You've identified that you're a PickMe. Congrats, one of the first steps towards being a goddess is knowing that you are part of the equation of your cyclical misery. For those in the back, I said PART OF. You can't fully blame yourself, that's still practicing these feeble behaviors. Yes, we're here to take responsibility for our current mindset leading us to where we are right now. However, realize that you have been surrounded by men who exhibit microaggression towards women, you have been brainwashed by other PickMe's. But now you know the truth: You are worth SO much more than anyone ever said you were. YOU determine where you go from here. Being a woman, you have been through so much. Think about the men who try to control our bodies, who use us to fulfill their sick fantasies, the statistics on violence. The media celebrates this and fuels this grotesque reality that we are meant to be meek, feeble and to endure abuse.

1. Promise to yourself "never again". Never again will you be manipulated or abused. Never again will you quietly endure your discomfort.

2. Realize that AMALT (All Men Are Like That). Thinking "Not all men" is DETRIMENTAL to your safety. "Not all men are male feminists". Fine. But if I gave you a pack of gummy bears and told you one was poisoned, wouldn't you treat each of them as potentially lethal? Let them prove to you that they are "not like the other men". Do not prove to HIM that you are "not like the other girls". One of men's biggest worry is to get "divorce r*ped" but are they ever worried about ACTUAL R*PE? NO. So don't give them the benefit of the doubt, make them show you through ACTIONS. A HVM will have no problem with this. A scrote will act offended and immature and just not worth your time, this is because he doesn't respect you. Which brings me to...

3. Define your standards and warning flags. You need to write this down. 5 is a good number to start with Comment this below if you must, I want you to be CRYSTAL clear on what you will NEVER tolerate ever again and what you will NEVER tolerate ever. For example, I will never be with a man who cheats on me. I will consider repeated arguments a huge warning flag. If I need to repeat myself more than twice about something that is clearly important to me... boy BYE. (If you choose to comment, it also helps other women identify red flags and help them define their standards as well.

4. BLOCK THAT SCROTE/ EX/ STALKER. Stop being nice to him. He sucks and has zero value to you. You know he just wants to sleep with you. Block him now. You will feel so cleansed. If they try to reach out again, say that you have been really busy and focusing on yourself. They may call you a b-word for "leading them on". You can tell them to go to heck. You don't owe no one an explanation.

5. Read the sidebar. Take your time with it, it's a lot to take in. But it will equip you in the long run and there's plenty of good stuff.

6. Take care of yourself, starting today, starting now. Say no to something you don't want to do. Don't pick him up, don't make him a sandwich if he doesn't deserve it. Begin breaking out of your PickMe routine. Don't adapt to his needs now because it will be "worth it in the end". Honey, it's not worth it. You deserve to be happy NOW. Another way you can practice this is to take care of your hygiene and your environment. Be proud of your appearance and your surroundings because you did it for YOUR well-being. Most PickMeishas are externally motivated, they just HAVE to get that "good job" sticker. Nothing wrong with being externally motivated, but pining for a man's approval is just pathetic. Do it to make FDS proud, do it for YOU. (this will take time, I'll make another post on it someday but try your best! We're rooting for you!)

7. Realize that there are high-level women out there who will support you. Maybe even on here. We're all just trying to look out for each other, but no one can help anyone that doesn't WANT to realize their own self-destructive behavior. So if you think your situation "isn't so bad". Sorry, this wasn't the post for you.

I will try to update with more suggestions as I get them.

@Neon_Needles @TED_SIMP

/u/we_gon_ride

NTA and you should dump that broke dusty.

The Incel movement isn't really about male grievances. It's about radicalizing young boys and men. Every terrorist organization and every fascist movement has used this tactic. It's frightening as heck.

Did anyone watch Adolescence on Netflix recently? Only 4 episodes. About a 13 yo boy that stabs a female classmate. This incel movement was brought up.

Yeah, but unlike a terrorist organization or fascist movement, this one was self-created and is mostly self-managed. There's no organization or institution behind this phenomena.

Rae's defence solicitor Alannah Commerford said her client "fully understood what was required" by such an order but argued that the proposed condition of not approaching any women was "too wide".

Sheriff Peter Grant-Hutchison amended the order so that Rae could approach women – but only if they were working in a professional capacity.

In November 2006, he admitted to sending pictures of his genitals to an 11-year-old girl and also exposing himself indecently to her and a 14-year-old friend.

