Poll: Pick-me gays. A real thing or sour grapes rationalisation of losers?

Background: A pick-me gay is a fairly entrenched concept in the gay community. It's basically the 'not-like-other-girls' of gays.

I've gathered a collection of reddit threads discussing the concept.

/r/AskGayMen: What are your thoughts on pick me gays?

Most controversial comment: they choose assimilation instead of liberation which spawns debate on heteronormativity with hypocrisy of the comment being pointed out.

Most upmarseyd: no one should put down others to make themselves feel better ...folllwed by r/notlikepthergorls.

Ah the duality of gays.

That wasn't too spicy. Let's see what if there is anything better in /r/AskGayBros where OP laments being called a pick me for not 'personally believe in neo-pronouns, because I think the 11 color Progress Flag is ugly as frick, because I think most mainstream gay culture is shallow and materialistic, and because I want to improve the material conditions of people I strongly dislike and strongly disagree with.'.

(ALMOST) Most controversial: wish there were more gays like you. Tired of the multiple flags and pro nouns shit which spawns some back and forth about OP being a pick me c*nt and the person replying being sanctimonious af.

Most Upmarseyd: Stop worrying about what the crowd is doing. Just do you....followed by this whole lotta' nothing.

So there appear to be a range of opinions on the topic. Only a smattering of drama here and there.

So I turn to the last bastion of drama, /r/XenogendersAndMore.

Specifically this pickmegay/trans starter pack.

Nothing TOO spicy because this sub is literally an echochamber. But it's pretty funny because the starter pack itself reveals the author seething over people not being on board 100% with everything they say.

Anyway, /h/gaybros, what is your opinion?