Me (23f) and my boyfriend (36) have been together for 11 months and I found out that in all that time, at least once a month, he has written to his ex or called her saying he loves her.
He and I met a month after his ex broke up with him and although I had my doubts that he was over her he assured me that he no longer had feelings for her and even showed me messages of her trying to get back together with him and him refusing, telling her it wasn't going to happen.
From the beginning, we were inseparable. He invited me on vacation with him, posted me on instagram, gave me flowers, attention, I met his father, he seemed super in love with me. A few months later I moved in with him and in those 11 months I spent Christmas and Easter with his family, met his friends, did everything together and felt adored.
Well, yesterday I went on his whatsapp unknowingly after he left his phone at home (I know, I shouldn't have) and saw that at least once a month he was texting or calling his ex (25f) telling her that he loves her, that he doesn't love me even though I pay attention to him and treat him well and I'm smart, that she's special and he's always been hers.
That in their relationship he was always afraid that she would cheat on him or leave him and with me he doesn't have that fear. That he wanted a family with her and even told one of their mutual friends that he doesn't like me, that I'm not like her. All the dates she wrote to him coincided with the times we fought and after we made up the next day, he would stop responding to her and ghost her, even though she would ask him why he kept hurting her knowing she would want to get back together with him and that he was in pain.
I don't understand why he does this. I never felt he didn't love me, in fact I wondered how he could care so much for me because he treats me like a queen, flowers every month, walks, out to restaurants, he pays attention to what I like. We always go to his parents house and he told me to move in with him immediately. He's always posting stories of me on instagram and everyone knows we're a couple.
What am I supposed to do? I'm in love with him and I wouldn't want to confront him knowing I've been messing with his phone. She lives in another city and I'm sure they've never met since they broke up.
Update: Many say he would go back to his ex if she wanted him to. The funny thing is that the ex told him she would get back together with him if he showed her he was sincere and he never responded. Many of the messages end with her texting him asking for an explanation, or asking him why he's still with me and he doesn't respond. That's why I don't get it. And before he met me, and during the time he met me, his ex was still texting him to try to work things out and get back together. He even showed me how he told her he would never get back together with her and that he could be with whoever she wanted. After seeing during our relationship that he told her on her birthday that it would hurt him a lot to see her with someone else.
Tl;dr: I (23F) found out that my boyfriend (36M) texts my ex every time we fight, telling her he loves her. We've been together for 11 months
this is a , obviously, but still an L for the foid, because she's still with him.
this isn't what you think. the redditor posts(nsfw) on /r/animememes, so the problem is that the girl's too old
he's got money for viagra
What should the girl do after you? Frick all the buttholes for fun because she's young? Nowadays a brat under 30 is an immature who doesn't know what he wants out of life and then you have to wait 100 years for him to marry you. Better look for older men if you really want a serious relationship and a family not just s*x and immaturity
this is the animememes poster btw
Who are you dating, DiCaprio? Cause he still had the 25-year limit.
He's got money d'oh
-19 lmao
there were also some scrotes patting themselves on the back that they would never be in a relationship with that big of an age gap, pictured here:
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