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How to stop paying my (25f) bf's (31m) rent, bills, food etc

I (25f) have been with my bf (31m) for just over 3 and a half years. A few months into the relationship he lost his job and I've been paying his rent and bills as well as my own (we both live in different sharehouses just renting rooms). I also give him money for food and stuff. He always says he will try to find a job but claims either no one will hire him, or the ones that will have extremely sh!t pay.

It's really difficult for me because I barely have enough money to pay for both our bills/rent/food that I can never buy anything nice for myself for fun or gifts for friends and family for birthdays and Christmas. He also can't buy things either and gets extremely grumpy if his friends invite him out because he can't buy drinks and won't go if he can't drink. Also gets mad because he won't attend anyones birthday if he doesn't have a brand new outfit, and refuses to go if he doesn't have one, won't even just wear something he already has (btw I've also bought a few thousand dollars worth of clothes for him over the years so it's not like he doesn't have anything)

There have been times where I've gotten some extra money for selling items or as gifts, and he's basically demanded he have that money. If I refuse he gets mad. There's even been times he blocks me on all social media and phone until I send him what he wants.

Things got really bad about 2 years ago where he said I better find a way to get money for him or he's breaking up with me and blocking me everywhere. I kept saying no and asked him to be reasonable and to understand that I can't just get money from nowhere. If he thinks it's so easy for me to get money then it should be easy for him too, right? Anyway he kept forcing me, and out of fear I stupidly sc@mmed some people online and he encouraged it and enjoyed it. Of course now it's come back and the p0l!ce are coming after me for that. I know it was stupid.

There's been many times I've wanted to get out of this situation but if I do, not only will he hate me, but he will probably end up homeless and starving due to having absolutely no money and apparently unable to get a job.

I can't continue to give him money, and I need to see what happens with the legal stuff which I'm really scared of. But I love him and don't want to put him on the street.

When he's not after money he really is so sweet and loving, so please don't say he's just there for the money. Also please don't make rude comments about the sc@ms, I finished it quickly long time ago before I was even caught because I didn't want to do that kind of stuff in the first place.