that this new system is as frustrating to them as the current one is for you.

What a practical and not r-slurred solution

95% of these replies are very "old man yells at sky". Op seems nice and just needs to use they them for everyone, the problem will likely sort itself out from then onwards.

Those kids have mental health issues.

No, just attention issues.

If they have a peepee you use he/him if the have a vagina you use she/her it’s pretty simple

Ew, dude. They're kids.

This isn’t reddit, so unfortunately redditquite doesnt apply here. If you have a reddit account that isn’t banned (mine was banned) can you please harass this guy for me thank you