The illusion given by dating apps and social media have massively screwed up the dating game.
— Brittany Martinez (@BritMartinez) October 11, 2023
Women think they have over 1,000 suitors at any given moment because the average woman is swiped around 800 times a month. So if the guy isn’t perfect, they have the illusion of… https://t.co/nYn7W7132l
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The illusion given by dating apps and social media have massively screwed up the dating game. Women think they have over 1,000 suitors at any given moment because the average woman is swiped around 800 times a month. So if the guy isn't perfect, they have the illusion of unlimited options.
Men will follow the hottest 100 women in the world on Instagram or by watching porn, without realizing there are over 7 billion people in the world and these women with perfect bikini bodies aren't the norm. Meanwhile, the cute girl next door is now “mid” to them because they're under the illusion that the top 0.00001% is the norm.
As a woman you can't tell if you have chemistry with a man by looking at a couple photos of him and his dog. We also don't always know what we want. This is evident even on reality shows like “Love is Blind” where the woman is constantly saying, “I wouldn't have swiped on this guy because he's not my type but I'm falling for him.” There are many such cases which is why you shouldn't limit yourself to an arbitrary type based on numbers like height or income because you're missing out.
unmarried !biofoids and !homeowners do you agree with this general sentiment
!incels and !christians how has this affected you personally?
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Yeah I used dating apps for years and the number of dumpy plain Janes who think they're entitled to fit, handsome, rich men is unreal. Luckily I can date Latinx immigrants and laugh while they grow old with their cats. The only problem is all of their texts are like this:
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No lie that sounds hilarious
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For reference, this is the reply with the least jajas. My life is an unending heck of jajas and yet I will never date a gringa again.
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jajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajajaja
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Dont be so charming and hilarious then.
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Sorry I don't speak latinx can you please explainx?
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J is pronounced as H in Spanish. Jajaja is hahaha
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Are you sure it's not pronounced yayayayaya?
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How do you pronounce jalapeño?
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ja - lap - en - o
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Gal-o-peen-o
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Like galapagos
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!macacos kkkkkkkkkk
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Kkkkkkkkk
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Literally me
Except it's filled with fancy
letters like ê
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Bêsêd and jajapilled
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Tsktsktsktsktsktsktsktsk
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Lol but you also get a boner.
And a Latinx may shriek sometimes, but at least she won't start an unprofitable organic marmalade company like a gringa and call you abusive for not supporting it.
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Kkkkkkk
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No wonder they keep killing themselves.
Imagine living an entire decade believing 1000 people want you on average at any given time then in reality every year you get older and older and still nobody wants to settle with you in real life.
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I assume, without having read it, that this is also what TLP's "Sadly, Porn" is about but referring to men who experience s*x mostly through porn. From some real biological perspective that validates the idiot alpha male mentality while also undercutting it completely, porncels are both highly desired and yet completely sexless.
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Yes. Exactly. The goal of sexual instincts isn't to be fulfilled by itself, but to push you to become the ideal man whose instincts can be naturally fulfilled. Two birds one stone deal. Use it like that.
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lol there is no "goal" r-slur. Your instincts are purely the result of stochastic evolutionary convergence.
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I disagree.
That's just reframing things until you don't have to use the word purpose.
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That's because there is no purpose. The universe doesn't care about you.
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You fricking imbecile by those standards for the word purpose there is no purpose to eating there is no purpose to thinking there is no purpose to why you have black or white skin. The word purpose has no purpose and can never be used correctly.
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Youre so close. "Purpose", the word, is made up. The concept, Telos, is as well. The Blacksmith does not have Telos. He creates the sword because atoms converged by natural laws, entropy and evolution such that he produces the sword. Your belief in your own purpose is also a product of those natural laws and nothing more.
Purpose is just a cope invented by humans.
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God you're a cute twink
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Who dis?
Trans lives matter
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The Last Psychiatrist.
The name sounds really familiar, but I can't tell where I've heard it before.
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Dude had a blog at https://thelastpsychiatrist.com
Quit posting almost 10 years ago now.
His observations were very insightful but also
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Trans lives philosopher
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That's not at all what it is about. He sees porn as just another iteration of people rather letting others act than act on their desires themselves. He doesn't go into any biopsychology.
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Based tlp enjoyer
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i excitedly bought book that and its fricking unreadable lol
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This sentiment true. E-dating got womens standards all fricked up.
https://x.com/tax_endowments/status/1712146133886329089
At the same time though.. My general instinct is that a lot of dudes on dating apps are LVMs.
So if you at least follow rule #1, you should have a shot, even if you're not some gigachad double doctor lawyer.
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Yeah but the LVFs on there
disguise 
it with filters and makeup. The LVMs are just r-slurs in their full glory.
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I was definitely a LVM (fat and neurodivergent) but I did pretty well out of online dating
it's not hard, just make an effort to look presentable and don't talk about bideo bames 
also, Peepee Masterson's 2 lines have worked every single time
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"I like your shoes" and "What's your dad like?"
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None of the hottest million (probably way more) women are anywhere near porn - they get far better rewards from just fricking a handful of rich dudes off camera than they ever would in porn.