Back in 2011, Rae pled guilty to exposing himself and performing a s*x act in front of two students in Seaton Park.

During the same court appearance, he also admitted making obscene gestures from the window of his home at two young girls waiting for a bus on March 13.

https://www.pressandjournal.co.uk/fp/news/crime-courts/6721581/serial-aberdeen-flasher-banned-from-public-spaces/

!moidmoment

https://x.com/WomanDefiner/status/1905049311592800729

https://old.reddit.com/r/CalebHammer/comments/1jkduhl/the_biggest_losers_in_financial_audit_history/

another article, douchbag is a total nepo baby

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-14539869/snow-white-producer-marc-platt-nepo-son-jonah-tirade-rachel-zegler.html

why is it that everytime a woman wants to be successful, its bassically the status quo for some cishet white scrote to try and silence/denegrate her?

GenX bishes stay winning.

Women: what is ur most pick-me opinion?

— retardedwhore (@retarded_whore) March 21, 2025

Dealing with sextortion

TL;DR: I am the victim of online sextortion. Need help on how to deal with the consequences.

I have a nightmare of an experience with online dating. I matched with this woman who claimed to be local, 28 years old, works as a personal assistant. She gave me her phone number and we continued chatting via whatsapp. The conversation eventually turned sexual. We had a video call in which she ended up masturbating with a dildo and asked me to show my peepee. Without my knowledge she recorded me. She then doxxed me and threatened to turn my life into "digital heck". And that's exactly what I've been dealing with ever since.

To show me she wasn't bluffing, she started listing people that are somehow connected to me (Facebook connections, former co-workers, ex-wife, etc.). She also found out where I work and got a long list of people who work at the same company. She threatened to start sending the video unless I pay.

I caved. I paid her $500 over Zelle. Then she demanded another $500. I complied. Then she demanded $2500. At that point I realized that she will never stop, and told her to go away. Well.. she ended up sending the video to the people at my company (about 50 or so). It's a reasonably company, but still, word gets around. Oh, and just to cause maximum damage, she claimed to be 16 years old and accused me of being a ped0file.

I am beyond devastated. This completely broke me. I can't focus on work. Can't look my coworkers in the eye. Can't even get up in the morning.

I did go to HR before this happened and they managed to block her email address, so I am quite certain that none of the corporate emails got it. But she found people's personal email addresses (not all of them, but still a sizeable list). Nothing can be done about that.

I reported this to the police. I also gave them screenshots of all the text conversations. When I told this woman that I'm going to the police, she laughed at me. So far, all they've done is take the report.

Since then I found out just how easy it is to doxx someone. There are multiple online services that do reverse phone number lookup. If you search for your phone number, you will almost certainly find your name and multiple prior addresses. From there, linkedin. Facebook. Any social media.

Her phone number appears to be a "burner" VoIP number. To be honest, she may not even be in the same country -- we never met in person. I do have her (or accomplice) Zelle address which theoretically should be associated with her bank account.

My mind is spinning trying to figure out what to do. I was thinking of replying to the email she sent to the people my company (she CC'd me) to at least explain the situation. I asked HR about it. They did not outright prohibit it, but they strongly advised against it. I know that this will not undo the damage, but I can, at a minimum, disprove the ped0 allegation.

So I turn to the blind community's collective wisdom for advise. I don't even know where to begin with this. What should be my next step?

Just as it's unfair that men can reproduce longer than women, here's something else that's unfair: women simply don't crave sex and relationships as much as men do. For many men, their love rival isn't Chad--it's a happy life alone. Link in replies. pic.twitter.com/T4ORU3ki3Z

— Cartoons Hate Her! (@CartoonsHateHer) March 11, 2025

from CHH.

Of course, plenty of men will say—either directly or indirectly—that the solution to all our problems (read: their problems) is to somehow "return" to a time when women couldn't earn their own incomes, and thus, were forced to settle. This is the reason they didn't freak out about porn so much until Onlyfans came around—they will reliably seethe over an Onlyfans model being able to buy a luxury car as a result of s*x work, but don't seem bothered by the luxurious life of porn producers, or Andrew Tate's sprawling and dimly-lit man cave. These men might mask their agenda with concern for birth rates or veneration of homeschool moms, but a lot of it is just about maximizing their own sexual options, or the sexual options of the men who listen to them. It's the male version of decreeing that any forty-year-old man who dates a twenty-five-year-old woman is a libertarian.