Note: Please don't get into specific things that happened to you in the comments. Many male lurkers will get off on it. Keep things general and focused around dating and safety.
I was such a sweet summer child when I divorced at 43. I knew some men had fetishes, like foot stuff, or maybe a little hair pulling or spanking, but as time went on and I was trying to figure out wtf was wrong with men my research kept leading me into darker areas. Now that I know what I know I'm terrified and disgusted. Here are some of the things I learned.
Libertarians target single moms on dating apps
Many marriages have ended b/c of the husband's porn addiction. This includes CSA, sissy porn and other genres I wish I never knew about. These men are now in the dating pool.
A not insignificant number of women have been killed by men during 'rough s*x.'
Men will fetishize anything - see the recent post about the geriatric circumcision fetishist, which also leads to..
More men than you think are on the down low. Engaging with these men increases your exposure to STIs. More married men than you think are on the DL.
Someone here mentioned a term a while back, they said men have a 'secret sexual basement.' This is true and you don't want to go there.
Male and female sexuality are completely different. Most men watch porn which focuses on harming and degrading women. Women, for the most part, may read some erotica but are more interested in love and romance, building a life together, you know, wholesome things.
I also highly recommend checking the post history of any man on reddit asking for relationship advice before offering him help. There are a lot of very, very sick men on reddit.
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I've basically made that basement my home.
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