@Peepants's comment on 'Mid-30s single foid has tried nothing and is all out of ideas. Why does the dating market suck here?'

Mid-30s single foid has tried nothing and is all out of ideas. Why does the dating market suck here?

https://old.reddit.com/r/houston/comments/1c54nf9/trying_to_meet_men_in_their_30s_in_the_wildwhere/

I'm a 34 y/o woman. Struggling with dating apps and dating in general. I'm trying to put the work in to meet men outside. I am just struggling trying to figure out where y'all are? I've been to HEB, Central Market and Whole Foods, no luck. Tried going out alone to restaurants a couple times and sat at the bar with no luck. Are there certain areas y'all professional men like to hang after work? I'm usually at the gym lol

Following bc I'm curious too. 30F and I go out enough to public spots but too chicken I guess to actually talk to someone. Gym had some cute bro dudes but I'd never approach. I've been approached at HEB on wash ave a couple times, maybe that's the new move? Perhaps pickleball spots?

Wishing you all the best. Same, I go out a lot alone actually. I have heard that women sometimes unknowingly are not open to men approaching them. So I'm gonna try to make an effort to make eye contact and smile more. I go to the HEB in montrose. I'm a resident and figured I'd run into more like minded men there? Idk. Pickleball does sound like a great place!

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chen they/them 9mo ago #6268405

You really wanna know where the men are? I'll tell you... You left most of them in your friend zone back in your 20s. And at 34, you think you're as high value as you were a decade ago, but you aren't. The men you want are already dating women in their 20s. At 34, your best bet is to lower your standards. And stop trying to find guys in their 30s. That's a man's peak years. You're going to waste another decade chasing men who are out of your league. Guys in their late 40s and older would be a good option, IF you can find one who isn't completely jaded by divorce.