https://old.reddit.com/r/GuyCry/comments/1f3cvfb/my_best_friend_broke_my_heart/
/u/Aresisadick stop being a kitty. No woman wants to be with a weak butt kitty moid.
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This is why people invented the term oneitis. If you long so desperately to be monogamous with some person who has not signaled a monogamous intent by giving you strong, veracious, and authentic signs of monogamous commitment, you've already lost. Stop it. This isn't love, this is a fake simulacrum of love that inexperienced and neurotic people mistake for love. Nothing wrong with her fricking other men, although her dishonesty is wrong. But let's face it, it is also wrong that this guy feels like he's in some romance movie monogamous plot with her even though there is no reason to think that. A lot of people will say that she is using him, but the thing is, he is also using her. Instead of reacting to her reality as a person, and the glaring signs that she does not want to go along with his narrative, he is trying to insert her into his little bit of fictional writing about how things are supposed to be. He probably thinks he's a really nice guy, not like all the jerks. Meanwhile what he really wants is to use her as a human puppet in his little self-centered romance novel. If that was not the case, he would not be putting up with her being a fricking liar piece of shit, because why would he? This is textbook codependence. This guy needs to fix his psychology.
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yes, based. except
no. unbased.
Nonmonogamy is bad for everyone. Destroys pair bonding, creates kids out of wedlock that no other man really wants to support, and shitty single-mom kids are a problem that affects everyone.
It's much easier to pressure foids into being chaste than it is to pressure men with their higher s*x drive, lower risk aversion, and lower social dependency, so societies successfully achieving the dream usually accomplish that by shaming female promiscuity.
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Nonmonogamy is bad if you can't handle it. You need to know if you can handle it or not. It can be really rough if you're not genuinely ready for it, and nobody should enter into those kinds of situations if they do not have the psychology for it. Obviously, nonmonogamy should not be mixed with impregnating people. That is just bad and creates children who are not well equipped for the world. But if you can just have s*x without creating children, it's doable. But you can't fake being able to do it, you have to actually be a person who is capable of pulling it off, or at least of being willing to handle the jealousy attachment issues that can result without either imploding or exploding on others. Each person should know what level of nonmonogamy they can tolerate, and not try to play on hard difficulty mode if they don't have the psychology (both in-born and developed through experience) for it. If you have the psychology for it, and your lovers are people who are genuinely kind and not pieces of shit, nonmonogamy is doable. Of course as a dude, you shouldn't be a cuck... don't be that guy who is in some relationship with a girl who has ten other lovers, meanwhile you have none. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about being a dude who is seeing several women, and each of them is seeing other men besides you. To pull off nonmonogamy as a man, you need at least some degree of sexual confidence and abundance. The benefits can be freedom and authenticity. You can be genuinely more honest with women sometimes if you're not in a traditional monogamous relationship, it can make it easier to have fun and interact with them as people, not as characters in a given role. Not that this cannot be obtained in monogamy, I am sure that it can, and very deeply, it's just a different strokes for different folks kind of thing.
That said, I also just posted in another thread about having erectile issues, so I'm not exactly Mr. Lovedoctor over here.
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Not being jealous about your woman spending the night with another man is the opposite of a virtue.
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At no point in your rambling, incoherent post were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone on this site is now dumber for having read it. May God have mercy on your soul.
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Why must you despise me, longy? I have only ever tried to be your friend.
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Nonmonogamy may be bad for the state, but I care more about myself than the state. I already pay taxes so I'm already paying my dues. I don't also need the state to soft ban casual s*x.
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