>Yep. The misconception that abusers are all evil and crazed causes so much harm. Abusers are people you and me and everyone knows and thinks are normal. They compartmentalize like champions and hide their entitlement when they know they can't get away with the things they can get away with with the people they abuse, and find angles to provide to people to make their behavior seem acceptable. They are everywhere, and every time one of your friends or family has made an off color comment or joke and you have not challenged them, you have thrown the dice: Have you excused a well meaning comment that sounded worse than it was meant, or have you passive confirmed to an abuser that everyone is ok deep down with whatever they are doing in secret?

PROTIP: BE PARANOID, ALL OF THE TIME!

Constantly live in fear of men! That's the best way to live your best life! Always second-guess random peoples' intentions, and create an entire world of such unspeakable abuses in your mentally-ill head that you can freely attach to any unfortunate soul that crosses your path who DARES to possess an XY chromosome pair! The Patriarchy is as good as dead now, ladies!