Asked a coworker who looked non binary what their preferred pronouns were, and despite disclosing that they were indeed non binary, was still offended I asked.

We have a new girl at work who my boss suspected might be nonbinary because she had LGTBQ non profits on her resume, and dressed a little androgynous.

Because we want to be an inclusive safe space my boss told me to ask her what her preferred pronouns were.

When I asked her she said “it's she/they, and I hate when people ask me that” She said she's irritated people ask her because she knows she looks “gay as frick” and thinks it's rude for people the point that out. Even though she ended up disclosing she does feel nonbinary. And that people ask her all the time and she uncomfortable disclosing her sexual and gender identity to people. But also said she is annoyed when people use the wrong pronouns and it's awkward when she has to correct them.

It didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable m, but I was under the impression that asking is the polite thing to do these days.

I feel like this is a losing situation no matter how you try to be inclusive for nonbinary people. Especially the younger generation

!transphobes