A couple of hours ago my husband (29) and I (28) where watching TV and I was nursing our daughter (3 months old). He said that he wonders what it will be like when she is older. How he will feel when they sleep together in the same bed and cuddle together. He said he was worried that it might be weird. He asked me what it was like with my father and whether I cuddled with him or slept in bed with him. So I told him what it was like when I was a child. He's mentioned once or twice in the past that he's afraid he'll find her attractive because she looks just like me. I had this conversation in mind when we spoke earlier and I must have made a funny face after we talked because he asked me what I was thinking. I told him honestly that I was worried that he might actually find her attractive in the future. And to clarify I told him that for me there is a difference between finding someone beautiful and being attracted to someone just so we are on the same page. Because he did use the word “attractive” in the past. This whole thing turned into a huge fight. He said that I fucked up big time, that I traumatized him by saying that and he will always think about this conversation when he will kiss or hold her and that I should have kept those worries to myself. He said that he is disappointed that I thought that he might want to do something to her which I never said! He also said that even if he's going to think that she's attractive that these are normal feelings and that everyone has them. He even told me that when he was a kid that he felt some type of way about his mother and that one day our daughter is going to feel the same way about him. He said that my father probably felt the same way about me or had some kind of thoughts about me. He said he would never ever do something with our daughter and he was really mad at me. I apologized and then he went to bed. I just don't think that that's right…. I can't shake this feeling of disgust and anxiousness. I'm in bed with my daughter right now and all I want to do is hold her and never let go. I wish we never had this conversation. And now I think about every joke and every comment he ever made about her or her body. He told me twice that if she has his mothers genes she's going to have massive boobs. And that she's probably going to have a big butt. Now I'm asking all the parents in here: is it normal to talk about this stuff to each other? Is it normal to think your kids are attractive? AITA for making him feel like he's wrong in the head?
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I thought this was foid hysteria until I read that line.
She needs to lie about domestic abuse
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Your fault of taking a foid's words at face value.
She "I fear that our daughter might never be attractive"
He "I understand your fear, but if she comes after you she will be, cause I find you attractive".
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He still gave the completely wrong response.
What he should have said was: "No matter what we will teach her to love herself"
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"Nothing could be more cucked than having a daughter."
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motherlover I literally put that in the OP. If you're gonna make the single most obvious joke on a post the second time, at least upmarsey the b-word that beat you to your uncreativity.
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Careful, that can backfire and she'll end up chubby but full of self-esteem and giving people shit on the internet. I heard. It happened to a friend of mine. In Canada.
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She'll be doomed to liking one nerdy thing which means she'll have a polycule of nerds paying all her bills and buying her shit
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Wait, which one thing does she have to like to get nerds to pay my bills? Asking for my Canadian friend.
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LOTR is a good start.
She doesn't even have to watch the movies.
A good foid trick is to put on the first movie but have the moid go down on her. She can call it a challenge and his achievement addicted brain will take the bait.
Then she can scroll on her phone to learn the memes
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like this?
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Go down on her as in explaining everything about the movie, right?
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Yes, exactly my fellow good christian soldier
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Maybe the later part of the post desensitized me but that line doesn't seem particularly egregious?
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You're right. The husband is a white moid, he deserves worse
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