fat women deserve more than reassurance

rant incoming

I find myself getting more and more frustrated about the kind of ‘plus size' or ‘curve appreciation' audios available. Why do all of them have exact same storyline: listener gets sad about her body bc of something, speaker gets shocked that she has insecurities, speaker generously reassures her that he does in fact like her, they frick. They are always always always some narrative about being “reassured” that you're attractive.

Now I understand that this is a big fantasy, it has been for me as well. But I find it really frustrating and kind of telling that this seems to be the only kind of story people want to tell about fricking fat women (that isn't straight up fetishistic). For one, I feel like this narrative makes it seem like finding fat women attractive is still a novelty or rare/unlikely, like the speaker is oh so special for wanting to frick you. Some audios reference the speaker experiencing really triggering fatphobic abuse up top, in a way that feels like overkill. Also, I think fat women should be allowed to feel desired all the time, not just when they're in a bad mood about feeling undesirable! If I want to listen to an audio where someone says they love my fat fricking butt, why does the audio always have to start with me crying bro???? It's giving “you're insecure, that's what makes you beautiful”…

Also, not to get too serious about audio porn, but I feel concerned that the popularity of this trope sends a bad message. I feel like it tells fat people that the only way to love/care is through victimhood: If I want someone to tell me I'm hot, I need to feel ugly (If I want someone to care for me, I need to be hurt).

Fat people are HOT and there are droves of people who are ready and willing to love, kiss, frick, worship, obsess over them. Fat people deserve to feel hot in ALL CONTEXTS. Not just when they're sad. Do better.

Fellow fat girlies, pls recommend audios you've liked. I would love to believe that I am wrong and have just seen the wrong selection of audios.