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Bloatmaxxed Redditfoid thats still fat after loosing 20 kilos (44 pounds) decides to destroy boyfriends relationships over her insecurity

https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/19cordq/i_26f_am_ruining_my_boyfriends_26m_relationship

>I (26F) have always been a little overweight.

a little being probably 40 or more kilos plus on a foid holy shit

>It was never concerning, but since I was a baby I've been chubby and it never left me.

Why do fatties genuinely believe they were born obese? !thin do you remember being born with anorexia?

I got severely bullied for my weight in secondary school,

https://files.catbox.moe/y1ss9v.jpg

Bring back bullying btw

and it caused me to have a very bad relationship with my body and food.

So she clearly wasnt bullied enough lmao

>Then I met Patricia (30F) (boyfriends besties girlfriend). And she made a lot of small digs about my weight. Undercurrent coments, "wow, that's a lot of food" in a very judgy tone. I'm aware that sounds petty but the woman had a thing to say about everything I ate or drank. It was relentless. But- it was never just straight up "ew fatty" so there was very little I could do about it.

So tldr normal foid probably makes one (1) comment about the sheer amount of food this hog shoves down her throat and she decided to project all her insecurities on this poor fricking soul

>And then eventually it evolved into straight up mean comments about my body.

Notice the lack of any examples? Its all fricking projection. :marseychonkerfoid: :marseychonkerfoidpuke:

>It really messed me up. I stopped allowing my boyfriend to see me naked, I stopped eating as much, and of the foods I wanted, I cried when I looked in the mirror.

>I stopped eating as much

:#surejan:

>and of the foods I wanted

:#surejan:

>It felt like all the progress I'd made was for nothing if I'd still be getting bullied.

The "progress" was probably already long gone considering the former comment

>Eventually it all came to light when I had a breakdown infront of my boyfriend and told him everything that had been happening. He was upset, and comforted me but no matter what he said, I couldn't hear it. The little evil voice of Patricia calling me fat was screaming over him in my head.

Literally rent free

>My boyfriend, Jake ( 26M), called his best friend Glenn (29M), and told him what had been going on and Glenn promised to talk to Patricia. She of course denied it. And Glenn obviously took her side. (I am not upset about this. He is someone I consider a friend, but I understand that he loves her and its hard to believe the people you love would do bad things)

Translation: Other foid did absolutely nothing wrong and she knows

>After a lot of trying to be civil and work things out. I decided for the sake of my mental health I couldn't be around her anymore. As I live with my boyfriend, it was agreed she wouldn't be allowed at our home anymore and if she was going on nights out, I'd sit out.

All you have to do to absolutely destroy a fat foid is being in decent shape and existing in her vicinity holy shit lmao

>And this was working well but the issue is our house is the default hang out place for our friendgroup. And as she's not allowed in our home- it means Glenn can't come round as often as he has to go to her place. So we only see Glenn like once a week, maybe once a fortnight. Which is a big change from seeing him borderline daily for game nights and going out drinking or just him and my boyfriend hanging out. I can tell they aren't as close and I feel horrible as they were best friends but they are slowly distancing.

I bet she feels absolutely horrible fo so

>I really feel stuck as when we tried to reconcile she took zero accountability for anything she said and called me overly sensitive. And then continued the behaviour even going as far as to pinch my stomach and then give me a disapproving look because she was able to grab fat when she pinched me. I asked that if we had to be near eachother for them (the boyfriends) that we just blank eachother and she refused. Finding anyway possible to talk to me, or at me.

Again remember this whole situation is filtered through the grease-plugged brain cells of this Megahog, none of this is the full truth

>She was also just never very close within the group. She isolated herself very quickly by bashing everyone's hobbys and interests and being generally very rude. She made fun of one of the girls for getting tickets to go and see the show SIX because "musical theatre is for virgins". So the girls and their boyfriends didn't like her either and were happy she wasn't around anymore.

I AM TOTALLY NOT THE PROBLEM EVERYONE HATES HER OK

:#marseychtorrr2talking:

Glenn recently asked to start bringing her around again and I said no. As she has not apologised and Glenn has never even acknowledged that it happened, anytime its brought up he says "allegedly" after anyone talks about the things she did to me and the other girls.

I can tell my boyfriend is dismayed as he misses his friend but I refuse to be bullied in my own home.I don't know what to do as I don't want him to have to lose a friend but I shouldn't have to sacrifice my own wellbeing. Am I being dramatic?

:#marseyagree: :#marseyagreefast:

>Should I just suck it up for his sake? Or is there another way to solve this that I'm oblivious to?

The boyfriend deserves this for not dumping this fat fricking piece of shit holy heck.

:#soysnoo5: TAKE TIME

>But it's not your job to fix it. Glenn's girlfriend is a bully and no one in your friend group likes her. And it's never okay to be bullied or even disrespected in your own home. The only one ruining Glenn's friendships is Patricia. This is not on you.

SO TRUE QUEEN!

:#marseybestfriends:

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and it caused me to have a very bad relationship with my body and food.

The phrase, “relationship with food” that I see often these days unironically makes me mald and five finger dilate. Sounds like religious evangelical language applied to food and what the frick is it even supposed to mean. How do you have a “relationship” with food? I hate fatties.

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These people have an addiction but instead of saying "I'm going to stop smoking" it's "I'm going to smoke whenever my body tells me I need a cigarette"

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!nicotine we're truly the most oppressed :marseydepressed:. Catching strays every day.

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Daily Reminder: Anti-Smoking laws are literally apartheid 2.0. You wouldnt tell a black man to stay away from you, but people gladly tell smokers to stay the heck away them. Smoking sections? How is that any different from whites and coloreds? No smoking allowed zones? Sounds like whites only all over again!

Our oppression truly knows no bounds.

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Nicotine gum > squares > non-nicotiners

Cig bros paved the way, but nic gum, patches, and vape are the og strat currently. Cigars are also OG, but u can't smokem everyday, thats crazy.

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lungs: Do i get to have some clean air today boss? :marseyanorexia:

brain: No :marseybigbrain:

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Yeah just go cold turkey with food

Become a breatharian like Verity Linn

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It's used a lot in eating disorder treatment, "healing your relationship with food" usually has to do with undoing positive or negative associations with specific foods, or the feeling of all food being bad, and learning to see food as fuel and something your body needs instead of an emotionally charged thing. It's weird phrasing though and it especially doesn't work out of the context of eating disorder treatment (like in the OP)

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It's because they darn well know they never had an actual eating disorder, they just felt somewhat bad when they stuffed their face with a 3,500 kcal McDonalds meal for the second time that day and decided that feeling guilty means she has a "difficult relationship with food" in general. It's all just cope and dodging responsibility

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Therapyspeak

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