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I guess you cannot update a post with an image (right?) so I really hope you see this. Ill try answer as many comments as I can!
Alright well long story short, I simply ended up kindly asking where he bought the bag from - Well he looked down and m said HIS MOM SUGGESTED Poshmark and genuinely thought It would be real, or at least identical and that "nobody can tell the difference." He wasn't sure how to shop for high end bags (ok lol) so he wanted to "ask a woman who wouldn't tell me"
When I suggested that most or many resellers weren't authentic he didn't quite get defensive but a little snippy…He said "well get it authenticated then.
Heres where I messed up.. I suggested that next time it would be fine to do cash or gift card of the same (or any amount really, I'm just thankful). - this was a really mature suggestion by a few commenters that resonated with me. At first he agreed but then like ten minutes later he asked, "wait why"
I PROMISED him that he was so thoughtful and I was thankful and didn't mind wearing it anyway but I mentioned that I researched it and it was a really bad fake.
I LOVE reddit. This is one of a new accounts I have on here. It slipped out and I said "reddit" — instant regret. I didnt show him the post but by then I think he was onto something.
THENNN it turned into a FULL blown gender war… saying I got influenced by social media and "thats the problem with female influencer stunting for the gram"
Taken aback I asked where this was coming from ?? I said it was fine?? And HE asked the question ?? I said AM I NOT WORHY OF A A NICE PURSE !! He said WHATS WRONG WITH A FAKE ONE.
So I said, SO YOU KNEW IT WAS FAKE!"
(Its so fun to write this out)
I asked again why he brought up social media and he said absolutely nobody needs any accessory over $1000 and basically people like to flex and flaunt.
Then I started to wonder how much influence "mommy" had over this decision?? Was this her opinion and PLOT all along ?? Her and I are cordial but not close. So was it her judging him for the splurge? He could afford it.
So i said why tf would you even ASK. HE SAID I THOUGHT YOU WANTED TO TAKE A TRIP NOT A INSTAGRAM PURSE.
The argument turned to something else and the vibe has been a little off. I think hes a mommas boy. I said my answer was my answer and that his opinion was his. I learned alot a out him and us and it all started with a purse. Life is crazy!
Thank you for all your comments and AWESOME WORDS OF AFFIRMATION <3 thank you reddit once again.
TLDR: i think boyfriend's mom suggested a reseller bag instead of authentic. And i guess he valued experiences > items. Then why ask what I want. Started arguing, not speaking over A BAG.
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Isn't she the one who created a reddit thread over a bag? Isn't this whole thing over the fact that he didn't spend thousands of dollars on a bag?
Like, imagine if she got him a gift and the 1st thing he did was start to research and criticize where she bought it...
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The entire purpose of designer fashion is to show off wealth and social status via artificially scarce stuff now that everyone is wealthy enough that they can afford the actually scarce stuff. The ridiculous pricing is the entire point. She's mad that her boyfriend isn't enough of a paypig to shell out for the real deal.
There's an argument to be had if he knowingly bought a fake, but regardless the underlying point from foid PoV is "you're not lighting enough money on fire for me (and other moids would/should)"
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