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Porn might have the most attractive r-slurred trailer trash women but that's about it and it caps out at like an 8
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I'm two drinks in and kind of a lightweight so this is too many words for me. Pregaming in my room because frick the alcohol they sell -- absolute bullshit when a fifty dollar drink doesn't even get me slightly buzzed. I love water parks but holy shit i hate the people that frequent them. Being here is what made my wife racist
Actually I did read it and idk what I'm gonna do if we ever do divorce. I'm not interesting enough and I know that being in my 30s it's all fatties and single mothers looking for my bank account
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My foid's a Disney-worshipping consoomer with a child's hobbies....
and yet I'm terrified of what awaits me out there that could be even WORSE.
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A child into children's hobbies sounds pretty normal?
Child and trans lives matter.
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I wish it wasn't.
I do truly love her though; she keeps me sane, and my hobbies like vidya aren't much better, but good LORD, HOW CAN SHE REMEMBER SO MANY FRICKING DISNEY SONGS, THAT SHIT ISN'T NORMAL.
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You goyz have kids, if not that's the problem negro
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We don't, and we don't plan to.
BUT, in her defense, she was the oldest kid in her family and her parents were worthless human beings. She had to drop out of school just to be able to raise her siblings before the 9th grade, so I GUESS i get it.
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Yeah ..... She never got to go to Disney world as a kid so we went the other year. Took 6 days for her to be like "ok let's go home"
Going on another Disney Cruise in 3 weeks though
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When I was on dating apps a few years ago I was going on dates pretty regularly (I'm an extremely ugly man btw), but I decided, hey, what if the girl of my dreams might just be a single mother? What if she's actually really great and I'm limiting myself from finding someone I truly love because they have a kid?
I went on several dates with several single mothers. They all had one thing in common. Straight up bonkers. All of them, at least that I dated. They all immediately wanted me to be a father for their children and start providing for them. It was really weird. Like I figure if you were a mother and wanted to protect your children you probably wouldn't bring a strange man into your home to meet your kids before you even met the man yet, right? Wrong. I hadn't even met this girl yet and she wanted me to come over for her daughter's 4th birthday. Like, wtf.
Another girl took her son on a date with us (she was smart enough to hold off on bringing him along until like the 3rd date). She straight up told him to call me daddy.
This was all before Tinder and I found these girls on POF. I ended up finding the girl I've been with since on Eharmony. We've been together now for 8 years.
Here's a Marsey
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you're fricking bananas if you think I'm reading all that, take my downmarsey and shut up idiot
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And then you remembered you're not a cuck and laughed at you're momentary fancy?
Trans lives matter more than single mothers and their spawn.
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My dad laughed so hard he cried when I showed him this maybe 12 years ago
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and that's a good thing sweaty
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Single mother thing is true.
It's fine if you're someone who doesn't mind having a kid and even wants to make more.
For the rest of us who hate children, it's slim pickings.
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I want kids and i refuse to date single monthers.
I want to have that experience of first kids with someone.
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If you're over thirty
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Most people have kids at or by thirty and have been more romantically successful than you. You'll need to accept the single mom at some point.
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id rather just fruitlessly pursue girls in their 20s tbh
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Women below 30 are children.
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Will literally get a mail order bride from russia before a single mom
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YOU WILL DATE THE SINGLE MOM
YOU WILL PAY FOR HER BILLS
YOU WILL RUIN YOUR CREDIT SCORE EVERY HOLDAY SEASON
YOU WILL PREP THE BULL ON SATURDAY NIGHTS
YOU WILL NOT HAVE VISITATION WHEN SHE LEAVES YOU
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Don't be a fail son who has been so pathetic romantically as to not be married by the time most women have kids.
It's single mom, a fat, or rope if you can't lock something down in time like a normal scrote.
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Whoa there
buddy. I wouldn't recommend any neighbor 
failing romantically to go get married.
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Just date younger its not that hard
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I thought you were a zoomer for some reason
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i'm old.
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Good.
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I'm constantly glad I got married before online dating got big. I tried it very briefly before tinder existed when between girlfriends and it sucked peepee.
It would suck worse now so if my wife ever dies I'm doomed. I feel for any scrotes coming up now.
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Online dating now mostly sucks for people who can't filter for the traits they're looking for. The quality of women on average is probably way higher than in your day but you have to really be able to pick out the nice ones.
If you're the kind of guy who gets easily distracted by appearance you're gonna have a bad time because you're gonna put a bunch of effort into thirst traps that you delude yourself into thinking are a good match
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Wrong. I will settle for nothing less than a 11/10 big-tiddy goth mommy girlfriend who likes to give me chicken tendies and blowey-joeys
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Real women worth a shit don't use dating apps. We have social skills.
Stepping outside my troll persona for a min (tirrred today), I would never really judge someone based on looks, job, or maybe if they were a little flustered talking to me. I chat with everyone.
I did have an LOL experience at the gym. Dude was obvs hitting on me but was nervous. Came up to talk to me about my car (I drive a sports car). I could see he was a little awkward, but he said something like "I have a sports car cuz you know I have small peepee." I just kinda chuckled. He tried to save it but I had to LOL at the flustered comment.
