Fatphobia on reddit

So, I'm somewhat active on NSFW Reddit, and I'm a big fan of the sub Reddit on my SFW account. Today I had an interesting experience. I was feeling some type of way and posted a personal ad. Obviously, you're not allowed to post pictures there. I describe myself as a curvy brunette. Maybe I should've used the word plus size. I'm about a size 16, and my size has never been an issue in real world dating.

However, just now I had a guy say that curves are fine, but I'm a bit chubbier than he's used to. Obviously, I know what I look like, and I don't have to be everyone's type. The thing that offended me the most was that instead of ending it there he said that we could still chat.

I asked him why he would want that if he didn't like me physically. He said that I could still "please" his mind and that was incredibly rare. I guess this is why we post full body pictures on dating apps. However, I can't help but wonder whether some of this is just internalized fat phobia like that it's not OK to like a plus size woman. I've had similar experiences with men who have expressed their attraction to me, but then they advised me to go to the gym or something like that.

Anyway, this experience has made me so much more empathetic to the issues that plus size women face in dating. I'm sure that men don't go out with me, because they don't see me as attractive. However, I've never experienced anything this blatant until I came to Reddit. Most guys are great, but ugh! It almost feels like your body is something that they are entitled to, and you must make it nice for them. Anyway, what do you guys think? Has anybody had any interesting experiences with online dating/NSFW fun?

!foidmoment