You've identified that you're a PickMe. Congrats, one of the first steps towards being a goddess is knowing that you are part of the equation of your cyclical misery. For those in the back, I said PART OF. You can't fully blame yourself, that's still practicing these feeble behaviors. Yes, we're here to take responsibility for our current mindset leading us to where we are right now. However, realize that you have been surrounded by men who exhibit microaggression towards women, you have been brainwashed by other PickMe's. But now you know the truth: You are worth SO much more than anyone ever said you were. YOU determine where you go from here. Being a woman, you have been through so much. Think about the men who try to control our bodies, who use us to fulfill their sick fantasies, the statistics on violence. The media celebrates this and fuels this grotesque reality that we are meant to be meek, feeble and to endure abuse.

1. Promise to yourself "never again". Never again will you be manipulated or abused. Never again will you quietly endure your discomfort.

2. Realize that AMALT (All Men Are Like That). Thinking "Not all men" is DETRIMENTAL to your safety. "Not all men are male feminists". Fine. But if I gave you a pack of gummy bears and told you one was poisoned, wouldn't you treat each of them as potentially lethal? Let them prove to you that they are "not like the other men". Do not prove to HIM that you are "not like the other girls". One of men's biggest worry is to get "divorce r*ped" but are they ever worried about ACTUAL R*PE? NO. So don't give them the benefit of the doubt, make them show you through ACTIONS. A HVM will have no problem with this. A scrote will act offended and immature and just not worth your time, this is because he doesn't respect you. Which brings me to...

3. Define your standards and warning flags. You need to write this down. 5 is a good number to start with Comment this below if you must, I want you to be CRYSTAL clear on what you will NEVER tolerate ever again and what you will NEVER tolerate ever. For example, I will never be with a man who cheats on me. I will consider repeated arguments a huge warning flag. If I need to repeat myself more than twice about something that is clearly important to me... boy BYE. (If you choose to comment, it also helps other women identify red flags and help them define their standards as well.

4. BLOCK THAT SCROTE/ EX/ STALKER. Stop being nice to him. He sucks and has zero value to you. You know he just wants to sleep with you. Block him now. You will feel so cleansed. If they try to reach out again, say that you have been really busy and focusing on yourself. They may call you a b-word for "leading them on". You can tell them to go to heck. You don't owe no one an explanation.

5. Read the sidebar. Take your time with it, it's a lot to take in. But it will equip you in the long run and there's plenty of good stuff.

6. Take care of yourself, starting today, starting now. Say no to something you don't want to do. Don't pick him up, don't make him a sandwich if he doesn't deserve it. Begin breaking out of your PickMe routine. Don't adapt to his needs now because it will be "worth it in the end". Honey, it's not worth it. You deserve to be happy NOW. Another way you can practice this is to take care of your hygiene and your environment. Be proud of your appearance and your surroundings because you did it for YOUR well-being. Most PickMeishas are externally motivated, they just HAVE to get that "good job" sticker. Nothing wrong with being externally motivated, but pining for a man's approval is just pathetic. Do it to make FDS proud, do it for YOU. (this will take time, I'll make another post on it someday but try your best! We're rooting for you!)

7. Realize that there are high-level women out there who will support you. Maybe even on here. We're all just trying to look out for each other, but no one can help anyone that doesn't WANT to realize their own self-destructive behavior. So if you think your situation "isn't so bad". Sorry, this wasn't the post for you.

I will try to update with more suggestions as I get them.

@Neon_Needles @TED_SIMP

Hijabiana is entering her Muslim era so it might just be bc of that

This is what scrotes are like

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— cold 🥑 (@coldhealing) December 18, 2024

41m, $2mm liquid, $650k retirement and I get a $75k/yr royalty from a business I sold. Recently retired. Wife is a school teacher, good for healthcare. I make $125k/yr in income off my liquid assets.

Since November began, it's cold and dark early so a lot of what I do M-F when she's at work is I play GTA (video game) on thc edibles bc nothing else to do where I live this time of year.

Wife came home early today and I'm stoned in the middle of a conversation w/ my GTA online friends. She told me I'm becoming a "Loser" but this is me during the day when she works. I admit it's immature but we dont have kids and I just want to chill after working a stressful job for 15 years

I make dinner, clean the house, paid for our nice house and make 2x what she makes as a school teacher from my assets and royalty income. If I want to get high and play video games when she is working what is the problem? We take nice trips across the world in the summer when she's off.

She said I'm too told for this but there's not much else to do in the winter. I just want to chill but I can tell she doesn't like it. Early retirement does not fit well in this society.

I saw an old painting of a bw slave breastfeeding a bm and I immediately wondered if those women knew that many decades later…

so many bw would be in the same place: feeding the infantilized man-child and the children, with the future of her family on her back bc the bm is incapable of providing or protecting.

Slavery ended over 150 years ago and bm haven't changed. They still have absolutely no drive/insight/leadership abilities.

The modern bm has a ps5, no job and a drinking problem. He won't cough up $10 for a box of condoms, but he somehow affords weed every week.

THE MORE POSITIVE PART OF MY POST-

I'm so grateful for this movement. So many bw of the past had no choice. They ruined their health and lives fighting for bm. Today, we have options!! Bw are truly FREE now. So much so, that other groups are seeing our accomplishments (which increase yearly!) as a threat, meanwhile bm are STILL a non-factor.

No one is worried about a bm outperforming them bc everyone knows most bm have given up on themselves. They've opted for eternal adolescence instead.

Begon thot!

Yesterday, I finally found the perfect woman for @christmaseehands - and a girl I could be friends with and not feel threatened by.

I tried to invite her here, but y'all can't behave. @Budgerigar_but_christmasy I hope you're happy reenacting your patterns of IRL failure in your online life.

/u/eschatonbringer I'm really sorry all my friends are too busy having a !moidmoment to be welcoming.

/u/Woody_Lynx hahaha you frickin loser.