My dying wife admitted that she never married me, only married me to get out of poverty
Edit: Title. I'm sorry, I'm emotional. She never loved me, only married me to get out of poverty.
I'm utterly gutted. My wife has terminal cancer and will be gone within the next few short months. She's been at peace with this and even seems happy about it. I've spent every moment at her side since her diagnosis and was there when it got rough. I went to every chemo treatment with her and was there to hear all the bad news. Cancer aside- we did everything together. We went on dates, played games, tried new places, traveled, and have a daughter who's 9. My wife came from deep, deep poverty and it was chance that we met. She was a waitress and I was smitten from the moment I laid eyes on her. She reciprocated my feelings quickly and the rest is history.
But, according to my wife, she never truly loved me. She liked me, but she didn't love me. She had no one else in her heart, but I wasn't the one for her. She just married me to get out of poverty. To her, we were like roommates who had s*x and went on dates sometimes. To me, she was the love of my life and my universe. I have to face losing her alongside this information and navigate how to be a single dad soon. I feel cheated, like an idiot, and heartbroken. I still love her and I wish she would survive so we could fix these feelings. I've been trying to win her over in her final days, but she isn't having it. She's content with her life. She asked me not to visit anymore, but I can't stay away.
I just wish she never told me. I understand she wanted to clean her conscious before death, but I could've lived without that information. All my memories of her are different now that I know that I was only being used and that she never truly loved me. If she had developed feelings for me later on, I would've been okay. I would've been fine being used by her as long as she fell in love with me later, but she didn't. I wish she never told me. I want to remember her as my loving wife, not a liar. She was a wonderful woman aside from what she did. This was the only blotch on her record, although it's quite large. She remained faithful to me to the end, was amazing at acting, and made me feel like the most important and loved man on this planet. She didn't spend my money frivolously, she got her own education, and became a nurse. She did it on her own, she just used me to get there, and continued to pretend. She could have left me after she got a stable job but she didn't. I wish she continued not to hurt me by never telling me.
Queen shit
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If it's any consolation to him, that dynamic is probably pretty common, but it's usually the husband who dies before his unloving wife. It's very rare for a sugar daddy to outlive his sugar baby.
When I'm on my deathbed and my Puerto Rican wife I rescued from the slums confesses that she never loved me, I'm going to smile as a tear rolls down my cheek and say "I know, I've always known." Then I'll ask her to unplug my life support.
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That's why when my wife tries to play dumb with finances I tell her to take her top off and create an amortization table in excel. I typically get one or the other, but never both. We're either gonna frick or we're gonna talk about Roth accounts, and she knows it's inevitable.
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Married foreplay is weiird
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implying she's not the one who'll poison you with mercury long before
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A real one would smother you with a pillow like on one flew over the cuckoo's nest.
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I wonder if Glenn Greenwald's husband said this before he kicked.
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As long as she was hot there's nothing to regret.
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Doesn't matter had s*x
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Cope
She just didn't want to keep pretending he was in her league
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Imagine the extent to which you would have to hate someone to use your dying words to stab them in the heart. That's the real lesson of this reddit story, that lady didn't just marry the guy for his money, she fricking hated him so hard it had penetrated the depths of her soul.
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most loving foid
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*Least loving foid
FTFY
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r-slurred BIPOC
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Jesus, poor guy
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That's probably the worst part. She didn't ever like him, she just put up with him and now she doesn't have to.
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What kind of insufferable scrote do you have to be that dying alone is preferable to your company
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Seems like an extreme move since they have a kid together.
Unless this unloveable fricker is just sitting there in self pity while the lady dies.
Probably more likely this is fake, but that's less fun to speculate about
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This guy got a woman to have and raise his children and have s*x with him regularly. Who cares if she didn't "actually" love him.
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love is a verb LOL she bamboozled herself
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That's really sad, and I hope that her saying that is either her brain being fricked from the chemo, or her thinking that saying some shit like that will help him move on. That's legit some sad shit.
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She still LIKED him tho
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This is probably what he tells himself to cope
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What seems to have set this off is she doesn't want him to visit her while she's dying anymore. So she might be sick of him now.
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Well she's definitely sick of something!
!carlos
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tbh I think far more relationships are like that than people realise. Go to any relationship sub and half the posts are something along the lines of 'my wife never wants s*x and treats me like a roommate'
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!incels why even fricking bother
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in positive news hitting on waitresses actually work
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And here I thought I had to buy a Chinese farmer's daughter.
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Feels bad man.
Some of the top comments are good though. Maybe she wants him to be able to move on.
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If this story is true, he'll probably stay single forever and never trust a woman again.
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Remember, no matter how much a straggoty moid gets, they still deserve worse for being straight
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Uh sweaty, feelings don't need fixed.
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Snapshots:
https://old.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1ean498/my_dying_wife_admitted_that_she_never_married_me/:
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No lie Snappy, if he had taken the Bussy Pill he'd not have to deal with any of this shit.
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oh god what the frick
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welp, she's in heck
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