Krayon sexually assaulted his sister.
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Merciful thing would be to pretend you didn't hear I think. God I'd want to die if that was the best joke I could think of.
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I maybe would have missed it more if it was after the workout but it was before so I kinda looked at him like "are you being serious but I'm chuckling at the same time." I feel bad for guys sometimes because it takes a lot of balls to go up to women and try to talk to them.
Krayon sexually assaulted his sister.
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BEING A DRAMATARD AUTOMATICALLY NULLIFIES ANY VIRTUES YOU MAY HAVE SORRY NOT SORRY
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I have literally gotten laid by talking about rdrama OPs, and trust me, writing this down feels just about as fricking ridiculous as it actually happening.
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Nah i believe it. Once a girl really likes you, you can straight up explain the most esoteric shit to them and they're semi interested. I've shown the last 3 girls i've dated this site and they know more than any foid should know about the lore here.
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Cheers, exactly this. It also helps that most shit we do here is actually really fricking funny. I mean, making mass media believe that schools are teaching how to design your fursona? That there's a community out there sprinkling HRT to their kids' morning cereal, and causing absolute outrage, just for shits and giggles? That is fricking hilarious to well-grounded foids.
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ok so fix that and stop complaining online
social competence isn't a badge you earn you r-slur, it's a continual becoming
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Weird analogy time...
I'm a musician (and kind of an artist).
I know a few guys that have the persona down perfectly; They know the cool bands, have all the cool clothes, fresh ink, all of it. But get an instrument in their hands and they're... not good. It doesn't matter though, because they have all the social things down, they do well socially.
In a sense, they're better than me at playing the part and that's how people see them... To the point where, when I try, people call me a poser
I do alright when people can see me play... And even then, that's with people who are fans of the music.
You need to figure out how to advertise yourself. Either by getting good at the game or finding your stage.
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Show your axe
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Oh, Honey.
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Sorry King, I thought you were a married boomer like the rest of us.
I wish you best of luck in your future romantic engagements and pray you can keep the social tism under control
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If you're exclusively using apps, that's the problem. Social groups are almost as bad because everyone is heck bent on setting you up with their fattest friend. Being a creepy pickup artist is legit the best way to meet women. You go from competing with hordes of guys on the apps to competing with the .5% of men who are bold or neurodivergent enough to hit on strangers. Start talking to at least a few randos every time you go out, then when that becomes easy, strike up conversations with cute girls without any intention of asking for their numbers since that takes the pressure off. Eventually, letting the conversation lead to getting their contact info will be an easy transition. Sometimes they give it to you unprompted. Talking to strangers is a skill and it becomes easier with practice. Redditors will say it's impossible and you'll be convicted of r*pe, but that's why they'll never have s*x.
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this is what pisses me off, I feel bad for turning down all these setups but these women are straight up obese. I'd rather be alone.
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It is kinda insulting. It's like I'm speaking some alien language when I say that I, a jacked daddy, will not date a sedentary 5'4" woman whose weight is within 20 lbs of mine. But that's American culture for ya, hehe
But as a man, you have to help yourself when it comes to dating because no one else will do shit for you. Boldness is the best trait you can have. I saw a hot girl at a techno show a couple months ago dancing by herself, and while I was trying to think of a way to approach her, an average looking twink drunkenly walked right up to her and started dancing. They left together. I saw a fat magic the gathering dude go home with a cute Irish girl a few weeks before that because he went up and talked to her. My crackhead friend who doesn't even lift gets women constantly because he "tries to rap" at every woman shaped object he sees.
Zoomers literally think this is impossible. Men are too fricking neurodivergent to approach now so it's like a super power, even though our forefathers did it without a second thought.
Imagine if you just approached every single woman who you thought was hot. Even if you got rejected 90% of the time (which you wouldn't), your problems would be over within a week. That's life for a confident Black king.
White boys gotta learn. Grab your autism by the horns, start small and build until you have social skills that were completely normal for thousands of years.
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If the rest of what you say is true: The secret to romantic success is just being more forward, more often.
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Any foid you would want to actually marry isn't going to care about your income unless you're absolutely destitute
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Neurodivergent high income dramatards gonna have some expensive divorces thinking that way
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Can't get divorced if you never get married
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'that you would actually want to marry' being the key point here
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I'll admit to being cynical on the FQ (foid question), but even the best woman out there is going to choose "you + more money" vs "you." Ideally, she would want more money to better take care of family, kids, financial security, etc. but to say that income isn't a factor once you've surpassed some arbitrary minimum is pretty ridiculous imo.
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It's kind of like saying looks aren't a factor.
I would draw a moid comparison, that a moid could see past his c*m and loneliness to scan that out of 2 equivalent foids, one has 30K of credit card debt red flags, but 90% of moids could never.
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Eh, maybe not in your twenties, but if your type is "at least 10 years younger and just a bit fricked in the head", it helps to have some disposable income.
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Daily
reminder mcdonalds 
wagies banging out 7.5/10 Latinx
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Does your face look like this
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